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dear landers,

please how involved should a working class lady be financially in the family expenses? or is it entirely left to the man? your views please.

na bread!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
you dont need all that man, just be you, be funny, make her laugh, make real fun of her, stand your grounds, dont try to impress her, cos she will hate you for that. have your ego, dont get puffy though.

the moment you say i love you or interested in her, she fastens her seat belt, getting ready to vroom, never give them that opportunity, initially she will be getting angry at you cos you didnt give her the chance to pull the trigger at you, but she will fall in love with you or get attracted to you cos you are not like all the other guys she came across.

easy, its not the end of the world.

dear nairalanders,

this is yet another form of scam hitting the poor and desperate unemployed.

read this:

you get a call from someone claiming to be a manager in one of the big firms they know you can hardly have access to, he would ask you: are you >>>>>>?, you say yes, he tells you that you should meet him at a restaurant or somewhere out of the company premises for discussions, you probably may be wondering why not in the company premises? he tells you are you crazy, do you want to sack me because am doing you a favour and that besides he is on leave, don't you know my superiors are trying to get their candidates for this position? being the one in need every thing he tells you is: yes sir. He brings out your very resume that you personally constructed and asks you: is this your CV ? you say yes sir. he tells you there is a job right now for a position that suits your discipline, he would even go as far as telling you to make some adjustments on you resume, making everything look so genuine, do this and that to beef up your resume to prove to the panel that you are the ideal candidate.
you obviously must be wondering why all this interest from someone that barely knows me ? he simply tells you he personally cannot explain why he is helping you but that you should be very prayerful and always get close to your god especially during this period because forces are fighting against your progress. both of you part ways.

two weeks later he calls you( you meet at the restaurant) and says the panel has actually nominated you as the ideal candidate to be interviewed, and that the interview is mere formality since the MD that is a foreigner has approved of you but that his superior that is a black( a Nigerian) is trying to frustrate your progress, he brings out a letter of employment on the company letter headed paper indicating a pay package of $4000, and tells you based on what is in the appointment letter that its in the policy of the company to take new employees overseas for 2months training, bla bla bla . at this point your heart is almost coming out through your mouth.

now the real deal because any SCAM that lacks this RECIPE is incomplete.

he tells you that he got talking with his boss and as it stands you need to surrender you first month salary, and that its got to be paid before the interview if you are interested, you may go as far as saying: when i start working i will definitely pay, i swear with my mother in the grave. he tells you they have been deceived this way by some one they helped into the company and that the guy never fulfilled his promises( LIES), that if you are not interested they need to get this opportunity to someone else.

out of desperation you go borrowing, say N500,000 ($4000), here your problems begins.

the moment that money is paid the group( fraudsters) abscond to another hunting ground possibly in another state where they will never get in contact with you, afterall how much is a new MTN line? they discard the old one and start life a new.

A friend experienced this but the interesting thing was that they never got his money, not even one for recharge card because he is a sharp guy and he did not keep the information to himself as they had asked him to do.


SO MY POOR DEAR JOB SEEKERS, SHINE YOUR EYES!!!!!

Seun:
If scamming is unprofitable and they're actually making money legitimately, then why do they do it?

i guess its just an opportunity for added income.

an organisation that has no watchdog is bound to be corrupt, knowingly or unknowingly. You embezzle public funds, its confirmed then you will negotiate how much you refund, why are armed robbers killed when caught or found guilty? they should have the same priveledges.

because you or we go into a relationship with the mindset to have sex, if you go into a relationship when you are qualified to get married i.e financially, emotionally, spiritually, you can or we can do without sex, cos you will not court for too long to expose yourself to unnecessary dangers.

dearest poster,

i just want to add that while your observations are to an extent correct, on the average internet scammers are not making good money from the scams, they do other legitimate online businesses that fetch them good money, or do you think people dont make great fortune from the net that they quit their 8-5 jobs?but in this part of the earth we associate anything online to fraud, thats quite unfortunate because thats the major reason why we are still this much much in the dark in this part of the world.

who doesnt want it easy? the girls do as much as the guys, but PLEASE not at anybody's expense.

hello nairalanders,

what would you do if your friend is controlling your life to an extent that you are beginning to lose your old friends?

there's absolutely nothing wrong with a lady living alone, our parents would frown at it because during their time it was seen as a sign of decency on the part of the girl, that she wouldnt misbehave being with her parents, but times have changed, back then women hardly do professional jobs, but today a lady whose parents are in port-harcourt gets a job in lagos and probably has no close relative or even if there was one decides to live on her own, afterall when she was in the university the parents where not there to monitor her every move so why all the fretting at this later age?

what is important though is: be good, be you, never be a hypocrite.

hey man,

do not weep, wipe your tears, you started fucking a girl at 28? what were you doing all these years?
i really wish you had this experience much younger you sure wont be crying, and you would have known what to do, simply walk down the third street , you will see another girl, or better still, try clubbing ( it worked for me)you will  knock yourself on the head for crying because a woman left you.

most guys and girls experience this in their lifetime, I CALL IT "RITE OF PASSAGE" IN RELATIONSHIP.

take care.

you probably were in charge when it all started, you ve always had the last say and your partner accepts it OR "ACCEPTS IT", suddenly you begin experiencing power shift in your marriage or relationship? how do you gain back the control you once possessed?

chrisuch:
make sure she enjoys your company.when you realise she is becoming very comfortable with your conversation stop at the peak and tell you really have to go now,that you had a nice time and you are really looking forward to talking to her soon.call her by her name and ask her if it will proper for you to call her tomorrow evening,before she gives you the reply flaunt your phone and tell her to give you her number.try it,it works like magic.best of luck.

hey!!!!! who's your mentor? de angelo, allman? great one

hello candies,
i see you starting a race you cannot finish,the guy is a smart dude that is why you are already in love with him before ever he says anything.

you area of concern is you want him to leave his present girl solely for you?

whats your weight? and how big are you ? have you got the strenght to fight, because he will still be sleeping with his first girl.

the choice is yours, if you love something, GO FOR IT, remember no room for regrets.

take care.

hello, hello, , can you hear me?

did you say i should comment?

well, the girl is okay, you are cool, but it seems to me you never thought in your entire life you could date a girl like that, you look better though in my opinion, whats your height? is she up to 5ft 2? there is really nothing wrong with the chick anyway, enjoy.

Individual answers are there for love and for this very reason there are arguments about love for each mind will contradict the answer of another mind. This contradiction is normal for each mind lives in a different point in time. Hence "what is love" is an illusionary question, which has no answer! - Dr. Vijai S. Shankar





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drrionelli:
zheroes wrote:
It is with all due respect, sir, that I note that the five terms you quote fail to answer your own (and, thus, my) question:  What is love?

You observe some of the things that love doesn't do (#1, #2, #4 and #5) as well as some of the things that it does do (#3).  However, none of these things addresses the question as to what love actually is.

Love is a bond or connection between two people that results in trust, intimacy, and an interdependence that enhances both partners.

Love is the ability and willingness to allow those you care for to be what they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy you. - Leo Buscaglia


"The willful intent to serve the well being of another."

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 13:5-7


Individual answers are there for love and for this very reason there are arguments about love for each mind will contradict the answer of another mind. This contradiction is normal for each mind lives in a different point in time. Hence "what is love" is an illusionary question, which has no answer! - Dr. Vijai S. Shankar



have i made myself clearer?