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SA Goddess:
Drill, I think the problem is when someone is not even willing to learn, that is the challenge. I was taught how to cook by a very patient man. . . . . .

then you have to find a way to make them understand that both of you need to teach each other what one likes and love including cooking each others favourite dishes

Ranoscky:
Tell the person above your 'likes & dis-like about him or her. I start by saying: I like Mr cork b'cos he's kinda funny. But I dis-like him b'cos, this is 2011 and he refuses to get a life,  What about you?

whats the big deal of being 2011  you want him to get a life who told you that he hasnt got a life

i think you are the one who should get a life stop monitoring him

SA Goddess:
Why does it seem like guys don't appreciate a woman being real/herself in a relationship?  I have noticed fake girls get "the men" because they adapt to what the man wants but realness is not appreciated anymore (my opinion).  The only problem with being fake is that the woman has to keep up the facade and possible be unhappy for a long time while the man carries on being himself. .  . . . . . . .that is why later on in marriage/long term relationship, men complain that the babe has changed, not who they fell inlove with. . . . . . . .

Am I the only one that holds this view?

its not that we dont appreciate its the confusion you bring i.e may way back you met few fakes ones then finally you met someone who is not fake you will still think that she is faking like the previous one at the same time she expects you to appreciate her so the brother is caught between thoughts is she real or fake

first of all everyone can cook

the only thing is this what we cook can not be liked or loved by the person you are cooking for

so whoever wants to be cooked for has to teach the other person unfortunately some men are spoiled that they know what they want but cant cook that recipe i blame the mother she should have taught her child to cook her favourites

and that would be easy when he gets married/ or dating he can teach his woman  than taking his woman to his mom to be taught how to cook his favourites

teaching your partner to cook helps you to bound i.e those few minutes hours you spend teaching each other gives you time to be together etc

well that my thoughts

mama-gee:
[color=deeppink]I have never read/heard about this law in my life. . .

When exactly was this law passed?[/color]

if there was such law then engagements would be nomore and also most baby mommas would have taken most baby daddys to courts

fool why

repeating the same thread

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-622763.0.html

190:
[color=deeppink]the guy getting chocked on TV potray's a wrong impression on the marriage

could be a violent marriage in future

well i dont know just my opinion

i stand 2 be corrected [/color]

yes you stand to be corrected

whats on telly has nothing to do with his proposal

Mr, Cork:

Bro I didnt recover.

Cant stand black women especialy when they dark skin! (no oofeinse)

poor you lets me give you my southern women to nurse you

Natasha,,:
well courtesy is what some people don't have and will never have. the fact that you are a stranger is the more reason why you should treat people with courtesey  you see after looking at your replies i have noticed that b/w me and you, you are the one with poor reasoning.

THEIR IS NO POOR REASONING IN WHAT AM SAYING

AM JUST SAYING REALITY  YOU DONT ASK FOR COURTESY IT IS GIVEN 

WHAT MAKES YOU SPECIAL THAT YOU THINK EVERYONE WHO TO TALKS TO YOU SHOULD HAVE SOME COURTSEY TO YOU

DONT EXPECT TO BEHAVE ACCORDING TO YOUR PRINCIPLES AND VALUES

Mr, Cork:
Mr Cork <<<<<<< Broken heart!

did you recover ? and how long did it took

or you are still recovering

Natasha,,:
no i did not forget its not like i want you or anyone to think about my feelings all i'm saying is you shoudn't forget courtesy and the way you address people especially those who have not offended you in anyway

have kids and demand courtesy from them , not from a stranger

Mr, Cork:
Bro i been chasing that chick for almost 3 month. she just a time waster

are you giving up

Mr, Cork:
Bro I aint Corkysize them yet.  

They keep playin had to get,especialy that wicked  Mrs Chima!!

an wild animal does that but it will eventually be tamed and dancing your tune

Mr, Cork:
Well My puuunnny chasing technick as improve, thanks to Nairaland. I have up to 20 Chick:

Mrs Chima, Hotie Tima, Mamagee, Goldieluk, Annawhite, MzDarkin, aminalib, Omolala, SA godess, TPIA,

odununu, Oguagam Obococococo,,, sory i cant remeber the list

are you saying your chased them and CORKISED them

Natasha,,:
very well then i respect the fact that we all have different views you didn't have to tell me i have a poor reasoning to prove what you think or to prove me wrong

you are forgeting one thing we are all entitle to say what we think and who get offended thats his/her problem

unfortunately in this case it was you who got offended well thats life dear every person in the world is not there to think about your feelings

Natasha,,:
zim please don't insult me cos i haven't insulted you i don't have a poor reasoning so don't insult me maybe its you who have problem in comprehending i've seen girls so many girls who recover from heartbreak through the love and attention they receive from other guys, so don't insult me. it is true that not all girls will recover fast even wit the presence of other guys but that doesn't mean i have a poor reasoning. i'm only taking this insult on my intelligence because i'm 16 and i'm sure you are older than i am so respect your self

if you are insulted thats your problem do you think i care about your age ? i dont

my point was this having someone who admire you doesnt make you recover fast

first you need to check the meaning of admirer

Natasha,,:
i think when a guy truely loves a girl and he gets heart broken its difficult for him to summon courage to try out other girls i'm talking fom my own experienced like i have noticed that almost every guy who falls in love with me not necessary date me after getting to know that i'm not interested they find it so difficult to try out other girls sometimes i think something is wrong with me cos the guys in question never get me to be their gf yet they feel so hurt after knowing that i don't share their feelings. its like its a crime to love me one of them have beem wooing me for more than 3 years now and no matter how hard i try to convince him to try out other girls he just wouldn't telling me he's tried but its not working  so with this and many more i think the guys don't recover faster

that we aint denying that some guys cant recover yours is personaly testimony

what we are looking for is the general view on overall

Natasha,,:
no i mean i think the girls recover faster cos you know often a girl has more than one admirer who is ready to do anything for her 

your reasoning is poor

having an admirer who is ready to do anything doesnt mean you recover faster

remember its not about the next guy you would date but its about getting over the guy who dumped you

some quicky get into a relationship thinking that it will make them easily recover from the last one most of the time it is disaster i think you have to question yourself what went wrong from your point view and his reasons if there is any the rediscover yourself

Natasha,,:
well then i don't know or do you have any from a good source? well i think its the guys

i dont have a source, thats the reason i chose the word GENERAL meaning from what you have observed or heard(without taking sides based on your gender )

Natasha,,:
well it all depends in any relationship one party tends to love the other more, it could be the guy or the girl. Now who recovers faster depends on that particular relationship itself, some guys have killed for love ,so has some girls . some guys have committed suicide so has some girls . It also depends on who broke up with who in the sense that if a guys has found a new partner girl B and breaks up with girl A definitely the girl cannot recover faster and vice versa . I think it all depends on the relationship

what about in general statistics men vrs women

jude33084:
I AM STILL TRYING TO RECOVER SINCE EARLY LAST YEAR

as long you are in touch with her you wont recover

becoz the more you talk the more you lie to your self saying she might change her mind

and remember her life is moving on and you are still at one place thinking that she might change her mind or the conscience you where talking abour

Bigwig1:
I had a break up wit my gf around Nov. last yr she said she's tired of d relatnship dis a lady ve invested so much on,not dat am payin her sch fees but ve always been dre for her,am yet to recover its so painful though we stil talk,all wat ve done for her she sees dem as nufin,i wuld ve say her conscience willb disturbin her weneva she sees d thhings i bought for her but i don't think she's vin one(conscience) cos she told me ve not done anything wrong only if i want her 2 cook up a story 4 me. nd dis a lady i dis-virgin myself its really sad. [color=#000099][/color]

how can you recover when you talk to her

the more you talk to her the more you wont move on an inch

what you did to her was out of love and what she did to you had nothing emotional attached to it

Dr sexy:
How long should a healthy man stay without sex?

you think one will get sick or die without sex

emmatok:
NA not true most men(except players) hate rejection in relationships.

If the man do the hunting, and also the investing(spending) such man will not tolerate rejection or breakup from any woman .

read again

i didnt say we are immune to rejection or the being dumped feeling

am saying there is a degree to take very hard than woman since we are programmed to hunt the program has the rejection or dumped cushion in it

have ever wonder why women rush to say its over when they know that we are about to say it -- they dont have that built in cushion like us men hence they rush to say it inorder for them to feel better

bechex:
I agree with quite a lot of us here that he or she who invests the most emotion and finances into a relationship will take longer to recover. I also agree that sometimes, a rebound relationship helps one to get over a break-up in an easier way but the other party in d rebound get it rough , I am talking from a recent experience.

rebounds are not good, mostly the knew partner get hard time becoz of what was done wrong the ex

if s/he cheated you will be treated with suspicion all the time if your moves are not clear

MzD@rkSkin:
[color=#0066ff]I can see how you've come to that conclusion. . .interesting. I agree however that is what we see
as the 'norm' we both know there are women who are able to s3x with no strings and men who
will kill themselves if dumped after having that 'passionate moment'    

but overall i dig it!  [/color]

yes some women can have se.x with no string attached becoz they have learn not to attach se.x with emotion, most of those who have been hurt by man  also thats the reason wh.ores differ from non -whor.e women

yes some men kill themselves we aint saying men cant feel that too some do here we are dealing with ratio

remember by nature man are the hunters we programmed with some cushion to rejection