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harakiri:
Personally, i believe women recover faster. Check out these scenarios :

(1)Woman : If she's dumped by the guy, she might cry buckets of tears and by evening, she's already gotten a couple of phone numbers and within 2 weeks, she's madly in love with one of her admirers. If she dumps the guy, she's already dumped him emotionally earlier on and most times, she's already been seeing someone else and therefore, the breakup up discussion is just a formality.

(2)Man : If he's dumped by a woman, he goes on remission for a while ranging from months to years wondering where he went wrong and where he can make adjustments. During this phase, having casual sex takes great effort. If he dumps the girl, he's probably dumping her for some other girl or he just wants time to be himself.

Either way you look at it, it's much easier on the woman you sheds all the tears and that's it. On the other hand, the guy's heart bleeds for a much longer period.

My 2 cents!

its actually the opposite

women take time recover especially if she is the one who has been dumped

women use emotions when it comes to sex they fall hard when dumped

men we dont use emotion hence we can fc.uk 20 women in a 3 weeks with no emotional attachment

on overall it depends on how deep one was in love, men may not show emotions on recovering since we play macho

women stay indoors stay off man for while etc i say woman tend to take time to recover based on how deep she was in love

succesful is sometimes a personal defination i.e one born and raised in the country side then moves to a city finds a jobs buys a house marries and he is happy

i dont see her wickedness

you where not forced not to put a condom

and also always think twice when getting back to an ex

xynerise:
I am saying you dont promise to marry a gal and you jilted her without reason.

as far as i know marriage is not forced, the reason mustnt make sense to jilted person but to the one giving it

xynerise:
Many gals have faced a lot of disappointment from the opposite when they are promise marriage. While some guys run away after she gets pregnant and others use that as a strategy to have their way in. How many guys have promise to marry their gal and keep to it or will keep to it? In America, it is a crime to promise to marry a gal and not fulfill it.

are you saying people in US are fined or taken to court breaking after the engangement ?

Inked_Nerd:

Well, no offense but some African men tend to think as though everything revolves around them emotionally and sexually. Its just all about the "slam, bam, thank you ma'am" way for some men. I personally don't thank that African men are like that. Some are like that and some aren't.

you havent answer my question

what is being romantic in your world ?

when you say african men aint romantic what you mean ladies

Hotie Tima:
1 LIBERIAN
2 NIGERIAN
3 GHANA
LAST OUR WHITE MAN

WHICH ONE WILL MAKE A GOOD PARTNER
OR WILL MAN ALWAYS BE MAN NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE

are you saying one's nationality makes up a goodman ? or quality in him due to influence of his culture and tradition ?

Hotie Tima:
1. they are rude
2. most of them are ugly
3. they lose control when they see hot girls profile
4. and opening topics on how they want to bleep  certain chicks on nairaland


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why take things personally

1 not everyone is nice in the real world

2 are you looking for good ones to date

3 are you supposed to control them ?

4 its a free virtual world you can write what comes to mind

JUO:
after 3 years abi? be serious my guy

are you saying s/he has to stay based on the number of years ?

Owaiking:
Men have been programmed by nature to chase, If the Woman must do the chasing however, especially if she's left without an option, Wisdom demands that she disguise her act and create the illusion that the man is doing the chasing. This sure requires a lot of tact and skill which may be too much work for the average woman.

you nailed it

chaircover:
Do you know I never really thought about it

My daughter attends catholic school so naturally a lot of Italian is spoken in the playground. She wanted to fit in so asked us to send her to Italian lessons which she attends. They learn Spanish in school anyway and is taught in English. She also understands a fair amount of Yoruba.

She is only 7 and I haven't noticed any confusion in picking the right language for the correct occasion but I suppose at that age she doesn't realize that she is learning and it is all fun to her. How I wish learning was fun during my French Lessons in school .**sigh**

you can say again there is no confusion

when i was young we were forced to speak in english in our class and sometimes and school grounds but i never had an problem from switching from english to shona or shona to english

the same with indians & somalis here in UK their kids speak both fluent english and mother tongue etc

there is a lot of confusin within my fellow zimbabwean here in UK you hear them bragging that my child cant speal shona/ndebele the reasn they say it good for him to interact with others yes but that at school what about at home let him/her speak the mother/father language thats your ID

Blazay:
A man should stay in a marriage if he does not love his wife anymore because:

1. When he says "I do", he does not get to say "I don't"! Marriage is for better for worse. Marriage is NOT a revolving door.
IT IS A CLOSED DOOR!

2. Love is the least requirement in a marriage. You can only TRULY fall in love with your wife after she is dead, when you finally understand what she means to you.
MARRIAGE IS ABOUT COMMITTMENT AND RESPECT NOT LOVE.

3. If children are involved, he really has no choice. He should love the children even if he does not love his wife. He can find love somewhere else, but he must STAY in that marriage to raise his children. He can only set himself free after the children are grown and on their own.
THE CHILDREN NEED THE LOVE MORE, NOT THE WIFE OR THE GIRLFRIENDS.

Bottom line?
Too bad he fell out of love with his wife. No one cares. He should sit there and honor his obligations. Especially if children are involved. If children are not involved, he does not get a second chance at love either. Marriage is 'for better for worse'! If a man cannot honor such a difficult decree, he should NEVER get married because falling out of love with the wife is a sure banker in MOST marriages!

But the grass is NEVER greener on the outside. NEVER.

thats one i dont agree

you sound as if he nolonger loves the wife it means the kids too, thats not it you will always love your kids and staying and having a girlfriend is wrong your kids wont learn what is really love they will learn your cheating becoz to them mum and daddy are still together

schoolfield:
lol, someday u'll undastand my point young man, we call it goin back to the basics, revisiting the cradle nd claiming back wat we've lost. Body contact nd heat wld take care of that problem.

am sure you havent been to cold places i.e europe or north america

schoolfield:
Imagine a World free frm de yoke of clothing,A world free frm inhibitions nd customs that hinder self xpression nd exploration,A world where Adams remain Adam nd Eves Eve, a world where pple go abt their normal biz wearing nothin but their skin.Then Hugs wld be more fun,Standing in a queue less frustrating,Shoppin less xpensive nd more liberty in nightclubs. Be an agent of change 2day,doesn't matter where u're now "pull off" those clothes, "Shout" for freedom nd others will follow suit. Goodluck!!

unforunately you are only thinking of the sex side have you thought of the weather its spring but today scotland did snow the snow would freeze those balls of yours

Beync:
God bless u dr!
people r so ignorant of the importance of court wedding in this era

which law of GOD are you talking about

megletters:
Dear Nlanders,
i would like to know if it is a must to have children when married?
Can't husband and wife find true happiness and fulfillment in their home/marriage without having children? i mean many FERTILE couples r deciding to be 'childfree', is this okay? what do u guys think?

first you should ask yourself when you say IS IT OK  to who's point of view should it be OK the onlookers or the couple ?

its not OK as OK is the WRONG WORD  it is their RIGHT TO DECIDE WHAT THEY WANT TO DO WITH THEIR LIFE i.e NOT HAVING KIDS

the rest eg family, friends, church etc are not welcome to give advice on such decisions  at the end of the day they contribute nothing to the actual raising of the kids

Omolola1:
what do u do?
u call at least once in 2 days,but your partner hardly calls

do you call expecting a call in return ?

ozolity:
Please what could be your best reaction when u suddenly discovers that your girl friend who claimed to faithful is dating another guy. Please I need sincere response. takia

best reaction are you serious?

is it a test that you look for best reaction?

the answer is this you wouldnt know how you would react at that present time

foyeks2001:
nope, If I must do it without protection, it must be someone (no more a boyfriend thingy) I wanna spend d rest of my life with, and he must accept me and the baby

cool from your point of view and principle but if he is playing along but in his heart he is just having fun he doesnt want to spend the rest of his life with you

deniyor:
who cares?
You have turned love into a competition or a mathematical formulae

she is daft to see it that way

foyeks2001:
Both HIV prevalence rates and the numbers of people dying from AIDS vary greatly between African countries.

In Somalia and Senegal the HIV prevalence is under 1% of the adult population, whereas in Namibia, Zambia and Zimbabwe around 10-15% of adults are infected with HIV. Southern Africa is the worst impacted by AIDS; in South Africa the HIV prevalence is 17.8% and in three other southern African countries, the national adult HIV prevalence rate now exceeds 20%. These countries are Botswana (24.8%), Lesotho (23.6%) and Swaziland (25.9%).3

West Africa has been less affected by HIV and AIDS, but some countries are experiencing rising HIV prevalence rates. In Cameroon HIV prevalence is now estimated at 5.3% and in Gabon it stands at 5.2%. In Nigeria, HIV prevalence is low (3.6%) compared to the rest of Africa. However, because of its large population (it is the most populous country in sub-Saharan Africa), this equates to around 3.3 million people living with HIV.4

yes am lost

more statistics

foyeks2001:
so u mean Nigeria now belong to the same class with Zimbabwe right?by comparing the two countries together
this is ridiculous

dont be daft too

yes comparing can be done based on the subject

check what made to respond that way thats the reason why we quote each other to avoid confusion and to understand why one is responding that way

foyeks2001:
Sub-Saharan Africa is more heavily affected by HIV and AIDS than any other region of the world. An estimated 22.5 million people are living with HIV in the region - around two thirds of the global total. In 2009 around 1.3 million people died from AIDS in sub-Saharan Africa and 1.8 million people became infected with HIV. Since the beginning of the epidemic 14.8 million children have lost one or both parents to HIV/AIDS.1

The social and economic consequences of the AIDS epidemic are widely felt, not only in the health sector but also in education, industry, agriculture, transport, human resources and the economy in general. The AIDS epidemic in sub-Saharan Africa continues to devastate communities, rolling back decades of development progress.

Sub-Saharan Africa faces a triple challenge:

Providing health care, antiretroviral treatment, and support to a growing population of people with HIV-related illnesses.
Reducing the annual toll of new HIV infections by enabling individuals to protect themselves and others.
Coping with the impact of millions of AIDS deaths2 on orphans and other survivors, communities, and national development.

are you lost ?

sandraa:
@ xynerise pls dnt join zim to derail dis thread! ,  * looking at xynerise with badeyes jst keeping it cool not to derail dis thread *

Everybody is entitled to their opinion so nobody should start calling one names especially when its not called for!

peace be still!!!!!

dear you can never control what people think or how they react

what makes you think that you are immune to insults based on what one thinks of you or your thinking ?

foyeks2001:
Lol,
take it easy sis and stick to Rokiatu's advise

hey you!!!
y do u always look for trouble

i dont look for trouble

i say what i feel and people get offended

when i say what i feel i dont hold back thinking that one might be offended i dont care about that

if i start to think that people might get offended i will end up not saying what i feel and think

sandraa:
you dis zimpazee o chimpazee i wont help u derail dis thread!!!!

from a cursed country dat all your men r here doing mechanic up and down!

ode oshi, come first y r u here on nairaland does it look anything close to dat your village zimbabwe?,  pls go and start your own zimbabwefakeuselessdollarland!!!

i-d-i-o-t

zimbabwe a village ? poor you search this forum and you will hear from your  fellow nigerians what say about zimbabwe

nigeria is a village if you where to compare it to zimbabwe infrastruture

if there are zim mechanics in nigeria its say something about nigeria cant you train your own people to be mechanics ?

rokiatu:
You want spoit your thread eh?

she about to

what do you expect from some who think I LOVE YOU must be said first by the guy

i guess if he doesnt say it the will conclude that the guy doesnt love her

xynerise:
Na today?
Zim u no tell her say na insult u dey use brush teeth?

i dont understand pigin

sandraa:
u are so silly that the meaning of silly is zimdrill!!!!! , dare call me daft again i will insult u to another nationality!!!!! zimbabwe !!!

whether you insult me or zimbabwe it wont change your daftness

even if you go to sleep and wake up you would be still daft

sandraa:
stop calling names pls!

Thanks for your contribution!

Me still think d guy shld be d first to tell d lady he loves her!!!!!

i say what i want

daft

if you say HE SHOULD then its DUTY than his true feelings