Many many things

The Lord will straighten you

Koyemi o

Gayatri:

What are the red flags please??... He loves his girlfriend but he does not want to let me leave him because i help him get focused than his girl aside the feelings he has for me... Please make me understand...

Actually you love him and it is obvious
you see from a guy perspective, you already try to prove to him that you are connected, but the bitter truth is the heart wants what he wants
he loves his ex, and its left over to him to choose and he wont be able to do that if you still accept to be his friend

don't let him hook you down, i understand you are 27, but don't let that age put pressure on you

cut the friendship, let him miss you, let him see the difference between you and his gf... then he will decide
you are letting him to eat is cake and have it at the expense of your own time

so, be ready for whatever that will happen, give him break and tell him to choose

simple, you gat to move

that my own opinion

Jodha:


I personally feel...a decent guy should have boundaries...

definitely you are right

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

sir, i will give you one advice fight for your home... you are not a man just to feed, but also to protect

don't be weak at this point and dont see your wife as the enemy here, let you are scared of losing your home! the rise and fight for it

after your claim your home with prayer, fasting, involve the family, go to her church, involve people that matters
save your home!!!

I pray God grant you absolute wisdom to restore your home amen


i declare all anomalies in your home, every spirit wagging war against your union powerless amen
your home is restored amen.

SeunWedsLinda:
Good morning nairalanders. I'm sharing this here because I feel restless with this urgent need to end my relationship. I'll make the story as short as possible.

I started dating my girlfriend this time 2 years ago. The experience hasn't been bad because she's all I could wish for in a woman. Very pretty both facially and in physique. Respectful. Been there for me during my down times. Encourages me when things don't go my way. At some point, I thought she was gonna leave because of my financial state but no. She still stuck by me. Even helping me financially to bring me up to my feet.

However, Despite every attempts at steadying my financial imbalance, there was never any progress. We went for a crusade mid last year and the prophet called her out, was praying for her and she was falling under anointing. She was oblivious of what was happening then the man of God delivered a big prophesy that shocked me. He said she is possessed by a spirit which is out to ruin every man she's had something to do with in the past. That a lot of men have been destroyed. My heart raced faster and I couldn't figure out what to do at that point. When she finally got herself, she cleaned up and went home. Came to my house the following morning and asked me what happened. I told her everything the prophet said and she begged me not to leave her. Of course I didn't leave her. We still continued with the relationship. Don't blame me here guys. My belief was that no man or woman has the power to influence what happens to you. That success or financial breakthrough is the end product of hardwork and perseverance. That was why I took that prophesy with a pinch of salt.

Our lives continued. I kept encountering frustrations in my live goals and ambitions. Depts hanging round my neck with no hope in sight. Rents expiring with no plan for renewal. To the point that I had to borrow to feed. These were much that I decided to go see another prophet yesterday. This prophet is different from the first one that hosted a crusade we went for. I decided to go alone this time around and it's located in a different state. In the course of the ministration. The prophet called me out. He told me I should limit things I say to THAT GIRL (my girlfriend). He mentioned to me that my girlfriend is good and it's not her fault. That she is possessed by a spirit that is out to ruin. Responsible for restricting any favor that looks like it's coming my way. Every thing he told me was in tandem with my real life experiences. He prayed for me afterwards and I still went further to meet him. I needed some clarity on whether or not to continue with my relationship. He didn't urge that I breakup. But he advised I should just leave her and focus on my hustle.

My girlfriend has been calling me since yesterday but I've not been picking. I'm confused guys. I know I will eventually pick and talk to her but how do I breakup? Where do I start from? I don't want to tell her what the prophet said about her. My mind is mess rn. Please advice me guys

I believe any prophet that has the capacity to see/discern such spirit should be able to cast it out by deliverance


Let me point out your fault to you bro... the moment you heard that, it suppose to be a spiritual battle for you and the lady to face and procure victory.
You are not spiritually balance.

At this point, I see you having two options:

Either you both face the battle with fasting and prayer and vigils (which is better)
or leave the lady

but leaving the lady will not undo what you have inherited from her until you are delivered

check your spiritual capacity and decide

I pray God lead you to the right direction amen

Husband for rent

What ever money your spend on your babe, you are spending it on yourself

Sheina:

What what why
My head is paining me na
Read your last paragraph

Sorry about that

much is on the kind of person the lady is...
That will determine how far she will go with you


After all, for her being pregnant, she is your property already.

If you are a man

1 have money
2. Have money
3. Have plenty money

Companionship is more important than sex

You are high on weed

You have time to send OK but no time to call

Confuzedman:
i always warn her of her friend.how will the friend say I am harsh on her?

There is nothing you can do about that bro, just keep praying for her, only life can teach her the hard way

No matter what you do, she won't appreciate it and if u dance to her tune you just created a future problem for yourself
So just let her go clear her eyes, if she is wise by God's grace she will retrace her step
Just let her go, simple. if u want peace.
Not only because of you but because of your unborn children
You won't want your children to come to this wicked world and still has a fool as their mother
That will be wickedness on your part

Bro, let her go and learn, pls

Confuzedman:
Thank u.I suspect her friend is influencing her

most ladies problems in relationships comes from their suppose friends


Don't date nor marry someone with sense

Let her go

Bro, save yourself lot of headache and let the lady go, she still believe she has lot of options
So, she won't pay any price to make you happy or for marriage

Pls, let her go, if just for now, until life teach her the hard way

LovesickG:

He isn't testing nothing. He swore that if it was a test, his parents, his sister should die. He was certainly very serious. It past now tho, he has blocked me on all social media platforms we are connected, shows how much of a test it was.

he is devilish, thank God it's past
If you try to complies with such, he will use it against you at the long run, so it is better he Fu*ck-away

LovesickG:

Thanks sis. We broke up two days ago since I couldn't fulfil his condition. I miss him sometimes cuz we've been together three years. But I'm not going back.

He is testing your faithfulness, just stand your ground of being faithful, he will come back begging you.

You don't no maybe that slap na the supplier of you life

Don't divorce o

Hmmmm, let me go and think about it

LordNicvuitton:


I want to respectfully keep our intimacy life out of this bro, but just know that I'm her 1st definition of a true love. Most of what you typed, are positive words and i thank you. I've never stopped encouraging her. She has the potential to be a life partner (trust me, I have had experiences to know this) but the financial burden is the negative in all these.

Bro, that is life, seeing this financial stuff as negative side is not good enough...
You see, I understand you that what happened to her and this time demand much from you and you don't want to do it but because of the pressure of love you have for her is compelling you to do it for her out of your comfort zone
And that it is what is causing you pain

Bro, don't let this affects your relationship with her and your kindness towards her
Just make it clear, because of this time we are, I Cant get you phone, that doesn't mean you don't love her, no...
So, don't push yourself to far

Even you might still find yourself in that shoe in future

So please, keep helping her
But don't do what is not convenient for you
And pls, don't bother refereeing her to her parent. Life is not balance

God bless

inside life

This is another means for our government to swallow money

they will just come up with a scheme 50bn to compensate a for child bearing

alaribe1992:
I am an undergraduate of a high institution in Owerri, so I've been home due to the closure of schools Nationwide.
There's this girl whose mom owns a drinking bar somewhere around my street, she's an undergraduate too, but she's been home too during this lockdown. I've been seeing this girl for years but started developing feelings for her suddenly.
I approached her as a sharp guy and collected her number. She wasn't using a smart phone then, so we communicate through phone calls.
At first our conversations was smooth and sweet, and it was like a match made in heaven, we haven't gone out for a date due to she always stays in her mom's shop and her mom is a very strict woman. Her dad is late. I told this girl my mind, that I'd like us to date and she agreed.
To cut the story short
After a week she started acting strange, sometimes she wouldn't pick my calls and she won't call back, she got a smart phone and was back on WhatsApp. She replies my text late after seeing them.
On Sunday afternoon I called her and she busied my call, a friend of mine who lives opposite their shop called me on phone telling me the girl was outside their shop and was over the phone with someone for a long time. I called her again and she busied my call again, I texted her on WhatsApp to ask her what her problem was.
After a day, she replied on WhatsApp that she's sorry, Well today she just texted me that she's no longer interested in the relationship that she just wants to be left alone. Note that we haven't even had a time together all this while due to the fact I didn't want to rush things with her and she she was always at her mom's shop.
I want to know how someone that likes you before just wakes up and all of a sudden no longer interested in you again without any provocation.
thank you

likes you before? stop kidding yourself. she just lead you on, you got her attention then because she was available

bro, for your peace of mind sake, abeg move on fast fast

block all means she can get back to you causes she will play you till you finish

space

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Anuoluwa1234:
Keep on testing you hear . Don't you know not all ladies are sound like that. Keep testing hoo, u hear, keep it up

so you are not sound?

Communication is always the key

Sit him down and talk about it

He might say no to things you say due to your presentations or so

commucate first then check if you can cope or not

Obinoscopy:
Who can solve this? It's not as easy as you think.

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PS:

It's interesting how people are getting varying answers. I will post a summary of all the different answers posted by nairalanders here:

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This kind of my can not even have peace self

And any woman that a man is acting like this towards should check themselves if they aren't doing anything that break Trust

Happy Birthday Apostle Joshua Selma


Your are a blessing to our generation

God Bless you sir

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