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If your job can't fill the space why dontcha develop a hobby.......like skating or playing a musical instrument or anything that you've wanted to do for quite a while

vivian chinaza:

To answer your question yes I'm working......though now a white collar job. I'm a very creative person and creativity is my passion but my work is not where I hide when my love life sucks!...

...U need to understand that there is a space in one's life that work cannot fill right?

Yes Vivian, I understand.

i have same problem, we can talk tru my mail alphaamicus@yahoo.com it will be nice laughing together on past issues.

Love can be so complicated

You are probably moody about your failed relationship after putting a lot into it.
What you need is a good friend; to listen you; a really good friend who can control himself, even if you and your looks are tempting.

Denial – The person getting broken up with is unable to admit that the relationship is really over. They may try to continue to call the person when that person wants to be left alone.

Anger – When the reality sets in that the relationship is over, it is common to demand to know why they are being broken up with. This phase can make them feel like they are being treated unfairly and it may cause them to become angry at people close to them who want to help aid the situation.

Bargaining – After the anger stage, one will try to plead with their former partner by promising that whatever caused the breakup will never happen again. Example: “I can change. Please give me a chance”.

Depression – Next the person might feel discouraged that their bargaining plea did not convince their former partner to change their mind. This will send the person into the depression stage and can cause a lack of sleep, eating and even disrupt daily life tasks such as bowel movements.

Acceptance – Moving on from the situation and person is the last stage. The person accepts that the relationship is over and begins to move forward with their life. The person might not be completely over the situation but they are done going back and forth to the point where they can accept the reality of the situation.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/K%C3%BCbler-Ross_model#Grieving_a_break-up
Stage 3 YAY you!

vivian chinaza:


You are on social network so stop being a perverted jerk! You are so disgusting (rolling my eyes). Men like you oh wait, NO! Dogs like you who talk to women like this should be burnt alive! Ewu ofiah!

africa9: what u neeed is a large peeenis in you buttocks

my dear grab your ankles and assume the position

vivian chinaza:


You are on social network so stop being a perverted jerk! You are so disgusting (rolling my eyes). Men like you oh wait, NO! Dogs like you who talk to women like this should be burnt alive! Ewu ofiah!

I think we all have been there at one time or another.

OP you'll be fine,just give it time,go out meet new people and love will find you when you don't even expect.

vivian chinaza: I feel lonely most times and I try to fill that space up with activities and creativity but my heart keeps yawning for love; to really love someone.......I'm not even sure I want a boyfriend......I just want to be a part of something special. Sometimes I break down and cry, I don't wanna go out and I'm really tired of it. I don't know if this is happening because I'm still very much in love with my ex or another psychological thing. I know this is a phase I have to pass through but the truth is I don't know how to, right now I'm feeling kind of lost......how do I go about this? What should I do? Has any body in the house felt the same way........honestly if I don't do something I might just lose it!

The psychological thing you are talking about is being a woman. It is nature, babes.

Let me use your template to write mine so you understand:

I feel h[i]or[/i]ny most times and I try to fill that space up with activities and creativity but my joystick keeps standing up for ikebes; to really s[i]h[/i]ag them.......I'm not even sure I want a girlfriend......I just want to be a part of insane sex. Sometimes I get hard and shout, I wanna burst out and I'm really tired of it. I don't know if this is happening because women are wearing more sexy clothes these days or another psychological thing. I know this is a phase I have to pass through but the truth is I know how to, right now I'm feeling kind of freaky......how do I go about this? What should I do? Is any chic in the house feeling the same way........honestly if you do hala at me and I will make you lose it!

Sagamite:

The psychological thing you are talking about is being a woman. It is nature, babes.

Let me use your template to write mine so you understand:

I feel Hot most times and I try to fill that space up with activities and creativity but my joystick keeps standing up for ikebes; to really s[i]h[/i]ag someone.......I'm not even sure I want a girlfriend......I just want to be a part of insane sex. Sometimes I get hard and shout, I wanna go out and I'm really tired of it. I know if this is happening because women are wearing more sexy clothes these days or another psychological thing. I know this is a phase I have to pass through but the truth is Iknow how to, right now I'm feeling kind of freaky......how do I go about this? What should I do? Is any chic in the house feeling the same way........honestly if I you do hala at me and I will make you lose it!

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Dear vivian, am in ur position too. U lovs x so much n wantd 2 always b wit bt he neva gav u such lov. Afta our separation i av numerous gals dat r fa more beautiful dan ha bt yet in evryday i breath of ha i tink of ha. Lif is just d way it is. Just live on dear n find joy in where possible. Tnk u

vivian chinaza: I feel lonely most times and I try to fill that space up with activities and creativity but my heart keeps yawning for love; to really love someone.......I'm not even sure I want a boyfriend......I just want to be a part of something special. Sometimes I break down and cry, I don't wanna go out and I'm really tired of it. I don't know if this is happening because I'm still very much in love with my ex or another psychological thing. I know this is a phase I have to pass through but the truth is I don't know how to, right now I'm feeling kind of lost......how do I go about this? What should I do? Has any body in the house felt the same way........honestly if I don't do something I might just lose it!

1 chance

my advice to you is change your focus, do what you love doing, go out enjoy life, hang out with friends and Mr. Right or Prince Charming will come along, finally how you package yourself will determine who you attract. cheers!

U remind me of one sister in church, working her as$ off, doing all that needs to be done. This is what comes with serving people, you know. She went telling pastor, we neva reali were appreciating her effort. Now you need to do your job, do it, if you want to fall in love again, it just wont happen. Your beauty isnt bullshit, just do urself a favour at times, go to church and ask God for a boyfriend. God listens. God cares. Try Him and come back here for testimonieZ...!

My dear all u nid is God,just ask of him n he will make available direction n wisdom to handle d tinz u cannot.all d best

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Or alomo and ginger - so many mad dudes arund these parts these days

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vivian chinaza:


You are on social network so stop being a perverted jerk! You are so disgusting (rolling my eyes). Men like you oh wait, NO! Dogs like you who talk to women like this should be burnt alive! Ewu ofiah!

I love you already!!!! Serves him right!!!. About how you are feeling, i think i kindof feel the same way, but i don't want a guy, i just want to be loved and i don't want a relationship. I think you should chill, take your time, and work on your emotions, don't get involved yet, and open your heart to new love. You will be alright.

OP,
i think u have refused to wake up from de realities of yur past relationship.
u need to do more, after dat relationship, yu withdrew yourself froma lot of things and its not helping u,
i know u will always reminisce on yur good times and all dat but at dis point work and activities cant help u. ...believe it or not, u need a guy, it may not be a romantic affair but u need some kinda being of the opposite sex to take yur mind away from de old guy and mind u, its just more like a solace .
as well, dont hold any grudge against yur EX, it will help u heal faster.

i want yu to try more, clear yur head, open yur mind and free yur world of the past (though it aint easy) and be happy.

wishin yu de best

africa9: what u neeed is a large peeenis in you buttocks

my dear grab your ankles and assume the position

hahahahha.

This thing happening to you is not new, i have the same situation, unlike you, i didn't break up with anyone and i have learnt to control my emotion, one thing you have to do is to break d ties between you and your ex, try to talk to yourself as if you'r advicing someone on the same matter, i have tried it and it's working but that doesn't mean that you won't feel emotionally downcast but it will be minimal. Everybody needs to love and be loved, but waiting for true love is the best.

U neva wan talk wetin dey do u abi? Wen you are ready let niralanders knw...imagine who u dey threatin sey u wan loose am..loose it infact throw it away sef..just tell us d truth about ur previous relationship then from there we will prescribe u a solution

wat u need nw is time to put ursef bk 2geder nd it wil take u a much time to be in luv again coz to actually fel in luv again after been jinted by sumone is a very serious issue u need u dont joke wit.bt i wil advice u nt to alone like dat bt find a cul guy to make a friend,someone u knw he can advice u wen it comes 2 an emmotion.so wit time God wil provide ur own 4 u.

freecocoa: I think we all have been there at one time or another.

OP you'll be fine,just give it time,go out meet new people and love will find you when you don't even expect.

Eehhmm, i have not oo. Can we have such in common

vivian chinaza: I feel lonely most times and I try to fill that space up with activities and creativity but my heart keeps yawning for love; to really love someone.......I'm not even sure I want a boyfriend......I just want to be a part of something special. Sometimes I break down and cry, I don't wanna go out and I'm really tired of it. I don't know if this is happening because I'm still very much in love with my ex or another psychological thing. I know this is a phase I have to pass through but the truth is I don't know how to, right now I'm feeling kind of lost......how do I go about this? What should I do? Has any body in the house felt the same way........honestly if I don't do something I might just lose it!

deep inside you something is missing,and that thing need to be found,but it does not matter how soon,so take ur precious time to search for the ryt guy who will nt joke with ur heart again...

Hey! Am actually in the same situation. I think it is normal especially when u are hoping
Your ex will come back. I think the important thing right now is to accept your ex is nt coming back
Then slowly try to heal and get to value and love urself. You will soon discover you are worth more than you place on urself. Engage in other activities, read books, watch movies, do what you enjoy. Learn how to make money. Build yourself to be the kind of partner you want to have. Then above all pray and let go. Soon u will discover u have mastered ur emotions and are in control. At that point u will be able to have the right mind to choose a guy that u deserve and deserves you.

I think you are psychologically and emotionally down because of the crash in your relationship. Usually this is what happens when greater percentage of one’s relationships is embellished with many bodily gratifications (sexual pleasures and satisfaction, high passions and desires for companionships, amusements and emotional satisfactions including so much togetherness). All these always mask the reality check of true love and often times we always misrepresents it as love.
These things have the capabilities of creating a deep hollow in our minds and emotions when they are not forthcoming. Hence the yearning to satisfy the hollow always leads us to cloudy judgements of how our next relationships should be. Sometimes the urgency to fill these emotional hollow makes us fall prey to the next devourer on the street who has no genuine love for us.
Let,s start from here?
What do you really miss in your ex that leaves you so hollow? Sexual gratifications, companionships, togetherness, financial back up etc...Or probably he satisfies your bodily needs as at time required? That is the monster you have to deal with. Be real to yourself for once and know that no man is indispensable. Only God has no equal. Tell yourself the truth and deal with your passions and bodily urge or else your judgement about true relationship will be cloudy. There are other better men who are willing to treat you like queen if you can guide your heart with all diligence instead of allowing the mesmerizing emotional urge to rule your life. Fill your emotions and heart with the love for God, career and in building worthwhile relationships. You have power over your mind, emotions and thoughts. Soon you will find out that there is more to life than revolving all your being around one boy/man who will eventually treat your pearl with disdain.

I hope you find this useful.
Admonition

Sweetheart why do you think the cinema was invented? It was invented for times like this!!! This is the perfect time to hang out with your girlfriends and you are still moping? Oya get off your behind, put on your favourite dress and hit the town baby!! There are spas, cinemas and hangouts that are just dying to deprive you of your hard earned money. Look at the bright side, for the time being you are free from the wahala that we men bring so enjoy your singlehood cos trust me baby it aint gonna last! (ehm that is if you are actually as fine as you painted)

vivian chinaza:


You are on social network so stop being a perverted jerk! You are so disgusting (rolling my eyes). Men like you oh wait, NO! Dogs like you who talk to women like this should be burnt alive! Ewu ofiah!

vivian una dai fight before ni....

anyway time like dis come n go... all u nid to do is to b pro active..
wish u luck

Just re-package urself, forget about ur ex and hit the ground running by given another guy who truly deserves u a chance and see how it goes cos life is too short for loneliness.

My dear Vivan, u just wrote my xperience. I am going thru exactly wut u wrote and I am really luking for a suitable solution. Could anybody in d hse offer a reasonable and workable solution to me? I tried keeping three men at different times bt dey ended d same way, i.e. after satisfying dia sexual desire and enjoying my beautiful body.

Its nt easy, been dere too, buh d tin is dis, u need 2 ask urself what u really want, anoda relationship, crazy se.x or a company datz 4 real. When i strolled down dat lane, i immediately went 4 opt 1(anoda relationship) cos i tot transfering d luv wz a way out, my dear it didnt work out dat way cos i still felt d vacuum in there and lonely even if dere wz some1 new in my life, its nt sometin u jus transfer, i went 4 opt 2(crazy se.x) it wz fun while it lasted but after u'r done, when u r laying on ur bed and d rain start falling unda d cool atmosphere, tots begin 2 roll, u then realize u've done noting yet and u still empty, finally i sat myself down and and asked what i really wantd, so i went 4 option 3(a true company)... Dis wz actually d hardest part @ d beginning cos i lost friends...Y? cos i decieded no more se.x, no more searching and no more gimmicks. initially when they hear no more se.x dey'll feel u just kiddin after d first 2 unsuccessful attempts, they gradually walk away 4rm ur immediate life,,(u knw many guys and ladies like having a taste of what u feel like inside when dey think u look good and u cool outside) so d moment dey realize u dont give-in any more dey move and datz wen u find u real friends and true company dat could b with u, u could talk about life xperiences 2geda,play and hv fun with u, without thinking more about intimacy, se.x and all dat.... U just live ur free life have ur fun hang-out etc under a platonic platform of friendship and u'l realise d vacuum will gradually b filled with d luv of true friends and real unbiased company.... Belive me d last thing u need now is to jump into anoda relationship in search of luv...