Sunebanty: Hi friends,i met this girl on a social network,one thing led to another and we started dating,i really love her and she claimed to love me,after like 2months of dating she came to me oneday and said he cn't leave her ex(she said the guy travelled for like 5months and he did not call him thats why she taught the guy has forgoten her but the guy is now back and explained why he couldn't get in touch with her)so she said she cn't stand her conscience if she jilt the guy and she would'nt like to loose me.
I tried to convince her to forget about the guy and she pleaded and said she will,but she later came and said she cn't just do such a thing for the guy.i decided to tell her its over until i told a friend who said i should not do it that way that i should continue with her bt it will be like a competition between i and the guy so it depends on who wins.(though she said the guy has travelled back again,and he will be back ones a while)fellow nlanders pls i need ur advice here.should i quite or continue?

sexkillz: This is the true life story of my best friend.

He fell in love with a lady. The lady in question has a boyfriend who travelled out of the country. The family of the lady and her boyfriend were well aware of the relationship. The lady was honest enough to tell this my friend that she was in a serious relationship with a guy abroad and she has plans of marrying him when he comes back. At this time, the boyfriend has spent 3 years already abroad. My friend did not give up. He continued dating this lady. The D day arrived, the guy came back after 5 years, and by this time, my friend and this girl had dated for 2 years. She told my friend her sweetheart is back and the relationship had to end. My friend took it in good faith.

The day she met with her boyfriend after he came back, was the day she broke up with him. The guy had changed after 5 years, and already had a daughter with a "whitey". . . She felt nothing for him anymore. My friend had already done damage to her heart, and she swore never to leave him. Fast forward 12 years later, my friend is married to this lady, and they have 2 kids.

Now, while i am not saying your story will turn out the same, you have to understand the damage long distance can deal to a relationship, and use it to your advantage. Be there for her when she needs you. Be her trusted friend and confidant. Do not pressure her to date you and allow her to make her choice. Do not give up.

If the girl is not worth it, discard whatever i said. But if you deem her worthy, fight for what you already have. If you have made an impression on her already, she will not be in a hurry to forget that. Yes, there are many fishes in the river, but not all of them are edible. Why should you give up on the one you have supposedly caught?

Back to my story. My friends wife told me in her husband's presence that he was the least handsome out of all the men she dated, but she fell in love with his personality. . . I learn alot from that couple daily.

So, OP if she is worth it, give it a try. Don't expect her to forget him so easily bro. With time, you will make her forget about him completely. . . Your choice.

omega25red: @ killz good story, but the said travler has only been gone for 5 months. It hasn't even been a year and she is already straying.

Anyway poster you are setting yourself up for real heart ache if you don't excuse yourself from this situation right now. all the writing is on the wall already and you will be making a mistake to wait and hope that this would work out for you like it did for killz friend. You should always have pride in yourself and live your love life as everyone's number one and not a second option.

one question you should ask your self is, if you told this same woman that you have another girl who is away and you need her for the time being, do you think she will stay with you?

sexkillz: This is the true life story of my best friend.

He fell in love with a lady. The lady in question had a boyfriend who travelled out of the country. The family of the lady and her boyfriend were well aware of the relationship. The lady was honest enough to tell this my friend that she was in a serious relationship with a guy abroad and she has plans of marrying him when he comes back. At this time, the boyfriend has spent 3 years already abroad. My friend did not give up. He continued dating this lady. The D day arrived, the guy came back after 5 years, and by this time, my friend and this girl had dated for 2 years. She told my friend her sweetheart is back and the relationship had to end. My friend took it in good faith.

The day she met with her boyfriend after he came back, was the day she broke up with him. The guy had changed after 5 years, and already had a daughter with a "whitey". . . She felt nothing for him anymore. My friend had already done damage to her heart, and she swore never to leave him. Fast forward 12 years later, my friend is married to this lady, and they have 2 kids.

Now, while i am not saying your story will turn out the same, you have to understand the damage long distance can deal to a relationship, and use it to your advantage. Be there for her when she needs you. Be her trusted friend and confidant. Do not pressure her to date you and allow her to make her choice. Do not give up.

If the girl is not worth it, discard whatever i said. But if you deem her worthy, fight for what you already have. If you have made an impression on her already, she will not be in a hurry to forget that. Yes, there are many fishes in the river, but not all of them are edible. Why should you give up on the one you have supposedly caught?

Back to my story. My friends wife told me in her husband's presence that he was the least handsome out of all the men she dated, but she fell in love with his personality. . . I learn alot from that couple daily.

So, OP if she is worth it, give it a try. Don't expect her to forget him so easily bro. With time, you will make her forget about him completely. . . Your choice.

k2039: [size=14pt]You are number two on her list and you will remain nuber two,and their is nothing you can do about it.


My 2 CENT.
If you are ok with being nuber 2 you can stay with her,but I can assure you that when the real owner comes you wont even just be relegated to the bench but you will be relegated to the feeder's team.

So forget about the girl and move on,their are millons of girls who are better off than her.


And on you thinking she loves,you only deceiving yourself,when you love someone that pesron becomes your piority.
Trust me you are not a piority in her life,you just an option.

Trust me you far important than one girl making you an option in her book[/size]

abiL: If she can't forget her ex






FORGET HER!


It isn't by force. There are plenty of single girls in the world. She's not the only one with a punaaaani

sexkillz: This is the true life story of my best friend.

He fell in love with a lady. The lady in question had a boyfriend who travelled out of the country. The family of the lady and her boyfriend were well aware of the relationship. The lady was honest enough to tell this my friend that she was in a serious relationship with a guy abroad and she has plans of marrying him when he comes back. At this time, the boyfriend has spent 3 years already abroad. My friend did not give up. He continued dating this lady. The D day arrived, the guy came back after 5 years, and by this time, my friend and this girl had dated for 2 years. She told my friend her sweetheart is back and the relationship had to end. My friend took it in good faith.

The day she met with her boyfriend after he came back, was the day she broke up with him. The guy had changed after 5 years, and already had a daughter with a "whitey". . . She felt nothing for him anymore. My friend had already done damage to her heart, and she swore never to leave him. Fast forward 12 years later, my friend is married to this lady, and they have 2 kids.

Now, while i am not saying your story will turn out the same, you have to understand the damage long distance can deal to a relationship, and use it to your advantage. Be there for her when she needs you. Be her trusted friend and confidant. Do not pressure her to date you and allow her to make her choice. Do not give up.

If the girl is not worth it, discard whatever i said. But if you deem her worthy, fight for what you already have. If you have made an impression on her already, she will not be in a hurry to forget that. Yes, there are many fishes in the river, but not all of them are edible. Why should you give up on the one you have supposedly caught?

Back to my story. My friends wife told me in her husband's presence that he was the least handsome out of all the men she dated, but she fell in love with his personality. . . I learn alot from that couple daily.

So, OP if she is worth it, give it a try. Don't expect her to forget him so easily bro. With time, you will make her forget about him completely. . . Your choice.

omega25red: @ killz good story, but the said travler has only been gone for 5 months. It hasn't even been a year and she is already straying.

Anyway poster you are setting yourself up for real heart ache if you don't excuse yourself from this situation right now. all the writing is on the wall already and you will be making a mistake to wait and hope that this would work out for you like it did for killz friend. You should always have pride in yourself and live your love life as everyone's number one and not a second option.

one question you should ask your self is, if you told this same woman that you have another girl who is away and you need her for the time being, do you think she will stay with you?

Sunebanty:
thanks bro,i think i av to patient here cos it wn't be that easy to leave her,though i can but it wn't be an easy thing

abiL:

It won't be easy because you think she's the one. But the quicker you start to realise that other girls possess the qualities you see in her, the better.
I've been in a relationship where I found it hard to let go , but looking back now, I looked so stupid because what I was fighting for, wasn't worth holding on it. I am so better off without him.
So once you've let this girl go, you will start to realise that she ain't all that.

k2039: [/b]

Op I hope you listen(this is a girl telling you to move on,I love the one in red

My final 2cent on this matter:

Never put all your hope in one woman
The one who cares the least controls the relationship!(she is the one in control,she has absolutely nothing to loose)
You’re better off alone than with the wrong woman!(their is someone who will love you completely for who you are,someone who will make you her number 1)
[size=13pt]NEVER forget you were born without her. And that there are hundreds more like her and thousands
more that are even better than her.(she is not the best woman for you,she is only an illusion on your mind,their is someone out there who is better than her)

[/size]My final cent

[size=14pt]If a person wants to be a part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.
[/size]

I sense you self esteem is low compared to hers(you hold her with a lot of reverence,trust me I have been their,so I know what am saying),their are better girls than her.
[size=18pt]
She’s not better than you[/size]

Sunebanty: Hi friends,i met this girl on a social network,one thing led to another and we started dating,i really love her and she claimed to love me,after like 2months of dating she came to me oneday and said he cn't leave her ex(she said the guy travelled for like 5months and he did not call him thats why she taught the guy has forgoten her but the guy is now back and explained why he couldn't get in touch with her)so she said she cn't stand her conscience if she jilt the guy and she would'nt like to loose me.
I tried to convince her to forget about the guy and she pleaded and said she will,but she later came and said she cn't just do such a thing for the guy.i decided to tell her its over until i told a friend who said i should not do it that way that i should continue with her bt it will be like a competition between i and the guy so it depends on who wins.(though she said the guy has travelled back again,and he will be back ones a while)fellow nlanders pls i need ur advice here.should i quite or continue?

Buju banty!!

Mi ah nor understand yo grammerian rastafarian pataio

yuh don smoke e-gbo again ni?

banty please correct your jamaican pataio like your fellow e-gbo smoker mzdarksin make mi understand you

1 luv -

xynerise:
who is d original poster? your comment is longer than the poster's

rephrase the question to

sexkillz when you seat on your PC all day who cooks for you

or na garri you dey soak ni

190:

Buju banty!!

Mi ah nor understand yo grammerian rastafarian pataio

yuh don smoke e-gbo again ni?

banty please correct your jamaican pataio like your fellow e-gbo smoker mzdarksin make mi understand you

1 luv -

abiL: Just to add my two cents in (again)

The person that puts more in, has the most to lose.

So if she does stay with you, she'll be doing so because you're second best. And when the relationship does end, you'll be the one hurting (crying like a baby), whilst she'll be moving on to the next one.

A word is enough for a wise.

190: Matured -

Bro u я number 2 in a girl's life

I have 7 gurlfriends - I can lend you 6 2choose from

Mature - Up#

Sunebanty:
lol,when we are talking of having many girls,i think i have more than many(just that she is number one on my list),where in my post did i said she is the only girl am dating,just that i think its nonsense and i want to stop it.mind u i still have a girl crying and doing all sort of things to have me back but which i dnt need anymore.she always go to my friends to help her plead.and many girls like that.

190:

Now clap for yourself

After that walk 2 d corner of ur room and do 16 frog jump

Report back 2me when ure done

Sunebanty:
i guess you need rest

Etranshub: My 2 cent, continue knacking her with no string attch then u re save

Etranshub: My 2 cent, continue knacking her with no string attch then u re save

190:

Me - Noo oh I'm completely fine
I guess u need head check

Sunebanty:
i dnt take trash and poo but i cn't fight someone i don't see..if u see my physic u wn't dare mess up with me