she took my feelings & cares 4 granted,den i kicked her 4kinn .Ass
buh wait wats d differnt b/w binger & bingo

[quote author=binger] Cute puppy=Bingo...i didn't say so[/quote binger,bingoooooooooo

cuteyangel: I'm short tempered and my bby knws dt.wen m pissed d best way to handle me is 2 jst ignore me.d last tym we argued I cald him wicked and hatless.he was so mad dt I did so bt den I acknowledged my wrong and apologizes sincerely.lil tins lyk dis make me luv him more.his d luv of mai lyf

Speak English or fu.c.k off.

misterme:

You are lucky sir. This is not abuse. If you want see invectives come close to my wife. When she starts it on everybody and everything. And it happens every two to three weeks. She says un-printable things to me. She uses everything she knows about me both good and bad to abuse me. She curses and abuses my mum and my siblings using everything she know about them. She calls us all kinds of name. Most times I keep quiet because I cannot match her verbal ability. My mum she abuses is even in the US with some my siblings. She NEVER apologizes. She never says I am sorry. As a result the level of anger and bitterness in this marriage is killing. Without doubt the marriage is heading for the rocks. Her mother and siblings have talked to countless number of times but she does not change. She is 7th in a family of 9 siblings. Many women complain about physical abuse and they are right. Physical abuse is wrong. In our 4 and half years of marriage with the bi-weekly abuse I have never raised my hand on my wife. I don't intend to. But do you know that verbal abuse can be even more destructive for a man. It seeks reduce and eventually destroy the self esteem of the man. If a man allows an abusive woman to succeed in this the man is finished. Do you know how much spiritual and mental exercise I do to exorcise my mind of the evil debris of bitterness, anger and hatred this woman deposits in my mind. Do you know how much this used to affect my work before I started these exercises. Even with these efforts I still struggle. I think the only way out is to end the marriage. One of her elder sisters has even given me this advice. The problem is that we have two boys- 3 years and 2 weeks. The abuse since she delivered two weeks ago has been horrible. At some point my brother-in-law who is a medical doctor suggested that I should take her to hospital to check if she has post partum depression coupled with possible psychosis. I suggested this to my wife (who Inow find very difficult to call my wife) and all heal was set loose. Boy I am tired of typing. I am in a bus returning from Onitsha to Port Harcourt. The Owerrinta-Aba-Port Harcout section of the road is very bad. I can't hold up the Transformer well

Sorry about your experiences. It's a real dilemma cos you've got young kids with her, so it's very difficult to just leave. Hope you find a way to resolve the problem. God bless.

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Yeahhh losa tyms.....he abuse....I abuse...n it end ders....den we ve hot sex afterewrds

@misterme

Sorry to hear about your story. She has childhood pain that she needs to heal from. I suspect - her mom and dad were verbally, emotionally, psychologically, mentally, and physically abusive to each other in her presence and possibly towards her. She hasn't forgiven them or healed from those wounds. Looks like your wife's other siblings have handled their childhood torment and torture better than she has.

She definitely needs counseling. I also suspect that you and your wife pretended towards each other prior to marriage - the cat always comes out of the bag in the end.
Your wife needs a better outlet to vent and let go of her anger and childhood pain and trauma. You don't want to continue the cycle by making your children listen to their mother abuse you. Its wrong and uncalled for.

^^^^^You could be right; however, there are some people who are simply just born bad.
@ misterme:
My heart goes out to you along with my admiration for the manner of maturity and patience you've displayed in coping with your tormentor.
Well, if I were in your shoes I'd take her back to her parents house, acting like I am seriously going to divorce her; perhaps thats the kind of wake up call she deserves and may even jolt her people to intervene on your behalf. Good luck.

Is anyone born bad or is bad behavior learned - either thru parents or society?

rokiatu:

Both hunni. Clearly both. I caould care less though.

And I am far from ashamed I am proud of him. That is a trait I wish I had myself.

It has nothing to do with being a pus.s.y, a mumu or however you wants to put it.

He is clearly a very mature and understanding guy who value his relationship and don't mind putting away his pride and ego to make things work.

This his attitude have even make me better. We hardly fight I mean headly. I am extra cautious of his feelings and emotions. This man I got right here knows what hes doing. This formula breaks me down to my bones.

And I am not the kinda girl that take things for granted or look down on my man for what so ever reason. I have enormous amount of respect for him. I luv my man thank you very much.

LOL don't get your knickers all in a twist, I was actually joking; though I still feel there something unheathly and odd about a relationship where a man has to apologize to his partner every time they qarrel even though he isn't in the wrong.
Yeah, sure why wouldn't you be happy, after-all you never have to say sorry even when you are wrong since you already have a pre-programmed apologizing machine on standby to seemingly sooth your royal ego.
Sorry if I sound judgemental; its just that the situation reeks of double standards, which I am sure you wouldn't accept should the roles be reversed or happen to your own brother (should you have one).

@ Mynd_44:
Omo, you no well, me jealous? Why should I be jealous of a spineless weakling too scared to stand up for himself - tufiakwa! you just wan start trouble.

obowunmi: Is anyone born bad or is bad behavior learned - either thru parents or society?

A person is always the resultant combination of his or her genotype and phenotype. Mull over that and answer yourself.

Mrs.Chima:


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