ayobase:

It will when ladies start being responsible, standing their ground, not desperate, and not being allowed to be ridden by one guy.
U have to know what u r worth first, before a guy starts dictating!

chief batiatus:

You are too much, all nigerian women and men should listen to what you just said. Great words my dear. People are unaware that there are men who don't see children as priority at all, like myself. If am blessed with a child good, if am not then I even have the opportunity to now do my very best for the many many fatherless and suffering children in every corner of the earth. I keep saying that nigerians now get more education and less civilization. So childlessness is the end of life? What a retarded thinking. So if u had no child u wouldn't know what else to do with your life? I think very soon the line will be drawn btw actually civilised people and those going around with certificates and fine clothes

divinelove: There is no guarantee runs girls too many these days, i think comprehensive medical tests and going for young decent girls less than 25yrs might help issues of worry here. I ve seen where ladies wed wit preg n then ve miscarriage n neva got preg again but mainly advanced ladies. Any gal 35 u don carry am b dt even if she is a virgin becoz she is running out on eggs, anyway miracles n adoption dey sha.

ceejay80s: @topic Yoruba men, na their hand work

ITbomb:
Which love ? After they ve destroy theirself with D&C and pills . Make another come suffer for their reckless living.

Any girl who does not agree to these terms should be shown the way out.
Better than spending most of ur married life in prayer house and lab

Burger01:

Are you a Nigerian? OK, are you an African?

chief batiatus:

You are too much, all nigerian women and men should listen to what you just said. Great words my dear. People are unaware that there are men who don't see children as priority at all, like myself. If am blessed with a child good, if am not then I even have the opportunity to now do my very best for the many many fatherless and suffering children in every corner of the earth. I keep saying that nigerians now get more education and less civilization. So childlessness is the end of life? What a retarded thinking. So if u had no child u wouldn't know what else to do with your life? I think very soon the line will be drawn btw actually civilised people and those going around with certificates and fine clothes

Rooneyboy:

u are a very myopic fellow and knows absolutely about marriage.

I was nocturnal a few nights back ; pressing my BB @ some point , I noticed a friend of mine was awake(a married lady) so we got talking, and she told me she's not been able to sleep because of "conceiving challenges" , she was deep in thoughts on what the problem was .......I tried my best in convincing her to relax, that things were going to fall in place .............

Now this lady in question was SO GOOD before she got married, what we would call
"Tear rubber" yet sill she's having this challenges .

----bro pls just quit talking like a jack.ass , its really annoying me.

chief batiatus:

Yes am nigerian, so what? You surprised there is someone that dosent care about heirs to carry his name? Heirs to 'remind' others of him when he is gone? Heirs to inherit all his wealth if at all he had any? Heirs to take care of him in old age since there won't be any other humanbeing around that will help? Blah blah blah blah. Am sure you most likely a graduate, have u ever travelled out of this hole to experience other perspectives? If its african to have a child by all means then africa is indeed the dark continent

jmoore: You may have heard of men that want their women pregnant before they can go ahead with the wedding, that is a very disrespectful.

Below is a summary of some real life stories that shows the cruel character of such men

1- A man wanted her girlfriend to be pregnant before he will marry her. She accepted and got pregnant. After the wedding she had a miscarriage. She later got pregnant again and had another miscarriage. The man kicked her out of the house after two years of marriage



2-This man said she must not only get pregnant but she must give birth first before marriage can take place. The girl accepted and took in. After she gave birth they married. One year later the child died. Next three years the wife was unable to conceive again. The man kicked her out of the house.


The next story below is an exception

3-This man never demanded sex from his girlfriend. They got married without having premarital sex. One year passed no kid, four years no kid. The man never complained about the situation. After 15 years of marriage she finally took in and later gave birth to triplets.


Girls you are not cars, no "test-driving" how you present your body is the way you will be treated.

ftmom: Interesting topic, how about women that make sure they get pregnant to secure a spouse

ghettodreamz: Below are points which might be useful tips;

1. Find a decent girl to be with
2. Months after you meet her, take it to God in prayer to seek His face concerning you two (importances of this can not be over-emphasized).
3. Before you tie the knot with her, do a detailed laboratory and comprehensive test of potency, veneral diseases,blood group n genotype, and fertility test.
4. The rest na Prayer to back things up

jmoore: You may have heard of men that want their women pregnant before they can go ahead with the wedding, that is a very disrespectful.




1- A man wanted her girlfriend to be pregnant before he will marry her. She accepted and got pregnant. After the wedding she had a miscarriage. She later got pregnant again and had another miscarriage. The man kicked her out of the house after two years of marriage



2-This man said she must not only get pregnant but she must give birth first before marriage can take place. The girl accepted and took in. After she gave birth they married. One year later the child died. Next three years the wife was unable to conceive again. The man kicked her out of the house.


The next story below is an exception

3-This man never demanded sex from his girlfriend. They got married without having premarital sex. One year passed no kid, four years no kid. [s]The man never complained about the situation. After 15 years of marriage she finally took in and later gave birth to triplets[/s]

kiss_angel:

I don’t support the statement about "the way woman mess themselves these days" can a woman mess herself up without a man? It takes two to tango, and on the average, besides, some men are too carried away with attractiveness, that they forget to look for ladies with morals. What about the way men mess themselves up these days and end up with low sperm count because of one infection or another. Some of these men know and would keep it secret. Some would utterly refuse to go for a test.

Anyways, I blame any girl that will agree to such a condition because if you have a sense of self worth, you won’t attach marriage proposals on "certain" derogatory conditions {a child is a beautiful gift, when it is used as a perquisite for marriage, it degenerates it to a mere means to an end and not an end in its self}. It takes more than a child to have a happy home. In fact run away from such men because they obviously are going to give you more ridiculous egoistic demands after you get married. If you are hell bent of compromising out of desperation, remember that if you give your glasses today, tomorrow, he might just be asking for your eyes! How much can u bear to compromise to keep up appearances?

Marriage should happen because you like the person enough to want to spend your lives together, better reasons like compatibility, companionship, character, attitudes and capacity to grow together and work as a team. The capacity to have children should be seen as an added gift to the equation, because like it or not, a lot of people would have to deal with the issue of infertility, even those that were married as virgins!
Think about it, what if the child is born with special needs, would the “man” still love and accept the child when he has shown you his rigid nature beforehand.

What ignorant arrogance!

chief batiatus:

Yes am nigerian, so what? You surprised there is someone that dosent care about heirs to carry his name? Heirs to 'remind' others of him when he is gone? Heirs to inherit all his wealth if at all he had any? Heirs to take care of him in old age since there won't be any other humanbeing around that will help? Blah blah blah blah. Am sure you most likely a graduate, have u ever travelled out of this hole to experience other perspectives? If its african to have a child by all means then africa is indeed the dark continent

ghettodreamz: Let's not forget another key point worthy of note is that a man or couple might be advised to ensure the wife takes in before the get married just to avert a curse or danger of marital childlessness, this is another cogent reason why it's good to take things to God in prayer or consult a spiritual cleric before deciding walking her down the aisle, this helps a lot.... Little things we ignore at times can cause us many years of hardship, agony and weep. May God help us all.

I doubt if God will tell u to impregnate ur would be wife before marriage under any circumstance. Its against the instructions of the holy Book. Any so called prophet that tells me such to me is false. well am only vast in the xtian aspect, wont know about other religions.
Am not a saint either but if we are to go by that way, lets do it right.

freecocoa: Oh well, where is the love then?

ITbomb: OP, u r listing the worst case scenario here , I can assure u that for every 5 marriage u see around , 3 are already confirmed with a child and on the average, the 3 live happily ever after . . .
A girl came here and say she had slept with 15 men within 4 years , she didn't tell us how many times per man or the pills, contraceptive or even abortion done.

And u expect guys to just claim that one without checking .

For those talking about unwrapping a gift. A gift is covered , that means it has not been opened by anybody but if the gift u r to receive is already opened, a wise man just have to do a quality and quantity check whether everything are complete and if it is not, whether he can manage with what is remain.

Ogegod87:


God bless u. D question is, what and y do ppl get married dese days? is it dat we no longer believe in love? cos i sincerely blieve dat no man would give such conditions 2 d woman he truly luvs.

dont be deceived. some even do it because of the love they have for the lady.
having considered the kind of family they have and knowing fully well what the lady they love would go through if she doesnt conceive on time, the prefer not to even get marry to her than subject her to such persecution.
Isnt that Love?

Demdem:

dont be deceived. some even do it because of the love they have for the lady.
having considered the kind of family they have and knowing fully well what the lady they love would go through if she doesnt conceive on time, the prefer not to even get marry to her than subject her to such persecution.

lola.luv:


I greatly concur!

ftmom: Interesting topic, how about women that make sure they get pregnant to secure a spouse

SOH KAH TOA: For the very first time I'm taking your comment with all gladness.. :

Demdem:

dont be deceived. some even do it because of the love they have for the lady.
having considered the kind of family they have and knowing fully well what the lady they love would go through if she doesnt conceive on time, the prefer not to even get marry to her than subject her to such persecution.
Isnt that Love?

Demdem:

I doubt if God will tell u to impregnate ur would be wife before marriage under any circumstance. Its against the instructions of the holy Book. Any so called prophet that tells me such to me is false. well am only vast in the xtian aspect, wont know about other religions.
Am not a saint either but if we are to go by that way, lets do it right.

victorD3: Well with how expensive weddings and pride price is these days you don't necessarily have to blame some men.

freecocoa: Oh well, where is the love then?