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Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Dopefiend(m): 9:43am On Nov 05, 2012 |
Stay wit him. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by chidyke77(m): 9:46am On Nov 05, 2012 |
Am nt gonna discourage u bt so many guys hv dumped the lady that helped in making them what they were. If u are well convince that he's going to stick wt u later,then go ahead wt ur plans bt d decision is urs. 2 Likes |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by eduson55(m): 9:47am On Nov 05, 2012 |
thats my boy talking. 4bobo: 1 Like |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by nwgoziri(m): 10:08am On Nov 05, 2012 |
U R A BIG LIAR 2 say al dis,u cn only xperience this wen u r under a spell or som spiritual tinz ok:u r kidin 4bobo: DONT JUST USE ONLY PUBLIC OPINION, PLEASE, PRAY,PRAY, PRAY HARD. THIS IS YOUR LIFE AND YOUR FUTURE. IT IS A MATTER OF TIME THAT EVERY THING YOU SEE MAY BE A REALITY. I AM NOT AGAINST THE GUY BUT PLEASE NEVER WALK WITH YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by lolaluv1(f): 10:13am On Nov 05, 2012 |
Op, It's very nice and admirable that you love him for who he is. I hope he is worth it sha. Because not all men end up appreciating chicks with your mindset...it takes a man of integrity to remember words of promise made when things were not so rosy. If you do decide to stay with him, keep it in mind that this is life and when it comes to people we let in our lives, nothing is guaranteed. And in the interim, keep developing yourself too! 1 Like |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Niiade(m): 10:22am On Nov 05, 2012 |
do you want him for the attributes and vision he has? does the money and status satisfies your parents answer about him as your boyfriend? would you like him to think about you in the same light you are now when he becomes a millionaire and says your family status is way below his? what matters to you, your world with him or your world with everybody? are you happy and i mean truly happy with him? dear there are so many questions that might have gone thru your head but the good thing about it is that all those questions have one answer, you either say yes or say no. only shallow people get involved with others cus of their status or position, you are smart so it only depends on what makes you happy. Just consider the above questions and ask yourself if being with him makes you happy or you are happy cus everybody likes him in your society. you dont have to rush things take each day in the relationship has it comes knowing you want to grow and plan a future, what your future plan entails would determine if you still want him in your life or not. alot of shallow object,things (fame,money,status,e.t.c) becloud happiness in the mind of women, and they miss out of what would have been a wonderful life and not an expensive one. 1 Like |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by goofie: 10:30am On Nov 05, 2012 |
what is ur heart telling u from deep within? r u at peace with him? leaving him or staying are both risks and decisions u have to take on ur own. no one cn do that for u.pray hard. God knows more than nairaland |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Nobody: 10:38am On Nov 05, 2012 |
nwgoziri: U R A BIG LIAR 2 say al dis,u cn only xperience this wen u r under a spell or som spiritual tinz ok:u r kidinI am not lying my man and i am not kidding. many women are facing alot in thier marriage and relationship .Thats the truth. Even the pastor i am writing about is saying nothing wrong for him to marry again . It may not be on the newspapaer but i really know what is happening and i will never take side cos it s my sister that is involved.Its happening every where. See the trend at which ,even some nigerian pastors are divorcing their wives. I wont mention names,but the facts are there. do you want to tell me that many of the women involved didnt struggle with them from the scratch? JUST THINKING. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Nobody: 10:49am On Nov 05, 2012 |
k2039: Are you an inter-state driver |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Nobody: 10:56am On Nov 05, 2012 |
Okontami: @Poster, please stay with him. There is dignity in that. That is called real value. He will appreciate you for life and will never joke with you or your emotions. He will treasure you. I went out with my wife for 10 years before getting married to her. She was there for me thru thick and thin. When I was writing my professional exams we were doing it together. When I was going for interviews, she will be there for me. She fed me for a whole semester in the university. Today (12 years after). I have almost half of my properties in her name. She have access to all my accounts, my internet banking credentials. She does not doubt my love for her. In fact I am happily married. I respect her for staying by me ,when ladies out there told me to my face that " is it your love I will eat" or " I can not date a student". Honestly today those chicks are happily married too I know but am sure they cannot point out one value they have added to their relationships. Please watch the advise you listen to here on Nairaland. There are lot of hungry girls with no virtue or value to add to any man here. Your wife is one in a million. This struck me ''she fed me for a whole semester''. 1 Like |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Booty4me: 10:57am On Nov 05, 2012 |
marshpearl: cant believe ladies like this still exist . . @ op. .when he makes it big. .u'll be his greatest trophy . .hmm i pray sha.. @op what if dz Guy hit it big and said to you that u re not his class |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by k2039: 11:06am On Nov 05, 2012 |
okpara ugo:See jamb question |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Nobody: 11:23am On Nov 05, 2012 |
okpara ugo:That's some deep shtt I tell you. And I think @Oko took a huge risk on that one considering the kind of mentality that Africans generally have, if I feed you I'm God. @Oko, Does she have sisters or friends like her? Help a brother out. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by MacLovington(m): 11:36am On Nov 05, 2012 |
My dear there are a few things in your (you anjd your guy)favour: (1) you love each other (2) You appreciates that he's himself (3) You guys are not rushing into things (even though marrying you would secure him green card). (4) You are both still young and can see how things go over the next few years-no pressure (5) etc A few things not so much in your favour. (1) Your parents have a certain idea that their lovely daughter should bring home an already made man (nice house, job, cars and all). At least you think they do. (2) You guys are from different countries. Even within Ghana (Gas, Northerners and Ashantis etc) and within Nigeria (Ibos, Northerners and Youbas etc) can even be suspicious of each other. So prejudice is abundant everywhere. (3) You love your guy but you still toy with the idea of leaving him (you asked for advice about this) to marry the guy of "your parents' dream". So you have doubts. (4) It takes too to tango. You don't know if your guy really wants to settle down with you. Perhaps he wants to but he's all too aware of the class/security difference between both of you. He wants to be made first so that you can proudly present him. (5) etc If you wait for him there are two things. It can work or cannot work. If it works you are safe. If going sour and you have the Grace and favour of God to avoid disaster you are safe. If you lack the wisdom to avert it, there are two things. It's either you were never meant for each other or you were not mature enough to make it work. If you were not meant for each other, que sera sera you are safe. If you were not mature enough to make it work, friends and family who were aginst it in the first place will say "I TOLD YOU SO". All in all, look into heart and what you really want. Ask yourself which things are superficial or vain and which are really worth it. Bon Courage! |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by freecocoa(f): 11:42am On Nov 05, 2012 |
Hmm well, IMO you are a bit young to be talking about settling down. Has he made it known to you that he wants to settle with you? Has he asked to meet your parents? Wouldn't it be best to just enjoy the relationship and see where it leads? Stay with your man and give him all the support he needs, if its meant to be, believe me it will be. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by AkinDavid2: 12:25pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
@POSTER,first you sound uncertain of this guy's future and acceptance in your community, but i want to ask you this sincere question, "WHY ARE YOU IN THIS RELATIONSHIP?" if you can answer that..every other thing is simple. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by honeric01(m): 12:47pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: Hmm well, IMO you are a bit young to be talking about settling down. 22 years is not young o, abeg no repeat that word again. a woman should be married latest 26. so by 22 you should be preparing for your wedding. 2 Likes |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by freecocoa(f): 12:50pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
honeric01:She should be preparing for wedding by 22 you say? Oya go marry her na. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Nobody: 1:13pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
al has bin sed.folow ur hat |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by honeric01(m): 1:18pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: She should be preparing for wedding by 22 you say? She didn't say she was looking for who to marry her na.. i am just saying 22 is not too young to think about marriage unless you want to settle down by 30 or higher as a woman or you don't care about dating/courting. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by anintia(m): 1:19pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
Its the best thing to do rather than going for the ready made big boys |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by freecocoa(f): 1:24pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
honeric01:If you cared enough to really comprehend her post, you'd realize that all she said was pointing towards marriage, she sounded like she was more interested in settling with him than enjoying dating him. I'm not saying she shouldn't think about marriage, I'm saying she should date first and see where it leads, instead of sounding desperate to settle down. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by MrsChima(f): 1:44pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
goofie: what is ur heart telling u from deep within? r u at peace with him? Exactly. With all the shout outs she is getting from the thread isn't going to comfort her when the storm hit. She need to make sure that no matter what happens that both can weather it together. If he isn't that type to stand strong...then you have to make a decision because trust and believe as long as you are alive...storms will come. 1 Like |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by MrsChima(f): 1:45pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
Akin-David: Good question. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by Nobody: 2:05pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
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Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by ORAFA(m): 2:17pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
ITbomb: FIRST TO COMMENTYou are a very BIG FOOL. It seems you don't have a sister or have never found yourself at crossroads. Be a grown up and talk like one too. @OP..... Please stick to the guy. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by lynton(m): 2:18pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
True2myself24: Okay so I will try to make this as simple and short as I possibly can. I’ve been in a relationship with this wonderful man for about nine months now. He’s Nigerian and he’s 26 and I’m Ghanaian and I’m 22. First let me ask you this, What do you think is your world? Well I feel the best solution to your question is to see and take him as a friend you are helping to build his own world to be like yours. Friendship and love thrives with sacrifice. Do what your mind tells you. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by zikaengee(f): 2:23pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
@ op,pls don't keep all ur hope in him. Develop ur self cos most men don't remember girls that stayed with them when the going was tough. Remember that his people will surface when he will want to marry and will try to chose his wife for him. Jst use wisdom and follow ur heart. Good luck |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by ITbomb(m): 2:27pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
ORAFA: You are a very BIG FOOL. It seems you don't have a sister or have never found yourself at crossroads. Be a grown up and talk like one too.That was harsh! |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by shizzle11(m): 2:57pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
Op stick to ur man. If you go through thick and thin with him, the more he will cherish and value you. Its good to know you also have focus about your future and you're also the type that will be supportive of your man from what your post says. Keep it up, and please don't listen to advices from gold diggers who are looking for 'ready made' men. Cheers! . . . Don't forget to pray. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by honeric01(m): 3:29pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: If you cared enough to really comprehend her post, you'd realize that all she said was pointing towards marriage, she sounded like she was more interested in settling with him than enjoying dating him. Na you no read her well, she said the relationship looks like the one heading to the alter, not like she is getting married at 22. read am 3 times if possible. We’ve both been talking about making our relationship long term, like working towards marriage when we’re done with our Master’s. |
Re: Being With A Man As He Builds Himself Up From Scratch by miketonic(m): 3:43pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
let me be first one to tell you the truth about men. from the beginning of the relationship, the man knows already weather hes is going to marry the girl he is in relationship or not regardless of the amount of years you guys spend together as a relationship. i think you should focus on completing your education first and support him if he needed. but don't put your hopes up that he will marry you when he get all his paper and degree. that's why most woman are heart broken nowadays because the put too much into the relationship and the get rejected at the end. for example, there was this girl that help me through out me medical school career for 6 years, she gave me money, car, and even shelter, but at the end, i dump her because she wasnt my type. 1 Like |
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