She starts on a high note with you as friends and when she senses that you want to woo her, she grows cold and in some instances becomes defensive...

Guys, have you noticed this in our ladies?

and ladies why do u do this? is this a phase in the dating game or something? what does this sign mean?

If you want to toast them don't make it look like that's your intention. Rather be playful and flirt with her.

True

Hmmm she doesn't want to be wooed, would most likely rather be friends with you.

Na wash! Forming nt 2 be cheap!!

The beginning of the "Hard to Get" phase.

vislabraye: If you want to toast them don't make it look like that's your intention. Rather be playful and flirt with her.

Nna m, carve this in stone biko.

Ever since i started talking to women the instant they start that hard to get crap i ignore them. permanently. no more texts, nothing

If all of u niggas did this, the ladies would stop playin games

HQ: The beginning of the "Hard to Get" phase.

Lol.. Na so e dy start

if they blow cold, you blow past em.

me i make sure they know am interested, because its just fun to watch em act up. lol

you know they gonna, lol.

Men are such sexx-beasts! Not every girl out there wants to date or tangle. Some are just looking for friendship. Kapish!

Its absolutly normal and its not an issue of playing hard to get,some ladies would prefer being friends with u than dating you.the moment u start making advances at her,she will immidiatly know that the basis or intention of your friendship with her was to woo her and naturally she becomes uptight,d reason for this is that so many girls have fallen into this stewpid traps of men,they form friendliness in order to date u and have sex with u and then end d relationship and knowing this,ladies become uptight.as a matter of fact d moment i realise a man that we started of as friends together,start wooing me,i waste no time in shunning and ignoring him,because this men want u to get relaxed with them,know your weakness and soft spot,take advantage of ur trust and their knowledge of u to their advantage.after i ignore them if i was friends with them on facebook i block them instantly.i set strong boundaries with men,we relate,yes but it has limits.if u want to woo me,woo me,let me know your intention and not come in guise of a friend,in fact it even helps me know who my true friends are.mshewww.

kulyie: Its absolutly normal and its not an issue of playing hard to get,some ladies would prefer being friends with u than dating you.the moment u start making advances at her,she will immidiatly know that the basis or intention of your friendship with her was to woo her and naturally she becomes uptight,d reason for this is that so many girls have fallen into this stewpid traps of men,they form friendliness in order to date u and have sex with u and then end d relationship and knowing this,ladies become uptight.as a matter of fact d moment i realise a man that we started of as friends together,start wooing me,i waste no time in shunning and ignoring him,because this men want u to get relaxed with them,know your weakness and soft spot,take advantage of ur trust and their knowledge of u to their advantage.after i ignore them if i was friends with them on facebook i block them instantly.i set strong boundaries with men,we relate,yes but it has limits.if u want to woo me,woo me,let me know your intention and not come in guise of a friend,in fact it even helps me know who my true friends are.mshewww.

my dear true talk!!!!!

let the friends be friends and the toasters be toasters from the onset, not tryin to form friendship while looking for a way to toast.

Flashaldrin: Men are such sexx-beasts! Not every girl out there wants to date or tangle. Some are just looking for friendship. Kapish!

lol

You are the definition of a beta male.

vislabraye: If you want to toast them don't make it look like that's your intention. Rather be playful and flirt with her.

No time! I don't beat about the bush. if i want you, i will jst woo you. To me That's childish.

kulyie: Its absolutly normal and its not an issue of playing hard to get,some ladies would prefer being friends with u than dating you.the moment u start making advances at her,she will immidiatly know that the basis or intention of your friendship with her was to woo her and naturally she becomes uptight,d reason for this is that so many girls have fallen into this stewpid traps of men,they form friendliness in order to date u and have sex with u and then end d relationship and knowing this,ladies become uptight.as a matter of fact d moment i realise a man that we started of as friends together,start wooing me,i waste no time in shunning and ignoring him,because this men want u to get relaxed with them,know your weakness and soft spot,take advantage of ur trust and their knowledge of u to their advantage.after i ignore them if i was friends with them on facebook i block them instantly.i set strong boundaries with men,we relate,yes but it has limits.if u want to woo me,woo me,let me know your intention and not come in guise of a friend,in fact it even helps me know who my true friends are.mshewww.

Now this nullifies the Nigerian girls' general rule of: Let's be friends before dating. So guys can u see the reason why you shouldn't befriend a girl you want to date cos it won't work the moment you accept to be her just friend.


If she refuses to accept you and asks that let u guys be friends first, be rest assured that the possibility of she agreeing to a date YOU is 0.000001.

Ladies who do that are not ready to settle down yet or are scared of commitment

pleep: lol

You are the definition of a beta male.

when women say the truth u get defensive by insulting her to make yourselves feel better,let me ask u a question,i know you will never admit it,but from facts all over nairaland,its true.why do u want to be friends with a girl? Date her,when you date her,what are your intentions,have s#x with her,and if it is marriage,why do u marry? Am sure all of u will be quick to say children,love,companion,friendship and all your lies,but d undiluted truth is that the most important reason at d back of your minds which you dont want to admit is S E X. its all about the three letter word.u act like u cant live without it

the idea that all men want is sex is the biggest lie in the world.

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kulyie: when women say the truth u get defensive by insulting her to make yourselves feel better,let me ask u a question,i know you will never admit it,but from facts all over nairaland,its true.why do u want to be friends with a girl? Date her,when you date her,what are your intentions,have s#x with her,and if it is marriage,why do u marry? Am sure all of u will be quick to say children,love,companion,friendship and all your lies,but d undiluted truth is that the most important reason at d back of your minds which you dont want to admit is S E X. its all about the three letter word.u act like u cant live without it

Jus cos sex controls your life does not mean everyone is like that

pleep: the idea that all men want is sex is the biggest lie in the world.

Infact! Biggest is an understatement to negate that assertion. I don't know why gurlz tend to have general classifications on men..

Mynd_44:
Jus cos sex controls your life does not mean everyone is like that

I tire 4 some peepz o

dmcdad:
Infact! Biggest is an understatement to negate that assertion. I don't know why gurlz tend to have general classifications on men..

Even some men think like that

dmcdad:
I tire 4 some peepz o

No be only you

dmcdad:
Infact! Biggest is an understatement to negate that assertion. I don't know why gurlz tend to have general classifications on men..

I know where they got it from. Us men. Fathers love to tell their daughters this so they dont date. And dudes like to act overly sexualized because they think its cool or funny.

But in reality most men don't value sex nearly as much as you ladies might think. But we are visual creatures that do love physical beauty

Mynd_44:
Even some men think like that

Those men are guilty as charged

pleep: I know where they got it from. Us men. Fathers love to tell their daughters this so they dont date. And dudes like to act overly sexualized because they think its cool or funny.

But in reality most men don't value sex nearly as much as you ladies might think. But we are visual creatures that do love physical beauty

Agreed

dmcdad:
Those men are guilty as charged

True

Mynd_44:
Jus cos sex controls your life does not mean everyone is like that

like i said before,u will never admit it so i am not suprised,is it not men?if u men are not so obsessed wit sex,why do i have to open nairaland like every day and i must read about an adult raping a minor,a young lady or even old women,oya tell me something i've not heard before,if they are not given,they rather get it by coercion

Of course rapists are obsessed with sex, no one is disputing that. We are talking about dating. If you can only attract men who only want sex then you need to look at yourself. You are the common denominator in that situation.

There are plenty of men who are willing to forgo sex for whatever reason, its not even hard to find.

^^