tarababy: I have been married to my hubby for 5 years now.For the past two years anytime we have disagreement or quarrel,he would spit on my face.I have had a heart to heart discussion with him to stop this disgraceful habit and he promised to stop but still did it four days ago.

Even my mum came all the way from Nigeria to plead with him here in England to stop spitting on me. Anytime I call my mum about this matter,she would start crying saying my husband is laying a curse on me and nothing good will come out of me if he continues.

I am losing interest in this marriage because there is no hope that he would ever change.I do not think any normal man would spit on his dog,let alone his wife.
He says he sees me as a poo at that moment and that his why he does it.HE is the type that loses his temper easily and would do nasty thing,which he later regrets .He is a forty year old man,who has refused to grow up.

married and matured minds in the house, do you think am wasting my time with this man?

coogar:

spit on your face? is he a king cobra?
what a disgusting attitude.........didn't you check his background before walking the aisle with him?

ileobatojo:
Lmao! Honestly, my first thought was, why did she go digging in the gutter when looking for a husband? But then I wondered why the gutter in him would lay dormant for 3 yrs. Strange shyte.

debrief08: I have been spit on before so I understand. Even our then Pastor refused to believe me.
Anyway, you have to decide what you want. Know that whatever you did that led to a disagreement, no disagreement should be settled like this.
It is rude and disrespectful, He has issues and that is an extreme tantrum throwing method. I don't know what to tell you, You are not responsible for his bad attitude, nothing you do will keep him happy, even if you are not the one who upset him, you will be the constant dumping ground for his venom.
He is in London so it is easy for him to get help, tell him to get help if he wants to keep your family together.
I wonder about your own esteem, work on building it, I wonder how it will be after 2 years of being spat on.
Sorry about what you are going through but you need to sit up and stop crying, NO ONE deserves to be spat.

coogar:

husband @ 40 behaving like a spoilt brat.....
i don't think he's nigerian! nigerian men don't spit on their wives. "we" take care of our spouses. yet, we might throw tantrums here and there but nothing like dehumanising our other half.

tarababy:

I have spoken to the pastor,friends and family.He promised all of them he would stop but obviously he can't control his temper.
i have suggested anger management course but he has refused to ever attend such course.
He would destroy door,throw pot of stew in the sink and any disgusting thing when he is angry.

tarababy:

he is a yoruba man.full blown nigerian with niger mentality.

tarababy:

I have spoken to the pastor,friends and family.He promised all of them he would stop but obviously he can't control his temper.
i have suggested anger management course but he has refused to ever attend such course.
He would destroy door,throw pot of stew in the sink and any disgusting thing when he is angry.

kulyie: If you know your worth,if you know how inestimably valuable you are you will not reduce yourself to a level where anybody will spit on you.its obvious you lack self esteem and you need to get your dignity back,abi did they have sex with you in the bush and your parents forced you on him without proper marriage rites when they realised you were pregnant? Because thats the only people i know men treat with contempt.you deserve better than this,because i cant imagine anyone spitting on me,men,whoever he is he will pay for damages and his entire family will go through hell before i back off.he will have to apologize prostrating wherever he did that act including his parents otherwise i will use everything am worth to reduce him to a nonentity

debrief08: I have been spit on before so I understand. Even our then Pastor refused to believe me.
Anyway, you have to decide what you want. Know that whatever you did that led to a disagreement, no disagreement should be settled like this.
It is rude and disrespectful, He has issues and that is an extreme tantrum throwing method. I don't know what to tell you, You are not responsible for his bad attitude, nothing you do will keep him happy, even if you are not the one who upset him, you will be the constant dumping ground for his venom.
He is in London so it is easy for him to get help, tell him to get help if he wants to keep your family together.
I wonder about your own esteem, work on building it, I wonder how it will be after 2 years of being spat on.
Sorry about what you are going through but you need to sit up and stop crying, NO ONE deserves to be spat.

kulyie:
his entire family will go through hell before i back off.he will have to apologize prostrating wherever he did that act including his parents otherwise i will use everything am worth to reduce him to a nonentity