Boarding Schools used to be an opportunity for children to be independent, well trained and disciplined, well, that was back in the 90's.

Parents need to realise that boarding schools here in Nigeria are not what they used to be. Innocent Children are exposed to harsh conditions which they have to adapt to, sometimes costing them their Values.

A Close friend just revealed to me how his first sexual experience was with a Male Senior in his Boarding school. Its was a really sad story.

Another asked me why I don't drink, and I said "I don't know".
He said he started drinking in Jss2 while in boarding school.
He's from a good Family.

A third(Female presently in SS1) was smoking and drinking at this xmas party, and I was disturbed by her age. She then revealed to me that she was in boarding school, where she learnt stuffs.

Let me not even talk of how disorganised, uncordinated and lost my kid brother was back at Ijanikin. Thank God he didn't pick those afformentioned vices and was pulled out on time. He's a Fantastic Engineering student now.
His problems stopped immediated he left.

There is something terribly wrong with boarding schools in Nigeria, especially Public schools. Homosexuality is a near lifestyle in same-sex schools, and its not any better with mixed schools where Students are taught to drink, smoke, steal and do all sorts of lewd acts to get going.

Scaling of Fence is fun, at least you get to spend the night out.
Kids are abused, bullied and what not.
Innocent Children are exposed to riff-raffs who rob them of all their morals.
Leaving your child at the mercy of strangers, both students and teachers is unjustifiable.

Whatever can be learnt at school, can be learnt better at home with the aid, love, care, protection of Parents.

Parents no matter how busy they claim to be, will still have some few moments with the Kids everyday.
Much more on weekends.

Someone pls tell me I'm wrong and overreacting which I'm sure I'm not.

I think its just the old mentality that Boarding schools 'train' kids better than day schools.

Or else it will be negligence and irresponsibility.

Not yet a father

Dont like the concept at all. My kids spending so long with other kids that their backgrounds are not pure. Been there done that, but not for my future kids.

I attended boarding school for one term in JSS1.Not just any boarding school,Airforce Girls Military School Jos. .It was horrible.I was ill every other week.The cadets were mean and the seniors were just horrible bullies.My mum brought me back to Lagos after having to be flown down like 3 times in 2 months.

My younger bro on the other hand loved it.But he was in SS1 though sha and it was a private school so i guess different experience.All the same the guy is a loner.Loves his own company too much(dont know if thats due to the boarding house).

That said i would not want my kids in boarding schools but that does not mean boarding schools are totally not useful.Some kids from dysfunctional homes where there is chaos or no order might benefit from the routine of boarding house.

I went to boardin and would love to kid to go also
But not in nigeria

If i am able to settle abroad, there
If not then day school

Apart from the notion that boarding school helps train a child to be dependent and disciplined,one major reason why parents send their children to boarding school boils down to the issue of proximity i.e.the distance from home to school..Using Lagos as a case study:For instance,if the family stays at Ikeja and the child's school is located somewhere on the Island,that's quite a distance you know..considering the rate of traffic these days..So it's only logical for the parents to send the child to boarding school to save the child the stress of leaving home too early and coming back too late..
That's just my opinion.

piano_girl: Apart from the notion that boarding school helps train a child to be dependent and disciplined,one major reason why parents send their children to boarding school boils down to the issue of proximity i.e.the distance from home to school..Using Lagos as a case study:For instance,if the family stays at Ikeja and the child's school is located somewhere on the Island,that's quite a distance you know..considering the rate of traffic these days..So it's only logical for the parents to send the child to boarding school to save the child the stress of leaving home too early and coming back too late..
That's just my opinion.

Ok this scenerio is quite different and understandable.
But some Parents just want to enrol their kids into Boarding schools.

Anyway, I attended 3 different private schools and did great, so they could consider changing school(above)

So they can continue the honeymoon ......??

Remember you hit me below the belt in the swiss bank post, I wont retaliate. however, this post makes me assume you were never a boarding student.

The reason is apparent, straightforward. TO TOUGHEN UP YOUR WARD. Shikena.

any other reason na wash!!!

I was sent to a boarding school because I was a rebel. My parents believed that being very away from home was the best treatment I could get since I could no longer keep contact with my fellow rebellious peers.
It changed me anyway.

But I'll never send my child to a boarding school. I don't want them to be gays

To suffer them, cos men i suffer no be small

I went to mine just because of the name & that my brother went there...
It teaches ability to cope with others during little....when in boarding school...i mean government...you do things together & share views...
beating addict...i remember the rising up early by 5 to be arranged for beating.

It is for the child to learn how to take care of himself/herself. Yes, they will be exposed to harsh, moral-decadent conditions but that is what you still get in the "outside world". you get my drift?

anyhow it is "pikin wey go spoil, go spoil" even if they are in a monastery.

If not 4 GOD's grace i wud hav bin a homosexual. Den(1991) i neva knew of wat it was. I was jst ten yrs old. A senior student used 2 hav sex in bw my legs. I tank GOD 4 d deliverance.
My children wil nt go to boarding school. There is nothing like over reaction on this issue. Most parents are ignorant nd docile abt their children education. It is pain to see parent who re eager to give their children best education nd wealth without values. The first sch a child wil attend is the home. I tank GOD 4 my parents.

Most parent that send there children 2 boarding sch is parent dat don't have time 2 train there children they are so busy doing other things

I had a lovely time in a public boarding school and wouldn't think twice about sending my kids to the "barracks".

No kid of mine will be in boarding school, the gods forbid it.

The detriments far outweigh the gains IMO.

I dont have much grudges against parents sending their male child to boarding houses, all I know is dt female boarding houses are also breedinghouses for lesbians...

I went to a Federal Govt College n i was a boarder, i suffer no be small, my children wont go lailai

This is a really good question though, I mean personally I don't see the point in it.
The formative years of a person is usually their pre-teen as well as their teenage years, why would I want my kid to learn everyother thing from peers who know no better? There will be enough time for them to be out of the home in university if that's what the parents claim to achieve.

quote author=Duke_Nija]Boarding Schools used to be an opportunity for children to be independent, well trained and disciplined, well, that was back in the 90's.

Parents need to realise that boarding schools here in Nigeria are not what they used to be. Innocent Children are exposed to harsh conditions which they have to adapt to, sometimes costing them their Values.

A Close friend just revealed to me how his first sexual experience was with a Male Senior in his Boarding school. Its was a really sad story.

Another asked me why I don't drink, and I said "I don't know".
He said he started drinking in Jss2 while in boarding school.
He's from a good Family.

A third(Female presently in SS1) was smoking and drinking at this xmas party, and I was disturbed by her age. She then revealed to me that she was in boarding school, where she learnt stuffs.

Let me not even talk of how disorganised, uncordinated and lost my kid brother was back at Ijanikin. Thank God he didn't pick those afformentioned vices and was pulled out on time. He's a Fantastic Engineering student now.
His problems stopped immediated he left.

There is something terribly wrong with boarding schools in Nigeria, especially Public schools. Homosexuality is a near lifestyle in same-sex schools, and its not any better with mixed schools where Students are taught to drink, smoke, steal and do all sorts of lewd acts to get going.

Scaling of Fence is fun, at least you get to spend the night out.
Kids are abused, bullied and what not.
Innocent Children are exposed to riff-raffs who rob them of all their morals.
Leaving your child at the mercy of strangers, both students and teachers is unjustifiable.

Whatever can be learnt at school, can be learnt better at home with the aid, love, care, protection of Parents.

Parents no matter how busy they claim to be, will still have some few moments with the Kids everyday.
Much more on weekends.

Someone pls tell me I'm wrong and overreacting which I'm sure I'm not.[/quote]

i learnt independence in boarding skool,though some vices included but it's not all bad.as u grow older and wiser,u'll drop d 1s u don't need like bad habits when d time is right.

i am a product of one.different strokes for different people.some are made,some are marred.its a plus for me,i was the only child in the home sent to a boarding school.was able to convince mumsie to lemme go cos she was initially reluctant.btw i suffer no be small sha.


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U've all spoken wel,,,,,bt 1 tin is 4 sure,,,,,,,,,,a boardin student can follow bad company n b lyk dem if he /she chuzez 2 do dat,,cuz attndin boardin skul is nt a genuin reason 4 a child 2 addict 2 all dis negative attitude

I'm a proud product of Ijanikin and I dint pick up any of aforementioned vices... I know a lot of peeps who were "bad boys" den and dey are 1 of d finest people walking on this planet in dere respective fields... So don't go generalising... Na dat kain tin dey vex person.... If u like carry ur broda to toronto... if pikin 1 spoil e go spoil... U no need anoda person to teach am...

To learn how to be Boring

so dat Afam4eva will not corrupt dem, u kn ursef