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Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 2:55am On Jan 30, 2013 |
coogar: There is nothing we won't see in this place!! Coogar accusing someone else of loving to argue? Has the world flipped over onto it's head?! nope, it's the amount of time she gets to spend watching over them and the quality time spent with them is the main focus. can you argue a stayathome woman who gets to spend 6 hrs quality time per day is not better off than the career mum who spends just 4 hrs quality time? that's 10 hrs difference per week excluding weekends. surely, one is better than the other! By the way, nice job sneaking in your 30hrs claim in here again. Show me the evidence has turned to a long thing. Haba, even if you are just wrote paper yourself and the postal workers in Croydon went on strike sef, it should have gotten to me by now! |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 3:05am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Marrying a housewife no longer makes economic sense. Marriage has evolved over time to include the fact that it is now partly an investment decision. Marry a woman who has a strong financial input into the family... have maximum 2 kids... enjoy your money. 1 Like |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by SisiKill1: 3:58am On Jan 30, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Tee hee |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by andyanders: 10:01am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Myne White: A housewife is usually a married woman who does not have an external income, or she just does not earn as much as she would if she worked outside the home. Having a career or not is one of those topics that can get educated and socially-aware women up in arms, the debate being whether career women can be good mothers, and how much housewives contribute to the economy. Madam, I do not think there is anything wrong with that since it was an understanding between you and your husband. Looking after your children is a tedious job of its own. But if you and him can decide to have a small provision shop if the property belongs to you people where you reside, better so that you can use that as a part time to always be having something beside been at home. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by bukatyne(f): 10:03am On Jan 30, 2013 |
coogar:You seem not to undersatand that some women work not b'cos she needs the money but b'cos she has a dream that she wants to fulfill. 1 Like |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by lovetimo: 10:13am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Huh |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 10:15am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Subscribing. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 10:15am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Housewife ? I dont like the idea of Housewivery. I wanna see someone come home in official attire; suit, blazer, some nice blouse with official challenge and sometimes have her money to spend to acknowledge how difficult it is to earn. I dont like the idea of housing a wife at all. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by obi123: 10:18am On Jan 30, 2013 |
being a housewife is a personal choice which works sometimes and it can back fire like , the woman will tend to be very clingy especially to her kids even when they are grown and have left home , what does she then do with herself really when there is no one to take care of ? i believe that it is important to have something that keeps you busy even if you have to work ,but not full time, just something that keeps your brain alive and gives you a sense of purpose and some independence . Lets not forget that the man or sole provider can loose his source of income or the worst case scenario he could die then what? The baton will now be passed on to the wife to cater for the family , with no work experience, no skills having being out of the work place environment for so long ,age might not be on your side so getting employment might be hard what then |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by freecocoa(f): 10:20am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Billyonaire: Housewife ? I dont like the idea of Housewivery. I wanna see someone come home in official attire; suit, blazer, some nice blouse with official challenge and sometimes have her money to spend to acknowledge how difficult it is to earn. I dont like the idea of housing a wife at all.Even with all your supposed billions? What are shocker . @ Topic, I wouldn't wanna be a housewife but I'd prefer working on my own business so as to have ample time for my family. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by bukatyne(f): 10:26am On Jan 30, 2013 |
damiso: Sorry everyone i just had to add the Kate Middleton bit. >: .Some women have the desire to make history in their world. We have women like Deborah in the Bible, Marie Curie, Flourence Nightingtale and so many others who touched their world. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by stagger: 10:28am On Jan 30, 2013 |
I try to consider my wife's feelings and ask myself what I would do if I was in her situation. If I had a Masters degree, would I be content to sit at home day in day out? Answer is a capital NO! I do not subscribe to women being housewives. It makes them mentally lazy, and you immediately see that the lack of social interaction in a work or business setting makes them stop taking care of themselves and reduces their self worth. I prefer a woman who works either in an office or in her own business. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 10:30am On Jan 30, 2013 |
freecocoa: Even with all your supposed billions? What are shocker .Its not about the money freecocoa. Its about all structural mentality adjustments. It is an understanding that all humans were born equal and a woman can be the richest human. I love some mental and fiscal gymnastic at the home front. I want a woman to tell me how 40% mark-up in Nigeria can override the import duties and other charges to not only break-even but cover the payroll and still have some colors on balance sheet. 1 Like |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 10:32am On Jan 30, 2013 |
dayokanu: THERE ARE A MILLION AND ONE THINGS A WOMAN CAN DO @ HOME. HER ROLE SHOULDNT BE RELEGATED TO ONLY COOKING, CLEANING AND WASHING DISHES. IF THERE ARE REPAIRS TO BE DONE ON THE HOME SHE CAN SUPERVISE THOSE DOING IT... THATS JUST ONE. THANK GOD FOR THE INTERNET SHE CAN GO ONLINE LOOK FOR INFORMATION THAT WILL HELP YOU ( THE HUSBAND) SHOULD U NEED TO DO INVESTMENTS AND URE TOO BUSY TO DO THE RESEARCH URSELF. I THINK BASICALLY PEOPLE NEED TO THINK PARTNERSHIP AND BE MORE CREATIVE WHEN THINKING OF ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITIES. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by bukatyne(f): 10:33am On Jan 30, 2013 |
BABE!:And when the kids go to school, what does she do? |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by goodmike7: 10:34am On Jan 30, 2013 |
greatgod2012: @ ileobatojo, thank you, one of d reason i cant and wont be a full housewife. Why must you always expect negative things befalling your husband,ask job that was the beginning of his calamity,the earlier you have a renewed mindset the better,and who told you your husband must set you upwhy can't you start from somewhere. You are the lazy woman sef. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by bukatyne(f): 10:36am On Jan 30, 2013 |
coogar:Is taking care of the kids the sole responsibility of the mother? 1 Like |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 10:40am On Jan 30, 2013 |
minute: Unless they are also mothers or have some other large responsibilities, i think they are pretty lazy. I am surprised that you actually said this.I am a guy I would say same thing some years ago. Seriously you don't have a clue of what it takes to run a home. If you think that all house wives do is cook and relax for the rest of the day. If I may ask you, have you ever been left to cater for kids and in addition with taking care of the households? By cater I don't mean the African setting where you allow your kids to wander off and whatever they want as long as they are not in your way and don't get into "trouble". I meant keeping an eye on them properly and also try and make sure things are okay at home. I think you should ask full time house wife out here what it takes to be a house wife only then will you appreciate house-wives that know what they are doing. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by goodmike7: 10:41am On Jan 30, 2013 |
IMO,the reason we have full house wives these days is as a result of idleness an laziness in the side of a woman,what do you expect when a man marries you and you have nothing doing,no handwork,no job,no business,he packages you as such,but where I find it difficult is when some men stop their wives from working or doing business and turns them to full house wives that I can say is risky. So women you must not wait for a man to set you up with business before doing something,start doing something then he will expand or improve on it for you. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by phineas: 10:42am On Jan 30, 2013 |
In Nigeria,a woman must not be a housewife.The future is too uncertain,there is no provision by the society for the unemployed,not to mention unemployed mother of four.in the case of unforeseen emmergencies,like The husband can loose his job,die,or simply divorce her at 40 from boredom that happens a lot,she gets no alimony in naija.For those saying to get a job,get real.where does she start @40? with years of no experience,remember its Nigeria.Customer care agent?or a 30k job. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by goodmike7: 10:43am On Jan 30, 2013 |
bukatyne: Is taking care of the kids the sole responsibility of the mother? No oooo its fashion and gossiping abi |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by eagleeye2: 10:43am On Jan 30, 2013 |
I will like someone to indulge me, my girlfriend has a job as a staff of a Local Council. The job is such that she can be away from work for upward of 2 weeks and no questions asked. But equally they are being owed 4 to 5months salary. What suggestion can you people give about a suitable business she can go into and still cope with her 'job'. The idea of someone sitting at home watching nollywood or visiting friends during working hours makes me cringe. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by bukatyne(f): 10:44am On Jan 30, 2013 |
jidegirl12:Don't say that! you have forgotten the woman got pregnant herself so the sole responsibility for training the child is on the mother. Tomorrow when people say a mother sacrifices more, they start complaining. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by bukatyne(f): 10:48am On Jan 30, 2013 |
coogar:In a country where young vibrant people are trekking the streets daily, a fifty year old woman wxpects to get a job? @Parents: Is it parents or mothers? |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by coogar: 10:48am On Jan 30, 2013 |
bukatyne: You seem not to undersatand that some women work not b'cos she needs the money but b'cos she has a dream that she wants to fulfill. then those women should not have children. they would be deluded to believe they can dedicate 100% to fulfil and dedicate 100% child care at the same time. if the career is more important, those women should get effective contraception and forget about having kids....it's so simple! bukatyne: Is taking care of the kids the sole responsibility of the mother? in the early stages, the woman spends more time with infants than the husband unless you know a breast-feeding husbands! ileobatojo: is my accusation misplaced? sisikill did not even deny it!
i have found more than 300 articles on this ish but they are too geeky for you to understand. the amount of time both parents spend on their kids is even more than the 6 hrs/day i mentioned in their infantry. i am collating the ammo to silence you! bukatyne: In a country where young vibrant people are trekking the streets daily, a fifty year old woman wxpects to get a job? her qualifications and her wealth of experience are priceless than the wet behind ears vibrant people you're referring to! age is overrated! |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 10:52am On Jan 30, 2013 |
I don't agree that a woman has to be a housewife to be a good mother,some career paths however make it near impossible to be. I have done the career thing and frankly speaking I have no regrets for jacking it in neither do I judge the women who want it or have it. Right now, I am considering a career in volunteering but then I am saying this from the vantage point of having options. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by coogar: 10:54am On Jan 30, 2013 |
naijababe: I don't agree that a woman has to be a housewife to be a good mother,some career paths however make it near impossible to be. I have done the career thing and frankly speaking I have no regrets for jacking it in neither do I judge the women who want it or have it. Right now, I am considering a career in volunteering but then I am saying this from the vantage point of having options. but you would agree the more quantity and quality time spent with a kid, the better for that kid? can a career woman give 100% quantity and 100% quality or why are we deceiving ourselves here? |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 10:54am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Why is this topic just entering front page? Are we supposed to read the whole thread from page 1 or something? |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 11:01am On Jan 30, 2013 |
coogar:You make it sound like it is only important for the mother to spend time with the kids and it isn't important for the father to spend time with them. Mothers that work can also make out quality time to be with their kids. There is nothing like 100% quality time, a woman cannot abandon her career to be with her kids 100% of the time. Won't they go to school and other places? |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 11:03am On Jan 30, 2013 |
coogar: Yes if you are a quality parent . Speaking for myself, I hope I never find myself in a situation where I feel I need a career to survive, quitting my job has been the best thing to happen to me and my family. I don't want to do the rat race thing again abeg!!! |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by Nobody: 11:04am On Jan 30, 2013 |
Taking care of kids should not be an excuse for lazy women who want to be housewives. Fathers can spend time too with kids. |
Re: Being A Nigerian Housewife by coogar: 11:06am On Jan 30, 2013 |
fellis: why can't she? why did she conceive the child if she cannot dedicate her whole life into raising them. yet you blame the breakdown in the society when you see kids misbehaving - can you not see your hypocrisy? when people become parents, the responsibility is a full time one not half-baked so forget the idea of chasing a career while abandoning your kids - it's selfish! naijababe: only quality parents can give quantity time + quality time. |
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