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Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Nobody: 11:10pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
THRILLER....you close your eyes....you paralyzed...creatures crawl in search of blood...the funk of forty thousand years...closing in to seal your doom 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Nobody: 11:12pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
lorretta u: The reason is that men ar so irresponsible.you'd see a lady dating a man for quite a long period of time cos they have a marriage agreement and he doesn't live up to his promises.why is everyone talking of ladies?what about men who are 35-40 still playing silly games.thEy are everywhere in Nigeria.men are not interested in commitment.they just want free s.ex for as long as they can.until maybe parents put pressue on them to marry. That is so dumb of ladies. Why will a girl court a guy for 4 yrs or 8yrs. Courtship should not be more than 2 or a maximum of 3 years. Or what is an 18 year hold woman of this generation doing in a relationship if she doesn't expect that sex will be involved at one point or the other. Besides there is nuffin like marriage agreement until the two families get involve. Anything shot of dat is bf gf relationship. As for the Op, I blame it on unrealistic expectations. Girls need to face reality. Your suitor doesn't have to be as rich as bill gates or as fine as iyanya or with as much finesse as john fashanu. The ealier they realize that they have a window of opportunity to make a decision the better. I can't see myself marrying any woman over 35 no matter the age I am. It just won't happen. That's so close to menopause. 5 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by try69: 11:12pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
1. I'd blame Nollywood like seriously.. All the poor guys in nollywood movies only stay poor for a short while and upon making it owns a mansion with SUV's parked all over his compound and you think movies don't affect the way the average viewer thinks? - most dem girls be waiting on "Nollywood" husbands. 2. Religion and "neighbours will say" syndrome: A society where the mentality is that a young lady's going to a club is sin and only for the "ashawos" or staying with a guy you're not married to will give her bad name from neighbours she obviously has no ties with or where the only place she goes to apart from her workplace is Church will always cut avenues for meeting that special man.. 3. More 9ja women believe marriage ends in the kitchen so instead of engaging themselves, are waiting on the rich dude to come pick them up forgetting that men these days seek co-facilitators and not parasites. 4. Many ladies fail to build friendship from young age forgetting that the same poor guy in the uni is that future CEO..I have always siad if I'm a lady, I would date a sharp and intelligent boy not minding his social status and make sure that's my jurisdiction - men don't just dump long term relationships, go ask tu-face. I would stop here *yawns* 7 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Fhemmmy: 11:13pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
lorretta u: The reason is that men ar so irresponsible. you'd see a lady dating a man for quite a long period of time cos they have a marriage agreement and he doesn't live up to his promises.why is everyone talking of ladies?what about men who are 35-40 still playing silly games.thEy are everywhere in Nigeria.men are not interested in commitment.they just want free s.ex for as long as they can.until maybe parents put pressue on them to marry. There is nothing called marriage agreement, till you take the man to the alter, anything could happen, even at the alter cold feet could set in. |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Sagamite(m): 11:14pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
luvmijeje: @Dailynews,am gonna shock u by stating 4 more reasons why a realistic,good and focused single will remain single at that age. You forgot one: 5. She had her head up her arsse in her youth because she saw horn-y young boys chasing her about, not knowing her beauty would degrade [pretty fast] sometime, so she never developed a good personality, reputation or how to relate with men in a way that makes her attractive. 3 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by bomly(f): 11:17pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
They have just not decided to get married, It's a choice |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by nbright: 11:18pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
StateOfMind:Eyahhhh.... Yet they all join beyonce to say they run the world... It's a man's world.. That's the simple truth.. 3 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by claremont(m): 11:18pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
They are looking for Mr. God-fearing Perfect, they themselves are far from perfect. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by engrfcuksmtin(m): 11:19pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
They have f....c....u....ked away thier 20+ years and busy chasing whirlwind in the name of ready made hubbies. |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Fhemmmy: 11:19pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
claremont: They are looking for Mr. God-fearing Perfect, they themselves are far from perfect. Thus their reason for needing a perfect one . . . lol |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by engrfcuksmtin(m): 11:19pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
They have f....c....u....ked away thier 20+ years and busy chasing whirlwind in the name of ready made hubbies. 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by livethinme: 11:20pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
Aggrippa: over 95% of ladies want to marry somebody that has pocket size of BILL GATES. they must be in a deep slumber!! but how many of Bill Gates are really on planet Earth?? definitely only a handful ....dunno why these ladies keeps being unrealistic Youre wrong. They want someone who can SPEND ON THEM. You think they care if that person is as rich as Bill Gates? If one guy had $100m and one guy had $50mil but the guy with $50m was willing to spend more of his money on her, she wouldnt even think about it |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by babanne(m): 11:21pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
lorretta u: Dimwit.your school fee was a waste of moneyu do not hav to resort to name-calling if you do not hav a constructive submissions.better go & sleep. 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Nobody: 11:22pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
try69: 1. I'd blame Nollywood like seriously.. All the poor guys in nollywood movies only stay poor for a short while and upon making it owns a mansion with SUV's parked all over his compound and you think movies don't affect the way the average viewer thinks? Don't mind them. It's only a VERY FOOLISH man that will leave a woman who was there when he was hustling for a gold digger. Most Naija ladies want to leave like what they watch on nollywood and forget the state of the economy in NL. Some women can't marry a man without a ride. How many guys actually have a ride after working for over 5 years. It is small by small for some folks. If all the girls gravitate to the already wealthy ready made and successful how will they get single guys. Later you'll come to NL and post threads like "The guy have been dating for over 5 yrs has a wife in the U.S" Why won't he be married when he is over 40 and you're jst 26. U didn't see people of your category abi. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by seyibrown(f): 11:23pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
Decent men are scarce in Nigeria! The thought of a life with a man who sleeps with anything that moves is enough to put any sensible lady off marriage to them. Majority of Nigerian men have no idea what loving, honouring and respecting their spouse is. Marriage is wonderful but not compulsory. One does not need to marry someone who would make their life a hell just to save face within society. Many women (and men) are dead today because of the person they married. It is wisdom to wait for a quality partner (and be happy as a single person while waiting); It is folly to rush into marriage and later regret. 7 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Sagamite(m): 11:23pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
DailyNews: Goodevening Luvmijeje, I want us to look at your points one after the other. You just described 80% of Naija and black girls in general at their pre-desperation ages. When they reach an age where they can feel the shelf on their arsse and feel their clock ticking, abracadabra, they all of a sudden know how to be civil and no more agbero personalities. Also, by the way, recommendations are usually rubbish in my view. It is basically a bias begging-on-her-behalf social mechanism. The recommender is never objective, they are there to help avoid the shelf and are just talking shyt. "Oh, she is a good girl o. Lovely girl! She is homely, honest and nice". Shut up! Dem write mumu for my head? She is that good but no one saw it worthy to snap her up all these years and she needs assistance? At best, I will find out on my own. To hell with your recommendation. 6 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by 5alive(m): 11:24pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
dasparrow:lezbian on d loose 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Fhemmmy: 11:26pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
seyibrown: Decent men are scarce in Nigeria! The thought of a life with a man who sleeps with anything that moves is enough to put any sensible lady off marriage to them. Majority of Nigerian men have no idea what loving, honouring and respecting their spouse is. You dont think it is same for women as well? Most women think just cook for him and sleep with him is enough, some men needs companionship and most Nigerian ladies have no clue what that is, that is why you go to a party and you see most men just discussing with me while their wives sits around and discuss sweet nonsense too, but dont blame either, cos that is all they see papa and mama does 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Nobody: 11:32pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
frostbyte: It is 99% self inflicted and please dont pity them.I disagree with u.how can u say a thing like that.believe u me most single ladies don't want to b single and want to marry but no suitor.u just watch d clock tick away and dia's notin u can do abt it.some wia broken hearted,wit very good xter. |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Nobody: 11:36pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: I disagree with u.how can u say a thing like that.believe u me most single ladies don't want to b single and want to marry but no suitor.u just watch d clock tick away and dia's notin u can do abt it.some wia broken hearted,wit very good xter. And for some their shakara and pride was too much and they let the man who would have marry them pass them by becos he didn't have enuff swag or didn't spend all his money on them foolishly. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by 35000tons: 11:36pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
The problem of our generation is "LACK OF PURPOSE". We are at the end of the age. And this age is characterized by availability of multiple choices, distractions and lack of principles. And only those whose have discovered their purpose in life can make it. 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Sagamite(m): 11:38pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
DailyNews: that's funny, but I doubt that wud stop a man from marrying a woman that truly meets his needs. Most guys wudnt mind paying a million if the lady worths it, I'm sure of that. You are on your own on that, bruv. I aint going broke for no woman. She would never be worth it. Worse still going broke for dowry, you rebuild it up and then she takes half after divorce. Hell No! DailyNews: Yep. Most black girls are unapproacheable when [young and] attractive except you really know the game. I know they would open their yeye mouth and say it is not true but I see it everyday. Even a black girl over 30 that is still hot still retains her unapproachability with that ridiculous frown, head up the arsse and casual disparaging comments when they are approached which if you are sharp, you cut her into place straight away. Another thing is they go out in a big crowd and sit and dance with their girlfriends, who are equally mean and rude things. Rebuffing every guy that approaches them and taking delight/satisfaction in doing it (feeling their ego boosted). Sharp guys just ignore them and target women from other races. DailyNews: This is so coincidental. One pal who has no interest in settling down called me a few days ago and told me "I have found the girl I want to marry and settle down with". He said she was so perfect and he had no option but to chat with her even though she was at work and he collected her number. He said to him, she was "the one" and he could see himself spending the rest of his life with her. He called her, she never picked up. Sent text, she never replied. I told him, most attractive girls just are not interested in guys that are keenly interested in them. It is when they lose their attractiveness that they would settle for anything that shows them attention. He gave her too much hints and she lost interest. I have done it too involuntarily. Move on. DailyNews: Exactly, the power shifts to the other side eventually. Most of these girls don't realise that. 6 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Sagamite(m): 11:41pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
DailyNews: Y I most times feel like blaming ladies for their relationship failures is this: So beautifully said. |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by bomly(f): 11:43pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
When did being single at 30 become sin? or become a thing of immoral? Naija we don start again with our one sided mindset. There is sure possibility that some may not even want to get married or are trying to face other more important life issues, however this is seen I really think this is more an individual issue. 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Sagamite(m): 11:48pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
www.nairaland.com/attachments/1008441_Engagement__jpg991a249a1662bd4c8c70bf9f74fd0d37 Is this real or a joke? 2 Likes |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by try69: 11:51pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
12 inches!:I knew a girl then who was complaining that her "car owner" guy dumped her only for me to find out later that she actually snatched the guy from her best friend...smh |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by bomly(f): 11:52pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
Eyahhhh.... Yet they all join beyonce to say they run the world... It's a man's world.. That's the simple truth.. No disrespect but When you see your papa beat your mama or you see your papa marry 5 wives and your mama just dey there all in the name of marriage or even your society dehumanizes a woman then you cannot be blamed if you then say it's a mans world. However there are world where things are operated equally. I nor insult your papa or mama oh I am referring to society no make you nor respond to my post with an insult. Just trying to say what we see and experience shape our minds to a very large extend. |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Sagamite(m): 11:54pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
seyibrown: Decent men are scarce in Nigeria! The thought of a life with a man who sleeps with anything that moves is enough to put any sensible lady off marriage to them. Majority of Nigerian men have no idea what loving, honouring and respecting their spouse is. bomly: When did being single at 30 become sin? or become a thing of immoral? Naija we don start again with our one sided mindset. There is sure possibility that some may not even want to get married or are trying to face other more important life issues, however this is seen I really think this is more an individual issue. Well said! 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Nobody: 11:59pm On Mar 01, 2013 |
sunny t:WISE WORDS |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by Nobody: 12:01am On Mar 02, 2013 |
Dem neva buy wife material 4 market. Reason be say... D market, e dey too far 4 dem, or d material no dey bling. Therefor i baptize dem wit d name ''SORRY'' |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by xynerise: 12:08am On Mar 02, 2013 |
When girls make too much choice of husbands, they end up having none. Dream guy doesnt exist. Wake up! Its just a dream. 1 Like |
Re: What Are The Reasons For High Level Of 30 Years+ Single Ladies In Nigeria? by gabe: 12:09am On Mar 02, 2013 |
There is no single reason for this malady, so it would be unfair to blame them. Several factors including high cost of marriage while deter some young men, schooling, incompatible suitors and an actual dearth of independent eligible men combine to humiliate our sisters so. It is wrong to tell a woman to marry someone she doesn't like just because she's growing old! The single state is actually better than a wrong marriage. 3 Likes |
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