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Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jpphilips(m): 11:59am On Mar 04, 2013 |
Nauttyprof: Being a Virgin is the best gift a lady can give to her husband. In fact to be honest with you all, in case there is any delay of any sort (i mean pregnancy), the husband will be confident enough to say he knows it is only a delay from God and he won't think otherwise. The husband can go to any length to trust his wife but if it were to be the other way second thought comes in no matter the existing bond. Oga every case of infertility has a medical explanation, now, i am talking about proper hospitals aka fertility clinics not miracle centers or healing homes if the doctor tells you that your wife's hormone is low,or fibroid,will you attribute it to the s3x she has had in the past? what if you are the one with low sperm count? you will put it on ur wives virginity again? I agree with the going to any length part, that is why some men even when they catch their gate man on top of Madam, they have a way to convince themselves that it is their own shadow, doing his job by proxy. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jpphilips(m): 12:09pm On Mar 04, 2013 |
Lexoria: Testament to the fact that guys are worse is the fact that no girl,lady or woman has come on this thread to say they met their husband a virgin which means MEN are the REAL SLUTS!!So I think y'all should save all this preaching for yourselves or you think its only when girls have sex that it is called fornication and a sin and when men do it then it will be called an act of GUYMANISM.Remove the fog in ur eyes before you think of removing the peck in anothers. ok calm down, we re only enjoying the double standard because we pay for the wedding, when are you guys planning to take over from us in that regards? rem that what a Man can do, a woman can do better, but you guys have refused to do better in that regards, why 1 Like |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jpphilips(m): 1:18pm On Mar 04, 2013 |
souldust: i am one and i do not feel better than anyone! And no, i am ok the way i am. i.e, i do not want to lose it yet. Dont think i am a christian. Infact, i hate religion and christianity is the most evil of all. if you don't feel better than everyone the bold part wont surface in your post, it is psychological,you are not in control, you guys don't even know when you say sh!t like that, u see what everyone is saying? your state of mind as a virgin is saddled with mega superiority complex, some arrogance that no sane man will take from a woman who is meant to be submissive to him. in your case, you should be more ashamed because most men have been on that path, you have just not conquered the world, you are simply not on top of your game and psychologically you want to hide behind the virginity clout to garner sympathy in a pseudo pride, little wonder you asked the other girl if she appreciates virginity in men, here is what you don't know, emotionally women are more stable than men so it is easy for most girls to see through your social weakness and jettison you like the pariah you are. Virginity in men count for nothing, keeping it as a man is an indicator that you are a loser and think you can justify it, wot is the difference between your wet dreams and the Womanliness 0rg@sm? your countless w.@.n.k.i.ng sessions nko? you are just living in denial and if you scrutinize your life, you are definitely saddled with a lot of inefficiencies. Oga, Abeg, leave virginity for women and go bury your face in shame if you cant shut up about your incompetence in the social game. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jpphilips(m): 2:11pm On Mar 04, 2013 |
buoye1: Am presently dating 1 and we agreed on not having sex till we get married.....I love her nd wnt hurt her....I hope we can be 4eva and 5yrs on, she realizes her time is passing and moves on with a stray dog who enjoys what you endured for 5yrs in one reckless venue, preferably under the 'Iroko". a woman does not attach sentiment to a man that helped her keep her virginity rather she honors the man who took it first. you are definitely on the wrong side of the game, good luck though, may experience teach you better |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by vivianc(f): 2:15pm On Mar 04, 2013 |
jp philips: Lmao badt guy...... |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Nobody: 2:46pm On Mar 04, 2013 |
ok i just resisted the temptation to bash you @jp philips. Lemme take it in a cool way. The reason i asked that woman if she or women would value a man's virginity is becos i just wanted her to see the double standard there is in the society. I know they dont value it. Not that i support compulsary abstanance. As for the pride you accused me of, well i think i have have made my point already. And blaming social ineptitude for my not doing it only goes to show that your thinking isnt broad enough. You think i need self esteem to have s.ex? I have been to so many place where no body knows meand have spent substantial time there. If s.ex is what i want, i would have walked into some of the houses around there and you know i do not need 'social competence' to go there. What about ra.pe? Infact, the 'social incompetnce' as you call it is the reason people go to LovePeddler and ra.pe. Have a nice day. 2 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jpphilips(m): 2:48pm On Mar 04, 2013 |
Oxytocin_712: God condemns sexual imm0rality no doubt, but i don't take a virgin with that excuse seriously except when she has proved beyond doubt that she has the fear of God and faithful to God's words in all ramifications. How can you expect me to keep your virginity because you said you love God but the least chance you get you lie through ur cvnt. the same bible says all liars will go to hell and you keep virginity to please God then lie to please who? me? i be god? anyways, we like fooling ourselves with frivolities. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jpphilips(m): 3:21pm On Mar 04, 2013 |
[quote author=souldust] ok i just resisted the temptation to bash you @jp philips. Lemme take it in a cool way. Thank you for your kind consideration at least i still have a shot, preferably an upper cut this time. The reason i asked that woman if she or women would value a man's virginity is becos i just wanted her to see the double standard there is in the society. I know they dont value it. Not that i support compulsary abstanance. the double standard has been there before your fathers, should it be an issue today? OR you may be asking to know if you are a partaker in the "glory" of female virgins (since you asked her "since they want men to honor theirs, why shouldn't they honor male virgins"?). if you don't support compulsory abstinence, why are you practicing it? As for the pride you accused me of, well i think i have have made my point already. I dont expect you to admit that pride either, it is a psychological manifestation lol And blaming social ineptitude for my not doing it only goes to show that your thinking isnt broad enough. Ok, in your case, I may not know your reason hence the wild guess, but here is a quote from one of ur justifications and i do not feel better than anyone! And no, i am ok the way i am. i.e, i do not want to lose it yet. Dont think i am a christian. Infact, i hate religion and christianity is the most evil of all. from the above i can safely deduce that you are not Doing it for God, so what are your other reasons? here is your quote; The reason i want to keep it is becos my friends tell me that when you sleep with a woman you are not married to, there is every likely hood that what you feel for her would begin to diminish. WTF is that thing you wrote up there? are you saying there are no people who had s3x before marriage, later marry and have successful marriages? by contemplating that fallacy from your friends is enough reason for me to conclude you are socially less privileged. if you are socially privileged,you don't need your disgruntled friends to second guess your possible outcome or sell you Ape opinions. You think i need self esteem to have s.ex? I have been to so many place where no body knows meand have spent substantial time there. If s.ex is what i want, i would have walked into some of the houses around there and you know i do not need 'social competence' to go there. What about ra.pe? Infact, the 'social incompetnce' as you call it is the reason people go to LovePeddler and ra.pe. believe me, from what i have read here, if you could afford a w.#.o.r.e, you wouldn't have been a virgin by now. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by dupsytosh(f): 12:16am On Mar 05, 2013 |
trolling: When the bible talks about premarital s,e..x, It calls it a sin "Run away from s..e..xual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For s..e,xual immorality is a sin against your own body. Or don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body" (1 Cor 6:18-20). Now when It talks about pleasing spouses, It says to women " In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands... They will be won over 2 by watching your pure, godly behavior.Don't be concerned about the outward beauty ...You should be known for the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."(1 Pet 3:1-4) and to men It says "In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat her with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life"(1 Pet 3:7). Nowhere did the bible say we should abstain to please ur spouse. Lets call a spade a spade and lets not take God out of the equation. I work with teenagers and I discovered that a lot of this half truth being preached to them do them more harm than good, lot of young girls are fooled by guys who promise them marriage in other to get under their skirts and they give in cos they av been told to abstain in other to please their hubby, and since the guy promised marriage the she can please him. Virginity is not a gift 2 ur husband, its to be maintained because doing otherwise is a sin to God. Growing up, there was a popular saying that was used to correct children wen they lie: "All liars shall perish". So children grew up knowing that lying is a sin to God and not just because ur parents say so. Calling premarital s..e/x forni.cation creates the fear of God in u and makes u regard it as a matter of utmost gravity. This believe of keeping urself for ur spouse is what make sm pple believe they have the license to av s..e.x wen they get engaged, since the one they are keeping themselves for is now a fiancée nd soon to be spouse, which is wrong and a sin. So my point is, a woman pleases her husband with her good character and submission to her hubby's authority and a man reciprocate by loving her as himself and as Jesus Christ loves the church. Thats the best gift u can give each other that guarantees a happy home. 4 Likes |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by dapsonlou(m): 5:44pm On Mar 05, 2013 |
NO LONG TIN: nonsense, I will rather marry a virgin over girls of now adays averaging partners up to 15 men, before marriage... I will rather be the 1st than sluppy 15th |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Oxytocin712: 8:38am On Mar 06, 2013 |
jp philips:Put other things apart and look through the eyes of the main topic- Virginity, is only ordain to be loss on the wedding night that is God standard either you are a lier, drunkard etc. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by biolabee(m): 7:20pm On Mar 06, 2013 |
Abel202: [b]My people, I hadly comment on such posts as I prefer politics and the economy. But this one touches home right where it pains. Ordinarily marrying a virgin is and should be a thing of immence joy and pride for any man. But with my experience now, I don't think I will advise any man to consciously go for it. My reasons: Interesting write up You put it out there |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Lexoria: 10:07pm On Mar 06, 2013 |
jp philips: my dear,so many ladies are contributing to their wedding these days.Some even foolishly pay for all the expenses and still continue taking care of the man once married cos his lazy ass won't go to work or just cos he loves lazying about while his wife fends for him.and enjoying double standards you sayWell,I dint read anywhere in the bible where men are allowed to be intimate before their marriage. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Lexoria: 10:10pm On Mar 06, 2013 |
jp philips: Its you who should just shut-up.I guess you're mad he did what you could not do......YOU LOST!!!TRY AND KEEP YOUR VIRGINITY NEXT TIME! |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Adaeze003(f): 10:31pm On Mar 06, 2013 |
jp philips:@bolded You want to keep someone's virginity? Lmao! Really? I tot its the girls choice? What if she just wants to keep it and does not feel like proving to you that she's a real Christian? Will you rap€ her or something? Some guys sha... Lol! |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by ovise(m): 11:43am On Mar 09, 2013 |
JideJamez: It takes fear of God and availabilty of the man after he disvirgined the wife after marriage...if u. Mistakenly travelled and left ur new wife for just 2month na musa(gateman)ur 1st born go resemble....cos the fire go dey burn higher....Mr. Cock;I can't marry virgin cos dey are mostly timid and lack knoledge of som vital tins |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by VirginFinder: 2:15pm On Mar 10, 2013 |
jp philips: You are spot on bro! Virginity is a female virtue. The Holy Bible never referred to any man as a virgin no matter how obvious. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Lexoria: 1:03pm On Mar 11, 2013 |
Virgin Finder: it also never talked about a man not being intimate before marriage no matter how irrelevant it is for you guys |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by olatunjin(m): 5:53pm On Mar 11, 2013 |
I love my fiancée more because she is a virgin,been a virgin does not mean inexperience for a lady or guy.I'm not a virgin but marrying a virgin will be an honor to mε̲̣̣̣̥ and my wife to be and for Gø̲̣̣d purpose.Is better for my wife to be inexperience than to marry all these OLOSO that have slept with all men in the name of money.It is an Honor if you marry a virgin. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jadajada: 8:37pm On Mar 11, 2013 |
vivian chinaza:sincerity at it's peak. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by enigmatique(m): 12:15am On Aug 20, 2013 |
Symphony007: I've been thinking. If two virgins got married, how do they know what to do on their wedding night?My answer to you is this: who taught Adam and Eve how to do it, and who was their lecturer? Try and find out who. If u don't find anything, den u can see dat d urge and ability for sex is in-born, u don't need a school. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by enigmatique(m): 12:25am On Aug 20, 2013 |
Let me say here that I know a pastor who married a virgin. He's a Baptist pastor and his name is Jerry Akinsola. U can Google his name, find out facts about him and maybe even contact him for urself and confirm. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Chomzy19(f): 8:05am On Aug 20, 2013 |
jp philips:it is pitiable hw ppl will do everythimg in their power to justify their sinful Act. U re too deep into fornication to even strive for a better xtian lyf witout it; ur only hope nw is to justify it n hp to convince others to join u since dey re already commiting sin; ' u re lying; y nt commit fornication n while u re at it add murder to d list' striving to b holier than we already re is d mrk of xtianity nt sitting on it n justifying d Act cos all men hv sinned, so lets all continue wit our sins... N b4 d liar is thrown into hell, u a fornicator n liar will b thrown first. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by upson013: 1:18pm On Aug 20, 2013 |
dia s so much to worry abt wen u marry a virgin. Most of d virgins dat r matured for marriage r actually those who care less abt sex. If a super man marries a lady wit low sex drive de must be solving alot of issues against dua wish. But its good overall |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by jascopassion(m): 5:36pm On Sep 06, 2013 |
Good to marry a V. Wot coms to b getin to marry a proclaimed V and on ur 1st matin,u discova she is nt? Also,fellow, nt all gals dt are nt V lost it tru sex. In d medical line,there are several ways of loosin ur V bt odas are rare occasion unlik sex. I regret eva bn focd to bed by a lady. Tnk God its jst dt and av reconciled wt God |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Nma123(f): 12:40pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
if a gal has kissed bu a man has never seen her unclothedness before can u call her a virgin? pls be polite no insults |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by mermaidkingdom: 3:36pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
I can't marry a virgin as well* |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Nobody: 4:24pm On Sep 09, 2013 |
Depends on the kind of virgin.. not deeper life virgin abeg |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by Timijo(m): 1:03pm On Dec 27, 2013 |
Some comments here are terrifying. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by afesimicaleb(m): 7:17pm On Jul 14, 2014 |
D fact dat a lady iz not a virgin does not make her unfit for marriage, virginity nor day share moni so while waste ur time keepin it as if it would worth somtin in d future. nw days guys aint lookin for virgins. |
Re: What Is Wrong In Marrying A Lady Who Is A Virgin? by emalekuo(m): 8:01am On Jul 16, 2014 |
afesimicaleb: D fact dat a lady iz not a virgin does not make her unfit for marriage, virginity nor day share moni so while waste ur time keepin it as if it would worth somtin in d future. nw days guys aint lookin for virgins. Can you give this advice to your youger sister? |
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