Nauttyprof: Being a Virgin is the best gift a lady can give to her husband. In fact to be honest with you all, in case there is any delay of any sort (i mean pregnancy), the husband will be confident enough to say he knows it is only a delay from God and he won't think otherwise. The husband can go to any length to trust his wife but if it were to be the other way second thought comes in no matter the existing bond.

N.B: I'm referring to genuine husband.

Lexoria: Testament to the fact that guys are worse is the fact that no girl,lady or woman has come on this thread to say they met their husband a virgin which means MEN are the REAL SLUTS!!So I think y'all should save all this preaching for yourselves or you think its only when girls have sex that it is called fornication and a sin and when men do it then it will be called an act of GUYMANISM.Remove the fog in ur eyes before you think of removing the peck in anothers.

ok calm down, we re only enjoying the double standard because we pay for the wedding, when are you guys planning to take over from us in that regards? rem that what a Man can do, a woman can do better, but you guys have refused to do better in that regards, why

souldust: i am one and i do not feel better than anyone! And no, i am ok the way i am. i.e, i do not want to lose it yet. Dont think i am a christian. Infact, i hate religion and christianity is the most evil of all.

The reason i want to keep it is becos my friends tell me that when you sleep with a woman you are not married to, there is every likely hood that what you feel for her would begin to diminish.

I doubt it very much becos i think when we make love, then we are expressing feelings to each other. But what if my friends are right? Afterall, these are experienced people! It means we will be losing this thing we share. But i wouldnt like to lose the sweet feeling i have for my woman.

buoye1: Am presently dating 1 and we agreed on not having sex till we get married.....I love her nd wnt hurt her....I hope we can be 4eva

jp philips:


and 5yrs on, she realizes her time is passing and moves on with a stray dog who enjoys what you endured for 5yrs in one reckless venue, preferably under the 'Iroko".

a woman does not attach sentiment to a man that helped her keep her virginity rather she honors the man who took it first.

you are definitely on the wrong side of the game,

good luck though, may experience teach you better

Oxytocin_712:
BEC GOD ORDAIN IT ONLY FOR MARRIED COUPLES.

ok i just resisted the temptation to bash you @jp philips. Lemme take it in a cool way.

The reason i asked that woman if she or women would value a man's virginity is becos i just wanted her to see the double standard there is in the society. I know they dont value it. Not that i support compulsary abstanance.

As for the pride you accused me of, well i think i have have made my point already.

And blaming social ineptitude for my not doing it only goes to show that your thinking isnt broad enough.

You think i need self esteem to have s.ex? I have been to so many place where no body knows meand have spent substantial time there. If s.ex is what i want, i would have walked into some of the houses around there and you know i do not need 'social competence' to go there. What about ra.pe? Infact, the 'social incompetnce' as you call it is the reason people go to LovePeddler and ra.pe.

and i do not feel better than anyone! And no, i am ok the way i am. i.e, i do not want to lose it yet. Dont think i am a christian. Infact, i hate religion and christianity is the most evil of all.

The reason i want to keep it is becos my friends tell me that when you sleep with a woman you are not married to, there is every likely hood that what you feel for her would begin to diminish.

You think i need self esteem to have s.ex? I have been to so many place where no body knows meand have spent substantial time there. If s.ex is what i want, i would have walked into some of the houses around there and you know i do not need 'social competence' to go there. What about ra.pe? Infact, the 'social incompetnce' as you call it is the reason people go to LovePeddler and ra.pe.

trolling:
out of context u say? what other context can someone infer from women are not to please men,quit double-talking

NO LONG TIN:

Interestng.... learnt a lot, its all psychology. Saved it

jp philips:


God condemns sexual imm0rality no doubt, but i don't take a virgin with that excuse seriously except when she has proved beyond doubt that she has the fear of God and faithful to God's words in all ramifications.

How can you expect me to keep your virginity because you said you love God but the least chance you get you lie through ur cvnt.

the same bible says all liars will go to hell and you keep virginity to please God then lie to please who? me? i be god?

anyways, we like fooling ourselves with frivolities.

Abel202: [b]My people, I hadly comment on such posts as I prefer politics and the economy. But this one touches home right where it pains. Ordinarily marrying a virgin is and should be a thing of immence joy and pride for any man. But with my experience now, I don't think I will advise any man to consciously go for it. My reasons:
I have been married for seven years now. I have three issues, and honestly I have a very lovely and wonderful family that is the envy of most of my peers. However I have a huge problem inside. And am scared of what the future will bring.
My wife was not particularly a virging when I married her, but she was "almost" a virging, therefore she had little or no experience in matters of sex and intimacy. Incidentally I had many girlfriends then and one of the major reason why I chose my wife above most of the other girls was because she is faithful and can not mess arround, and I can completely trust her on that. We dated for 3 years before we eventualy got married. I saw the signs that this girl doesnt realy like sex but since I was preserving her for marriage I never realy disturbed her but unleashed my exploits on the other girls. Then we got married. Then I decided to become a responsible married man. Suddenly I realised what I had gotten myself into. My wife does not like sex. She will only do it (once in a while after several excuses) to please me. She has refused to learn anything from the first time we met till now ten years later. I have tried every reasonable way to teach her. I have taken her to counselling. I have pleaded, I have cajoled, I even withdrew my belt and flogged one day (very unlike me), yet all to no avail.
Now I have almost resigned to my fate. Now that is what scares me a real lot. Because I know myself. I love life and I love sex. I do not have unrealistic expectations as I know that my wife never had the experiences I have. But what I have gotten is a raw deal. All I expected was a healthy sex life with my lovely wife. Is that too much to ask? I sometimes think its a purnishment for all the girls I have dribbled before settling down.
What scares me is that if this continues I am bound to mess up. I have such a lovely family. My wife is such a good wife, responsible, takes good care of my home and kids, pretty, respects me a lot, infact every other thing is okay except the sex life. And this is what you can't tell your next door neighbour.
So I am a very happily married man, but inside I am realy turtured because my sex life is zero and I do not trust myself if things continue this way. Infact I have done a few runs outside and it was as great as before, but guilty conscience made me quit.
If I were a European or an American, I would have divorced my wife, reason -Sexual incompatibility. But that reason is bullshit here. I can't throw away the lovely family I have just because of Sex (that is precisely the problem).
My senior friend has advised me the way out - that is to get a secret concubine.
I have tried it and believe you me, it worked. I do not disturb my wife any more, and she is happy that she is not being disturbed for sex again as she would prefer not to have sex even for a year unless its time to make babies.
But the problem is the other lady. Some of them are always scheeming, either for money, or to displace the one inside and come inside too. And they could even be diabolical or do something funny to your lovely family just to get a part of you too. Infact though this arrangement works for now, there is no guarantee that something ugly might not come out of it later.
I am the responsible family man type. So having concubines is not realy my style. But am forced to do it.
So my advise is that YOU MUST KNOW THE SEXUAL CAPABILITIES OF YOUR WIFE-TO-BE BEFORE MARRIAGE, AMONGST OTHER THINGS. Or else you might find out that this Sex thing can derail a marriage and life you have painstakingly built. I rest my case.[/b]

jp philips:

ok calm down, we re only enjoying the double standard because we pay for the wedding, when are you guys planning to take over from us in that regards? rem that what a Man can do, a woman can do better, but you guys have refused to do better in that regards, why

jp philips:


if you don't feel better than everyone the bold part wont surface in your post, it is psychological,you are not in control, you guys don't even know when you say sh!t like that, u see what everyone is saying? your state of mind as a virgin is saddled with mega superiority complex, some arrogance that no sane man will take from a woman who is meant to be submissive to him.

in your case, you should be more ashamed because most men have been on that path, you have just not conquered the world, you are simply not on top of your game and psychologically you want to hide behind the virginity clout to garner sympathy in a pseudo pride, little wonder you asked the other girl if she appreciates virginity in men, here is what you don't know, emotionally women are more stable than men so it is easy for most girls to see through your social weakness and jettison you like the pariah you are.

Virginity in men count for nothing, keeping it as a man is an indicator that you are a loser and think you can justify it, wot is the difference between your wet dreams and the Womanliness 0rg@sm? your countless w.@.n.k.i.ng sessions nko?

you are just living in denial and if you scrutinize your life, you are definitely saddled with a lot of inefficiencies.

Oga, Abeg, leave virginity for women and go bury your face in shame if you cant shut up about your incompetence in the social game.

jp philips:


God condemns sexual imm0rality no doubt, but i don't take a virgin with that excuse seriously except when she has proved beyond doubt that she has the fear of God and faithful to God's words in all ramifications.

How can you expect me to keep your virginity because you said you love God but the least chance you get you lie through ur cvnt.

the same bible says all liars will go to hell and you keep virginity to please God then lie to please who? me? i be god?

anyways, we like fooling ourselves with frivolities.

JideJamez: It takes fear of God and availabilty of the man after he disvirgined the wife after marriage...if u. Mistakenly travelled and left ur new wife for just 2month na musa(gateman)ur 1st born go resemble....cos the fire go dey burn higher....Mr. Cock

jp philips:


[color=#000099]if you don't feel better than everyone the bold part wont surface in your post, it is psychological,you are not in control, you guys don't even know when you say sh!t like that, u see what everyone is saying? your state of mind as a virgin is saddled with mega superiority complex, some arrogance that no sane man will take from a woman who is meant to be submissive to him.

in your case, you should be more ashamed because most men have been on that path, you h?

Virgin Finder:

You are spot on bro!

Virginity is a female virtue.

The Holy Bible never referred to any man as a virgin no matter how obvious.

vivian chinaza:

Nigerians and their stupid ways of calling whoever that do not agree with their views name. Baby, you are the one that's so cheap by tagging yourself.

You did not make this rule, God did. Marriage is undefiled, I agree, and whosoever breaks that commandment, sins against God just like every other sin. So going by the bible's standard that a sinner is filthy before him, he did not say forn..i..cation alone, it includes every other sin. So u have no right to call whoever that is having se..x cheap cos u are not having sex, its a personal decision.

Come to think of it, a virgin is anyone whose unclothedness has not been seen by an opposite sex and who hasn't had se....x, but a lot of our virgins are experts at giving BJs and all that, *let me not even go into that*

I'm not against virgins, they don't fascinate me either, I can't fathom why someone else's decision not to have se..x should. But I will NEVER marry a man I have not had sex with,,,,yea I said that. I have actually heard a lot of people say se..x is not important in marriage, especially church people but they lie big time. If se.x and sexua.l connection and compatibility is not important, why are there so much adultery in the house of God? Even the pastors are not left out?

Come to think of it, the bible even gave an exception for engaged couples to have sex provided they marry each other.

Whether bibles justifies it or not, I'm never gonna a man I have not tasted. call it whatever u want, I don't give a rat's azz about ur opinion. Let God judge me.

Symphony007: I've been thinking. If two virgins got married, how do they know what to do on their wedding night?

jp philips:


God condemns sexual imm0rality no doubt, but i don't take a virgin with that excuse seriously except when she has proved beyond doubt that she has the fear of God and faithful to God's words in all ramifications.

How can you expect me to keep your virginity because you said you love God but the least chance you get you lie through ur cvnt.

the same bible says all liars will go to hell and you keep virginity to please God then lie to please who? me? i be god?

anyways, we like fooling ourselves with frivolities.

afesimicaleb: D fact dat a lady iz not a virgin does not make her unfit for marriage, virginity nor day share moni so while waste ur time keepin it as if it would worth somtin in d future. nw days guys aint lookin for virgins.