Before you get married please read...and share!!

1. Once you are hooked to the wrong
person the battle is over, you will
either be managing or patching till you
die. If a goat marries a fish, how
would they live or where would they
be meeting each other? It is only
when the goat is thirsty and goes to
the river to drink water that they will
only see briefly as the
fish will jump out to greet the goat
and swim away. Any marriage where
both partners see each other once in
a long while is likened to the goat and
fish illustration above. Marriage does
not make marriage. It is the people in
marriage that make marriage.

2 .Compatibility is worked out, of
course you may never get a perfect
person.
But with dedication, knowledge and
wisdom compatibility will start
building, that is if he or she is the
right person.

3. But the major challenge in getting
married is choosing the right person.
You don't choose a person because he
or she is available or eligible. You
choose a person because that person
is the right for you.

4. Run away from any man or woman
that is easily angered by nature; that
is getting angry easily is he or she's
lifestyle. It is difficult to change that
person. But if someone gets angry by
mistake, that person can be
corrected but if it is his or her
nature, you have to think twice.

5. It is possible to mis-marry. It is
possible to be living with the wrong
man or woman. It is possible to be
dating the wrong person or be in
courtship with the wrong person.

6. Once your choice is right then you
are on the right track. How can a lion
be married to a goat? what now
happens when the lion is hungry? Any
man that beats his wife is likened to
the above illustration. Any woman that
oppresses her husband is also likened
to this scenario.

7. There are some people that are
highly inflamable, please do not take a
box of matches near them. What this
means is that these people's hearts
are made of stone, giving them your
soft heart in love is a mistake. They
will not value it.

8. Love may be blind to many, but
marriage will definitely open their
eyes. Love in reality is not blind when
you start seeing those unchangeable
signs during courtship please keep
off. When a man starts cheating on
you when dating, it is a sign that he
will do much more when he is married
to you. He or she may legally begin to
cheat on you because he is now
married legally to you.

9. Dating is not for outing alone,
dating is for knowing, watching and
examining. Watch out for negative
signs to see if it can be dealt with, if
it cannot be dealt with in courtship it
may not change in marriage.

10. To get the right person, try to be
the right person. Work on yourself,
work on your flaws.

11 America and the western world is
plagued with divorce today because
they marry without paying attention to
these facts listed above. They marry
without knowing the person they are
marrying at least to a large extent.

12. Don't practice divorce before you
get married. That is when you are
breaking relationships over and over
again, your emotion is also affected in
the process. Wait for the right
person.

13. Don't marry because you cannot
enjoy your singlehood. If you are
happy being single, then you will be
happy being married and if you are
not happy while still single....

14. Marriage is not an escape from
singlehood but marriage is actually a
graduation from singlehood...moving
from writing simple exams of life to
writing another hard exams.

15. Do not rush into marriage because
you are under pressure or you are
feeling you are the odd one out. When
you are feeling everyone is getting
married except you then you are making yourself becoming a wrong person.

Thank you very much, what you said is true, i hope many Nigerians get to read this before engaging in marriages.

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Very informative writeup

The prevalence of all these lists is the reason why relationships are breaking up at the slightest challenge that couples encounter.u can never know an individual completely.this thing is not rocket science,please,let's do away with all this formulars and preconceived notions that are only half-truths at best.

This is one of the best pre marital counselling i've read.thanks op

Carius: The prevalence of all these lists is the reason why relationships are breaking up at the slightest challenge that couples encounter.u can never know an individual completely.this thing is not rocket science,please,let's do away with all this formulars and preconceived notions that are only half-truths at best.

at least appreciate a reasonable thread.if its pictures of cossy's breasts now,thats where we will see your appreciation and sharpness.mshewww :@

U wc!

OP, go sleep

Carius: The prevalence of all these lists is the reason why relationships are breaking up at the slightest challenge that couples encounter.u can never know an individual completely.this thing is not rocket science,please,let's do away with all this formulars and preconceived notions that are only half-truths at best.

Nice post by the author but I sort of agree with you ...

Honestly life is not about rules and formulas per se becos at the end of the day living by a number of sub-rules can make can lead to frustration as you see "another over-poweing power working in your members" and one tends to loose sight of the motive from which the rules sprung. Knowing who you are and what is at the heart of your desires makes it easy to know who and what corresponds most in every circumstance, marriage inclusive.