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Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by fegflu: 8:13pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
send ur details to my email info@excell-consulting.co.uk. i think i will love to adopt the child and give to my wife. i live abroad. Thanks |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by cherriex(f): 8:16pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
lovemychild: thank u so much. i will go there first thing tomorow.My dear,iam a woman like u and I understand ur situation,I advice u keep ur Baby nd take care of him/her,help will come since u seek it. Am willing to help u when u give birth nd I dnt hv to c u,jst send me Ur contact thru dorcasbrahim@yahoo.com 1 Like |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by seunblack(m): 8:18pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
lovemychild: thank u so much. i will go there first thing tomorow.try and update us about the out come of your discussion with the welfare board |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Nobody: 8:21pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
If you still want to give up the baby for adoption, I am interested in adopting |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by kelvs4u: 8:23pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
I don't know wat to say to U̶̲̥̅̊. Buh I promise U̶̲̥̅̊ I will keep praying for U̶̲̥̅̊ n ur bAby. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by OCTAVO: 8:25pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
Where is NAIRALAND's T-hen? Pls this lady should be assisted. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Nobody: 8:33pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
op what is your family saying about your decision to put the child for adoption? Am sure you have no right to take decisions on your own without the consent of your parents. you also said in your post that you will put the child for adoption and collect the child a year later. how possible can that be. I think you should be patient not to make your decision cos the father of your child might have a change of heart. He seems confused at the moment. please don't make a decision you will regret in life. 1 Like |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Nobody: 8:36pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
Pls for God sake,breastfeed your baby for six months before you give him or her for adoption,he will not fall sick and it will help him or her in development in near and long term,pls pls pls,and you will be rewarded by God because He actually wants mothers to fortify their babies atleast before you start taking him around hospital or miracle churches.Remember God will not come down thats why He gave you the breast to fortify your newborn to be. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by free2ryhme: 8:41pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
elkol: 27 weeks! Still 'abortable' deluded mind 2 Likes |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Nobody: 8:49pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
God bless you sir,so good people still exist. travelxpat: You are a very good expectant mum.if you were to be in ekiti state,I would have employed you and give you accomodation for a year till you get back on your feet.please if there is any little I can do ,like buying diapers and few items for the baby,you can reach me anytime .take me as the one year temporary father of the unborn.please smile ,children are gift from God and they come with a lot of blessings.forgive your boyfriend,he was only confused,I had mine when I was 25,though as a serving corper with no hope but when I look at my boy now,I always thanks God I never made the silly mistake of deciding on abortion.I will drop my contacts details to the moderator only and after he is certain that its a true story,then I will authorise you get my number.stay blessed my sister |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by hammerh(f): 8:50pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
Hi, you can contact me on this email and we can talk hoi_fax@yahoo.com |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by gabbytabby: 9:01pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
elkol: 27 weeks! Still 'abortable' 27 weeks!!!! You try. The cut off is 12 weeks and you are more than double that. You want to damage your womb such that you might never have another or maybe die in the process with all this quack doctors around as they are the only ones that will do a 27 weeks preggers. Its tough bringing up a child by yourself. I will never advice that someone give away their baby but appreciate how tough it must be in your situation. I know your parents might be dissappointed but in time they will come round and you need them at a very important time in your life. Go home and speak to your mom and as a family decide the way forward. Goodluck. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by francescainnoce(f): 9:11pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
@op... I admire your courage and boldness despite being in confusion, U seek advice for a solution.. I must say that I am pleased and ur story is not just about a solution but its a lesson to alot of people out here esp ME.. Please though i am young but i had advice you not to give up your baby for adoption reason being that this world is getting funny and we dont know how many people we can trust but we have to start from somewhere.. your baby is due to be out and let me say this to you... Though its optional... I don't know how much it cost for a baby diaper or napkin or milk .. But if you choose to keep the baby i will take responsibility of the diapers and the milk monthly ... Think thou but i believe you can make it with your baby without adoption if only you believe in God and yourself 1 Like |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by olaidesk(f): 9:12pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
ill advice U̶̲̥̅̊ to takecare of Your child than adoption , God`s know U̶̲̥̅̊ have no body and he surlly provide For U̶̲̥̅̊ by his grace than adoption. Please trust no body. Abo oro lan so fun omoluabi ........ |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Efikman(m): 9:47pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
lovemychild: thank u all. i will give u feed back tomorow. i appraciate u all. thank uWhy u go carry belle? |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Efikman(m): 9:52pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
coogar: some men are heartless.....It takes 2 to tango. Or was she unconscious wen he was sticking it in? My advise to her is to take the baby to d guy's parents 1st. If they now reject him/her, then she could take the baby 2 d welfare or even take it to her own parents. Afterall, its their grandchild. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by donsteady(m): 9:55pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
tears while reading this, i am sorry for your situation, will make 20k available for you tomorrow morning, please advice on how i can do that. 2 Likes |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Nobody: 10:14pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
seeing people make offers on nairaland to someone they have never met... such love. made me cry. 3 Likes |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by andyanders: 10:19pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
lovemychild: Am 27 weeks pregnant and i cant afford to take care of myself fianancialy cos i dont have anything doing yet. Young woman, for we all are sinners in the presence of God Almighty, just kneel down and ask God for forgiveness. God cannot condemn you when you have asked for forgiveness Do not give your baby out for adoption. I believe that God will send someone that would help you out.Or, go to Synagogue Church of All Nations and you will be prayed for and also your babycould be lucky and be granted a full scholarship to any level of education in his/her educational career. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Boscog(m): 10:26pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
I wll like to adopt the baby but first to were u are from n if the baby gonna be a boy . |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by jpphilips(m): 10:55pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
lovemychild: Am 27 weeks pregnant and i cant afford to take care of myself fianancialy cos i dont have anything doing yet. how much is a pack of condom in abuja?? Nigeria is already over populated pls dont make it worse |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Ndipe(m): 11:00pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
Giving up the baby for adoption has its pros and cons, what if the adoptive parent turns out to maltreat the child? I dont know, it's a very sensitive topic, but truthfully, I would suggest you explore every options available before giving up the child for adoption. You dont want to spend all your waking moments regretting your choice. Read this novel, 'Secret daughter' by Shilip Gowda about a woman's heartrending choice to give up her baby daughter to protect her from gender infanticide (in India) and the emotional heartbreak she endured afterwards. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by dayokanu(m): 11:31pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
Have you contacted the guys parent and your own parent regarding your decision |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by osifred(m): 11:44pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
Desloaaa: my dear,get sometin doing,any decent job,irrespective of d meagre pay,dust off laziness and make up your mind,that you'll take care of your child,come what may.Adorption is not really a good idea on my part. I'd rather soak garri and salt with my child,than allow him enjoy fried rice and chicken with sm other.. Go away. you are not been logical here. How could you prefer that the child lives with you in poverty with a high chance of becoming a criminal than to leave in comfort with bright future in another person's house? @op the best advise is that you visit the social or welfare department as they are in the best position to help you. All the best |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Nobody: 11:52pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
I'm not condemning you o, but i'm thinking can't u try and get a little job to do dat can sustain you?? Btw..i don't believe ur mum and dad wouldn't try and assist u in any form..including ur siblings too?? Ok..probably tinz may be hard or even worse for ur folks too..but with the little u have at hand..try to manage yourself and take care of ur baby. Giving up ur child for adoption doesn't make u a bad mum, but what story would you want to tell the child whenever you become capable to go pick him up.?? What if the new couple who adopted him suddenly feel they love the child too much to give back to you..despite agreement and signed contract, and then they decide to 'run' and live somewhere else without ur reach?? Now can you live with dat for the rest of your life?? I really pray dat will not become ur portion if at all you decide to give it up for adoption. But pls and pls, think very well before taking this decision..put it before God or Allah, and ask him to put you true,.so u don't end up making a decision you may regret in future. Take care. and i'm waiting to hear the feedback! Cheers! |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by PrettieJ(f): 11:52pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
lovemychild: Am 27 weeks pregnant and i cant afford to take care of myself fianancialy cos i dont have anything doing yet.Go to Holy Family Sisters of the Needy there in abuja,i don't remember the address but u can make enquiries n go there,all the best. |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by mkoabiola: 11:54pm On Mar 26, 2013 |
@ op y don't use condom@1st Av u talk to d guy's parent? Wat if d guy chang hs mind? I will assist u for diapers and cerelac afta delivery. A lesson to all ladies out dere. So many kind hearted ppu on NL.#smile# |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by remmydada(m): 12:31am On Mar 27, 2013 |
I wish you the best but make sure you think it through may the Lord put you on the right track, come to think of it this is the first time I see people give good advice on naira land |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Lenny5000(m): 1:04am On Mar 27, 2013 |
travelxpat: You are a very good expectant mum.if you were to be in ekiti state,I would have employed you and give you accomodation for a year till you get back on your feet.please if there is any little I can do ,like buying diapers and few items for the baby,you can reach me anytime .take me as the one year temporary father of the unborn.please smile ,children are gift from God and they come with a lot of blessings.forgive your boyfriend,he was only confused,I had mine when I was 25,though as a serving corper with no hope but when I look at my boy now,I always thanks God I never made the silly mistake of deciding on abortion.I will drop my contacts details to the moderator only and after he is certain that its a true story,then I will authorise you get my number.stay blessed my sister @ travelxpat, Thank you so much for this wonderful message, may God bless you abundantly. @OP, you can see that nobody is blaming you... My own take on this is, dont be so much in a rush to think of Abortion. What if this is the only Child you would give birth to? How do you know you will survive it? I dont know how the Nigerian laws works concerning adoption, but take your time to really find out so you dont do something you will regret forever. Like some few people here I too believe Children are Gifts from God almighty and they are blessing too, so I will contribute my own 5cents if you decide to keep the baby... Will also send some baby clothes.. Stay Blessed and Stay strong |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by zinylizzy(f): 1:08am On Mar 27, 2013 |
Desloaaa:Are you for real? must she wear diapers? dt's d kind of life u wan for her baby when she can offer her smth better with d social welfare? |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Iceslizer(f): 3:04am On Mar 27, 2013 |
fegflu: send ur details to my email info@excell-consulting.co.uk. i think i will love to adopt the child and give to my wife. i live abroad. Thanks Its a baby, not a doll !!! 2 Likes |
Re: Thinking On Giving My Baby Up For Adoption. Does That Make Me A Terrible Mom? by Goshen360(m): 5:02am On Mar 27, 2013 |
@ moderators and everyone, How do we verify this story and the op herself? I'm willing to joining the helping team that had promised to help but I don't throw my money in the air, hence we must verify and see proof. Everyone who had promised to help, we can pull resources together and set up the OP for a small business and empower her before the baby is born and so, her feet is on ground to continue raising her child by herself. The moderator(s) can contact me via PM if the story is verified to be true. |
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