zeefa:
My dear, I can't be given u details of my family on NL. But he has done a lot for her too especially when she was pregnant. His wife don't really complain cos he told me he has warned her never to pokenose into our affair.

As I said, I will call both party to a meeting on sunday, then I will give the house details on our conclusion. I pray it works, but if things go wrong, I have no choice than to let her go. I respect her a lot & I love her and I don't expect such from a woman that care & love her husband.

zeefa:



Eni ti ani ko kani leyi, toun fi egun si owo! I dnt kw y ppu jst adopt the method of seeing somtins at d negative side of it. I still wonder y u cnt just tink st8t instead of an isotonic approach from you on this thrend.

zeefa:
I need to make myself clear again that, if being a guy is d last option for me 2 remain on dis earth better I go. Imaging your thinking & comments. Let me tell you somtin, if you don't know &u have never tasted it, I do advise you consult ppl with such experience.
I don't drink, visit clubs or humanize. So I wonder y u shld concluded on such nasty tag. some people are just more than a friend cos of how they contributed to your success in life.

zeefa:
Dayo is a friend like a brother. Someone who understands and detest envy. He is there to share from your problesm & provide a lasting solution if possible.

zeefa:
I am a well cultured Yoruba Man with a fear of God on my mind. And for your information, assuming I am what you are insinuating, I dnt tink putting up this story here would have been a gud idea & getting married won't have been on my agenda in d first place.

zeefa: Well, thank you for your contributions. Atleast I was able 2 extract from your comments on how to go about somethings. And please don't see this as an attack on ur comments

Beetle: @ Nikkykay do you really mean that ' Thank God he's not out hanging out with his friends every night'

So these are some of the qualities you look for in a man. What happened to going for the best. Some of the comments on Nairaland never ceases to amaze me.

Beetle: @ cougar, I'm happily married and have been for the past 7 years unlike you. I have expectations from everyone and I'm ready to give my all and put 100% into whatever I put my mind to.

That's the prob with people like you and Nikky celebrating mediocrity. No I don't and I won't tolerate it. Wow so celebrating mediocrity is sensible. Thanking God your husband is not out every night is sensible. Yes no one is perfect but babes you get what you ask for.

jidegirl12:

Abo oro lan so fun omoluabi toba denue adodidi! Owo ti mo ni ni mo ti ya e yen! Ję ki ori e ko pe, ko le ję ti baba ati omo ko ma ni ala! Dayo se ore fun e , so he should milk you forever, Abeg go siddon jor and stop your bogus over flogged story!



You couldn't have made yourself clearer OP, I heard you , you're not gay( not that there's anything wrong with being one) so I don't know why that is very crucial to your ego ..... I'm not tagging you , it was just an inference and not a conclusion gerrit?

I don't need to consult with anybody, I have brothers and guy cousins and sh it happens, deal with it and stop bring a cry baby for pity party poor me poor me I don't drink, womanize blah blah!




And that^^ lies your problem.... listen , we all have one korikosun ( best friend) one way or the other in our lives, mine is my Dad, in as much as I love that man to bits, there's boundary when it comes to my 'family affairs' ofcourse he butts in once a while and I put him back in his pedestal he belongs without being rude. Your immediate Family comes first! So what is it gonna be OP Renny or Dayo?



Motigbo!, everybody is well cultured, if you ask me, iwa e ku die kaato and for the umpteenth time would you drop the gay or no gay discussion and focus on yourself for a change?



You're welcome! Good thing you grabbed something,( Team work )

attack kę? o ti po to!

Phew! I'm out.... Lunch time.

Beetle: @ cougar, I'm happily married and have been for the past 7 years unlike you. I have expectations from everyone and I'm ready to give my all and put 100% into whatever I put my mind to.

That's the prob with people like you and Nikky celebrating mediocrity. No I don't and I won't tolerate it.

Wow so celebrating mediocrity is sensible. Thanking God your husband is not out every night is sensible. Yes no one is perfect but babes you get what you ask for.

nikkykay: @beetle

I won't go in2 marriage expecting d best frm d man but I will expect mysef 2put d best in d marriage! My marriage is wot I make it!

ileobatojo:
Lawd, this woman speaks sense! I could kiss you right now. No homo.

nikkykay: @ cc,
In any rship is life, just do ur best &
Leave d rest! The moment u r expecting d same frm d 2nd person,disappointment may set in![b][/b]
Yes he met his friend be4 dm! I want 2believe he gves d 3 of dm dir due respect! So wot u r telling me is u can stop ur husband from talkin 2his childhood friend because he has married u?!
Whn it comes 2somethgs, u can't dictate 2men!
U also mention resposibilities, is d man not performing his responsibilities @home?!
Dayo's wife can't have d same xter as madan zeefa cos she 2 wuld hv involved her mother! So she can b cool wit her husband!
If she ddnt hide, she shld have made it cleared 2d man during dir 8mths courtship but she tot wn she entered she wuld gve him ultimatum!
Let call a spade a spade, she culd solve ds issue without d threat! Like some1 said earlier, y ddnr she reject d help dayo gav during her exams? So she has also benefited from ds friendship!
She had better not let her mother scatter her home wit stupid advice!

coogar:

what sense is she making?
i won't be surprised she's someone's punchbag - coming to NL to talk a good game. if sitting at home at home and talking to one's friend for 2 hours makes a man a mediocre husband then i would like to see the perfect husband.......

ileobatojo:
Abeg go and sit down! Encouraging someone to keep talking daily for 2 hrs to a friend when you can't so such a thing yourself!

Of course she's making a ton of sense!

Beetle:
@ coogar, I laugh at your stupidity. Someone's punchbag!! O ti bi. They no born am!!!

The only time DH spends 2 hours on the phone which is not everyday is when he's talking business and guess what when he's done we spend time together. I won't moan because he's trying to make life better for us and because he's matured and knows there's a time and place for everything.

@ ileobatojo, I'm a bonafide Ruth. Ruth sef no get nothing on me. don't mind this coogar guy sef he just dey ri si me. Need to go and join my punchbag in bed before he starts chatting for 2 hours with his friend.

nikkykay: @jidegirl,
U can say watever u like!
If u r married am very sure ur husband does some nauseating things & dat won't make u think of divorce let alone threaten wit it!

nikkykay:
Use ur brain now! Y wl one goes in2 marriage wit low expectation wn u wl pass thru courtship stage 2c some of d things u wl face wn u enter in2 it?!
Its women like u dat always have issues cos u always things things r going to change 4better only 2b disappointed in d long run!
U can't get d perfect partner so whoever u pick, is ur cross so carry it!

nikkykay:
I pray dey both use ds wisdom 2settle ds issue but dat woman shld b careful wit d way she's involvin her mum in her marriage i[b]f she doesn't want 2end up like her(sorry poster 4bn rude 2ur wife)[/b]

zeefa:

E se pupo,! Ma.....

dayokanu: Thats the thing when you are married

You cant talk or hang out with your friends that must mean you are sleeping with them. You must not talk too much with your family too much else it means you are phoccking your parents, you must not talk too much with your neighbors else you are nyanshing them, must not watch TV too much not use phone too much, not use computer too much else you are cheating, if you go to work too much you are phocking your oga or colleague

Try adjust your life, Just sleep wake up go to work and look her in the face 24hrs daily at least that would make her happy

Marriage is for men to make women happy without consideration for whatever makes the man happy. You wonder why men still die before women

All your friends contribution to her passing the PLAB is inconsequential, Maybe she should have rejected the help and banned the friendship when she was getting those help

coogar:

this is a hard one to call but.......

talking 2 hours everyday with your friend is excessive but if this is the way it has always been even during the courtship with your wife then she's got no excuses to complain. i get particularly peeved with women who just think they can walk in and change the status quo. if she was not happy about the bond between you and your friend, where was her voice before she married you?

the fact that she's threatened divorce also says a lot about her than the bond between you and your friend. if she wants to go, let her go. don't let anyone use any cheap emotional blackmail to destroy you. women? if the going gets rough tomorrow, she would be the first person to pack her bags and leave you. don't let any woman come between you and your friend. if my woman does not like my closeness to any of my friends from the onset, then she should not marry me!

dayokanu: ^^ The same friend closeness was what helped her in her exams, It was what helped the husband settle down in the UK

2hours might be too much but I get irritated when people start giving me ultimatum, And once the ultimatums start coming you never know what next. Maybe stop spending time calling your parents or I would divorce, stop staying long at work or I would divorce, Stop watching football or I would divorce. If she wan divorce let her go ahead and divorce

He was that way when they were dating if she went ahead to marry him like that why insist he changes now?

Soon now the guy go begin avoid coming home or staying late at work just to avoid such scenarios

biolabee:

We all know women love control

dayokanu: ^^After the game, does your husband call friends to discuss the game and argue it for a while?

Most guys do it. Even on NL after a game guys congregate in the Sport section to analyse for hours. This happens every Saturday, Sunday, Tuesday, Wednesday and atimes Monday and Thursday

You cant suddenly leave all that because you are married.

because one is married doesnt mean other aspect of life is dead

If its a world cup final, Champions league fina, Superbowl final, NBA finals For most guys only a matter of life and death would make them shift

Some people commit suicide, refuse food or go into depression after the game, So sexy moves at these times might be ignored

And dont turn it to "So football matters more than me" or Choose between football and me" you might be surprised at the response at that point in time

jennykadry:

This has got nothing to do with control. You and the others might say otherwise and deny however you like but you all especially Dayo, will not sit back and allow his wife chat with a friend for 2 hours everyday.

I remember a thread last year or the year before ,where one man threw his wife's phone on the wall and smashed it cos she was always chatting with a friend. Some of the people here playing hide and seek questioned who the woman was chatting with.

What is good for the goose isn't for the gander. Let me hear word abeg

zeefa:


As I said, I will call both party to a meeting on sunday, then I will give the house details on our conclusion. I pray it works, but if things go wrong, I have no choice than to let her go. I respect her a lot & I love her and I don't expect such from a woman that care & love her husband.