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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 2:53pm On Mar 28, 2013
op, it is not right. It could be that you are the one who's reading whats not there. And if that is the case, you would end up making a fool of yourself.

However, if you are suspecting your wife, and you do not have a conclusive evidence yet, i would advice you to protect your self every time she is fvcking you. This is to make sure you dont get infected. You can also talk to her in plane terms and aske her to be honest with you.

What ever she tells you, just take it. This is to make sure, you dont get heart attack. And if she goes on ahead after you have taken her word, then know that she has not decieved you in anyway. She only fooled herself. You can break up with her.

Make sure that you let women know how you handled the situation. This will make it easier for you to get many of them as they would start think "this guy is a nice and rare guy" and as such, they would want to jump on you.

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Afam4eva(m): 2:54pm On Mar 28, 2013
This is one think i was considering doing when i get married but now i feel if you don't trust your spouse 100%, then there's no use to even get married to the person in the first place. Trust your partner the way you would trust your parents and siblings. You won't put a camera in your mother's kitchen to see whether she wants to poison you, so why would you do that to your wife?

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by herseys01: 2:57pm On Mar 28, 2013
Emusan: "I installed a Closed-Circuit Television CCTV in our house without the knowledge of my wife". Fateful husband.

My question now is, is it right or can you do it?
Really? I really doubt if you are "FATEFUL" . You must be cheating, that is why you feel your wife is. I hope she finds out and sues your as's for violating her privacy. You are an excuse for a man. What you do not know wont hurt you. I highly doubt any woman cheating will do it in her own home. Women are better at cheating, cos we think from different perspectives and think futher, men just think about the moment. If you have issues, talk to your wife.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by xynerise: 2:58pm On Mar 28, 2013
Mtcheww! Waste of Money. I would rather buy DSTV and watch cartoon network. undecided. Dont be surprise that after installing it, nothing will happen. Except you want to catch two mice mating. grin

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 2:59pm On Mar 28, 2013
Billyonaire: Yes, very serious. It will eventually happen.
what are we suppose to do then, take it? I cant imagine my wife sleeping with someone else. It is a pic i will shove aside very quickly
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by novakid(m): 2:59pm On Mar 28, 2013
It can be a good idea if its just to monitor the house activities and security purposes, but for infidelity purpose? That's not cool bro sadsadsad ...you're digging a pit of mis-trust in your family...I'm a gadget lover and I plan to spoil my house with gadgets right from the gate to my bedroom with cctvs, remote and voice controlled devices all controlled from a secret control room (known to my wife thogringrin)...but not to spy on my darling sweetheart with infidelity...I see it as a waste of time and energy when your wife could cheat on you outside your home...(Except you want to spy her 24/7 from the satellite undecided )
So brother...love your wife and trust her, do everything it takes to keep your lady glued to you, without leaving the two most important reasons for cheating **Money and S/ex** wink and she would stick to you like nothing else...

Note that...Your wife would find out sooner or later whether its now or in the nearest future and trust me it aint gonna be funny...as your worst fear would become your greatest calamity...
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by AkinDavid2: 3:00pm On Mar 28, 2013
@OP, have you seen a stupeeeed Man? He goes about monitoring his wife. undecided
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 3:04pm On Mar 28, 2013
souldust: what are we suppose to do then, take it? I cant imagine my wife sleeping with someone else. It is a pic i will shove aside very quickly
Just do not bother about such issues.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by GboyegaD(m): 3:05pm On Mar 28, 2013
Emusan: "I installed a Closed-Circuit Television CCTV in our house without the knowledge of my wife". Fateful husband.

My question now is, is it right or can you do it?

Unfortunately, if she was cheating she may be smarter than you not to bring him/them home so you lose. If you know you don't trust her anymore, why not try discuss your fears as it is possible that you are having some complex issues and that is why you are reading meanings to things that you shouldn't.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by 04kaa: 3:08pm On Mar 28, 2013
Akin-David:
@OP, have you seen a stupeeeed Man? He goes about monitoring his wife. undecided

I had to log in to say LOL to this
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 3:12pm On Mar 28, 2013
herseys01:
Really? I really doubt if you are "FATEFUL" . You must be cheating, that is why you feel your wife is. I hope she finds out and sues your as's for violating her privacy. You are an excuse for a man. What you do not know wont hurt you. I highly doubt any woman cheating will do it in her own home. Women are better at cheating, cos we think from different perspectives and think futher, men just think about the moment. If you have issues, talk to your wife.
he doesnt have to cheat to suspect his wife. Maybe his wife is so beautiful.

Maybe she is exibiting some kind of character which, ordinarily a wife shouldnt exibit. Or maybe his wife is actually cheating!

As for what you know not cant hurt you, i disagree totally. What you dont know is the most dangerous. If he doest know, then he isnt going to protect himself against HIV.

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Dreamflyin(m): 3:14pm On Mar 28, 2013
Bro, pls go ahead. People dat signs pre-nup, dnt they trust their partners?
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by danot1030: 3:31pm On Mar 28, 2013
you are suffering from insecurity complex
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by JLANCE(m): 3:33pm On Mar 28, 2013
Lol maybe the wife mah don dey use CCTV on him and he no know
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 3:41pm On Mar 28, 2013
@op. I just feel you're already tired of your wife and you're looking for ways to drive her out. And i'm sure every little thing would be offensive to you. Like if she were just touching her bo.o.bz?! Wicked man!
dick hardener: i wouldn't feel bad. I would take it she's being protective of me.
trash! Protective my left yansh! Be truthful to yourself..you'll definitely feel hurt,. angry
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Eneze1(f): 3:44pm On Mar 28, 2013
dick hardener: i wouldn't feel bad. I would take it she's being protective of me.

really undecided
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by laidback(m): 3:55pm On Mar 28, 2013
souldust: he doesnt have to cheat to suspect his wife. Maybe his wife is so beautiful.

Maybe she is exibiting some kind of character which, ordinarily a wife shouldnt exibit. Or maybe his wife is actually cheating!

As for what you know not cant hurt you, i disagree totally. What you dont know is the most dangerous. If he doest know, then he isnt going to protect himself against HIV.

Very valid point. I don't know why people can't reason like this anymore. See a lot of people saying stuff like, 'you'll find out what you don't like', 'what you don't know won't hurt you' and the likes. He wants to know if there's anything worth finding out before it's too late! Geez, like its ok for your woman/man to cheat as long as you don't know. Is that what humanity has turned to? People don't even see the mistrust inherent in that form of thinking.

Be that as it may I'm not saying CCTV is right because its better to do everything possible to marry a trustworthy wife IN THE FIRST PLACE. But if you ever have genuine reason to suspect your wife (God forbid!) please don't be 'lily livered' and pretend like nothing's happening. Find out. Also, asking her directly, except you're an expert in psycho-analysis and interrogation, isn't going to yield anything. That's why it's called cheating. In fact by the time she's ready to admit it to you, she's already done WITH YOU, except she's genuinely having a change of heart. Of course you can't count on the change of heart bull.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Kgdavid(m): 3:59pm On Mar 28, 2013
Dreamflyin: Bro, pls go ahead. People dat signs pre-nup, dnt they trust their partners?

obviously they dont.

folks shuld not rush into marriage plz. wait and find that special person that has been specifically designed for you. all this nonsense wont be an issue then

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 4:07pm On Mar 28, 2013
U knw...dz trust tn is highly overated.....dts y d commonest sayn aftr discovering an infidelity z "I TRUSTED U"........ Guy protect ur investment.....if u get money, put 4 car, laptop etc....... If u no get....... Hmm... Am nt advicing u to try magun o....

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by charlsecy4(m): 4:10pm On Mar 28, 2013
Tap her mobile line as well for comprehensive cover.

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Fhemmmy: 4:11pm On Mar 28, 2013
charlsecy4: Tap her mobile line, as well for comprehensive cover.

If this is done to me, i will set it up so well that you will see what is not there . . . What is the sense in the marriage if you have to go through this to trust her/him.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by charlsecy4(m): 4:15pm On Mar 28, 2013
Fhemmmy:

If this is done to me, i will set it up so well that you will see what is not there . . . What is the sense in the marriage if you have to go through this to trust her/him.
It seems you didn't understand this is a peculiar case.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Okijajuju1(m): 4:18pm On Mar 28, 2013
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Amigoz(f): 4:30pm On Mar 28, 2013
@op where exactly is this camera(s) going to be? Imagine seeing some innocent peeps getting their freak on, in your living room, might scar u for life, or how will you tell the parents for example not to get their freak on in ur living room whilst they are house sitting ehn?

Just asking ni o

But really y u got to go there? Spying on your wife You giving yourself additional stress, God forbid a 'fateful' husband like you make one mistake and film yourself doing it with the secretary, not knowing your wife is aware of this CCTV and it all backfires

It's ur home and you can do whatever you want, as they say 'start as you mean to go on'. Your family your life.

All the best.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Fhemmmy: 4:38pm On Mar 28, 2013
charlsecy4:
It seems you didn't understand this is a peculiar case.

Yes, i do understand, but will the OP be ready to swallow what he might find?
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by laidback(m): 4:53pm On Mar 28, 2013
Fhemmmy:

Yes, i do understand, but will the OP be ready to swallow what he might find?

Bros no vex o, but this is the reasoning I just don't get.I mean if you're saying don't do it cos its unfair, it suggests insecurity, you really should trust her etc I'll understand. But not no investigate infidelity should there be good enough signs of one, just because 'you may not like what you'll find??' Really? C'mon. Will you like what you'll find, if you catch HIV? Or if the affair - IF there's one - blows open by itself?

I think it's not so good to go about things like this but not because "I may not like what I'll find'. Please if there's something to be found, let it be found O. The sooner the better. See some of us here are speaking from experience o.

This is why I say to Christians pray to God for your spouse, and to do that, you should have a genuine relationship with him, where you can hear his voice. Anyway that's a sermon for another day. When choosing a spouse shine your eyes wella. Leave emotions first. So you won't be in your house with your wife and be thinking of CCTV!!!
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Fhemmmy: 4:55pm On Mar 28, 2013
laidback:

Bros no vex o, but this is the reasoning I just don't get.I mean if you're saying don't do it cos its unfair, it suggests insecurity, you really should trust her etc I'll understand. But not no investigate infidelity should there be good enough signs of one, just because 'you may not like what you'll find??' Really? C'mon. Will you like what you'll find, if you catch HIV? Or if the affair - IF there's one - blows open by itself?

I think it's not so good to go about things like this but not because "I may not like what I'll find'. Please if there's something to be found, let it be found O. The sooner the better. See some of us here are speaking from experience o.

This is why I say to Christians pray to God for your spouse, and to do that, you should have a genuine relationship with him, where you can hear his voice. Anyway that's a sermon for another day. When choosing a spouse shine your eyes wella. Leave emotions first. So you won't be in your house with your wife and be thinking of CCTV!!!

I am not saying dont investigate infidelity, all i am saying is sit with the woman/man and talk to her/him in ways you know truth will be told . . .Besides from the story of the OP, nothing to show that he is sure that the woman was cheating.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 4:56pm On Mar 28, 2013
obadiah777: ERMM NO. BETTER FOR YOU TO HIDE UNDER THE BED grin
Guy, you funny.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by fitzmayowa: 4:57pm On Mar 28, 2013
ebamma: english na your mother tongue abi na english exam dey guy dey write Mr I too know
I tire ooo...everybody dey form English prof here...SMH

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Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Nobody: 4:57pm On Mar 28, 2013
laidback:

Very valid point. I don't know why people can't reason like this anymore. See a lot of people saying stuff like, 'you'll find out what you don't like', 'what you don't know won't hurt you' and the likes. He wants to know if there's anything worth finding out before it's too late! Geez, like its ok for your woman/man to cheat as long as you don't know. Is that what humanity has turned to? People don't even see the mistrust inherent in that form of thinking.

Be that as it may I'm not saying CCTV is right because its better to do everything possible to marry a trustworthy wife IN THE FIRST PLACE. But if you ever have genuine reason to suspect your wife (God forbid!) please don't be 'lily livered' and pretend like nothing's happening. Find out. Also, asking her directly, except you're an expert in psycho-analysis and interrogation, isn't going to yield anything. That's why it's called cheating. In fact by the time she's ready to admit it to you, she's already done WITH YOU, except she's genuinely having a change of heart. Of course you can't count on the change of heart bull.
absolutely correct
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by smartg(m): 5:08pm On Mar 28, 2013
Mr man!, you better go and disconnect that thing before its too late.
Re: Using CCTV Because Of Infidelity, Is It Right? by Fhemmmy: 5:09pm On Mar 28, 2013
smartg :
Mr man!, you better go and disconnect that thing before its too late.

Yes, if he found nothing . . . and the woman is not as bad and he is imagining, the woman will surely walk.

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