carefreewannabe: @mommabear

you repeated twice that you are sure you love EACH OTHER
you seem to be convinced on the one hand that he loves you
but there is a voice of doubt on the other hand

how do you expect people here to help you? some will say, marry him, others, he needs papers and is using you or something like that. you'll be confused at the end.

my advice: listen to yourself!

I think one should be at least 99 % sure before entering a marriage. maybe, you need some more time. how long have you been together? ask yourself.

Mommabear:
You are right there is nothing at all but I work with many African nationals who are totally cool and I met him and things transpired to where they are today! My month in Nigeria was amazing! I saw first hand the hardships and the corruption of the gov't. I wanted a real view of life there not the glitz of the city! But realistically I guess I am setting the stage for emotional destruction! I always asked him why a handsome man did not find a beautiful Nigerian woman , as there are many! He said they want man with money so I guess to get that woman takes hooking up with someone like me , get what he wants then move on!
But being in Nigeria was amazing I unlike others here enjoyed being there

@kenyattaMoore:
op after living your life to the fullest now you want to interfere in that young man life? That's somebody‘s child! !!how would you feel if that was your son? He's only 28 for christ‘a sake! !

carefreewannabe:

come on, he is not a victim here. and at 28 people are considered adults. moreover, his family treats her in a very friendly way.

2buff:

Same way you would treat your son's "employer" in a very friendly way.
You no go wan pour sand for hin garri naw

carefreewannabe:

come on, he is not a victim here. and at 28 people are considered adults. moreover, his family treats her in a very friendly way.

@kenyattaMoore:



I just feel like at 28 he still has life ahead of him why waste it on Mommabear who has lived her life already? Anyway ,I would not want to stress the op.

carefreewannabe:

YOU think he still has life ahead of him. What does HE think? The poster is NOT forcing him, is she?

carefreewannabe:

If it was my son, I would tell the two of them what I think of the union.

@kenyattaMoore:


YOU don't know all the story either, do you?

Morayo747: I hate hustle spoilers.

val_dee:

The feeling is mutual bro.

2buff, gee, Let these two people be.

2buff:

"You hate hustle spoilers"...SMH
Especially when the hustle involves scamming and hurting people.
I no dey follow una with that una logic. I disagree entirely.

If I smell disaster, and a brother or sister is too wrapped up in smoke or mirrors to sense what's possibly at the end of the tunnel, I will introduce reason so the person is not so handicapped by charades.

What the person decides to do then is their choice.

2buff:

"You hate hustle spoilers"...SMH
Especially when the hustle involves scamming and hurting people.
I no dey follow una with that una logic. I disagree entirely.

If I smell disaster, and a brother or sister is too wrapped up in smoke or mirrors to sense what's possibly at the end of the tunnel, I will introduce reason so the person is not so handicapped by charades.

What the person decides to do then is their choice.

overdrive: Mommabear pls kindly link me up wt someone age is all in d mind.if u feel fifty then u are fifty it matters not to me.

carefreewannabe:

So?

hardniola: i beleive d op is a naija person forming.
Nd YORUBA family we never approve ur married if u her older than d guy........even if u are from naija they we never approv d son marring older woman.
If truelly u are canadian watch ur back nd dont come sing to our hear how naija scam uuuuuuu the forum disapprove ur being together or married..........i no some pipo we abuse me but dats just it.

2buff: Wow....I know it might be tough to hear it but...please look out for gentlemen in your area to have a close, meaningful relationship with. Something more "real" that makes sense to the entirety of your being. Spirit, soul and body.

What you have going on here is a fantasy. There are people who specialize in using people with fantasies to achieve realistic ends e.g getting a Canadian PR and getting on with his life without you. It is also going to be a tough sell to Canadian immigration because they see this everyday. You wouldn't be the first.

His family, coworkers, friends, etc could easily show support because having a friend or brother in Canada would benefit them too. Such is the reality of the world madam.

I know it's hard, but I implore you not to let the loneliness get you naive.
I know when operating on this frequency it is hard to remember the consequences, like what you stand to lose after the seemingly expected divorce. I don't know what you have, but it is possible that he will be having a cut of it after it happens.

If none of these matter to you and you just want to experience the ride, then all the best. (I guess it's fun in it's own way )
Keep it real. Peace.

carefreewannabe:

YOU think he still has life ahead of him. What does HE think? The poster is NOT forcing him, is she?

Mommabear:
He chose me! It was his choice

oyinbogirl:


wow this is a really well said and non biased opinion , thumbs up to you!


@ Mommabear, you'd better be careful and heed some of the warnings ppl give here. They know their ppl best, better than you or i

solomon111: @2buff
you are a moronn.
Why are you projecting your negative experiences in someone else's relationship.
Who are you to decide which relationship is ideal,and which is not.?
You don't know them at all,yet you are busy spewing nonsense.
Slowpoke.

solomon111: Most of what he said is bullshitt.
He is very ignorant.
Ignore whatever nonsense he has written.

solomon111: Most of what he said is bullshitt.
He is very ignorant.
Ignore whatever nonsense he has written.