I met this girl, she was showing interest in me and was asking me to take her out, she was even ready to date me because she was deeply in love. But i made a mistake for telling her to cool down for a while since i hate rushing into a relationship. At that moment, i was trying to take my time to study and develope good relationship with her before having any intimacy with her, although i was still taking good Care of her at that same time. Before i knew it, the girl became too close like a sister to me and was fed up since i delayed in dating and taking her out, now she sees me as her own brother and not as a boyfriend any more, so the thought of dating and going out with me now became a taboo. By the time i thought i 've finally studied her and that its time to start dating and going out together, she was no longer interested in dating me. She now want us to continue as brother and sister. I tried all i could to bring her attention back to intimacy but there was no positive respond from her. It was a very big painful experience for me, after all i have done for her, Now i 've been stocked into her friendzone. Pls, should i stop caring for her, since she still comes around me or is there still hope for me?. I nd ur positive answers,pls.

she found a way to eat her cake and have it noni. I think you're just too available ,stable and nice, a little scarcity increases value . relax a bit . create a tiny space. make friends with another girl and let her know about it. if she doesn't try to fill the space nor act jealous then my brother its time to sign out. don't torture yourself. but if she tries to fill the space and is actually jealous of your female friend ,then its time to start your toasting . but make sure your new female friend(s) never leaves the picture. the point is just to show her she does not want to lose you.

stint: she found a way to eat her cake and have it noni. I think you're just too available ,stable and nice, a little scarcity increases value . relax a bit . create a tiny space. make friends with another girl and let her know about it. if she doesn't try to fill the space nor act jealous then my brother its time to sign out. don't torture yourself. but if she tries to fill the space and is actually jealous of your female friend ,then its time to start your toasting . but make sure your new female friend(s) never leaves the picture. the point is just to show her she does not want to lose you.

thanks for that advise, i so much appreciate

smartg :
I tried all i could to bring her attention back to intimacy but there was no positive respond from her.

u want to study the punny now,huh!

Tell your pastor to pray you out.

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person put chocolate for ya mouth u vomit am

Stay there, game over....

guy don't spend money again, what's d use, if she really wanna b a sister den she can still b without d money, at d moment prepare for the worse

nice one from STINT

Finally, he has enter into her friend zone (which is what we call, THE DREADED FRIEND ZONE). The truth is dat You were being too much of a NICE GUY. Onething i discoved is dat,
Girls absolutely love a guy who's nicf. But they definitely don't like a guy who goes overboard in tryin to pls them all the time, especially if they are not in a relationship already. Nice guys make great friends, but terrible lovers. Everytime a girl meets a nice guy, he usually ends up falling straight into her friend zone. So, my advice 4 u is dis: if u really love dis girl, try and engage urself in small conversation with girls,to c if she would warm up 2 u. But if not, call it quit if u cant make her ur frnd, which wil even hurt u d more.

hiden_conyo: u want to study the punny now,huh!

don't know what you are talking abt, but i want you to know that i was the one decided not to rush.

ikechukz: Tell your pastor to pray you out.

this is not a spiritual matter, beside am not unconscious, am only asking for ''what to do'' because the girl still comes me to every time,

Have you talked to her about it?
But sha, u sef...a girl told u she wanted to be ur girlfriend and u were dulling...worrisdat?

smartg :

don't know what you are talking abt, but i want you to know that i was the one decided not to rush.

u were confused(u dull) and she lost interest in u...take hrt man

smartg :
But i made a mistake for telling her to cool down for a while since i hate rushing into a relationship.

Were these your exact words to her? If you tell a girl this, most likely she'll think you're not into her.
Once a woman friendzones you, you'll end up staying there or you've to put in some work to change her mind.

Op, sorry to say o... Guys like u need hot slap to wake up.., ..I was once in a dilemma like this scenario , but d difference is, I wasn't interested in his money, all I wanted was his love and he was behaving as if,I came from mars ... Looking confused.. . .. At that period, I could do anything for him but he wasnt ready and says we shud just be friends with no emotions involved... It hurts , sha but it took like two months to let go... After he noticed I stopped calling and texting, another month later, he called and says he wants a relationship.... I was like? are u ok?... Is this the real you or your twin brother ... He smiled and says he is now ready... I looked at him in disdain, and told him point blank, sorry dude, am dating someonelse nw, who appreciates and cares for me..and there is no hell to the No, am letting this new guy in my life , go..... No way! Read my lips... Nah nah...he felt so hurt, but he caused it ...and i aint looking back! ...no way.....when a diamond drops unto d laps of some guys, they look confused and lost..searching for palm kernel shells..
Move on guy, she is gone... Lick yur wounds and move onto a new bAbe... And dis time, no dulling.

Damn sorry buddy you are now in the friend zone so it is time to move on with ur life

@ op,u dont nid to worry urself.U hav turn to her alhaji bringing bringing and as her new magga,u will forever pay for life.odukwa jackpot nebaa

OP you goofed , take ur L and move on

u took tym to study her? hmmm. dat should be done wen u ve securedher, not before.....

well do u want to be a friend? no? den stop being nice, stop treating her lyk a friend. put some distance, mingle wit oda girls, make her want u again.

der is no guarantee d above ll work, but its worth a try and if u ain't lucky, lick ur wounds and move on and dont forget d lesson: don't treat her lyk a sis if u don't wanna be a bro.

OP you didn't come back to tell us what happened na, its been a long while. what happened. did she gree? what did she say. what did you do. gist us na.

stint: OP you didn't come back to tell us what happened na, its been a long while. what happened. did she gree? what did she say. what did you do. gist us na.

maybe the guy still dey try recover from the heartbreak

Brother/friendzone indeed a terrible place to end

U neva goof if u can use ds
1.stop being nice to her.
2.absence brings respect(ths wrks 4 me).
3.form little vex.
4.bring another chick into ur life.
5.use ur head and nt emotions
6.update ur swag
7.total blanking
8.use push and pull

Valentinooo:

maybe the guy still dey try recover from the heartbreak

lol but i believe with the advise wey we give am that time, hin suppose get testimony

Nicely put

gree-die:
u took tym to study her? hmmm. dat should be done wen u ve securedher, not before.....

well do u want to be a friend? no? den stop being nice, stop treating her lyk a friend. put some distance, mingle wit oda girls, make her want u again.

der is no guarantee d above ll work, but its worth a try and if u ain't lucky, lick ur wounds and move on and dont forget d lesson: don't treat her lyk a sis if u don't wanna be a bro.

gree-die:
u took tym to study her? hmmm. dat should be done wen u ve securedher, not before.....

well do u want to be a friend? no? den stop being nice, stop treating her lyk a friend. put some distance, mingle wit oda girls, make her want u again.

der is no guarantee d above ll work, but its worth a try and if u ain't lucky, lick ur wounds and move on and dont forget d lesson: don't treat her lyk a sis if u don't wanna be a bro.

Did it work out like that for you? I'm curious.

Amelian: Op, sorry to say o... Guys like u need hot slap to wake up.., ..I was once in a dilemma like this scenario , but d difference is, I wasn't interested in his money, all I wanted was his love and he was behaving as if,I came from mars ... Looking confused.. . .. At that period, I could do anything for him but he wasnt ready and says we shud just be friends with no emotions involved... It hurts , sha but it took like two months to let go... After he noticed I stopped calling and texting, another month later, he called and says he wants a relationship.... I was like? are u ok?... Is this the real you or your twin brother ... He smiled and says he is now ready... I looked at him in disdain, and told him point blank, sorry dude, am dating someonelse nw, who appreciates and cares for me..and there is no hell to the No, am letting this new guy in my life , go..... No way! Read my lips... Nah nah...he felt so hurt, but he caused it ...and i aint looking back! ...no way.....when a diamond drops unto d laps of some guys, they look confused and lost..searching for palm kernel shells..
Move on guy, she is gone... Lick yur wounds and move onto a new bAbe... And dis time, no dulling.

Apparently, you're not of the same stock as gree-die.

@op, sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. You don't take people's hearts for granted. If you weren't into her when she was into you and didn't let her in, you ran a real risk of losing her. People aren't nailed-down furniture or trees. If she's no longer available, move on. Unless, of course, she's free of any other relationship, that is. If she isn't, she may not thank you for any confusion you bring into her life now.

Ihedinobi:

Did it work out like that for you? I'm curious.

never treated potential bfs lyk brodas

Dang, this just sucks