True though.

Ugosample:


So that small children of Nairaland will spoil the thread? lol; D

There is no harm in your suggestion, but Nairaland had really degenerated

So this thread never die?? one of my best on NL so far...

esere826:
(Post 6)

Conclusions

Dissecting the theory will be too long for this forum,
so I'll race straight to the conclusion
(U can always refer to the diagram to understand scenarios better)

1) When women are ready to settle down (even when they do not have jobs) their university boyfriends are many times not ready because their graduate job slaries cannot cater for the pair
2) when the bf and gf have both finished university and have jobs, there is a stronger tendency to take the next step into marriage

3) wen ladies have jobs but their bf's dont have, there is a strong tendency for the girls to suddenly start seeing faults in their bf and start looking out for new relationships. Sometimes even cheating
4) Guys that have 'arrived' in Nigeria are most times married
5) Girls because of their inate desire to date upwards have a tendency to cheat with these married guys

6) Guys in their 20's because of their economic emasculation complain that ladies are bitches and gold-diggers
7) Sons of: politicians, top bureacrats and top private sector chiefs have it easier with all category of girls in Nigeria even if theyhave not yet got employment. This is because they represent the higher pecking order that girls desire to date. Thanks to their dads cash, they would already have nice furnished houses, cars and a bright future even while in university

8 ) When your boyfriend travels abroad and you dont yet have a job, U need to be worried because the probability is that except he has a job that can cater for both of you, he will dump u and pick a girl that can complement him there
9) When ur girlfriend travells abroad. The only time u shld be scared is if u dont have a job. Then, she will look out for some other alpha male

10) If ur gf travls abroad, and u both have jobs that pay same rate (all other economic condition being equal), the tendency is also for her to look out for males in the higher order. If she does not find any, she's coming for u.


These are all things that I have observed. Stay blessed

best thesis in NL

gnykelly:


best thesis in NL

2sexyus:

you are lucky reading this

gnykelly:


you are lucky reading this

how?

u This is by far the best thread I have read in Nairaland so far. The op is a genius and other talented contributors as well. lemme park my car here.

Esere, I believe your analysis largely borders on the universal law of economic determinism, which stipulates that the present situation and position of a nation's economy changes and influences other parts of the society, in this case romantic and sexual relationships among its populance.

If you take a look at countries with well developed economy, people make love and relationship decisions basically to meet present "emotional" needs due the fact that their economic needs have been met. They also have the energy to pursue other things like arts, sports, mountain climbing, sky diving, research, gender equality, etc.which inturn affects positively the economy and vis versa as against their counterparts in developing society where survival of the fittest is the norm and decisions on external relationships, not just romance are taken with the idea of meeting and sustaining their economic needs.

My point is that among all the human needs, the economic needs comes first, once this has been met, other needs will arise to be met and this is largely dependant on an individual's pyramid of needs.

That said have you not heard of sit at home dads in other climes, men who prefer taking care of the household while their partner works and both parties are completey fine with the arrangement? Have you also not heard of female dominatrix relationship with a less dominant male? The case of Mariah Carey leaving her rich billionaire boyfriend and falling in love with one of her stage dancer? Or the case of the Korean princess annuling her throne to be with a "waiter" guy? The list goes on bro.

So what you are stating largely borders on economic determinism affecting behaviour and not an isolated human behaviour.

LUCKIE2014:
Esere, I believe your analysis largely borders on the universal law of economic determinism, which stipulates that the present situation and position of a nation's economy changes and influences other parts of the society, in this case romantic and sexual relationships among its populance.

If you take a look at countries with well developed economy, people make love and relationship decisions basically to meet present "emotional" needs due the fact that their economic needs have been met. They also have the energy to pursue other things like arts, sports, mountain climbing, sky diving, research, gender equality, etc.which inturn affects positively the economy and vis versa as against their counterparts in developing society where survival of the fittest is the norm and decisions on external relationships, not just romance are taken with the idea of meeting and sustaining their economic needs.

My point is that among all the human needs, the economic needs comes first, once this has been met, other needs will arise to be met and this is largely dependant on an individual's pyramid of needs.

That said have you not heard of sit at home dads in other climes, men who prefer taking care of the household while their partner works and both parties are completey fine with the arrangement? Have you also not heard of female dominatrix relationship with a less dominant male? The case of Mariah Carey leaving her rich billionaire boyfriend and falling in love with one of her stage dancer? Or the case of the Korean princess annuling her throne to be with a "waiter" guy? The list goes on bro.

So what you are stating largely borders on economic determinism affecting behaviour and not an isolated human behaviour.

in short esere's post just described the abraham maslow's heirachy of needs.
We then need to identify the problem, which is summarised by the topic itself, then proffer solutions in which the end goal is that everyone finds a suitable match.
One woiluld think that in a population of one hundred and eighty million, it wouldnt be so hard.
I think it helps if each party knows what qualities they want in a potential mate. Step 1
scan the population and find most of the qualities in a person. Step 2
Step 3. acquire the soul mate specimen.

I wonder who is liking these old posts...

TheManofTomorrow:
u This is by far the best thread I have read in Nairaland so far. The op is a genius and other talented contributors as well. lemme park my car here.

Hahah. After how many years

Its an old post but the problem still remains fresh. But how come the first anonymous online matchmaking website in Nigeria LostRib.com has more men than women registered and they are all looking for love and serious relationship? See here http://lostrib.com/?afmc=36v. Just saying male lovers might be dwindling but look in the right place and you'll find responsible working loaded men looking for a woman to love. Just my 2 cents.

Ishilove:

Hahah. After how many years

Don't mind me Jare. I just registered on nairaland Nairaland... The thread is so on point. Thumbs up to the insightful and erudite Op.

TheManofTomorrow:
Don't mind me Jare. I just registered on nairaland Nairaland... The thread is so on point. Thumbs up to the insightful and erudite Op.

You're 4 years late

Ishilove:

4 years late

lol. I completed all my education within 3Ominutes yesternight. I'm addicted to good post.

so a thread this good was hiding somewhere in the archives of this moribund section, i almost forgot I was still on nairaland

Ishilove:

Hahah. After how many years

no mind that one o

whew finally! the op is a master analyst, he'll give tim urban a good run for his money

But really, who wants to date and marry a broke girl who isn't bringing anything to the table? ?

OliviaPope:
so a thread this good was hiding somewhere in the archives of this moribund section, i almost forgot I was still on nairaland

O ye late comer, the gods be with you... Thou art lucky to be privileged to see this. For a great tsunami once ravaged this site and lots of data went away with it. Kiss the brethren behind you with a kiss on the forehead and show them this thread. That it may be a sign unto ye and the generations to come. Peace be unto you.