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Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by chris51(f): 1:25pm On May 03, 2013 |
I honestly sympathise with you & your husband. Your relationship before marriage was just infatuation and fun but this is the reality of marriage. We all go thru this stage. I'll be celebrating my 40th next month. If you want to enjoy your sexual life, you must have an open mind. Remove suspicion from your mind. It takes two to tango. Think of those good attributes of his that made you marry him. Count yourself lucky to have been the one he chose to marry out of the girls in his life. Also thank God for the fruit of the womb. Many girls spend years looking for baby, these days. Please forget your earnings. Don't let anybody deceive you. Make it a task that you must enjoy your relationship. Put yourself in the mood. Read relevant magazines,etc. Relationship is reciprocal, pray about it, you will overcome. Goodluck. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by trolling(m): 1:25pm On May 03, 2013 |
Spot on CAMEROONPRIDE: ^^,lmao are u on mission? Her story sounds like someone who has already taken her decision. + she sounds bitter and angry..read again her last paragraph...who cares about her degrees or salary? She can always earn that and still not contribute ( very common about women) |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by zenatta: 1:26pm On May 03, 2013 |
Human angle stories like this, on NL, leave me jaded and weary because I am thrown every which way, to contribute or not. It was beautifully, nay, exquisitely written. Most times, and if its a true story, contributors struggle hopelessly with the language, coming up with treacherous narration. (1) Post-partum depression is the pits. I'm dealing with a case of a woman who hates her infant (female) because she feels her husband loves her baby more. (2). Naturally, a very sensitive partner, would withdraw if spouse is cheating incorrigibly. It must be an additional wonder of the world, that she is intimate, with her husband without a confrontation;(here the story gets wonky). Hope she doesn't stab him.(Story can benefit with this twist) 1 Like |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by chris51(f): 1:27pm On May 03, 2013 |
chris51: I honestly sympathise with you & your husband. Your relationship before marriage was just infatuation and fun but this is the reality of marriage. We all go thru this stage. I'll be celebrating my 40th next month. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by chris51(f): 1:32pm On May 03, 2013 |
I honestly sympathise with you & your husband. Your relationship before marriage was just infatuation and fun but this is the reality of marriage. We all go thru this stage. I'll be celebrating my 40th next month. If you want to enjoy your sexual life, you must have an open mind. Remove suspicion from your mind. It takes two to tango. Think of those good attributes of his that made you marry him. Count yourself lucky to have been the one he chose to marry out of the girls in his life. Also thank God for the fruit of the womb. Many girls spend years looking for baby, these days. Please forget your earnings. Don't let anybody deceive you. Make it a task that you must enjoy your relationship. Put yourself in the mood. Read relevant magazines,etc. Relationship is reciprocal, pray about it, you will overcome. Goodluck. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nobody: 1:34pm On May 03, 2013 |
Op. Go and watch ur weight first. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by nattymallam: 1:38pm On May 03, 2013 |
sir mally: He truly doesn't deserve you, if he could be this wicked because of sex how much more when you don't have a job and rely on him, my sister if he is still cheating run while u have the chance before he would give you aids and spoil your futureThe next thing you will aivce her to cheat on him or seek divorce, God is watching you |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by JahMan1: 1:41pm On May 03, 2013 |
Wizee: Oga Relax!!Why should he relax? why do you guys get uncomfortable with giving your life to Jesus? Don't you get it? At the end of everything in this life,that is all that matters? Please give your life to Jesus Christ. "Except ye repent,ye will all likewise perish" |
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Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nobody: 1:43pm On May 03, 2013 |
WOMAN WAT U JUST TOLD US SIT UR HUSBAND DOWN AND REPEAT THEM TO HIM, I NO HE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE IMMEDIATELY, BUT WHAT WILL MAKE BOTH OF U REALISE UR WORTH RIGHT NOW IS A BREAK, BOTH OF U NEED A BREAK, AS A WOMAN IF U LOSSE UR SEX U WILL LOSSE D GAME. D NO 1 THING WE WANT IN A WOMAN IS SEX NOT UR DEGREES OR MONEY |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by poshqueen(f): 1:45pm On May 03, 2013 |
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Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by crisycent: 1:46pm On May 03, 2013 |
You are a woman and your NL handle is PacificGuy ? |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by janedoe(f): 1:56pm On May 03, 2013 |
It's quite annoying when a man cheats and his wife is understandably upset and is venting only to be told she failed at her duties as a wife. Who got the lady in question pregnant? An alien ?Instead of running around stabbing every hole in sight with his penis, how about try to understand the changes she is going through, let her know he still thinks she is beautiful and help her around the house like a husband should and see how fast he will get some from her. Geesh! 2 Likes |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nobody: 1:59pm On May 03, 2013 |
I DONT KNOW ABT YALL BUT FRANKLY IM TIRED OF THIS BULLSHIT AT THESE SOB STORIES ABT MARRIAGE GONE BAD WTF R WE SUPPOSED 2 DO?! KILL THAT NIGGA? U SHOULDA THOT ABT THAT B4 U SAID I DO |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by spartanian(m): 2:02pm On May 03, 2013 |
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Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by chlowi(f): 2:06pm On May 03, 2013 |
Hmmmm, firstly I want you to check urself properly, see ur flaws and reticfy it . secondly , ill recommend that you sit ur man down and have a heart to heart talk with him , if he is remorseful and ready to change and be d man u once loved deeply pls forgive and make ur marriage work ....see how that goes , BUT if after such heart to heart talks he still continues in it , and u feel u deserve better , well ma dear marriage no be do or die matter , its nt working its nt working get d hell out bfor one of u wd poison d other |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nnannanzewi(m): 2:09pm On May 03, 2013 |
Love your husband and intercede earnestlty for hoim in prayer,he will surely come home! |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by druid06(m): 2:17pm On May 03, 2013 |
Or maybe you're just crazy and paraniod.. Happens everytime with women who are pregnant. The hormones tend to make them psychotic. The unclad pictures of women on his phone might just be nude models your husband uses to releases his stress if you know what I mean since you're pregnant. Also, it's not uncommon for men to come back home late at night. Just because he's married shouldn't be a determining factor for his stopping him social life or hanging out with his buddies. You're just paraniod OP. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by bblacky(f): 2:21pm On May 03, 2013 |
Nashville: You re ?so right! There ar two sides to a story, her hubby might aswell have his own explanations to make. @op! You need to check on yourself and find out how this all started and from whom! |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by PrincessAmaka(f): 2:24pm On May 03, 2013 |
U were not wise enough, u would have foresaw all these....U compromised, u never truly loved ur husband b4 jumping into marriage with him.... |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nobody: 2:24pm On May 03, 2013 |
@o said in another thread she is a mistress and u guys r killing urselves here! Una no sabi wetin be copy and paste! He (sorry)she must be laughing in swahili now! |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nobody: 2:27pm On May 03, 2013 |
ideal94: Solution: Holy shiiiit Dude, take it easy |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nobody: 2:31pm On May 03, 2013 |
@Nashville, i will not disagree with you less. I have not met a person on nairaland that will say it the way he heard it especially from the poster. But i want to say that it might be a reaction after weighing all the reasons that could lead to it. @Poster, please be sincere with us, When you were pregnant did you make love making a tiresome experience. Before you got pregnant and after you got pregnant was the satisfaction same or you reduce your performance because of the way you feel. 2ndly. did you explain your mood to your husband when you were pregnant. I asked because if you decide to change because you were pregnant and he is getting tempted outside, he will surely go for it outside. Even paul the Apostle said that we should not deprive ourselves unless for a short time so that we can give in to fasting and go back to it so that we don't get tempted. What you just told us is good to hear. say it same way to your husband, don't put the "i earn 3 times more than him, 2 degrees and a good job thing in" and see how he responds to it. don't look at him less because the devil can tempt anybody if you are not on your guard. And give your life to Jesus and pray for Him. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Nobody: 2:45pm On May 03, 2013 |
PacificGuy: I need honest and constructive advice from my Beloved Nairalanders. I have been married for a little over a year now. In the earlier years of our relationship, it seemed as though we shared similar values (still does sometimes) but must importantly, even though I loved him desperately, I knew he loved me even more. Barely a couple of months into our marriage, I fell pregnant. Though it was a fairly easy pregnancy compared to most other horrible experiences I've come across, I was left with zero sex drive. I'd always be quite fit and beautiful but the pregnancy made me feel permanently ill and unattractive and this affected my desire for sex. Despite this, I kept at it knowing fully well that there was another person with needs and desires to be met. Sex stopped being as frequent as before - but it was there. ...if at all all you said here is the one and only truth, and you had been this good, then accept my sympathy and prayer...very pathetic I must confess...men shaa.....sighs.... now try this: on a very smooth day when you both are in good mood and terms, call him out to a very quiet corner or location in your home...tell him that you want a divorce... His reactions. If he is tired of you and really had been planning to get rid of you: fine, if that's what you want. My advice- seek for urgent divine solution or prepare for the worst. If he had been doing the aforementioned things ignorantly or helplessly: oh my God! Why homey Please I am sorry, it hasn't gotten to that extent pls....etc....etc.... My advice: draw him closer to God through a strong man of God. If he is under another woman's spell: I don't care....whatever, go to court or pack your things now! There is fire on the mountain....seek for divine help.... Note: if he truly values you, despite the fact that he's cheating, if you announce divorce, he would be so freaked out, scared and his senses will most likely come back immediately.... Alternatively, through your pastor (a good one, proven to be a true man of God) draw him closer to God and all these will be a thing of the past....no doubt....sex is highly addictive, in fact, it is the strongest spell after money....and I can boldly tell you that your husband is under the spell of multiple sex life and don't be surprised that majority of other men both here and beyond are also under the same spell....so seek for God's help ASAP! There must be a solution, don't give up!!!! Good luck sister.... |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by olumidazz: 2:46pm On May 03, 2013 |
Well, the direction of your story only tells me in my mind that you are trying to justify that you are better than your husband and he obviously knows this fact. I really do need to read very much more of your stories for me to tell the kind of couple you are. African men for who we are have a very salient way showing our proud and over pampered wives that despite all the degrees and 3riple salary you earn, he is still the man. I bet you expect him to be submissive cos you are better than him or more educated as a result your marriage to him out of pity, or do you think he did not realise he was your only choice left especially after been dumped by seeming men of your likes? Its your deal girl so stay in the marriage and face the rumba. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by dayokanu(m): 2:49pm On May 03, 2013 |
E get as e be |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Ezemmuo1: 2:54pm On May 03, 2013 |
PacificGuy: I need honest and constructive advice from my Beloved Nairalanders. I have been married for a little over a year now. In the earlier years of our relationship, it seemed as though we shared similar values (still does sometimes) but must importantly, even though I loved him desperately, I knew he loved me even more. Barely a couple of months into our marriage, I fell pregnant. Though it was a fairly easy pregnancy compared to most other horrible experiences I've come across, I was left with zero sex drive. I'd always be quite fit and beautiful but the pregnancy made me feel permanently ill and unattractive and this affected my desire for sex. Despite this, I kept at it knowing fully well that there was another person with needs and desires to be met. Sex stopped being as frequent as before - but it was there.are you not the same 1 that was telling us how you found peace having frequent sex outside to pay your husband back for cheating on you? |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by dnawah(m): 2:55pm On May 03, 2013 |
My sister ur solution is not here.it is in heaven,just bend ur kneels small and pray.God will surely bring ur man back. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Ezemmuo1: 2:59pm On May 03, 2013 |
Nashville: You may not like my advice, but I honestly do not think you should have married him. You should ask yourself why you married him. Was he cheating before marriage - be truthful? Were you getting older and desperate?GBAM! |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by kaybest1: 3:00pm On May 03, 2013 |
to be candid with you, i have red many comments but i can say nobody has given you a good counsel. may be i should say this kind of issue will not be properly address here. counselors did any one of you read this? Barely a couple of months into our marriage, I fell pregnant. Though it was a fairly easy pregnancy compared to most other horrible experiences I've come across, I was left with zero sex drive. I'd always be quite fit and beautiful but the pregnancy made me feel permanently ill and unattractive and this affected my desire for sex. Despite this, I kept at it knowing fully well that there was another person with needs and desires to be met. Sex stopped being as frequent as before - but it was there. Dear sister by yourself you push your husband out, even dou you need prayer to get him fully committed to you, it just 10% cos God will not come down and help to satisfy your husband urge for good sex, as you use to do b4 pregnancy. categorically i just warned my wife of the implication if she allow me to fall prey for those merciless girls out there it will be dangerous, even though she is yet pregnant but always too tired for sex. but i sum courage relate the problem my vulnerable who counsel us and make her see reasons, we should denied our self sex. so my sister is not too late just value your home, see the kind of you use to see together with b4 d mariage, see anybody can tell you anything but two things count; 1 you the one with the vision 2 you are to run the vision, my question now is what is your vision let it be your drive. sex is one thing that couple cannot over emphasized, it cement the relationship and draw you nearer and nearer. i was red about a women husband was once minister a prof can't recollect the name now. the woman in her testimony said- one day her was to office and she discovered that a he left his glass or something on the dining, so she picked and headed to garage while the husband was busy searching pocket at that point she got there the husband was some condom he brought out of pocket. they both gazed at each other but she said she never raise an eyebrow rather she encourage to go to work. then she said to herself she is not getting it right. so she made up her mind that every morning b4 he left house for any where he must take sex dose. and my sister it work for her. no replacement for sex in life don't you know, seek for his forgiveness and am sure he will apologies too. retrace yourself back to the old days give it your husband the way he want it. children should not come between you and your husband. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by God4memi: 3:17pm On May 03, 2013 |
Pls my dear sister. Here is my counsel:see your pastor. The man of GOD that can counsel d 2 of u. Stay blessed. |
Re: My Skin Crawls When My Husband Touches Me (help!) by Koolking(m): 3:17pm On May 03, 2013 |
imperiouxx: This pacificguy is a man trying to impose a woman, well what about trying this: lmao...wtf. Are they in the spirit or at aerobics, why are they not on leotards? Hahahahahahahah, very funny gif |
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