Siena:

When a guy cheats on his wife constantly, and isn't even discreet about it, that means he's past caring, and has no respect for his wife. In most cases, the husband wants the wife to initiate the divorce, so he'll come up smelling of roses.

That way, he'll be seen as the victim, and the wife as the monster who dared divorce her husband.

Divorce is much better than a loveless marriage, it's not taboo, it's reality. These two should go their separate ways, before the relationship becomes destructive. There's a child to consider too, and such a relationship is far from healthy.

mrvictor:

Divorce is not the solution, my sister.
Your child will forever be a bond between you and that man.
First of all, you have to open your mind. You have the keys to the solution and none else.

Communication is the wall between the two of you.
Create the mood. Have a heart to heart talk with your man.
Don' hate him, love him. Initiate an open-minded conversation with him and not confrontation.
He is not a devil just as you are not. He loves loving and being loved just like you. "Men are like babies, don't forget"

Create the mood.
Find out why he got got into that lifestyle. You might be shocked to find out you created more than half the problem your are now experiencing. You still can solve it.

Did/Do you make him comfortable or uncomfortable around you? Get him to talk and enjoy himself around you.

What have you told him in the past? ...how earn more than he does?...how you feed and house him?
...Men hate being run down no matter their status.
...Men don't like being told they are worth less than real men.
A man, no matter how small he is (even a 3year old boy) naturally doesn't like being told he is not man enough. Such mentions are easy ways to quietly send your man away from you and get him into trying to prove his worth in anyway possible.

You might have deprived him of seexx which a very dangerous action in marriage, but nonetheless, it is not too late to fix.

Who do you talk to? Have you involved wrong friends that will rather suggest things that will destroy your home while they sit back, watch and laugh at you?

You need to read books and develop yourself so that you can handle him better. Try some helpful books like "Why You behave the way you do", "Opposites Attract(bringing out the best in your spouse's temperament)" by Tim Lahaye, Heart to Heart; the art of communication, Men are from Venus Women are from Mars, etc.

Is he now avoiding you? Men are known to be less confrontational than women. They tend to run away from troubles while a woman naturally would stand to confront, fight, whine, cry and nag. Please, don't ever chase him away. Make him welcome. I tell you that man will kneel & apologize someday soon. You will get your man back.

Don't hate him ... Go get your man back! He is yours! You deserve to enjoy your marriage.
Make it work! No one else can make it work but you.
Even friends have their own headaches too to sort out.
Even the couples you think are doing great, have their own issues but resolve it afterall.


Above all, prayer is the master key.

mrvictor:

Divorce is not the solution, my sister.
Your child will forever be a bond between you and that man.
First of all, you have to open your mind. You have the keys to the solution and none else.

Communication is the wall between the two of you.
Create the mood. Have a heart to heart talk with your man.
Don' hate him, love him. Initiate an open-minded conversation with him and not confrontation.
He is not a devil just as you are not. He loves loving and being loved just like you. "Men are like babies, don't forget"

Create the mood.
Find out why he got got into that lifestyle. You might be shocked to find out you created more than half the problem your are now experiencing. You still can solve it.

Did/Do you make him comfortable or uncomfortable around you? Get him to talk and enjoy himself around you.

What have you told him in the past? ...how earn more than he does?...how you feed and house him?
...Men hate being run down no matter their status.
...Men don't like being told they are worth less than real men.
A man, no matter how small he is (even a 3year old boy) naturally doesn't like being told he is not man enough. Such mentions are easy ways to quietly send your man away from you and get him into trying to prove his worth in anyway possible.

You might have deprived him of seexx which a very dangerous action in marriage, but nonetheless, it is not too late to fix.

Who do you talk to? Have you involved wrong friends that will rather suggest things that will destroy your home while they sit back, watch and laugh at you?

You need to read books and develop yourself so that you can handle him better. Try some helpful books like "Why You behave the way you do", "Opposites Attract(bringing out the best in your spouse's temperament)" by Tim Lahaye, Heart to Heart; the art of communication, Men are from Venus Women are from Mars, etc.

Is he now avoiding you? Men are known to be less confrontational than women. They tend to run away from troubles while a woman naturally would stand to confront, fight, whine, cry and nag. Please, don't ever chase him away. Make him welcome. I tell you that man will kneel & apologize someday soon. You will get your man back.

Don't hate him ... Go get your man back! He is yours! You deserve to enjoy your marriage.
Make it work! No one else can make it work but you.
Even friends have their own headaches too to sort out.
Even the couples you think are doing great, have their own issues but resolve it afterall.


Above all, prayer is the master key.

mu2sa2: It's her money that's making her feel too big. Pregnancy is a difficult time for any woman, but it's not an excuse to tell off her husband. You can see the effect of that now!

bukatyne:

How can you talk like this?

Don't you know it's 'normal' for a married man to get it outside when his pregnant wife is not feeling it?

Have you forgotten our culture so soon?

I will drag you back from obodo and wash your head in river osun so that all these foreign concept you have like divorce (tufiakwa!) will comot from your head!

I yam desperately waiting for the advice these same people will give when a wife is cheating on her hubby because he's stressed or sick.

I would like to believe you're simply jiving here .

If a wife or husband cheats on their partner, because their partner is ill and not up to it, then they're better off apart. Your spouse is more than simply a séxual object, if séx was all one was after, they wouldn't need to get married to get their fix, would they?

If my wife cheated on me, I would serve her with divorce papers so fast, her head would spin. I don't condone cheating, and don't give second chances, end of. Marriage isn't compulsory.

Siena:

I would like to believe you're simply jiving here .

If a wife or husband cheats on their partner, because their partner is ill and not up to it, then they're better off apart. Your spouse is more than simply a séxual object, if séx was all one was after, they don't need to get married to get their fix, do they?

If my wife cheated on me, I would serve her with divorce papers so fast, her head would spin. I don't condone cheating, and don't give second chances, end of. Marriage isn't compulsory.

Seun: The fact that you feel the need to threaten your wife about this is worrying.

CAMEROONPRIDE: ^^ she was being sarcastic lol, Chilax

hairyman:

Did you fighting solve your problem? No it didn't. Most likely it aggravated the situation. You were lucky he fell into a dire condition and was curtailed and like most men do when they are in trouble, ran back into your arms. As a matter of fact, he may start cheating again since the problem was never solved.
@OP please do not seek advice here
Shalom

bukatyne:
Hi my friend,

How is Cameroon this afternoon?

CAMEROONPRIDE:

Safe..no feminists

Seun:

The fact that you feel the need to threaten your wife about this is worrying.

CAMEROONPRIDE:

Marriage is not for everyone.

Opening your legs is a duty, esp when your marriage is endangered, your lots can open their legs for BlackBerry or promotions but want to tell us that they can open their legs for their husband? So the dude was supposed to starve during 9months because madam is not in the mood to b intimaten.
Anywayc at least he didn't "rape" her.

Again marriage is not for everyone you can deny me something and except that I won't look for another way to have it.

everyday: Girl,You have nothing to worry about.The worst thing for you to do is to divorce your husband and leave scars in the lives of your children.I will advice you to keep your home in one piece

sultanemerald:
That's not a response. Its in her own words. She said all these. Someone who claims her. Husband loves her. How come she brought in career and all. And let me say, if a pregnancy brings sadness to a married woman, something is wrong somewhere. Children at least in our culture are the joys of womanhood.

Lexoria:



May Thunder strike you there.You think marrying a wife automatically means you have a intimacy gadget right....Marriage is not for everyone and especially you.With this ur thought process I 'm sure you never think of satisfying hour woman.May ur wife cheat on you a million times since you support this randy goat cheating on his wife because she is carrying their baby and the effect it has on her is loss of sec drive.Girls please you had better start looking well before you leap when it comes to marriage.This one here now will also get married to an unfortunate lady.....ooooh

CAMEROONPRIDE:
Wish u the same x1000 may your husband cheat on you and give you Aids when you refuse him sex. Go read some psychology or ask marriage counselors.they will tell u in marriage you don't mess with sex.period

CAMEROONPRIDE:
Wish u the same x1000 may your husband cheat on you and give you Aids when you refuse him sex. Go read some psychology or ask marriage counselors.they will tell u in marriage you don't mess with sex.period

biolabee:

Agree you dont mess with the conjugal duties in marriage but in pregnancy things get different
It does not justify you using it as an excuse to have an affair.

Lexoria:


don't mind the lil boy,anything to have an affair,"my wife doesn't finish cooking on time(thats when she gets home from work).Cheat on her!My wife is working.Cheat on her!The kids are not so pretty.Cheat on her! Etc etc....he will find any reason to cheat on his wife.HELL AWAITS HIM!!

CAMEROONPRIDE: ^^^ blah blah blah

My wife won't refuse sex in the first place ...

Lexoria:

Yes of course or u'll threaten her with divorce or with cheating on her or even beat her up then rape her.

LADIES BEWARE OF THIS TYPE,Na them they kill their wife and cut into pieces o and then claim insanity.

CAMEROONPRIDE:

AIDS awaits you