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Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by UyiIredia(m): 7:02pm On May 28, 2013 |
Unimke_Ak: NEVER !!!!!!!!!!! And why should a married man cheat, you chauvunist. Aksi note that despite cultural norms, married women still cheat. Unimke_Ak: Also I think a child can live with and come to terms with the fact that his father sleeps around but for a woman the child won't be able to handle it, as our igbo brothers would say "MBANOR" "NOO". A very foolish statement. I'll use myself as an example. My Dad decided to get another wife when my mum became a Christian_he was pagan. Whether or not he slept with this woman before he married her is not my concern, fact is it was an extra-marital affair, possibly involving adultery. My mum told us. Was I bothered ? Yes. I was concerned it would break up the marriage, it almost did. This is not to talk of the fact that you fail to give reason(s) for why childfen can accept adultery by husbands but not wives. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:02pm On May 28, 2013 |
Most men are so hypocritical. Wow. "Forgive the man Don't forgive the woman." Anyway if you guyz like dance around the issue.play with it.try to colorize it,the fAct remains that what you give is what you get.simple as ABC.law of karma. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by precyjewell(f): 7:04pm On May 28, 2013 |
What will even make a woman to start sleepin around?its never in a woman's world to sleep around after marriage.for a married woman to be sleepn around,it means that she is promiscious and if the husband catches her nd forgives her,it won't stop her from infidelity. 1 Like |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by nenergy(m): 7:07pm On May 28, 2013 |
albridge: Is there a place for christian forgiveness in such a case?The bible encourages forgiveness,but also 'allowes' divorce based on adultery. I value loyalty more than love. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by oyin50(f): 7:08pm On May 28, 2013 |
dealslip:the fact is i really do not give a damn if Op forgives his wife or not. That's his perogative however the crux here is as a woman it is just filthy swinging the legs open for a random man. If u must pls cut ties from ur hubby via divorce. And pls lets stop all these goose gander stories. It validates immorality. If a man cheats goodluck to him, i wouldn't swim in the pool of filth because men are. Whatever happened to self-discipline. Se..x is not food for christ sake. Like someone interestingly puts it CHEAP THRILLS 4 Likes |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by UluemeFrank(m): 7:10pm On May 28, 2013 |
Why did you refer to Christians? Is christianity only the religion on earth? Ok what does you muslims teach about such a disasterous act? |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by DGREATBISHOP: 7:13pm On May 28, 2013 |
i will 4give her,but never to trust her again. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by badesco(m): 7:14pm On May 28, 2013 |
Yes forgive, but should get rid of her immediately if not he should expect the worst after. Adulterous wife is equal to a killer. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by mach7(m): 7:19pm On May 28, 2013 |
why is it that a lot of ladies are pushing the issue of forgiveness? are u having plans of cheating on ur spouses? well that said, i av to say that to forgive is good, but to forgive and let go(divorce) is even better. dis is to save u frm future 'SINS' |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by zentarr(m): 7:19pm On May 28, 2013 |
Matthew briggs: I will forgive But Seek a Divorce. My trust and love dies automatically on finding out. I will not forgive for whatever reason. She becomes poo (past tense) to me when I find out |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:21pm On May 28, 2013 |
oyin50: I swear if all these chicks receive the hit from men i receive. They'd gone gaga with tonnes of men. Keep urselves abeg especially if married.like you're miss universe.please check other peoples profile pics before you start classifying yourself as the most sought after.cos I'm sure you ain't.and definitely the class of men who come after you matters.real polished and classy men don't fall for a woman who let's herself be walked over and pushed around.they love women with spirit,who don't take nonsense from low class scumbags.topshot men love a woman who can keep them inline.they love a woman whom the thought of her and everything about her keeps them from running after every dirty punny on the street. Trust me on this.I know. Cos I've got such a man. PEACE 1 Like |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by obyrich(m): 7:22pm On May 28, 2013 |
bukatyne:LWKMD. Your god hates divorce very much, treats an adulterer kindly and recommends that fornication should be the only acceptable ground for divorce by married couple. What a contrast! What a god! 1 Like |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:25pm On May 28, 2013 |
lorretta u: like you're miss universe.please check other peoples profile pics before you start classifying yourself as the most sought after.cos I'm sure you ain't.and definitely the class of men who come after you matters.real polished and classy men don't fall for a woman who let's herself be walked over and pushed around.they love women with spirit,who don't take nonsense from low class scumbags.topshot men love a woman who can keep them inline.they love a woman whom the thought of her and everything about her keeps them from running after every dirty punny on the street.DID THE MAN BUY YOU THAT HORSE HAIR ON YOUR HEAD IN THE PIC JK 1 Like |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:26pm On May 28, 2013 |
I can forgive if she can give reasons why she did it, promise and guarantee she will never do it again. That I can forgive without even looking back at what happened before, as in forget. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Matthewbriggs(m): 7:26pm On May 28, 2013 |
lorretta u: like you're miss universe.please check other peoples profile pics before you start classifying yourself as the most sought after.cos I'm sure you ain't.and definitely the class of men who come after you matters.real polished and classy men don't fall for a woman who let's herself be walked over and pushed around.they love women with spirit,who don't take nonsense from low class scumbags.topshot men love a woman who can keep them inline.they love a woman whom the thought of her and everything about her keeps them from running after every dirty punny on the street. Checked your profile pic. you make sense, your man is Lucky. . But no insulting oyin50 she is saying the right thing 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Chynx(m): 7:32pm On May 28, 2013 |
armyofone: Yes, forgive.This is a very biased response. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by UyiIredia(m): 7:36pm On May 28, 2013 |
lorretta u: like you're miss universe.please check other peoples profile pics before you start classifying yourself as the most sought after.cos I'm sure you ain't.and definitely the class of men who come after you matters.real polished and classy men don't fall for a woman who let's herself be walked over and pushed around.they love women with spirit,who don't take nonsense from low class scumbags.topshot men love a woman who can keep them inline.they love a woman whom the thought of her and everything about her keeps them from running after every dirty punny on the street. Sincerely speaking, I threw my head back in laughter when I saw the profile pic of this poster. Those eyes ROFL. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by oyin50(f): 7:36pm On May 28, 2013 |
lorretta u: like you're miss universe.please check other peoples profile pics before you start classifying yourself as the most sought after.cos I'm sure you ain't.and definitely the class of men who come after you matters.real polished and classy men don't fall for a woman who let's herself be walked over and pushed around.they love women with spirit,who don't take nonsense from low class scumbags.topshot men love a woman who can keep them inline.they love a woman whom the thought of her and everything about her keeps them from running after every dirty punny on the street.i just checked u would pass for a beauty peagant miss high class |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Princesszoe: 7:39pm On May 28, 2013 |
Saolab you cannot divorce if you have been unfaithful to your wife except if you have made restitution in which if that is the case, you will forgive her the first time out of the reason that you were once unfaithful. Bible never gave that instruction in matthew 19 vs 9 to adulterous men but faithful men that was why they said "if the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry". Coming to your second question. If you are a good and pratical christian you wouldn't have asked me that question. In the beginning God made them man and woman. Adam and eve and not adam, eve and evangeline. That alone should tell you the original plan of God. Apart from deuetromy 17 vs 17; 1 timothy 3 verses 12: Almost all the instructions given by God on marriage grounds throughout the new tastament were based on one man, one wife ideology. Ephesians 5 verses 28 reads HE that loveth his WIFE (not wives) loveth himself; verses 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, shall be joined unto his WIFE(not wives) and they TWO(not three) shall be one flesh; verses 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his WIFE(not wives) even as himself and the WIFE(not wives) see that SHE(not they) reverence HER(not their) husband. I have quoted enough. The scripture says something about some men "perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth.....i hope you are not one of them. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by obyrich(m): 7:43pm On May 28, 2013 |
oyin50: the fact is i really do not give a damn if Op forgives his wife or not. That's his perogative however the crux here is as a woman it is just filthy swinging the legs open for a random man. If u must pls cut ties from ur hubby via divorce. And pls lets stop all these goose gander stories. It validates immorality. If a man cheats goodluck to him, i wouldn't swim in the pool of filth because men are. Whatever happened to self-discipline. Se..x is not food for christ sake. Like someone interestingly puts it CHEAP THRILLSAnother rational human being with active conscience.What some people do not know is that their children and younger ones will one day go through what they are busy uploading on this forum today. Whatever post one makes here is one's own way of contributing to the collective morality of the society. Once again thank you for not being economical with the truth. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by redsun(m): 7:43pm On May 28, 2013 |
obadiah777: DID THE MAN BUY YOU THAT HORSE HAIR ON YOUR HEAD IN THE PIC JK That is harsh coming from amargeddom preacher like you.Even though the horse hair thing may be right. I think black women should do away with wigs in order to restore their human dignities and beauties. 1 Like |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by oyin50(f): 7:44pm On May 28, 2013 |
obadiah77this is so not not nice. Damn!!!! U r mean |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Matthewbriggs(m): 7:46pm On May 28, 2013 |
Princess zoe: Saolab you cannot divorce if you have been unfaithful to your wife except if you have made restitution in which if that is the case, you will forgive her the first time out of the reason that you were once unfaithful. Bible never gave that instruction in matthew 19 vs 9 to adulterous men but faithful men that was why they said "if the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry". Coming to your second question. If you are a good and pratical christian you wouldn't have asked me that question. In the beginning God made them man and woman. Adam and eve and not adam, eve and evangeline. That alone should tell you the original plan of God. Apart from deuetromy 17 vs 17; 1 timothy 3 verses 12: Almost all the instructions given by God on marriage grounds throughout the new tastament were based on one man, one wife ideology. Ephesians 5 verses 28 reads HE that loveth his WIFE (not wives) loveth himself; verses 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, shall be joined unto his WIFE(not wives) and they TWO(not three) shall be one flesh; verses 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his WIFE(not wives) even as himself and the WIFE(not wives) see that SHE(not they) reverence HER(not their) husband. I have quoted enough. The scripture says something about some men "perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth.....i hope you are not one of them. Are you trying to use bible to make us not divorce an adulterous woman... Damit, unfaithful or not faithful. if she commits adultery one can divorce her.. My bible supports it. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by obyrich(m): 7:49pm On May 28, 2013 |
Matthew briggs:Check oyin's picture and comment. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:50pm On May 28, 2013 |
plaetton:my character is such that I can be unpleasantly blunt if the situation needs.so I'm not going to sugar coat this. I THINK YOU'RE A BIG HYPOCRITE. I hope I'm wrong.for the sake of the unfortunate woman who is or will end up as your wife. Come to our health centre,I'll show you priviledged statistics of women who have been infected with the deadly HIV virus from their philandering husbands because they think God gave them a divine right to fvck any woman that catches their fancy.I just keep wondering why he didn't give them divine protection against std's too.did you knw that there's no shade of grey in God's word?it's either white or black.anD he won't bend his laws to satisfy your randy d*ck Adultery is bad.Man or Woman. Pls get that into your twisted mind. 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:53pm On May 28, 2013 |
redsun:LISTEN HERE BROTHER. WE ARE ALL BROTHERS AND SISTERS. WE ARE A NATION OF PEOPLE. BLACK PEOPLE THAT IS. AND IF I WAS BEING PRIDEFUL I WOULD APPRECIATE IF SOMEONE PUT ME IN MY PLACE. ITS FOR THE GOOD OF THE COMMUNITY. A PRIDEFUL WOMAN OR MAN RUNNING AROUND HAS A WAY OF REVERBERATING AND AFFECTING THE WHOLE COMMUNITY. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Matthewbriggs(m): 7:53pm On May 28, 2013 |
obyrich: I just did... she make mad sense... she is an "asan'wa Baby" 2 Likes |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by undisputednesta(m): 7:54pm On May 28, 2013 |
armyofone: Yes, forgive.but d same gud book provides d basis 4 divorce wich is adultery. Don't try to pull a fast one cos dat statement u quoted was meant 4 d pharisee |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:55pm On May 28, 2013 |
Yes, on a good reason. Run, for a bad reason. So, it all depends on the reason behind the adultery. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Nobody: 7:59pm On May 28, 2013 |
oyin50: i just checked u would pass for a beauty peagant miss high classhey don't get it wrong.it's not a contest or whatever.I didn't even look at your pic so whatever you look like I don't know.not my biz anyway. I'm just saying those ladies were trying to talk some sense and you came out with how many men are after you and how they'd lose it if they were in your shoes.WTF? What lady doesn't have her fair share of male admirers.so coming here to post that as if you have more self control than other ladies here is what I see as demeaning.pls don't talk down on your fellow ladies.it's a big world out here.you don't know who's who.and that was petty of you. Some dudes aren't happy I bashed the only woman giving them moral support.sorry but my stand remains the same @OYIN50;I just hope you don't compromise on this issue of man and woman faithfulness,cos u might end up a victim.seen it happen a lot. The same yardstick Should be used in judging both. 7 Likes |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by obyrich(m): 8:02pm On May 28, 2013 |
lorretta u: my character is such that I can be unpleasantly blunt if the situation needs.so I'm not going to sugar coat this.This is the gospel truth. Anyone who feels they are too cute, rich, intelligent, connected, celebrated etc to keep faith in marriage should not venture into it all. Marriage is not compulsory. I think it is more embarrassing to be caught in the adultery scandal and its attendant risks than to remain unmarried. |
Re: Should A Husband Forgive An Adulterous Wife? by Reference(m): 8:03pm On May 28, 2013 |
alutacontinua: My own problem still lies in the fact that if a man were to be caught cheating, the story changes! No. He will be called goat, dog and the lot. We know them even on this forum, hypocrites. They know how to quote bible today. Let's keep this thread on ice till the man gets caught tomorrow. |
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