alutacontinua:

Waoh! The female gender has suffered in this world. SMH!

Wallie: Should a husband forgive his wife caught red handed with a guy on top of her? Yes if the guy can look past it and move on with his wife.

Would I forgive her if she were my wife? Absolutely f**king not! The sight will forever hunt me! Actually, I’ll probably be in jail by now for acting on my impulse.

Should my wife forgive me if she caught me cheating? I hope so but will understand if she does not.

Isn't that hypocrisy? Sure it is but nobody said life was fair.

oyin50: madam pls can u shut up and stop degrading the sanctity of marraige...jeeez it is a bloody filthy shame for a married woman to cheat. Pls can all these lousy serial cheats just shut up and say what ur heart knows is simply wrong.

plaetton:

Remorseful?
Big laugh. Would you not be if you were caught red handed?
Are armed robbers not remorseful when they are caught?
C'mon man.
The problem with we Africans, perhaps especially Nigerians, is the we always put sentiments where they do not belong.
We always put the square peg in the round hole.
For a woman to commit adultery requires long serious forethought. Before a woman contemplates such actions, she has to mentally damn her husband and convince herself that her husband deserved the damnation and humiliation.
Secondly, by the time the husband had discovered, she would have been doing it for a very long time.
Thirdly, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Fourth, if you ever ever forgive a cheating wife, you are forever doomed.
You will drop to minus zero in her eyes.
You would have given her all the powers she only dreamed of. She will completely emasculate you and turn you into a vegetable of your former self.

Let god do the forgiving for that kind of stuff. You are not god. You are human.

bukatyne:

Lucky you then. Goodluck.

You want to know the hell I am talking about? Are you are Christian?

efun209990: Then i guess the wife should do the same if she catches her husband cheating. And please dont lets get started on the 'cheating' thing being a man's nature. both male and females have the tendency to be unfaithful, afterall, the men that cheat do it with women. my point is self-discipline and control is a necessity for BOTH men and women in order not to fall into the web of adultery.

oyin50: madam pls can u shut up and stop degrading the sanctity of marraige...jeeez it is a bloody filthy shame for a married woman to cheat. Pls can all these lousy serial cheats just shut up and say what ur heart knows is simply wrong.

oyin50: madam pls can u shut up and stop degrading the sanctity of marraige...jeeez it is a bloody filthy shame for a married woman to cheat. Pls can all these lousy serial cheats just shut up and say what ur heart knows is simply wrong.

obadiah777: CHEATING IS DIFFERENT WITH MEN AND WOMEN. SEE THE WOMAN IS A RECIEVER. SHE IS GETTING FOREIGN MATTER INTRODUCED INTO HER BODY. THE SPERMATOZOA IS A FOREIGN BODY AND IT CHANGES THE COMPOSITION OF HER AND THEN SHE CREATES ANTIGENS TO THE GUYS SPERMATOZOA SO THE GUY IS WITH HER FOREVER. EVERY GUY A WOMAN HAS EVER SLEPT WITH REMAINS WITH HER FOREVER. SHE HAS ANTIGENS OF ALL THE MEN SHE HAS EVER HAD SE-X WITH. THATS WHY A WOMAN LOOKS HAGGARD THE MORE PARTNERS SHE HAS. HER IMMUNE SYSTEM GETS JACKED UP FROM ALL THE ANTIGENS CREATED IN HER. EVERY MAN A WOMAN HAS YANSHED IS IN HER FOREVER. FOR MEN ITS DIFFERENT. FOR MEN IT IS MORE OF A SPIRITUAL WEAKENING. FOR WOMEN ITS BOTH PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL

albridge: When a mans trust in his wife is betrayed by her having affairs with other men and he caught her red handed with a man on top of her should he still stay married to her or divorce her? Is there a place for christian forgiveness in such a case?

obadiah777: CHEATING IS DIFFERENT WITH MEN AND WOMEN. SEE THE WOMAN IS A RECIEVER. SHE IS GETTING FOREIGN MATTER INTRODUCED INTO HER BODY. THE SPERMATOZOA IS A FOREIGN BODY AND IT CHANGES THE COMPOSITION OF HER AND THEN SHE CREATES ANTIGENS TO THE GUYS SPERMATOZOA SO THE GUY IS WITH HER FOREVER. EVERY GUY A WOMAN HAS EVER SLEPT WITH REMAINS WITH HER FOREVER. SHE HAS ANTIGENS OF ALL THE MEN SHE HAS EVER HAD SE-X WITH. THATS WHY A WOMAN LOOKS HAGGARD THE MORE PARTNERS SHE HAS. HER IMMUNE SYSTEM GETS JACKED UP FROM ALL THE ANTIGENS CREATED IN HER. EVERY MAN A WOMAN HAS YANSHED IS IN HER FOREVER. FOR MEN ITS DIFFERENT. FOR MEN IT IS MORE OF A SPIRITUAL WEAKENING. FOR WOMEN ITS BOTH PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL

Toks2008:

I am a bible believing Holy spirit filled tongue blasting and GOD fearing believer. How else was i able to remain faithful to just one lady for 12 years till date if not by the spirit of GOD.

So i dont even want to argue this fact. If my wife cheats on me, its over. I will not divorce her but will torment her until she takes that walk by herself. Its not about forgiveness.

*Kails*:
idk...should a wife forgive an adulterous husband?

obadiah777: CHEATING IS DIFFERENT WITH MEN AND WOMEN. SEE THE WOMAN IS A RECIEVER. SHE IS GETTING FOREIGN MATTER INTRODUCED INTO HER BODY. THE SPERMATOZOA IS A FOREIGN BODY AND IT CHANGES THE COMPOSITION OF HER AND THEN SHE CREATES ANTIGENS TO THE GUYS SPERMATOZOA SO THE GUY IS WITH HER FOREVER. EVERY GUY A WOMAN HAS EVER SLEPT WITH REMAINS WITH HER FOREVER. SHE HAS ANTIGENS OF ALL THE MEN SHE HAS EVER HAD SE-X WITH. THATS WHY A WOMAN LOOKS HAGGARD THE MORE PARTNERS SHE HAS. HER IMMUNE SYSTEM GETS JACKED UP FROM ALL THE ANTIGENS CREATED IN HER. EVERY MAN A WOMAN HAS YANSHED IS IN HER FOREVER. FOR MEN ITS DIFFERENT. FOR MEN IT IS MORE OF A SPIRITUAL WEAKENING. FOR WOMEN ITS BOTH PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL

Adabar: Hmmmmm. Even though i recognise the healing capacity of forgiveness, i will choose not to for these simple reasons:
Women do not sleep with men without having feelings for the person unless the lady in question is a prostitute but man can sleep with a woman without any feelings. For example, in my university days, i saw a girl that i had s3x with but couldnt recognise her until i saw her arseNAL. Simple fact: i was attracted by her 'arse'.
For the act itself, Man merely uses the projection of his body while the whole action takes place inside the woman

Beloved1993: He should forgive....hehehe. But she shouldn't be surprised if he asks for divorce. Adultery is ground for divorce.

women love with their hearts first, for her to sleep with another guy, her heart is no longer with her husband.
such woman can kill her husband.

bukatyne:

And you keep quiet!

And where did she support infidelity? I guess it is not a shame for a married men to cheat right?

And who are the serial cheats?

Once again, KEEP QUIET!

bukatyne:

Hmm torment!

Bible believing Holy Spirit filled tongue blasting and GOD fearing believing tormenter!

alutacontinua:


I'm loving this topic.

mbulela:
but a man who sleeps with another woman, his heart is still with his wife,abi?

Decryptor: SMH @ some of the comments from sissy-men here. I caught my ex whom i was to wed sometime last year cheating and i kicked her aя̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ .se to the curb one hand! How much more a woman i call my wife. It is not out of this world that here in Nigeria, women will definitely forgive their spouse if caught cheating because of the status marriage put them. It would be so demeaning for a woman who was once married to suddenly go back to her father's house and become single again. Secondly, the thought of her fellow woman (whom the husband cheated with) taking over her matrimonial home is painful enough.
Compare the Western world such as the United States where if a woman divorces a man' she gets custody of the children and all the other things such as the house, cars etc remains in her possession and the husband pays her monthly alimony for the upkeep of the children. I can bet my life on it that if that was the case in Nigeria, no nigerian woman will ever think of forgiveness! Infact, we would constantly witness countless situations whereby a woman would deliberately set her husband up in an infidelity rap in order to claim his wealth and belongings. We all know how materialistic the average Nigerian woman is in our society. So pleaseeee all these NL ladies ranting here, save your sermons! I know what is in the dark mind of most Nigerian women of today.

bukatyne:

My dear,

Read the Bible yourself and don't let any misogynist deceive you with their half baked theories. God describes a man cheating as carrying coals of fire in his laps; says that a man who sleeps with a woman is one with her spiritually; that a man who engages in adultery is going to his destruction.

As a matter of fact, the Bible dwelt more with adultery on the male side than female side.

ecolime:

You sound like such a woman.