mbulela:
I just tire.
May my sisters not fall in to the hand of mysogynistic men like you.
I just tire for your logic.

Decryptor: SMH @ some of the comments from sissy-men here. I caught my ex whom i was to wed sometime last year cheating and i kicked her aя̩̥̊ε̲̣̣̣̥ .se to the curb one hand! How much more a woman i call my wife. It is not out of this world that here in Nigeria, women will definitely forgive their spouse if caught cheating because of the status marriage put them. It would be so demeaning for a woman who was once married to suddenly go back to her father's house and become single again. Secondly, the thought of her fellow woman (whom the husband cheated with) taking over her matrimonial home is painful enough.
Compare the Western world such as the United States where if a woman divorces a man' she gets custody of the children and all the other things such as the house, cars etc remains in her possession and the husband pays her monthly alimony for the upkeep of the children. I can bet my life on it that if that was the case in Nigeria, no nigerian woman will ever think of forgiveness! Infact, we would constantly witness countless situations whereby a woman would deliberately set her husband up in an infidelity rap in order to claim his wealth and belongings. We all know how materialistic the average Nigerian woman is in our society. So pleaseeee all these NL ladies ranting here, save your sermons! I know what is in the dark mind of most Nigerian women of today.

oyin50: my sister he is saying the truth now. There are 3 reasons a married will cheat and they all involve her heart. 1. Nymphomania(self gratification) sexual greed and dissatisfaction.
2. Materialism, lust or vain pursuits
3. Total loss of love, affection or emotion for spouse.
Tnk u ma

oyin50: my sister he is saying the truth now. There are 3 reasons a married will cheat and they all involve her heart. 1. Nymphomania(self gratification) sexual greed and dissatisfaction.
2. Materialism, lust or vain pursuits
3. Total loss of love, affection or emotion for spouse.
Tnk u ma

dealslip:

Madam can i ask a question. is it ok for men to cheat since the sancity of upholding marriage appears to be the sole duty of women. A straight yes or no will be perfect.

plaetton:

Remorseful?
Big laugh. Would you not be if you were caught red handed?
Are armed robbers not remorseful when they are caught?
C'mon man.
The problem with we Africans, perhaps especially Nigerians, is the we always put sentiments where they do not belong.
We always put the square peg in the round hole.
For a woman to commit adultery requires long serious forethought. Before a woman contemplates such actions, she has to mentally damn her husband and convince herself that her husband deserved the damnation and humiliation.
Secondly, by the time the husband had discovered, she would have been doing it for a very long time.
Thirdly, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Fourth, if you ever ever forgive a cheating wife, you are forever doomed.
You will drop to minus zero in her eyes.
You would have given her all the powers she only dreamed of. She will completely emasculate you and turn you into a vegetable of your former self.
I luv ur comment,in ma place if a woman does n d man acept her wtout folowin d due proces which is traditional cleansin, which involve kilin of goat den d man shud prepare 4 his death
Let god do the forgiving for that kind of stuff. You are not god. You are human.

bukatyne:

Look, we do not care about the discourse your have with your hubby.

It's women like you who give men the confidence to sleep about.

bukatyne:

Oya answer the question below:

Decryptor: It's possible she is one of the numerous type who will be married but still be lusting after other guys. I had about 3 of them on my BBM list who just saw me and started having hot pants and funny enough, i just led them on for sometime just to amuse myself and wondered at amazement till i got tired of it all and deleted them. It was and is still scary that i fear to even get married!

oyin50: sleep around if u will, no one cares. It's ur elasticity maam.

bukatyne:

If you do not understand English, don't quote me.

Where in this six paged thread did I condone infidelity or advocate it?

oyin50: sleep around if u will, no one cares. It's ur elasticity maam.

dealslip:

Madam can i ask a question. is it ok for men to cheat since the sancity of upholding marriage appears to be the sole duty of women. A straight yes or no will be perfect.

obadiah777: DONT NOBODY WANT NO SASSY WOMAN LIKE BUKATYNE. WHAT KINDA NAME IS DAT ANYWAY ? DO YOU RUN A BUKA ?

bukatyne:

And who told you I care what you want or don't want?

If I pass you in Balogun market, I wouldn't know you so why should I care?

Like seriously?

As for my username, I run a buka

dealslip:

Madam can i ask a question. is it ok for men to cheat since the sancity of upholding marriage appears to be the sole duty of women. A straight yes or no will be perfect.

albridge: When a mans trust in his wife is betrayed by her having affairs with other men and he caught her red handed with a man on top of her should he still stay married to her or divorce her? Is there a place for christian forgiveness in such a case?

Princess zoe: A man is biblically allowed to divorce his adulterous wife if he has been faithful to her otherwise he will remain umarried and equally zip up(celibate) and if he shuns God's instruction by going into another marriage, he will become a permanant adulterer thereby attracting righteous curse for his new wife and children. The scripture says "Who is the person that can deliver one when God placed a curse on him" and i guess the answer is "nobody". The bible says that anyone who wants to come to equity must come with a clean hand. Let us all be guided.

plaetton:

Remorseful?
Big laugh. Would you not be if you were caught red handed?
Are armed robbers not remorseful when they are caught?
C'mon man.
The problem with we Africans, perhaps especially Nigerians, is the we always put sentiments where they do not belong.
We always put the square peg in the round hole.
For a woman to commit adultery requires long serious forethought. Before a woman contemplates such actions, she has to mentally damn her husband and convince herself that her husband deserved the damnation and humiliation.
Secondly, by the time the husband had discovered, she would have been doing it for a very long time.
Thirdly, once a cheater, always a cheater.
Fourth, if you ever ever forgive a cheating wife, you are forever doomed.
You will drop to minus zero in her eyes.
You would have given her all the powers she only dreamed of. She will completely emasculate you and turn you into a vegetable of your former self.

Let god do the forgiving for that kind of stuff. You are not god. You are human.

plaetton: My fellow Nigerians, it is no wonder that we live today in the equivalent of a failed state. A failed state is characterized by lawlessness, immorality, anarchy and irrationality.
Did i mention corruption at all segments of society, including, unfortunately, the home.?

plaetton: For some very strange reasons, we seem have an aversion for holding people accountable for their actions.
we always seem to have a get-out-of-jail card for every sin, thanks to our romance with morally ambiguous middle east religions.

plaetton: Is it not one's moral and religious duty to hold adults accountable for their deliberate misdeeds?

plaetton: Is marital vow not the most sacred of all vows?

plaetton: Suppose that this op genuinely decides to forgive her for this very act, and then a few months later he discovers that she had been doing it for years, should he also forgive her?
Again suppose he decides to forgive her and then few months down the road, also discovers that she had been doing it with not just one man but with several men, should he also try to forgive her?

plaetton: I can bet you anything that if the op digs deeper, what he will discover would completely blow his blind and shatter his spirit.

plaetton: Op. Get this woman as far away from you as possible as soon as possible. You may then begin to forgive her long after she is gone from your life, not now.
It is the only way can regain and reinvigorate your human spirit, pride and self-esteem.
If you do not, you are defeated and your spirit may never rise to its full potential.

Unimke_Ak: NEVER !!!!!!!!!!!
Why should A married woman cheat, it is not our culture.

Also I think a child can live with and come to terms with the fact that his father sleeps around but for a woman the child won't be able to handle it, as our igbo brothers would say "MBANOR" "NOO".

bukatyne:

I hate when people twist the Bible to suit themselves.

The Bible did not divorce as option to anything. The two punishments are in different testaments. Christ did not approve stoning but He approved divorce? You are a joker!

He was only stating the acceptable reason for divorce not approving it. There is the permissible will of God and there is the Perfect will of God.

obyrich:
Please, if I may ask, what is the acceptable reason for divorce stated by Christ?

oyin50: Capital No.

dealslip:
Ok that's better but please in all your future discourse especially on such sensitive discussions like this. Don't limit your corrections to women. If we as women automatically become cast away because of the same mistake a lot of men make. Why then are we unworthy of forgiveness? Take for instance some long distance marriages where spouses are apart for 2 years. Any of the spouses will likely commit adultery without any deepthinking. With everyone human being sex is the same let there be no disparity btw men and women. All we should strive for is self control. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. No double standards.