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Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 11:36am On Jun 09, 2013 |
Baba, maybe i'm being a lil paranoid but with dt age difference nd d fact dt she just gained admission, start chipping heart-break stories into ur discussion with bobo oyo. Back to being optimistic and nice, i like your style. |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 1:04pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
chaircover: WOWWWWWW!!! just saw this thread I say it again, you guys are very lucky and have good boys , dating starts at 14 here with supervision i.e drive them to dates and all that, we are already prepared for that. Good luck sis, brace yourself , it's a new world. biolabee: Thanks B , thot I was talking to masef , just kidding, I know it makes sense. biolabee: They know it... I guess they're just in denial... Yes I will frown ( even though at the back of my mind I know shes more than ready) at my 17y old Daughter dating compared to a boy, it has nothing to do with belittling her or anything ridiculous, it's the normal parental ( esp fathers) acquisitive instinct that's been reigning since my father's time that's just the way it is no matter how they slice and turn it , They are not thesame!! , there a I said it. Even sisikill experienced it lobatan. Wonder how it's easier / convenient to encourage a 18yr old boy to move out and beg 18yr old girl she can stay as long as she wants till she's married, whites inclusive? Baba Oyo: Happy Sunday To you all!!! Happy Sunday jare baba Oyo , nothing do you jare carry go, the bolded in caps are chaircover's words and the koko of this thread, mind y'all own businesses and face front Nothing spoil if you give the boy a ride Abeg Baba, the girl already knows your financial status don't be surprised, aye n she iru e, my papa driver have dropped me off and waited & chat with my boyfriend's house megaurd wella, and I always take my brother ( akporo one ) with me, that's the condition, so I'm glad parents still encourage it. You're doing everything right. Take care. |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 1:13pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
Naijababe.... you see why I prefer to matchmake kids with family friends I know wella instead? and why I frown at kids calling them Aunty and Uncles ?? cos we are not Related?? |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by simdam500(m): 1:17pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
D nairalandas comment is soo great... D kind of dad u r is soo cool too(my papa no wan hear u get gf at age 19 sef, not to talk of pickin calls from female friend). U need to be watchful d way u ave always been. U need to let him know d richarge card is a nononono. Cos he will end up gettin tired of it and be called maga by friends |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 1:20pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
^^^ Now i see your angle though calling elders uncle or aunty does not matter IMO as long as the kids know and are clear on the relationship A lot of my friends married ple from other family friends... and 'unnle' or 'aunty' progressed to 'daddy' n 'mummy' In the words of ,May God help our daughters and us all.. girls are more special and require more cuation than boys They need more fatherly affection so they are not starved and run lookin for playboys Its life... get with the program |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 1:28pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
Get with the freaking PROGRAM alright!! Honestly some kids feel weird dating their fake cousins if you know what I mean, I guess you're somewhat right, it's the parent's job to drum it into their heads at home they're not related. Naija stuff. It's a satisfying feeling knowing your kids are with 'Well trained' trusted responsible boys from good homes. Girls are very special. |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by bukatyne(f): 1:28pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
alutacontinua: It's not even an issue of equality. If parents trained BOTH boys and girls to flee pre-martial sex, don't you think that teenage pregnancy and all other consequences would reduce? As the difference made girls shun pre-martial sex? God didn't plan different rules else the punishment for adultery/fornication would differ from male to female 3 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by bukatyne(f): 1:31pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: If all girls became "well trained" who are the guys, whose relationship status change we are celebrating and oh so happy for, dating? This is classic! |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 1:40pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
bukatyne: Exactly. And for those that wont shun, simply teach sex education as thoroughly to both boys and girls. No need jubilating and turning cartwheels when one is about to have sex and bringing out koboko for the other like a non critical thinking person. Apart from the religious part, it is for the global good. It shows you can actually apply your brain and think and not just follow senseless traditions like sheep because that's just the way it is. Anyway its a waste of time. Many people here are too just too dumb to get the point. Not all parts of this post is directed necessarily at Aluta ( I know you responded to her post) 3 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 1:44pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: ^^Okay .... It's all GOOOoooooG Frenemie HIA!!! Lemme get ready for church jare. |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 1:46pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
@ileobatojo So on top this matter people are now dumb? Na wa oooo when did being realistic translate to that n is it smart insulting others who dont necessarily agree with your own POV 1 Like |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 1:47pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
^^ she has really changed, don't know her to be this aggressive. 1 Like |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 2:07pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
biolabee: @ileobatojo As opposed to these kind, non snarky words from you? biolabee: biolabee: biolabee: thamks aluta/// maybe coming from a female.. it will be understood 3 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by SisiKill1: 2:21pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
bukatyne: You know...this is the exact point a friend brought up yesterday when we discussed this issue. He said the teen girls who get pregnant did not get that way on thier own, so instead of locking one set of children away and throwing the key then turn around and pat another set on the head why not educate them ALL instead. The pride should come not from keeping them from temptation but teaching them to look at temptation in the eye, say "Ain't nobody got time for that" and walk away. Dating is not a big deal, it is all part of the progression of life but we have given it more value by doing two things.. 1) Forbidding it thereby make it more tempting. 2) Celebrating it like it's some grand achievement. Either way....if care is not taken, we may be inadvertently writing a check we can't cash. @ Baba Oyo Baba Rere please understand this is NOT an indictment on your parenting skills, I believe many here will agree with me that you are fantastic father and hubby (caught up on your romantic getaway with Iya Oyo.... I bow ) this is just general discussion about an everyday, can't be ignored issue. I like that your son is free enough with you to tell you about this...it gives me hope because I know the list of badly behaved teen boys will definitely be short one name. No one can tell you how to raise your children (and I doubt anyone want to either), they are fruit of your loins and no expert no matter how many letters the have after their names can know them like you do. @ All I don't understand where the idea that because some of us are not high fiving over a teenager dating, we are being hypocritcal or pretending or burying our heads in the sand etc came from? Again teen dating is a reality that one can't ignore even if they tried to. It is everywhere it permeates everything we do and see...can't turn on the TV without seeing images of teenagers on their first date, discussing their boyfriends/girlfriends, it's on radios. You see them at the malls, shopping centers, on the streets. There is an entire industry dedicated to accommodating them....so how can one pretend it doesn't exist? No, we aren't being hypocritcal....we just don't see what the big todo is (especially when it is made a big nono for a specific set of people) and it has absolutely nothing to do with being unhip or having a bush orientation. 5 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 2:29pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: Once again, the patience of a saint. Serious GBAM at the bolded!! Very well said! 1 Like |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 2:30pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Happy sunday All kids are equal and should be discouraged from immorality but a gender is more important than the other Pity it's the female one Ish |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by bukatyne(f): 2:39pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
biolabee: I did not want to post but... I believe it is the parents of girls that should even be clamouring for the boys to be well trained because it affects them directly. Do you plan to follow your girls to school, church or around? Wouldn't you be happy to find out that a boy that fancies your daughter has been properly trained and taught the importance of waiting for sex? Does it make sense to you that the men your daughters will marry in future (let us assume they did abstain from sex) are currently been ill-trained and have unhealthy attitude towards sex and by extension the female gender because they are not affected by teenage pregnancy? The truth if that if the boys are ill-trained or have unhealthy attitude towards sex, it is actually the girls that pay for it. Whether they abstain or not, they will marry these boys except you are gearing them to be lesbians. Train your sons to be the kind of men you want your daughters to marry. 3 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by SisiKill1: 2:44pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
I forgot to ask....if Teen Dating/boyfriend and girlfriend is not about sex as some have proffered why are we scared of our daughters getting pregnant? Abi do we have a buncha Marys on our hands? 3 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 2:45pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
This is true, all well and good So let me ask u one q Do the westernised and so called 'well behaved' 90s men u n ur ilk play up as a model of male behavior not also sleep with their teenage counterparts is the explosion in immorality we have in afrika not a hige result of these same western influence in the old days if a young man messed around with a girl... na marriage be that all these sezzual license u see now... wetin cause am... same ol same ol feministic ish coupled with 'enlightenment' bukatyne: |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 2:46pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
bukatyne: GBAM!! That's what I've been saying all along. The problem with high fiving your boy is that there is another parent's girl somewhere that will pay for it. I wonder why some people cannot see this as a problem? 2 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 2:49pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
Sisi_Kill: I forgot to ask....if Teen Dating/boyfriend and girlfriend is not about sex as some have proffered why are we scared of our daughters getting pregnant? Abi do we have a buncha Marys on our hands? |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 2:51pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: We agreed it is a problem but the reality is that late teens will always want to explore... As a risk manager, i will focus my resources on mitigating the most impact.. and that is the ladies gerrit? |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 2:54pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
biolabee: Nope, makes no sense to me. You agree it's a problem but are fine with sending out a parade and masquerades when your boy is on the path to having sex (with another man's girl). I'm sorry, what is the usefulness of your agreement in this scenario when your actions are only contributing to the problem? 2 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 2:57pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Nope, makes no sense to me. theres no harm in disagreeing that why life is life |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 3:16pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
https://www.nairaland.com/1318012/how-stop-brother-marrying-woman/2#16150293 |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by bukatyne(f): 3:18pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
biolabee: This is true, all well and good I am 100% certain you were not responding to my post you quoted. What has feminism got to do with training your boys and girls properly? Where did I or 'my ilk' state that we look up to western men/boys? Who even brought western men or boys into the discussion? The bolded is so hypocritical! Is it feminists that are training boys to be more sexually liberated or what the heck are you talking about? Abeg, read my post wella before you quote me. 3 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 3:19pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
bukatyne: Lol! 2 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 3:27pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
bukatyne: i read your post well and i replied wella.... u bring up western men as models of good male behaviour but convieniently forget that immorality is the meat and bread of the self same west maybe u have forgottem the feminism thread where ur kind make nigerian males to be Neanderthals and western white males are the epitome of maledom rihanna displays her punana n goodies on screen KK uses a sextape to become a diva teen girls send nude pics too each other on fone... no need to blow off... its just a discourse yes its civilisation... indeed? http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2325673/Pregnant-teens-yanked-high-school-yearbook-showing-baby-bumps.html http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2123450/Student-charged-having-hundreds-images-videos-teens-performing-sex-acts-school-laptop.html http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1352243/Mobile-phones-Teens-use-look-porn-swap-revealing-photographs.html |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by bukatyne(f): 3:35pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
biolabee: Biola, Take it easy... You are going too fast. I still don't get the correlation between feminism, white men and train boys and girls properly. I don't know where anybody said white kids are better than blacks. Abeg, if you are tired, just say so. The you and your kind thing is getting annoying. Do you know me not to talk of my 'kind'? Biko, train your kids how you like. 3 Likes |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by biolabee(m): 3:40pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
bukatyne: xxxxxxx buka.. tired?...au contraire.. im having fun streaming my Game of Thrones..are u a fan I told u all are equal but the consequences of immorality are more on females... why dont u want to accept that |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by bukatyne(f): 3:44pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
biolabee: I have not watched it yet You do not understand my point: Train both boys and girls properly and the consequences will reduce. Shikena! Nobody is talking of equality or inequality here 1 Like |
Re: My Son Just Got A Girlfriend....Happy But Scared!!! by Nobody: 3:46pm On Jun 09, 2013 |
biolabee: There's nothing to not accept there. It is a fact everywhere in the world. Not one single person on this thread has disagreed with that. bukatyne: I don't get why this simple point is so difficult to grasp. 2 Likes |
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