Angolobabe:

some married ladies kept there fathers name for benefit purposes,if there fathers name is well known etc most of my married step-sisters kept my fathers name as it helps them socially and when seeking job,contracts in Nigeria etc.
as for me i took my husbands name after marriage.if i divorce God forbid,i have decided to still keep my married name because i want to have the same surname as my kids.

@hugger,nobody wishes for divorce when married but no body knows tomorrow,anything can happen if its meant to ,know matter how hard u try to prevent or stop it .

Is that what love is about?

abeg define LOVE for me as i bi JJC

Hugger:

Is that what love is about?

Oh I see.

Love has to have a thought of dumping lurking at the back of the partners' heads

I intend holding on to mine.

No big deal as long as my hubby undastands .

I AM HOLDING ON TO MY NAME

Which has both a FIRST NAME and a SURNAME

anyone who doesnt like it, should NOT marry

e no be by fox!

Hugger:

This is a silly discussion. A man who takes such a thing important is not likely to get to the point of marriage with a woman who is nonchallant about it.
I think it's good for my wife to be Mrs. Hugger, not to still be miss maidenname. As much as I am not one for insisting on any such things, a woman who wants to stay as miss maden name should be allowed to be that way after her marriage but I also have a choice as to what kind of woman I marry

Hugger:

Are you married
I didn't realise that one has to plan for divorce when planning for marriage. no wonder many marriages by people with these liberal and westernised minds don't work out in the long run- you already have at the back of your mind that you will divorce some day

Yes i am gladly married.

Do u think that couples who are divorced today wished to a divorce is like death, it gives no sign befor it occures, that i talk about it doesn't mean i am planing to divorce, life is unpredictable.

I don't agree with keeping my maiden name.

abujabooks:

I don't agree with keeping my maiden name.

Neither do I

i would take my wife's maiden name when we get married

howzat?!

MrCrackles:

i would take my wife's maiden name when we get married

howzat?!

Good for you!

chika98:

Good for you!

When I married my hubby, I kept my fathers name. Our son also carries the hyphenated name.

We know clearly where we belong and it is with him and to him! [/color[/b]]

i think its a rubbish idea. all sentimental rubbish.

if my husband does not mind
am going to hyphenate my present last name and his

but if the man, dey find trouble i nor get time and energy for wahala
i go use his name

I kept my surname when i got married, it wasn't even an issue at all, it'll depends on the individual

@NaijaWifey
Na u biko

ikamefa:


if my husband does not mind
am going to hyphenate my present last name and his

but if the man, dey find trouble i nor get time and energy for wahala
i go use his name

gotta love that 

I

this so called idea of mordern women is often dragged to ridiculous levels. Look, when your parents GIVES you out in marriage, they have tranfreed your ownership to that man called your husband. Answering his surname does not diminisg your personality or value as an individual in any way. If anything rather it enhances it. Highly respectable and professional western women bear their husbands surname, eg. Hillary Clinton, Michelle Obama, Laura Bush, Sarah Palin etc etc.
Unfortunately, just like in everything else, cultural inferiority comlex and unwarranted femenism syndrome egoistic malady keeps messing with our vanity.
I rest my case.

Naa. . .I can't tolerate that. If she's so keen on retaining her father's name then let her continue --as a single lady!

I never changed my name. It is my name I  was given it at birth and I am used to it. It was never an issue. I think the man should only be bothered about his kids answering his name.
I do not see how it affects our marriage. Sometimes I wish I took his name, other times I`m glad I retained mine. If I were a man Would I have this problem?

Rottweiler i suport u 100% if a woman is not ready to leave her fadas name let her marry her fada or if she is 2 grateful 4 wot d fada has done 4 her she can as wel marry her old boy.since dis women empowerment stuf,women ar beginning to be 2 full of demselvs.

mutter:

I never changed my name. It is my name I  was given it at birth and I am used to it. It was never an issue. I think the man should only be bothered about his kids answering his name.
I do not see how it affects our marriage. Sometimes I wish I took his name, other times I`m glad I retained mine. If I were a man Would I have this problem?

I don't get this. Is it that you bear Mrs [your father's name] while your husband answers Mr [his father's name], and you are both together

I like that hyphen thingy

Whats the point of getting married if you still intend to be miss kunta kinte?

I think its disrespectful to the man.

mai suya. My name identifies me, my Kingship. My roots. My husband as much as I love him is not going to be a part of my roots.
Anyway he also did not see the sense in it. That has nothing to do with togetherness.
I want to think that this adapting of  husband?`s surname has nothing to do with Nigerian tradition. This Surname issue is a colonial introduction. It is also not stipulated in most religions.