saxywale:
my thoughts too. How I wish nairaland had age verification through credit card before registration.

Fhemmmy:

Lol . . . It might not even be about age, it might just be some "Attention deficiency", it makes me sick to read such a comment from someone that is old/matured enuf to be online and mingle with people.

when did childbirth become a big deal

lorretta u: dear pls don't get worked up over the thought process o that mor.on
I bet he's the kind of mor.on that will be busy hammering away on top of a #200 ashawo while his wife is suffering in the labor room to deliver their child.and in his slow mind he'll be thinkingand he has the effrontery to call someone else anuofia.while in the real sense of the word,he's the bush animal here.

tellwisdom:

Hey bro. what have i said wrong?? That someone died doesn't stop me from drinking beer today with a plate of nkwobi

Fhemmmy:

Ofcourse and i pray to God that you will not have to experience what the husband, brothers, sons and friends of woman that dies during childbirth have had to go through . . . One love, Pal!

Amen and you too

chaircover: This thread brings back memories of the birth of my first.

I remember the whole thing going smoothly and I was pain free thanks to an epidural and then decided to be macho and not request for a top up because I wanted an idea of what labour pains felt like, but suddenly things went wrong and before I could say jack Robinson, the midwife had rung the bell, doctors rushed into the room and me and the whole bed were rushed at high speed along the corridor into theatre. The midwife was sitting at the edge of my bed whilst it was being wheeled along the corridor with her hand up there trying to get the cord off the babys neck or something.

To add to the problem, Because the epidutal was wearing off and they didnt have time to top it up, they gave me GA and took the baby out. I still feel shivers when I think about it all and the speed in which things went so wrong.

Aftercare - one stupidd Nigerian nurse was on night duty and I asked for pain relief. First it took her ages to answer the bell and then She told me that i should try and bear the pain, when infact the surgeons has written me up for pain relief. eventually she came back and almost threw the suppository at me . . . It was my first delivery then and I was young and inexperienced. If anyone tries that with me again they will be collecting their P45. stupidd woman. . .meanwhile these are the types that desperately need the job and sending all their wages to their 7 children and jobless husband back in Nigeria but they misbehave on the job.

BCJAY: Mine was 2years ago at island maternity. I was carrying twins, i got to d labour room and the nurses and midwives cared less. I shouted but no gud response only 4 a student doctor to be asking me how many abortions have you done? He stood there looking at me when i pushed and pushed one of d girls came out, imagine d doctor ran out of d labour room shouting d baby is coming. The midwife came carried d baby away and left me with one baby inside me and the placenta, it was when d doctor on duty came in and ask but you said dis lady has put to bed? They said yes, he took my file and went tru it he then told them it remains one inside. He now took over and passed oxygen into my nose and a drip into my body, he then gave me a serious tire cos d other girl is breech. My people i went tru hell but with God's help and d doctor i delivered d girls without cs but it was a bitter experience i don't like to remember.

tnwmag.com:
@OP, great topic. The lady has been on my mind since I heard the news of her passing. I had actually met her before and she seemed a pleasant lady.

I guess something that got me thinking about Ewar's case is why was she under general anaesthesia? I have never had CS but from what I understand, women are given an epidural which numbs the pain from waist down but the mother is aware throughout the procedure. I am just wondering why general anaesthesia was used in this case. Is this the norm in Nigeria? Can a doctor please explain why?

I have also heard that most Teaching Hospitals give all women episiotomy during delivery irrespective of circumstance. I have confirmed from a few doctor friends and it seems to be a standard process. Again, can a doctor explain why? While I was having my first child, the doctor was trying hard to make sure that I did not have a single tear and so it is quite hard to understand why the women are just cut anyway in Nigeria.

Whether we want to admit it or not, our healthcare is in shambles and I don't entirely blame the care givers. My family think I am OTT but I have informed that them even if I have a headache, they should not take me to a hospital in Nigeria. I have lost quite a few close people to negligence in that country. Truth is Ewar stood a good chance no matter her condition if she was elsewhere but Nigeria. Sad but the absolute truth.

Policewoman: I would advise those going for C.S to request for an epidural. It makes the whole thing less painful and quick also. But sha make sure your husband finds out if they have a good anaesthetologist. For Abuja, DIFF, Nisa Premier, Zankli are ok, but they are very expensive (some C.S can cost as much as N1M)or Asokoro, Maitama or Garki general hospitals. Abuja clinics too is very good. One of the best.

yellowpawpaw:
What a horrible xprience!
Look at ur bundles of joy and thank God.
Most of our nurses r paid peanut. Some unleash their frustrations on d line of duty.Some r road side nurses.even drs r not left out. I can remember my cous that was paid 40k as a medical dr around 2002/3 in ph. She was givin an option. Her salary will go up if she agree to do abortion.ie they pay those that do abortion more than those that don't.its a private hospital.

aysometin: AwwwDamiso how did the Nigerian midwife get away with that? My God. Do you think this is a Nigerian thing or what? Why are we some of our healthworkers so laidback and generally nasty? I bet she brought the attitude from a hospital in Nigeria. Thhank God you and your baby survived.

Mrs Flawless, I love your story because it gives a basis for comparison. Please how can you carry out a surgery without any machines to monitor heart rate etc. Nigeria has such a long way to go and I am convinced if it was elsewhere, Nike's story will be different. I guess if you don't have a complication free pregnancy in Naija, your chances are slim.


For me I had my 1st baby at Basildon hospital, my midwife was cool from another african couNtry I guess. On my birthday I was 34 weeks and went for the regular checkup and she found out I had preclampsia, I was rushed to the hospital and the kind of care I got was amazing. I was at the intensive care unit with about 3 midwifes and one consultant attending to me. They were trying to get my BP down so they can bring out the baby. The consultant even said to me ' I heard today is your birthday so I will make sure you have the baby today', they were so nice. I was rushed to the thheatre when they sensed the baby's heartbeat had dropped at about 11.15pm. After all the preparation the consultant said what's the time? They told him 11.45pm, he said we must have this baby today. He started working and was asking of the time at intervals, he brought out the baby and asked for the time and they told him 11.58pm and he smiled, everybody started clapping. My hubby told me all these because I was to weak to even notice, I just heard the clap and thought it was because my boy was born. It was an amazing experience and I am so grateful to that team. My son and I share the same birthday. If I was in Nigeria, I can't say for sure what my story would have been.The level of care is worlds apart, let' s forget the faciltieS available, why are our health workers sometimes insensitive without going the extra mile? Even when they find themselves in a different environment like the UK?

damiso:

My husband being the person that he is, wanted to take it up but I just told him to leave it.I was like you know naija sentiment now they will say we blocked her means of livelihood. My husband said typical naija behaviour of not holding people accountable but I guess our joy at our lil princess just eroded the anger and we dropped it.My husband actually got cards and wines for the other oyinbo midwives cos they were awesome.She was the one on night duty and my labour was through the night so the other midwife was the one who took over at 8am.I can never forget that lady her name was Louise.My daughter was born 9.19 am on 19/09/09 and she made such a fuss about it.She made me feel soo at ease where the foolish naija woman felt I was being lazy.Its by force she gave me gas sef.Funny enough one of my aftercare nurses was Ghanian and she was soo nice and funny.She kept joking dont worry you will soon go home to get fufu, I know this mash and peas no do you .

I think naija midwives are that way cos maybe they themselves went through labour with lil or no pain relief and no holding hands and no husbands.So they feel en yo (you are being pampered) esp when they see a naija name.I dont want to believe they are like that with othrr races.My second birth was a strictly all white team and my mum and husband were with me this time.Till tomorrow, my mum tells everyone the story and adds plenty curses to naija leaders when I told her that treatment was NHS and not even private care.

Fhemmmy:

You dey vex oh . . Lol, i am sure he is a kid, wait till he is married and see the pain a woman goes thru during labor, he will appreciate a woman more.