Hi pple, there is this lady i met in my office. We became very close friends that we couldn't convince pple dat there was nothing between us. There is nothing we hide from eachother about our relationship and I know her boyfriend she knows mine. All of a sudden i got a new job and my love for her just grew that i had to tell her to her face dat i love her, but her response was that i should never repeat that statement again, pls what should i do eighter to convince her or get her love off my mind?

take a break and chill for some weeks,before u continue in ur chasing,by d way dont tell me u love ur girlfriend and ur friend at d same time?r u sure u r really inlove wt dis ur friend?maybe u r infatuated u know

I'm not surprised,
you went about the whole thing in a tactless manner, absolutely no finesse

Its easier for girls to differentate between Platonic friendships and a relationship so much harder to cross the line
You need to slowly change the pace of your friendship
change your body language; rather than hold her hand, put ur hand on her lower back to guide her, it subconsciously induces a feeling of being protected,
go out on more intimate outings,
call her more often and at times when she's relaxed for instance just before she goes to bed,
change the tone of voice, try to be soothing, sound like you really care
and rather than talk about everyday stuff talk about personal issues; talk about how she feels,
always remember personal details, maybe her dreams or something she wants to buy or do, ask her about these in a later conversation, it shows u listen and u care.
finally look into her eyes when you talk to her, it allows her to see how u really feel

Under no circumstances shd you jump her, you have to be subtle
it will take time but its worth the wait, a romantic relationship between friends is a relationship destined to last

Any body seen that episode of "The Office" when Jim told Pam that he loves her though he knew that she had a fiancee

This one no be true name TV show episode this guy come tell us

my brother,

na lust of the flesh the disturb you, go to mountain of fire make them cure you

Sipirt of seduction is in YOU

ROFLMAO

lmao

you said you have a girlfriend? do you really love her at all? ^{*maybe not* cos if you do, i doubt if you will have eyes for anyone else! *poor lady, sitting there and thinking she has a boyfriend*}
anyway, as for the other lady, i guess she is soo much in love with her boyfriend and has no time or love for someone else. keep trying sha!

O boy tell am again & see her reactions jare,
But wait oooo, so u really wan break an existing relationship,
Hmmm,

Too bad she cant play hide n seek wit u, sum friends wld ave taken advantage of dat despite d fact dat both parties knows dey r involved,

Am happie she thinks with her head, cos u obviously r thinking wit ***

Hummmmmmmmmm,


'Love hurts but friendship hurts more,when it lost trough love.'

Things happen. . .no one is immune to love na

@poster- u get along as best friends does not necessarily mean u are good together as lovers, besides ur both in committed relationships so why d sudden epiphany that u are in luv with her ? u mite be feeling something but just let her be if she aint feelin the same.

Well keep fallin in love but dont forget that a broken friendship is worse than a broken relationship

Please don't pour sand into the girl's garri. Leave her alone and move on. There are lots of single girls out there!

@poster
It your life remb, don't be pushed around till you get confused.
But you need to get some facts right first
1.Weren't you friends with your current lover b4 now?
2.What exactly is it that is attracting you to this new girl?(sincerely)
3.Is there no way you can develop even a closer friendship to your current girlfriend more than bfore?
4.Is it possible that you & ur current gf are only lovers not friends?
Re-evaluate your relationship carefully before you take any unfounded decision.
The best lover you can ever ask for is your best friend o. Afterall someone said "LOVE IS FRIENDSHIP SET ON FIRE"
All the best

Guy i think u should back off and dn't repeat the word as she said unless u want to lose the trust in ur friendship.
She may probably see ur gesture as an act of betrayal.


I have this friend and we were so close dt people thought we were dating,bt nothing like that.
Then all of a sudden, he came up with this kind of 'i love u stuff', i felt bad and ws seriously hurt and that strained our relationship for like a year. Though we're back as before now, but it is nt an experience i would wish u.

Therefore, respect the fact that she has a boyfriend and maintain ur friendship with her.
If u're tired of ur present girlfriend, then look 4 someone else!

Goodluck to u.

Infatuation, beware of it.

Men in particular, are more prone and that's how they never understand why the feeling vanishes after a while.

HRhotness: I'm not surprised,
you went about the whole thing in a tactless manner, absolutely no finesse

Its easier for girls to differentate between Platonic friendships and a relationship so much harder to cross the line
You need to slowly change the pace of your friendship
change your body language; rather than hold her hand, put ur hand on her lower back to guide her, it subconsciously induces a feeling of being protected,
go out on more intimate outings,
call her more often and at times when she's relaxed for instance just before she goes to bed,
change the tone of voice, try to be soothing, sound like you really care
and rather than talk about everyday stuff talk about personal issues; talk about how she feels,
always remember personal details, maybe her dreams or something she wants to buy or do, ask her about these in a later conversation, it shows u listen and u care.
finally look into her eyes when you talk to her, it allows her to see how u really feel

Under no circumstances shd you jump her, you have to be subtle
it will take time but its worth the wait, a romantic relationship between friends is a relationship destined to last

You are arguably the most sensible nairaland female. Had I read this comment 10 months ago, I would be dating 'HER' now. I made the same blunder as the OP and it cost me the friendship

What an amazing analysis and advice. Simply put, YOU ARE GOOD !

HRhotness: I'm not surprised,
you went about the whole thing in a tactless manner, absolutely no finesse

Its easier for girls to differentate between Platonic friendships and a relationship so much harder to cross the line
You need to slowly change the pace of your friendship
change your body language; rather than hold her hand, put ur hand on her lower back to guide her, it subconsciously induces a feeling of being protected,
go out on more intimate outings,
call her more often and at times when she's relaxed for instance just before she goes to bed,
change the tone of voice, try to be soothing, sound like you really care
and rather than talk about everyday stuff talk about personal issues; talk about how she feels,
always remember personal details, maybe her dreams or something she wants to buy or do, ask her about these in a later conversation, it shows u listen and u care.
finally look into her eyes when you talk to her, it allows her to see how u really feel

Under no circumstances shd you jump her, you have to be subtle
it will take time but its worth the wait, a romantic relationship between friends is a relationship destined to last

Op@ collect HRhotness accts numb and surprise her, cus she just gave u all u can eva need to turn d game around.

YOU GOOD @HRh

HRhotness: I'm not surprised,
you went about the whole thing in a tactless manner, absolutely no finesse

Its easier for girls to differentate between Platonic friendships and a relationship so much harder to cross the line
You need to slowly change the pace of your friendship
change your body language; rather than hold her hand, put ur hand on her lower back to guide her, it subconsciously induces a feeling of being protected,
go out on more intimate outings,
call her more often and at times when she's relaxed for instance just before she goes to bed,
change the tone of voice, try to be soothing, sound like you really care
and rather than talk about everyday stuff talk about personal issues; talk about how she feels,
always remember personal details, maybe her dreams or something she wants to buy or do, ask her about these in a later conversation, it shows u listen and u care.
finally look into her eyes when you talk to her, it allows her to see how u really feel

Under no circumstances shd you jump her, you have to be subtle
it will take time but its worth the wait, a romantic relationship between friends is a relationship destined to last