This is a real issue in most marriages. What will you do if you discovered on your wedding night and beyound that your husband you married can not perform at all in bed. Will u divorce him immediately, continue to endure or look elsewhere for what is lacking. Your view is needed pls because it can happen to anyone out there.

There is nothing like divorce here,the wedding has to be annulled.The guy in question was unfaithful during the courtship.

Explore other options like toys and stuff,

i dunno, its a hard one but divorcing him would be hard, but personally i always test before i Drive!

so if that happens to me , hmmmmm thats the hardest question to answer.

NubianQ:

Explore other options like toys and stuff,

i don't know, its a hard one but divorcing him would be hard, but personally i always test before i Drive!

so if that happens to me , hmmmmm thats the hardest question to answer.

This is one thing against marrying as a virgin.You have not tested him.Best to wait till you guys are planning the introduction then test him in bed.If all goes bad then you can explore and see if its fixable .If not then at least you can dump in time.

the simple fact and truth is,i can't be wt a man that cannot perform,its better i divorce him before i look outside,because looking outside while married to him is called adultery and that is one sin i don't want to get myself involved in

Get tortoise shit, mix it with aligator pepper and rub on it. You will be surprised at the healing this thing can perform.

Ehrrrrrrrrm. . .this is a hard one o

But why would I marry a man that can't perform in the first place?

What if you don't know prior to your wedding what will u do when you eventually find out

What if you don't know prior to your wedding what will u do when you eventually find out

the simple fact and truth is,i can't be wt a man that cannot perform,its better i divorce him before i look outside,because looking outside while married to him is called adultery and that is one sin i don't want to get myself involved in

my above statement has answered ur question

nawa o, i will cry and pray   

This one na hard question oh.

It will be my worst nightmare o ^{my husband ke} Heaven forbids

Well you divorce him immediately. The marriage stands nullified because the guy was not honest. He should have told you before the wedding day. chikena!

I would encourage him to see a urologist ie doctors specialized in "male issues".
There's a lot of help out there.
I would support him through it hoping and praying that the tiger wakes up.
If it doesn't work I would still love and stay married to him,adopt children and we'll use other ways to achieve sexual satisfaction.
There's more to life than erections.

@post
do you have that prob

sheniqua:

I would encourage him to see a urologist ie doctors specialized in "male issues".
There's a lot of help out there.
I would support him through it hoping and praying that the tiger wakes up.
If it doesn't work I would still love and stay married to him,adopt children and we'll use other ways to achieve sexual satisfaction.
There's more to life than erections.

ur a rare gem

jennykadry:

the simple fact and truth is,i can't be wt a man that cannot perform,its better i divorce him before i look outside,because looking outside while married to him is called adultery and that is one sin i don't want to get myself involved in

Jenny I'm suprised to hear you say this.
Do you know men can develop erectile dysfunction just like that
Are you telling me you'll divorce my brother if he stops performing maximally when it's not his fault rather than seek help?
Is it then OK for a man to divorce his wife after a double mastectomy from breast cancer?
Or drop her when she developes certain gynecological problems that make sex uncomfortable rather than see her through it?

Thank God I have a man who answers whenever I call
The most important thing is that I love him and no matter what,I'll stand by him.
And he feels exactly the same way about me
What did we take our vows for?
That's what love is.

osisi, dont make jenny feel bad now for spekaing her mind truthfully na

Besides she's still pretty young, who wnats to deal witha dead horse.

buzyDiva:

@topic,

more reason why u suppose test drive before u buy a car to see if it fits your ideal car or not.

I go really like date someone like u. I think I like that.

anyway I've yet to understand those who get married without getting a through physical.

The same people that used to scream "divorce your wifeb for not having blood on tthe matrimonal bed" are the ones that expect women to be "understanding" when it comes to erectile dysfunction

The irony.

sheniqua:

There's more to life than erections.

A man is basically useless without an erection. Women may be able to cope but for a man . . . impossible.
I cant imagine how such a fellow feels not being able to get it up. We thank God sha.

what is this world turning into, is this a sex sex crared world.
what happens to intimacy, companionship, friendship and shsring. sex is not everything. there are other ways to profess love or or be intimate with ur man or woman

hmm. . .

how does a woman define 'performance'?

is it

quality,
duration,
ability to get it up,
abilty to get it up (again)

assuming both parties are  virgins, there shouldn't be any issues since neither has a benchmark available

the problem arises when a guy or gal has had accomplished partners in the past.

all men can bonk, but some men can bonk better than others

i think it may not be so much an issue of the guy cannot perform as it is an issue of he cannot do me like  so and so did

this is  a perspective based on a couple i know. the wife had this bad boy boyfriend in school - uu know the type - great boyfriend, but hopleless as husband material. the dude she's married to is stable and all that - but nowhere near her ex between the sheets, and it is driving the lady crazy . to make matters worse, her husband seems to be the conservative kind - no trips downtown, no alternative positions ( as long as madam is on top , there is no need for a guy to perform - madam will get there by herself )

i guess thats the solution, as long as you can convnce your husband to 'let you ride' ( you know naija men - some  will wonder at this oyinbo foolishness - though few wonder at other oyinbo foolishness like BJs) your performance issues should be resolved

@poster, what will u do if you figure out your wife is barren?, , kick hee ass away or something?

4 Him:

A man is basically useless without an erection. Women may be able to cope but for a man . . . impossible.
I can't imagine how such a fellow feels not being able to get it up. We thank God sha.

A man is not useless basically because of erectile dyfunctioning. there are ways out:
He can always use Love Machine to satisfy his wife.
He can go for TESA ( surgical removal of sperm from testis) if he wants to have his own biological children.

Dr Ferlie:

A man is not useless basically because of erectile dyfunctioning. there are ways out:
He can always use Love Machine to satisfy his wife.
He can go for TESA ( surgical removal of sperm from testis) if he wants to have his own biological children.

Try neutering yourself and then see whether you will be happy with your own suggestions.

4 Him:

Try neutering yourself and then see whether you will be happy with your own suggestions.

Why wouldn't I be happy?? At least I can satisfy my wife and have my own children as other men do.

Do you want him to hang himself??

:-x

Take him to the hospital. . .

sun_temi:


I go really like date someone like u. I think I like that.

sorry but u ain't ma type!!