francescainnoce: insecurity is a major factor that can cause a huge damage on a long distance relationship...

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Long distance can work, all depends on you, who you are. You must have moral, self discipline for both partners, have some friends , who brought their wife from Nigeria. Both partners have to be ready to invest , in other for the relation to to achieve its goal.

Ok, I knw long distance relationship can work. I av neva had any reservations for either long or short. My relationships (just two o) av moved from long to short at diff times. So do I quit because location has changed?.what matters most is trust...in every relationship build ur trust...be committed, respect each oda n play by d golden rule...do unto others what u want dem to do to u...shikena.
Relationships r meant to b enjoyed n when location changes. ..it means its time to enjoy anoda part/aspect of ur relationship n partner.
So av bn in dis rel since 4 yrs now...d first two yrs were ultra -short distance rel..we used to see each oda almost 12 hrs every single day..lol, d last two yrs av bn ultra-long...he is in naija...me I dey uk. ...but we av only grown better n stronger...we gettn married in less than 3 months...lovely countdown...
But thing is both parties av to talk n decide wat dey want...we decided to see every six months minimum..n we av kept to dat...all in all...like someone said earlier..its nt all abt physical location but abt communication and d state of d mind.
Nonetheless, long distance has its shortcomings. ..sometimes I feel like jumpin from my window n landn in naija..bt he always reassures me its a countdown ...n one day we wl b together forever...so happy dt day is gettin closer...Baba God na ur hand we dey o...#prayermode

DrBaby: Ok, I knw long distance relationship can work. I av neva had any reservations for either long or short. My relationships (just two o) av moved from long to short at diff times. So do I quit because location has changed?.what matters most is trust...in every relationship build ur trust...be committed, respect each oda n play by d golden rule...do unto others what u want dem to do to u...shikena.
Relationships r meant to b enjoyed n when location changes. ..it means its time to enjoy anoda part/aspect of ur relationship n partner.
So av bn in dis rel since 4 yrs now...d first two yrs were ultra -short distance rel..we used to see each oda almost 12 hrs every single day..lol, d last two yrs av bn ultra-long...he is in naija...me I dey uk. ...but we av only grown better n stronger...we gettn married in less than 3 months...lovely countdown...
But thing is both parties av to talk n decide wat dey want...we decided to see every six months minimum..n we av kept to dat...all in all...like someone said earlier..its nt all abt physical location but abt communication and d state of d mind.
Nonetheless, long distance has its shortcomings. ..sometimes I feel like jumpin from my window n landn in naija..bt he always reassures me its a countdown ...n one day we wl b together forever...so happy dt day is gettin closer...Baba God na ur hand we dey o...#prayermode

Wish you guys a wonderful life together.
@topic, what makes you so sure one partner is always gonna cheat?

With the way girls of nowadays like kukere, if you are having a long distance relationship, you are on a long thing!

No.

DR is no problem@all..bt dat ur timid thought is way out of line...

bennyraz: yea.. it not for everybody.. i think is meant for timid people.. or what explanation can your provide?

Once there is love.....no wahala!
A couple who dated for 12yrs, an estimate of 9yrs was distance apart are set to marry this yr.

Its for matured minds

Yep pretty much

First of all Bennyraz, why would u expect to have a honest, and sincere response from people on this topic when majority here are indirectly here to find TALL DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP or are in one already

We all know the truth, but I am sure none of us would want to admit that truth no matter what.

Long distance relationship can only work if the parties involved met in person and had been lovers or friends in real life for a long period before something separates them and leaving them with no other option than to be far apart.

Such conditions may be:

1. Career
2. Business
3. Education
4. Etc

But still, human are very cunning and selfish in life, and it takes the grace of God to stand the pressure unless the two parties are very strong in Christ.

And researches on this have shown that most people who indulge in long distance relationship fall under these categories:

FOR GUYS
1. Unemployed/under-employed/broke/out of job

2. Not handsome or social enough to attract their dream girl within their environment.

3. Playboys looking for a way to expand their prey kingdom without having them close to monitor his movements and escapades.

LADIES
1. Ugly/Not so beautiful/Obese/Shy, who hardly get approached by guys
2. Play girls looking for ways to expand their male preys without having them close by to monitor their moves.
3. Teenage girls who are still living fantasy life.
4. Heartbroken girls looking for ways to mend their hearts with the belief that having a partner afar would prevent heartbreak and sexual intimacy.

In summary, long distance relationship isn't worth it if u can find a partner around u. Don't just plan to involve in a long distance relationship...if u can, pls avoid it for so many reasons. Reach out for love around u but if God says it must be a long distance relationship, so be it.

Though the whim of internet/social network platforms have further increased the desire for and rate of long distance relationship amongst youths of nowadays.

God help our generation.

it works, in as much as d love and trust is there...

Long distance relationships can work if:

1. They have been dating a very long time before being separated

2. One or both partners are virgins

3. If none is a virgin, they have never been intimate with each other

4. If they are both "born again"

5. If they are both frigid

6. If one of the partners is heavilly loaded and †нэ other isn't

7. If they are both dead.


Apart from †нэ above reasons, †нэ long distance thingy won't work. Out of sight is out of mind.

I dey craze? Monkey go dey work baboon go they chop' no way 4 dat.

Long what Sorry! it can never werk for me.Not at the start of a relationship. Prolly when i have made my mark and she in turn have done the same to me.. Then we can stay miles away from each other without keeping heads up.

Long distance relationship ​CA̷̷̴̐͠Ŋ only work perfectly well if the two parties have a long history of knowing themself very well...
This works well especially people who have known themself since when they were young... That kind of relation has a higher change to ending well

Spotless_babe: it works for those who knows what it takes to be in a r/ship....n not fr amateurs who thinks r/ship is all abt sex.

If it is not all about sex,why do u think most couples bother to live with each other?

Well as for me, i'd say long dist relatnship is worth it only wen dere is TRUST, UNDERSTANDN, nd FUTURE btw bth parties. If nt am sorry ts jux a game.
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Odunharry: yap it is worth it...nt for evrybody

Not everyone would benefit from it..#UnderstandingMatters

oluamid: Long distance relationships can work if:

1. They have been dating a very long time before being separated

2. One or both partners are virgins

3. If none is a virgin, they have never been intimate with each other

4. If they are both "born again"

5. If they are both frigid

6. If one of the partners is heavilly loaded and †нэ other isn't

7. If they are both dead.


Apart from †нэ above reasons, †нэ long distance thingy won't work. Out of sight is out of mind.

What kind of death? physical or spiritual?

It's not easy, can someone stay without seeing his wife and three children for three years? After been married for ten years. Yes they both talk everyday. If you are not strong you will first develop high blood pressure. But like someone earlier said is just God. Amatures can't handle similar situation. wife and children in abroad while husband is in Nigeria.

long distant relationship is worth if it really worth it... you cant start a relationship today and expect it to work out well if u are at both end of the world... but sometimes distant might come in at a time in which you've gone far on ur relationship, that can work but it take the grace of God and trust, patience, love i mean real love oooo... I am also suffering from dis situation ooo but its only God that has bin seeing us through... IT CAN WORK IF U WANT IT TO WORK...[size=8pt][/size]

Mmmmmm.... Don't waste your time in a distance relationship, My Ex came to visit me all the way from ABJ, We were busy straffing and her boyfriend called showing so much care and love, and she was naked and my d*ck inside her, well I felt guilty and told her what she did was bad, she could just have ignored the call and show a little respect, well that was it for the night... Ladies ehn

Its a dangerous ball game. its a risk nt worth taking. except d Spirit of God is involved.

I do not subscribe to the idea.

Joshcoli: Mmmmmm.... Don't waste your time in a distance relationship, My Ex came to visit me all the way from ABJ, We were busy straffing and her boyfriend called showing so much care and love, and she was naked and my d*ck inside her, well I felt guilty and told her what she did was bad, she could just have ignored the call and show a little respect, well that was it for the night... Ladies ehn

wow. So you're the one who was feeling guilty and not the lady? Wow. I've always maintained that when women want to be demonic no body fit see their back. Ladies are just plain evil.

Oxygenmayo:

What kind of death? physical or spiritual?

Physical. They won't be able to cheat on each other if they are both dead and buried.

It works for me..........

bennyraz: To me, i believe long distance relationship is a big sham by one of the party involved. It might be the guy or the babe but one party is definitely playing one party. How can you explain a girl in School in PH riding/sexing another man while answering the call of her supposed fiance in lagos saying "Sweetie, i miss you, I love you" while the joystick of another man is still inside her?? how can you explain another married man harboring a young girl in his home while his wife just took a trip to South Africa. Nairalanders.. my eyes have seen, my ears have heard and what more should i say? Is long distance relationship really worth the stress? knowing fully well that one party would cheat? and why do people involve themselves in long distance relationship? Is it because of their low self esteem or timidity? mind you, I have enjoyed the benevolence of long distance relationship it ended well but not an happily ever after well.

it really can work out well. it depends on the people involved and what they want from such relationship. see http://realdeeplove.com/2012/11/making-a-long-distance-relationship-work/

It depends on the nature of relationship.if it is intimate,it requires mutual commitment of which closeness is an integral part.however,distance relationship may work if parties involved are mature in attitude and have high level of mutual trust.

They are not for everyone but do work. I am an Irishman who has been travelling regularly to Naija (Lagos, Warri [Waffi!?], Port Harcourt, Bonny etc) over the last 12 years or so. My Fiance (an Edo girl) has been with me for over two and a half years. I have been unable to travel now for 18 months but next year will be back in Lagos (I'm a Eko boy at heart) and will marry her.

So for us it seems to be working and I hope will have a happy ending!