it works for those who knows what it takes to be in a r/ship....n not fr amateurs who thinks r/ship is all abt sex.

I refuse to contribute on this!

It isn't abt the distance but abt the commitment and trust they got for each other. A faithful guy might cheat cos he doesn't trust his gf to be faithful. Unfaithful lovers would cheat even in a nxt door relationship.

Someone who can't be faithful in long distance rel isn't worth staying with, would he/she flirt even after marriage all cos the spouse is far away for one reson or the other?

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Good relationship = Genuine Love + Commitment + Trust + Honesty

Distance relationship - Trust - Honesty - Commitment - Effective & Constant Communication = F9



NAIRALAND & recycled threads

Long Distance or Distance Relationship?

Well, allow me to quote shah ruh khan. SRK says " distance is also part of love"

Sometimes, lovers are seperated by time and distance on individual path which makes it so easy to know the kind of partner he or she is. However, that is not the end of the relationship provided there is constant interaction depending on the fundament of the relationship.

In distance relationship the partners tend be more anxious to meet, they know more about each other if only the lovers communicate well. More so, there's high level of deception.

It works for some people where as, its a totally a time to others.

Pls pls pls, it seems some poeple dont know what trust means. Are you saying when a boy and a gal are in distance, the boy or the gal should pretend that nothing is happening all in the name of trust. Dont be surprise that your wife go carry bastard come your house wey you dey busy dey trust.

Yes it works and I have Testimonies..

I don't know oh! Ask ogugua and sexkillz

Yemiologie: Pls pls pls, it seems some poeple dont know what trust means. Are you saying when a boy and a gal are in distance, the boy or the gal should pretend that nothing is happening all in the name of trust. Dont be surprise that your wife go carry bastard come your house wey you dey busy dey trust.

i was patiently waiting for someone to say this make hin no kan be like say na benny oversabi everything

It will be the death of me.

for those that is saying it works.. I'm not disputing it. There is still room for plenty cheating without the other party knowing it. So get that fact right! nobody holy pass.. we're just pretending as if all is well with their idea of long distance! you begin to imagine what your other partner might be doing at the moment.. you call his/her phone.. it's switched off or he/she doesn't pick up.. you don't get to hear from he/she after hours! you now begin to suspect foul play.. later the other party say "you're feeling insecure" you begin to quarrel and not talk to each other for days.. You reconcile and get back to status quo.. still yet you aint satisfied! so many drama


Lastly I Would emphatically say that good, sexy looking girls should forget about long distance relationship cuz u wud cheat the same goes for sexy, successful guys cuz the women wud keep hovering around ya.. and as we all know, men are potential cheaters especially when they gat cash

My first and only relationship is Long distance . It's 2years now and we are both enjoying it and desiring to see each other.infact, we are getting married very soon. It depends on both parties to agree to make it work.we talk everyday, pray together, plan and share ideas. It would amaze you that we've not had even a quarrel so far.
In reality, if you are not ready to give it all it takes, I beg you to stay off.
Please don't forget the God factor

am an example to the doubting thomas....diz is my 1yr into it and am still counting

babypipsy: My first and only relationship is Long distance . It's 2years now and we are both enjoying it and desiring to see each other.
Please don't forget the God factor

Good news.. yes the God factor! you guyz must really have the fear of God in you! sorry o.. no offense o! do you guys attend the same church?

No we don't. We once worked in the same office.

bennyraz: Good news.. yes the God factor! you guyz must really have the fear of God in you! sorry o.. no offense o! do you guys attend the same church?

ok.. but how can you be so sure that he aint cheating cuz u aint seeing things for yourself or are you getting report on him from another source

babypipsy: No we don't. We once worked in the same office.

Forgive my being rude but I believe thesis topic has been over trashed. See links below:https://www.nairaland.com/550841/what-strengthens-long-distance-relationship
https://www.nairaland.com/951046/long-distance-relationship
https://www.nairaland.com/352358/long-distance-relationships-really-work
https://www.nairaland.com/5339/confused-problems-long-distance-relationship
https://www.nairaland.com/1000629/building-long-distance-relationship
https://www.nairaland.com/1303423/long-distance-relationships-just-say

I mean someone even added songs for long time relationship to show we had exhausted all the topics or things to say about the matter.https://www.nairaland.com/608634/best-long-distance-relationship-songs

Now if all these links don't help you answer your question I believe u won't get ur answers here then. But then, if u got something new to say to the matter then u have the floor but pls don't bore us then with an over flogged issue. Unless u just wanted to recast, decline redo a thread then p,s do tell us or give us ur reason for wanting our attention or doing so.

It's not easy though buh....it's worth it!
Trust ....Sincerity...Commitment...Good morals..If u truly love ur partner,u wudn't want to see him/her hurt.

Long distance relationship is better. Bt it depend on dere level of commitment. It may not work for u, bt it work 4 some.when it come 2 man and woman matter someone should b careful, we all knw ourself.

Am in a long distant rlationship.2 me it's hrd wrk,dpressin n i realy bliv dis grl av nt bin truthful bt i luv hr.i myslf av dn so many tinz bt we claim we luv each oda.u guyz cnt bliv dis! we'v nt met 4 clos 2 3yrs.i min am in plateau she is in delta. [color=#770077][/color]

i fink it depends.....nd it works perfectly well wen those INVOLVED ARE VIRGINS.....nonDless It takes a lot to make long distance relationship go well ...LEST they grow old before their due time....above all, if GOD B BY THEIR SIDE.....WHO CAN SAY OTHERWISE.....

bennyraz: you know there's a difference between an affair and a relationship? you also said it depends on the distance which means if he is outside the country, something might happen? if you guys don't see each other for like 6 - 12months, something might happen?? well, long history together factor might work to some extent becuz by then, you would have known what your partner can or cannot do.. Long history together is an important factor if the distance thing would work out.. but it's quite sure to some extent that if a guy goes outside Nigeria today, he might drop his GF back in Nigeria for a white woman cuz of citizenship and all that.. do you agree

well it might work for you and not work for others..... What about me? I have a fiancee.... We've been dating for 5years now and we've seen each other for the last two years... And the thing is still there..... What can you say to that.?

yes.. Drnoel.. we've flogged the issue before.. i only flogged it from a different perspective! And if you look at it.. the topic says.. is long distance relationship worth it?

Cutestee: What can you say to that.?

whats the secret?

Long distance relationships require commitment from both parties for it to work.
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insecurity is one factor that can cause a huge damage on a long distance relationship...
inferiority is another............
low self esteem...........
lack of trust , courage and many more..... can be of great disadvantage.
I think Long distance relationship is for the mature MINDS (not minding the age).
but then one has got to Love not minding the PLACE AND PLANET(LOOL)....

bennyraz: whats the secret?

m just saying it works for others

Depending with the kind of person.

Not for everyone.

Pedagogue: "...knowing fully well that one party would cheat? "

@ Op, so u think the cause of 'cheating' is long distance? Far from it! He/she that will cheat wil cheat - even if the person is living in your nose.

1.Long distance does not have to do with the distance of location...Even if you see your spouse/GF / BF everyday, once his/her mind is far from you, u are in a long distance relationship!

2.Once u enjoy the company of a member of d opposite sex other than your spouse, you are in a long distance relationship!

3. Once u find it difficult to communicate effectively with that person u call GF /BF ,u are in a long distance relationship...even if u sleep together everyday!

@ Op, long distance as a result of location difference is not the reason why relationships/marriages don't work...communication is!

I'm not in any way saying that physical communication is not important...all I'm saying is, Communication is key- Afterall, it is impossible for a man and woman to be glued together- because there are times they may have to be genuinely apart ....Thus, understanding and constant communication is key!Distance is a thing of the mind

#Best Answer so far! #Kudos

What is the need of being in a relationship and still doing soapy, hugging pillows in an unholy manner, have frequent wet dreams and being lonely? Haba! I better remain single.