CNN80:

Marriage is a covenant instituted by God. What is with all these weird definitions of feminism? According to Wikipedia "Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist advocates or supports the rights and equality of women." Wanting a different type of wedding is not the end of the world. I'm married and let me say
1) I bought all the rings. It was easier for me to take care of that.
2) My father didn't walk me down the aisle. I don't think they do that in the Catholic Church.
3) I wore white just because my husband pointed out that I had earned the right to do so.
4) I got rid of that part of the reception where the cake maker describes the cake and people observing us cutting the cake and making comments on what they saw. I never understood the point.
5) I had a reception breakfast. The world didn't end.

It was our wedding ceremony. We were allowed to make it whatever we wanted it to be within reason. An elaborate ceremony is not the foundation of a stable and Godly home. And I really don't know why not wearing white should be considered feminist.

Mrs.Chima:


You are right...God created marriage and ordained marriage between a man and a woman. The sole purpose of mariage was to build wholesome families where husbands love and respecr his wives and the wives does the same. Husbands values the opinions of the wives and take it to God who ultimately guide the decision for the family. That was the origin of marriage....now marriage today by millions are thwarted with men thinking that theub are above God and same sex marriage is now considered "holy".

Now getting back to feminism...feminism back in 1800's is the same as feminism in 2013. Do not allow confused and demented individuals misquide you with phony definitions.

Since the origin of mankind, women were treated like whores and maids. They were sold off to marriage to the highest bidders. They were not allow to participate in politics, decision-making of the family, and denied formal education.

It took a group of courageous and tired women to start the movement which was called originally the Women Suffrage Movement later became Feminism. The movement fought for women to have the right to education, participate in politics, have equal power to their children, work outside the home, and speak her mind without persecution.

Now that women have these rights in various countries...they are fighting to clear other inequalities however other countries to this day oppresses women.

Now some sexist pigs and tricks want women to be happy with the few progresses made as if they are better than God, which is the biggest sin of them all.

You said something I agree with...your marriage ceremony and life with your husband is nobody's business or control but you and your spouse. If people would to spend their free time perfecting their life and relationship...they wouldn't have time debating other people about their choices and lifestyle.

ileobatojo:


I am married and still use my maiden name. But, I plan to change it to my hubby's name.


And


I am a Feminist!

99cent: future of weddings


Love this!! even the guy's suspenders and shoes are pretty cool.

ERIN PIZZEY set up the world's first refuge for battered women in 1971 - and went on to establish an international movement for victims of domestic violence. But what she has never made public before is that her own childhood was scarred by the shocking cruelty of both her parents.

Indeed, my mother's explosive temper and abusive behaviour shaped the person I later became like no other event in my life. Thirty years later, when feminism exploded onto the scene, I was often mistaken for a supporter of the movement. But I have never been a feminist, because, having experienced my mother's violence, I always knew that women can be as vicious and irresponsible as men.

Indeed, I would go so far as to say that the movement, which proclaimed that all men are potential räpists and batterers, was based on a lie that, if allowed to flourish, would result in the complete destruction of family life.
From the very beginning, I waged war against my mother and quickly learned to disassociate myself from the pain of her beatings.

Her words, however, stayed with me all my life. 'You are lazy, useless, and ugly,' she would scream. 'You look like your father's side of the family - Irish trash.'

They were vicious words that I have heard repeated over and over by mothers everywhere. Indeed, when I later opened my refuge for battered women, 62 of the first 100 to come through the door were as abusive as the men they had left.

Many years later, when feminists started demonising all fathers, these stark images continually reminded me of the truth - that domestic violence is not a gender issue.

Feminism, I realised, was a lie. Women and men are both capable of extraordinary cruelty. Indeed, the only thing a child really needs - two biological parents under one roof - was being undermined by the very ideology which claimed to speak up for women's rights.

This country is now on the brink of serious moral collapse. We must stop demonising men and start healing the rift that feminism has created between men and women.

Harriet Harman's insidious and manipulative philosophy that women are always victims and men always oppressors can only continue this unspeakable cycle of violence. And it's our children who will suffer.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1215464/Why-I-loathe-feminism---believe-ultimately-destroy-family.html

ileobatojo:


I am married and still use my maiden name. But, I plan to change it to my hubby's name.

TV01:

Don't mean to be nosey - so feel free to demure - but are you "married" to a man or woman?

TV

TV01:

Don't mean to be nosey - so feel free to demure - but are you "married" to a man or woman?

TV

CNN80:

And this is what I was making reference too. What is the big deal about ileobatojo keeping her maiden name? Why must people make cracks at her just because she is in no hurry to change her name? Has her husband complained?

coogar: Why I loathe feminism... and believe it will ultimately destroy the family

keeked:

Interesting debate, this one.

My lecturer told us about this woman's struggle and how she had to move out of the UK. Feminists sent her death threats after death threats and she was under police protection.

coogar:

sure, they did. she lived in hiding for almost 10 years and feminists killed her dog when they couldn't get to her as she was constantly under police protection.

Afam4eva:
O boy wetin i do you? Why you dey call my name?

fresh_dude: So much for the innocuous movement. Truth is the whole idea is female dominance. They can dress it up anyhow they please but we know what the shiit is.

coogar:

truth is modern feminism is an evil underground movement there is worth billions of dollars. there has to be a propaganda that men are evil to keep the movement running.

do you know how much money the US government give VAWA? these funds are not accounted for, not audited. they are meant to fund the various shelters in america but the people working in the shelters don't get paid - most of them are volunteers....

the top radical feminists keep getting richer on the back of "all men are räpists" slogan whilst the average disciple is getting fooled by the antics like the mayan calendar. modern feminism is like illuminati.

fresh_dude: Lol. Good luck to them. I read a topic on freerepublic.com talking about how 'society' is indoctrinating the young with the fear, disregard and disrespect of men.
One would think that these highly educated women would know what 'equal' rights mean, but then...

ileobatojo: Are you "married" to a robot or a sheep?

ileobatojo:

Are you "married" to a robot or a sheep?

CNN80:

And this is what I was making reference too. What is the big deal about ileobatojo keeping her maiden name? Why must people make cracks at her just because she is in no hurry to change her name? Has her husband complained?

coogar:

highly educated women that are mostly touts.....

the video below exposes what the modern feminism epitomises. there was a public forum of the male victims of domestic violence. this meeting was organised to help rehabilitate these men and restore their self confidence after what they suffered from their abusive partners.

feminists gathered themselves in numbers to disrupt the meeting. in their idealism, men can never be victims of domestic violence. imagine what the outrage would be if men gang up to disrupt meetings organised for female victims of domestic abuse.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qodygTkTUYM

TV01:

Neither.

My question was a serious one. We are our posting histories and you happen to be one of the few who reveals very little. And perhaps for good reason? But you being a "contemporary feminist" and a likely supporter of SSM, I just wondered.

So my question stands?

TV

ileobatojo: I'll be more than happy to answer your 'innocuous' question when I see some evidence that you routinely ask married Nigerians if they are married to people of the same gender or not.

ileobatojo:
Also please enlighten us more on the use of the word 'hubby' among lesbians to describe their partners since you seem knowledgable of that subject matter.

ileobatojo:
As to what I likely support, this seems to be a favorite past time of the haters around here, isn't it? Assuming they know your opinion and putting words in your mouth?

TV01:

Just curious. Like I said, most people reveal glimpses of their lives collaterally when posting. You don't - as far as I can see. Admittedly I don't see all your posts. I believe you mentioned a son, other than that nothing. So I wondered. Like I said, feel free to demure.



It is not about lesbians per se. There are moves afoot to allow same-sex couples to use either term regardless of the sex of the couple. So for example two men could legally be two husbands, a husband and wife or two wives. So terms like "maiden" name" or reference to a "husband" will no longer possess the same face-value. Part of the convolution required to make "marriage equal".



I made it clear I was curious, hence my question. It helps understand differing POV', if there is some colour. I hitherto had no real sense of your beliefs, relationship status, orientation or very much other than you appear to be a trained medic.

In the current cultural wars, there is little difference banner wise between militant feminists and gay activists. I have ascribed nothing to you, merely asked a question and wondered out loud.

If you decline to answer or simply tell, no problem at all.

So, do you support SSM?

TV

LoveAmaka88: Why wed at all if you are a feminist? Marriages are patriarchal institutions perpetuated and sanctioned by male dominated governmental and religious institutions. A true feminist wouldn't want her legal identity to be compromised by attaching herself to a man. I want my damn ring, dress, friends, family, and institution that serves as the foundation of a stable and Godly home. I don't blame them for wanting something different, but don't try to label it as feminist when you are still subscribing to the institution in the first place.

CNN80:

Marriage is a covenant instituted by God. What is with all these weird definitions of feminism? According to Wikipedia "Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment. A feminist advocates or supports the rights and equality of women." Wanting a different type of wedding is not the end of the world. I'm married and let me say
1) I bought all the rings. It was easier for me to take care of that.
2) My father didn't walk me down the aisle. I don't think they do that in the Catholic Church.
3) I wore white just because my husband pointed out that I had earned the right to do so.
4) I got rid of that part of the reception where the cake maker describes the cake and people observing us cutting the cake and making comments on what they saw. I never understood the point.
5) I had a reception breakfast. The world didn't end.

It was our wedding ceremony. We were allowed to make it whatever we wanted it to be within reason. An elaborate ceremony is not the foundation of a stable and Godly home. And I really don't know why not wearing white should be considered feminist.

bukatyne: Feminists don suffer!

Imagine that a poster telling me that kindness and feminism does not jell! Seriously? All feminists must be rude etc. Once the word feminism is written, a lot of posters' have an e-heart attack!

Feminists do not want to marry!
Men are always in the wrong to them!

I wonder if most posters can differentiate between Feminists and Lesbians.
It's well

bukatyne: Feminists don suffer!

Imagine that a poster telling me that kindness and feminism does not jell! Seriously? All feminists must be rude etc. Once the word feminism is written, a lot of posters' have an e-heart attack!

Feminists do not want to marry!
Men are always in the wrong to them!

I wonder if most posters can differentiate between Feminists and Lesbians.

It's well

bukatyne: Feminists don suffer!

Imagine that a poster telling me that kindness and feminism does not jell! Seriously? All feminists must be rude etc. Once the word feminism is written, a lot of posters' have an e-heart attack!

Feminists do not want to marry!
Men are always in the wrong to them!

I wonder if most posters can differentiate between Feminists and Lesbians.

It's well