a friend of mine @work is on the verge of breaking off her relationship of 2yrs with her guy. she said they begun dating while he was in nigeria and upon his departure they decided to make it official as in a committed relationship.basically, the rest of the relationship as been ova the phone and occasional visits which she makes abroad . the guy came back 2 weeks ago and came up with this line of how they are too close and too compatible to be lovers and says they're better off as close friends, that brother & sister kinda friendship thing. clearly my friends upset but i feel theres more to it than meets the eye. first of all , i thought compatibily was a thumbs up for any relationship, and secondly i believe the brother & sister sort of friendship thing takes time to build up, how can u claim to be too close or too compatible with someone u barely dated for about 6 months before ur trip i think she needs to find out more, what do yáll think??

He is telling her its over but wants to remain friends with her. He is using the friendship offer to cushion the blow, hoping it will console her emotions.

It's game over

too bad!Tell ur friend her guy is walking away,I wish her d best and let her know she still got nice guys like us, Its no doubt the end of the world

He has found someone else.

it's Crystal clear he wants out,yr friend sud kno now. . ^{anyway,no wonder they say lov is blind.mine ain't!}

kai!! this babe has been checkmated!!!

jkpretty:

He has found someone else.

exactly what i think.

but if he has, its no big deal. why can't guys come out and just say it the craig david way "i just don't love u no more" . as hurtful as it mite be, it puts everything in a clear pesperctive. now my friend thinks its something she did too much or probably did not do rite. she plans on goin on leave to check things out for herself.(maybe the guy is frosting with some carribean chic)

Guys are sometimes worried to spill the beans in BLACK N WHITE cos most women are suicidal or too emotional.
A friend of mine once suffered an acid bath for telling his gurl it was over!!!!
Besides, how am i supposed to tell a chic suspected to be a witch/ogbanje that it's over. . . .
Am i crazy??

arianne:

a friend of mine @work is on the verge of breaking off her relationship of 2yrs with her guy. she said they begun dating while he was in nigeria and upon his departure they decided to make it official as in a committed relationship.basically, the rest of the relationship as been ova the phone and occasional visits which she makes abroad . the guy came back 2 weeks ago and came up with this line of how they are too close and too compatible to be lovers and says they're better off as close friends, that brother & sister kind of friendship thing. clearly my friends upset but i feel theres more to it than meets the eye. first of all , i thought compatibily was a thumbs up for any relationship, and secondly i believe the brother & sister sort of friendship thing takes time to build up, how can u claim to be too close or too compatible with someone u barely dated for about 6 months before your trip i think she needs to find out more, what do yáll think??

Gave the guy the benefit of the doubt.Maybe, just maybe he is telling the truth for once, On a lighter note, men are known to spew shit when inside a different saga is waging war, Being honest with one's self is the best therapy one can offer,

He just said it's over in french.

~Xerxes~:

Guys are sometimes worried to spill the beans in BLACK N WHITE because most women are suicidal or too emotional.
A friend of mine once suffered an acid bath for telling his girl it was over!!!!
Besides, how am i supposed to tell a chic suspected to be a witch/ogbanje that it's over. . . .
Am i crazy??

now thats funny.

i understand d emotional stunts women can pull at times like that, but then a lady cable of exploding like that will show such tendencies along the way. u can't totally blame ladies for being that way atimes, its means alot for a lady to reject other advances just because u make her believe her life revolves around u, and then, --poof!.the rage will be dangerous and especially with lame reasons like this. pple break up and still make d most of it and stay close , i think it just depends on personalities and the approach.

arianne:

now thats funny.

i understand d emotional stunts women can pull at times like that, but then a lady cable of exploding like that will show such tendencies along the way. u can't totally blame ladies for being that way atimes, its means alot for a lady to reject other advances just because u make her believe her life revolves around u, and then, --poof!.the rage will be dangerous and especially with lame reasons like this. people break up and still make d most of it and stay close , i think it just depends on personalities and the approach.

Invigorating!!!!

I still think guys have to be diplomatic when breaking up with a woman.
Women sometimes interprete a man's bluntness as arrogance or irresponsibility.
The best way to do it is not to tell her at all till she finds out herself or lie one is born-again!!!!

~Antidote~:

Gave the guy the benefit of the doubt.Maybe, just maybe he is telling the truth for once, On a lighter note, men are known to spew shit when inside a different saga is waging war, Being honest with one's self is the best therapy one can offer,

assumin its the truth like u suggested, is being compatible a bad thing, would he rather ba happier always on the other side of the page, when he's up, she'd down or when she's in , he's out? besides i believe filal fondness takes awhile.

Esss:

He just said it's over in french.

after saying i luv you in spanish abi?

@ Topic, Just as usual. He's found someone else.
THe thing about this is that if you feel you're too comfortable with someone - you start taking things for granted. Maybe he's actually too compatible with her

j-girl:

@ Topic, Just as usual. He's found someone else.
THe thing about this is that if you feel you're too comfortable with someone - you start taking things for granted. Maybe he's actually too compatible with her

i quite agree. my friend manages to pass across this "goody 2 shoes" personality easily. i guess he's just takin advantage of that.

~Xerxes~:

Invigorating!!!!

I still think guys have to be diplomatic when breaking up with a woman.
Women sometimes interprete a man's bluntness as arrogance or irresponsibility.
The best way to do it is not to tell her at all till she finds out herself or lie one is born-again!!!!

well probably becos men can do very little without their ego getting in the way.

as per the born- again line, if he says he's born agian then she's the mother of jesus! very compatible.

arianne:

well probably because men can do very little without their ego getting in the way.

Egos? I dunno about that.

as per the born-again line, if he says he's born agian then she's the mother of jesus! very compatible.

U reckon??

arianne:

assumin its the truth like u suggested, is being compatible a bad thing, would he rather ba happier always on the other side of the page, when he's up, she'd down or when she's in , he's out? besides i believe filal fondness takes awhile.
after saying i love you in spanish abi?

Did I imply such?

I dont believe any two people are alike, and yes compatibility is important even in platonic relationships, The thing is many of us don't under the meaning of compatility, We somehow misconstud it with stupidity,

j-girl:

@ Topic, Just as usual. He's found someone else.
THe thing about this is that if you feel you're too comfortable with someone - you start taking things for granted. Maybe he's actually too compatible with her

Where have you been all day? You've hit the hammer on the nail hon,

don't mistake 'complacency' with being 'too-compatible' - or else is this your way of saying unless the woman provides 'drama' from time to time so that he doesn't 'take her for granted' then it won't work? That is not being too-compatible - being too compatible means they are too GOOD for each other?? It doesn't exist in my book - too alike maybe (maybe meaning they reinforce negatives but don't complement each other) but not too-compatible.

~Antidote~:

Where have you been all day? You've hit the hammer on the nail hon,

I've been on my bed all day with a flu. Gosh - i hate these things. How are you? I liked your reply though. Not to jump into conclusion directly.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww. You poor thing, Had the fever too and migraine, but its this freakum weather, Don't worry I emptied the man's bottle of vodka, It must knock it out by force

~Antidote~:

Did I imply such?

I don't believe any two people are alike, and yes compatibility is important even in platonic relationships, The thing is many of us don't under the meaning of compatility, We somehow misconstud it with stupidity,

no u didnt, was just threadin ur path of benefit of a doubt.

debosky:

don't mistake 'complacency' with being 'too-compatible' - or else is this your way of saying unless the woman provides 'drama' from time to time so that he doesn't 'take her for granted' then it won't work? That is not being too-compatible - being too compatible means they are too GOOD for each other?? It doesn't exist in my book - too alike maybe (maybe meaning they reinforce negatives but don't complement each other) but not too-compatible.

if i culd hug u, i would. ur rite on it. maybe my question should av been can 2 pple be too good for each other?

@post
The man don find another woman. . .Tis Game Over!

arianne:

maybe my question should av been can 2 people be too good for each other?

Too good for each other to seperate or to marry?
Which one?

~Xerxes~:

Too good for each other to seperate or to marry?
Which one?

too good to be together?

That one is gone,  for others , i advice they both go for libido text before going into relationship, anybody that travel abroad don sabi wetin dem dey call Bed, there are profesional bed drivers up there, maybe there was comparism

arianne:

too good to be together!!!

How can 2 people be too good to be together.
When people are compatible then it means they are doing extremely well.
When did something good turns out to be NEGATIVE??

~Xerxes~:

How can 2 people be too good to be together.
When people are compatible then it means they are doing extremely well.
When did something good turns out to be NEGATIVE??

strong wake up call, xactly my point all along, the guy saying she was this or wasnt that would be logical, but too good together is scary. something is definitely stewing.

arianne:

strong wake up call, xactly my point all along, the guy saying she was this or wasnt that would be logical, but too good together is scary. something is definitely stewing.

The guy is very wack at making excuses.
What he wanted to say or what he should have said is. . . . . . .Baby, reh reh reh. . . . . .U are too good for me. U deserve someone better than me.
But when he claims he is good and the girl is too good. . . . .Thats no break-up excuse.
I suggest u tell your friend to get the guy kidnapped and castrate him. He is a disgrace to us men.
If a nigga gotta lie, he should make frantic efforts to do it well. . . . .If a man has to be monkey, let him be a gorilla.

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The guy is very wack at making excuses.
What he wanted to say or what he should have said is. . . . . . .Baby, reh reh reh. . . . . .You are too good for me. You deserve someone better than me.
But when he claims he is good and the girl is too good. . . . .Thats no break-up excuse.
I suggest u tell your friend to get the guy kidnapped and castrate him. He is a disgrace to us men.
If a nigga gotta lie, he should make frantic efforts to do it well. . . . .If a man has to be monkey, let him be a gorilla.
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damn rite. its like trying to give her a soft and decent closure but its pointless in every way. probably sayin u have no reason mite sound beta.

kidnap and castrate? becos of man? she's beta than that and i know the this blows ova, she'll find someone more deserving.

Too close and compatible, That has to be the worst break up excuse i have eva in my entire life heard.