LaShawn: @Bluuu
I'm convinced beyond all reasonable doubt that your boyfriend is abusive. You don't have to be a victim before taking action o, I think you should run NOW. This issue might seem simple, you might think he calls you frequently Because he loves you or that he doesn't want you to deny him your body for same reason But I'll tell you again and again that if you don't leave, you'd have yourself to blame.

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

Nashville:

I am genuinely happy for you. You have made the right decision with reasonable assurance and certainty. Now you do not need to have any regrets because somehow, his true self has been revealed to you and you dont have to look back.

If you can, put a block on his number and do not take his calls. No begging o, no sweet talk o. Occupy your mind with other things and try going out more rather than sulking. Better guys dey out there, you will soon meet one of them.

kreami diva: good step. life is too short to live in fear,panic and misery

bellong:

Hey how are you, hope you are fine now?

It is well

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

bluuu: thanks everyone.

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

yellowpawpaw: At times the voice of man is the voice of God. Its very good u came seeking for opinion and u gat good one Aluu.

May God continue to lead u as he has already started.
He cares and fights for all of us.
He will lead u to what he has prepared for u.

LaShawn:
In Jesus name would call and by the time he dropped, I was either weeping or in one emotional pain or the other. There was NOTHING Christ-like about him.

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

nbright: My mom was telling me this morning about a woman that lived in our estate... If she entertains visitors and the woman gives them the family photo album to view, the man will start beating the woman in the prescence of her guests, he alienated her from her friends and families... It got to an extent that the parents of the woman dragged the husband to court but the wife went to court and said that what is happening is a family matter that they will settle it at home... Some girls feel ashamed to leave their husband's house after all the mouths that they've made to their friends and they think of how people will talk that they are now divorced after all the glamours and razzmatazz of the weddings...

bluuu: tnx everyone ,u were right.my last encounter with him ws forceful tho no injuries sustained.i v called it quit wt him.its hard to do considering our friendship bt i did wat was best for me.i feel lonely cos i realised outside him i didnt av friend( for two days now,no call frm any friend) but i wil survive.im just gonna focus on my career .tnk u all

swag queen: His sister keeps saying that if i leave,I'll be the one to lose.(which is true in a sense) but cuming from a divorcee whose husband battered until she ran for her life,i wonder what this world's turning into. She says many women want to be married to him and that as I'm the "lucky one",i should stay and still show him love. Till the day i die?

I'm pained,I'm crying,my heart is heavy but no one understands my pain. He's gone for a week now and my daughter keeps asking when daddy is coming back. I'm at my lowest ebb emotionally and all people can say is stay for the sake of the children.

I have no more self-esteem. He has abused,battered and violated me. He tells me things that make me feel I'm worth nothing. I'm tired!

swag queen: My husband's folks are loyal to him because ofnthe things he does for them and therefore,no one talks to him.he's a lord on his own. And of course the issue of infidelity comes to play too. He monitors my every move and is free to do whatever he likes,go wherever he likes and the last time,i saw a particular number of a female that he saved with a man's name,when i talked, he went ahead to call me names again. Came to beat me up as usual but for once in my life.my i stood up to him and told him never to try it! I guess that scared him a bit cos he dropped the weapon he wanted to use in hitting me..... i got advice from well-meaning friends to leave his place and go to my parent's house to heal but knowing him,he would never come for us.

It means i have to start life afresh. 30 years with no money in the bank,with two children and no job! God!

kayjasper:

Dear Ileobatojo,

I have followed your posts here on this section for a while now and I have to say I sense there is something wrong somewhere within you.
You either are a feminist who has gone fanatical about it or you have had a real bad experience with men before.
I feel hatred and anger within you towards men and it is becoming uncontrollable for u.

If a man threatens you once to slap you probably because of some thing you have said or done but didn't go ahead to do it, will you honestly call it quit?
Can you honestly tell us how you manage your relationship/marriage if you are in one?

Are you of the opinion that any man who gets angry and says words out of anger or frustration is an abuser??
Can you tell this house what your definition of abuse is? Cos it seems your definition is different from ours.
Be it as it may, can you share part of your experience with us here so we learn where you are coming from?
I do hope u read this with objectivity and give me a good reply.

PS. Loosen up woman, life is short, enjoy it while it lasts.