tkb417:

@ibkaye
just like that?

francessby:

They feels that you will not conceive because you might have wasted a lot of babies by doing D & C now see the result, and let me tell you is he's not going to marry you since he opened this his dirty mouth and said you must conceive first. Maybe that your doctor told him that you cannot conceive now you see your life,

getahead:

My boyfriend and I have been living together for two and a half years. at first things were rosy but now,
First he says he wont consider marriage unless he is sure i can get pregnant?!!! Is this normal?
Secondly I found out he has been romancing another woman back in naija-I am not nigerian- he is. I He denies there is anything happening between him and the other woman-as far as he is concerned we have a relationship as long as we are living together. I'm not stupid and i've seen the text messages they exchange. Am I wasting my time? He has met my family and has indicated he will come for formal introductions etc, I am not convinced, help

getahead:

My boyfriend and I have been living together for two and a half years. at first things were rosy but now,
First he says he wont consider marriage unless he is sure i can get pregnant?!!! Is this normal?
Secondly I found out he has been romancing another woman back in naija-I am not nigerian- he is. I He denies there is anything happening between him and the other woman-as far as he is concerned we have a relationship as long as we are living together. I'm not stupid and i've seen the text messages they exchange. Am I wasting my time? He has met my family and has indicated he will come for formal introductions etc, I am not convinced, help

nana:

Where in her story did she point out that she's been pregnant or done d & c before? Abi,where did she mention her doc's?
Nah wa for some african's mentality sha.
1: You've done a mistake of living with a man for 2yrs without any commitment
2: Sorry to ask but how old are u?
3: Do u work or u depend on him for funds et al
4: Sit him down and talk to him in a peaceful manner. Ask him what he really wants from u. If the answers u get arent what u want, Babe! There are many fishes in the ocean o

jek_kad:

y will u live wt a man for 2 years when he has not even married u,or showed himself to your parents fully for introductions?when will u girls grow up and make men beg u for your attention and not u begging them ?when will u girls make men know that they r not doing u a favour by dating u?
i am not against a girl dating a guy for 2 years,but im against the girl going to live in his house as if he has married her,y will u even pack your luggages and bags to go live wt a man that has not shown a good sign of marriage?

so many men propose to women on daily basis but its not a gurantee that they will marry u,and it does not mean u have to be dumb by going to live wt him

my dear d girl is no longer interested in u,he has seen a fresh material and you're now an oldbie,im very sure d girl is romancing now was not to loose to him,for christsake no man wants a loose woman ,they all want women that have got self discipline no matter how much you're inlove wt them

sorry if im rude,but im telling u d truth,d truth is bitter though but it must be told

get ready because d guy is going to throw u out of his house soon

nana:

I agree with e'ry thing u just typed. _{how are u?}

funkybaby:

Your both have been staying together for two and a half years.

He gave you 'terms and conditions' for marriage which in your own words 'until he is sure you can get pregnant for him'.

Could it be that both of you have been having unprotected sex for over two years and you are yet to tell him ' honey, i have missed my period'?

I am not a big fan of 'live-in-lover' arrangement but since you agreed to move in with him, you should just as well accept his terms.  

After living in the same house with a man for over two years, no wedding, nothing- so what is 'not normal' if he asks you to get pregnant for him?? So it is the 'habitating' together that is 'normal', right? Often times, we ladies just put ourselves into difficult situations with our own hands and then later we turn around to start screaming 'help'.

He might not tell you the real reason for seeing another lady. He might just be worried on why you have not 'taken in' for him yet after two years.

Am only trying to see things from the guy's point of view oh.

Most sensible post by far!

princess k:

sweetheart,there is absoluteltly no doubt you are trully not a nigerian, no nigerian girl will live with a man for 2+ years without him making a serious commitment, talking to his uncle or sister does not guarantee anything, another girl may also be talking to the uncles.we naija girls know our men we don't give them all until we are sure of their commitments.getting pregnant? girl get ready to be a single parent. no guarantees.

That's BS . . . better come & see!

spikedcylinder:

This is only one side of the story which in my opinion might be the musings of an insecure woman. We are always quick to judge men and cry foul when they have actually done nothing wrong.

Come to daddy & get a big hug!

TOH:

Funkuy I see what you are saying but is it really out of the ordinary to see someone have sex for years and not get pregnant? I'd like to think people are aware of the PILL/oral contraceptives by now.
People that don't INTEND on getting pregnant do what they can so it wont happen so for people to be "surprised" that a person hasnt been pregnant despite having sex for some time now baffles me.
I personally think he's using the pregnancy thing as an excuse. She should just leave and stop putting herself in such a pitiful situation

Isn't that contradictory? If a couple wants to get pregant, why would they use contraceptives again!?

Did you read what you typed!? . . .