uj_sizzle:
Please teach your brothers. I think globalization is becoming a curse

jay bee:
Why is globalization acceptable when it benefits only one party?

How come this same globalization ish gets frowned upon if the man dare try to use it to get out of the somewhat archaic practices disguised under bride price arrangements?

A practice ought not to be acceptable when it suits just one party

Idowuogbo: Huh? No ring ke? Babe, dats hot air!!! He'll probably do a runner. Tell him you want d damn ring or he can forgerrit.

druid06:

After una go say African man nor dey romantic.

HisRib:

Bride Price is tradition. It's something that has been done for years by our ancestors. Why are you trying to twist things? All this because of a mere engagement ring?!

Is this a sick joke? I can't believe we're even having this conversation. How in the world can you as a man ask for a woman's hand in marriage without a ring & feel good/okay with it? That's just crazy!

I refuse to believe I'm talking to grown men. You lot must be teenagers. I'm in complete disbelief.

A MAN does not run away from responsibility. A boy? Yes. But not a MAN!

Idowuogbo:
So proposing without a ring is what you call romance? Idonbulivit!!

jay bee:
Why is globalization acceptable when it benefits only one party?

How come this same globalization ish gets frowned upon if the man dare try to use it to get out of the somewhat archaic practices disguised under bride price arrangements?

A practice ought not to be acceptable when it suits just one party

HisRib:

Bride Price is tradition. It's something that has been done for years by our ancestors. Why are you trying to twist things? All this because of a mere engagement ring?!

Is this a sick joke? I can't believe we're even having this conversation. How in the world can you as a man ask for a woman's hand in marriage without a ring & feel good/okay with it? That's just crazy!

I refuse to believe I'm talking to grown men. You lot must be teenagers. I'm in complete disbelief.

A MAN does not run away from responsibility. A boy? Yes. But not a MAN!

HisRib:

Bride Price is tradition. It's something that has been done for years by our ancestors. Why are you trying to twist things? All this because of a mere engagement ring?!

Is this a sick joke? I can't believe we're even having this conversation. How in the world can you as a man ask for a woman's hand in marriage without a ring & feel good/okay with it? That's just crazy!

I refuse to believe I'm talking to grown men. You lot must be teenagers. I'm in complete disbelief.

A MAN does not run away from responsibility. A boy? Yes. But not a MAN!

uj_sizzle:
Not one party, it's more a question of which does the greater good.

Culture is probably the most difficult thing to dispense with, and moreso the 'archaic' practise of bride price which I suppose is just a means for greedy old relatives(in some communities) to purge on someone's wealth. Maybe when they are all dead, we can finally do away with it. But that doesn't change the fact that paying of bride price wasn't significant and symbolic in a good way back in the days. It's just been abused like everything else.

I don't see how the giving of ring doesn't suit both parties.
The giver pledges his commitment to his woman by leaving his mark(the ring) on her, the recepient by accepting the ring pledges her commitment in return and wears her trophy in plain sight literally saying "back off, i'm already taken". Looks like a win-win to me.
Every tradition i've know(historically) have been significant to both parties involved. It's just a pity traditional institutions have been bastardized of late and apparently the changes are seemly inconvenient to one or both parties. So really blame the people, don't blame the practise(except ofcos it's barbaric like that Fulani whipping thing ).

Idowuogbo:
So proposing without a ring is what you call romance? Idonbulivit!!

jay bee:
Phew, thanks for seeing my question for what it was really.

Here is another question, so if a ring is meant to be a sign of commitment and commitment is meant to be between 2 couples in love so why then must the ring be given to the woman alone?

sexkillz: The cold fact is that 120% of the men arguing agaisnt rings on this thread will ALL propose with rings.

You can't beat the system. This isn't 1887.

sexkillz: The cold fact is that 120% of the men arguing agaisnt rings on this thread will ALL propose with rings.

You can't beat the system. This isn't 1887.

Mynd_44:
I am giving my Fiance a bracelet and she must get me a wristwatch as a sign of acceptance ring ko

druid06:

It's improvisation. A dude proposing without a ring isn't trying to tell his lady he can't afford a wedding ring at the moment but he believes there're better things to come in the future and he wants you to be in that future with him even though he's kinda broke at the moment. He believes with you in his life, his destiny is about to change for the better. He believes you're his luck. Isn't the romentic.

Btw, what's the dealio with the wedding ring ish. Before all of una open eyes, nor be dash una papa and mama dey dash una to the person wey come ask for una hand for free of charge?

druid06:

Lol

In short, any girl wey I wan marry, na belle straight. Make we come see who go beg who for marriage.

druid06:

Lol

In short, any girl wey I wan marry, na belle straight. Make we come see who go beg who for marriage.

Mynd_44:
I am giving my Fiance a bracelet and she must get me a wristwatch as a sign of acceptance ring ko

sexkillz: A kiss and a yes are normally the signs of acceptance. Unless you pre-informed her about the proposal, your wristwatch dreams are dead.

Idowuogbo:
Wot are u saying?

sexkillz: A kiss and a yes are normally the signs of acceptance. Unless you pre-informed her about the proposal, your wristwatch dreams are dead.

Mynd_44:
Wait ooo. A ring signifies commitment and promise bla bla bla but why a ring? What not a diadem, a tiara, a scarf, a bracelet, necklace or waistbead? Why a ring?

We need to ask serious questions here oooo. What is the significance of a ring?

jay bee:
Phew, thanks for seeing my question for what it was really.

Here is another question, so if a ring is meant to be a sign of commitment and commitment is meant to be between 2 couples in love so why then must the ring be given to the woman alone?

Mynd_44:
Wickedness. But why a ring? You never answer that one ooo.

Can I give her a necklace instead?

a ring signifies commitment. She wears your ring with pride, telling other dudes to back the hell off.

If she's approached by a dude and she tells him she is engaged, what will be the sign of engagement? A necklace? Doesn't that sound absurd even to you?

sexkillz: a ring signifies commitment. She wears your ring with pride, telling other dudes to back the hell off.

If she's approached by a dude and she tells him she is engaged, what will be the sign of engagement? A necklace? Doesn't that sound absurd even to you?

sexkillz: The cold fact is that 120% of the men arguing against rings on this thread will ALL propose with rings.

You can't beat the system. This isn't 1887.