It is very painful when you really want your relationship to work or last but instead it had to breaking up. Author Henri Nouwen acknowledges this pain when he said “when those you love deeply reject you, leave you or die your heart is bound to get broken but that should not hold you back from loving again.”But how do we get over a heart break? Here are five tips on how to get over a broken heart and be happy again.

1. GO THROUGH THE PAIN
Stand still and feel the pain. Allow yourself to actually feel your sadness, loneliness or even anger at the break up. Making yourself the angel and your ex the villain will hardly help anything. Just allow the pain to seep in and finally seep out. Allow the fact to sink in that it is over. Facing and dealing with the factors that caused the breakup in the first place is very essential. This will help you in your next relationship not to repeat the same mistakes or bad experiences. The grieve you feel and overcoming that grief is what would help you get over the breakup. Going through the pain and not being defeated by it until the pain of your loss is over will help you emerge as a stronger person.

2. FILL THE EMPTINESS
It is best to understand that not every relationship will work out and It is really no one’s job to make you happy but yourself. It would appear at first like you will never be happy again without that person in your life but the truth is you will eventually. Fill the empty space in your life creatively with new and interesting things that ought to take your mind away from the lost relationship. Make new friends, meet new people. Do all you can to come out of yourself and to stop thinking.

unhappy-couple-why-living-together-is-a-bad-idea3. TAKE IT SLOW
It is not wise to start another relationship too soon after a break up or to try desperately to get your lover back. It shows fear and inability to be alone all by yourself and enjoy your own company. Not being able to do this shows low self esteem as well little self acceptance. Take the time off to be all by yourself and sort yourself and your thoughts out and make concrete decision what you want to do next with your life, whether you want to be with someone else or not. Whatever you are doing take your time and don’t be under any type of pressure. Make sure you are really taking decisions that will benefit you.

4. KEEP GOING
Give yourself the permission to be kind to yourself. Keep on going on. Call your old friends and spend time with them or have long chats with your favorite online friends, commit to doing things daily that would propel you forward and not backwards into the past especially things you have never done before or don’t do often like exercise, a massage etc. Try to get yourself to have some fun.

5. DON’T HOLD ON TO BITTERNESS
The fact that you were hurt by someone does not mean that there are no other good people out there. There are lots of wonderful people in the world who would not cause you such pain so you have to be determined to try to love again. That should be the mindset you should try to cultivate. Have the confidence that someone special made just for you is out there is out there somewhere and love would surely locate you both. You don’t have to strive to get to the person your meeting will happen all by itself. Just tell yourself when it does you will give it your best shot. Open your heart to the new love and start over again don’t let the past hold you back from happiness.


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