Matthew briggs: Why you shouldn't wait for Sex Until Marriage

1. Understanding and Compatibility:- Sex is beautiful, is sweet and fun but for it to be enjoyed by both partners their's need for both of them to understand each other, their sexaul needs, their preferences, style and rhythm. There is need for both of them to be compatibility and understanding if they a sexually in tune with each other.

Sex before marriage can help you get answers for the above before signing the dotted lines, because there is nothing as bad and dangerous as couples discovering they are not sexually in sync with each other due to either a intimate problem, intimate preference/style or the absence of very strong intimate chemistry.

2. Fun and excitement:- Sex is fun and refreshing in fact, it is a great stress killer. It can help spice up a relationship taking it to heights hitherto unknown. It is know that most people are focused on building their careers before marriage in these instance they are prone to stress.
Sex can help in this regard as a stress reliever... keeping you more refreshed.

3. Bonding and commitment :- Studies have shown that people bond more after a intimate activity. Sex is one out of many tools that facilitates bonding and commitment. It one out of several methods that passes a message across to that special someone. A message of love, of commitment and your desire to bond with him or her to become one.

4. Health and fitness:- Regular sex can help keep you fit and strong ... it is a fun way of burning calories so. The following are surprisingly 11 benefit of sex.
> Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming
> Boosts Your Libido
> Improves Women's Bladder Control
> Lowers Your Blood Pressure
> Counts as Exercise
>Lowers Heart Attack Risk
> Lessens Pain (Before you reach for an aspirin, try for an heavenly feeling)
> May Make Prostate Cancer Less Likely
> Improves Sleep
Source (link (http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/sex-and-health?page=1)

The question is why wait till one gets married to start enjoying this very important benefits.

Waspy: Cos, to be realistic (Lying will make me more of a Sinner), Can a guy trully love a girl, say a chick like Genny or Mercy Johnson or Beyonce or K. kardash.......e.t.c and not imagine or attempt to go sensually physical with her?

dotcom_na_me_na_me:

Heyyy, very simple to agree with you, but on one condition,: Can you swear with God, Shango, Ogun, Shopono, Obatala, and Instant Death that u won't run from a man if u discover he is an impotent man after you got married to him and maybe you've waited for 3 to 5 years or not.. Oya Swear

leatherman: This is an over-flogged topic on NL lately, but I don't mind taking some time to comment because, THE TRUTH CANNOT BE OVER-EMPHASIZED.

Sex MUST wait till after marriage. Don't ask me why!

You either take the truth or leave it. Neither is anyone forcing you to take it!

There are countless reasons why sex should wait. Inappropriate sex is one of the biggest and deepest reasons why Nigeria and the world at large is an unsafe place to be now.

People try to allow it so they are not criticized for other wrong doings. One thing is sure:

Whether you bend, break, bury or bypass the truth, YOU CAN'T KILL IT.

Even if you succeed at killing it, IT WILL RESURRECT.

teemy: i am really pleased with reading sister ngokafor's testimony. God bless you dear. keep your resolve and help others achieve same. God bless you all.

teemy: i am really pleased with reading sister ngokafor's testimony. God bless you dear. keep your resolve and help others achieve same. God bless you all.

teemy: i came into this world not knowing how to put on a vcr, use the computer or play soccer but learning made the input chips of the almighty activated. all things can be learnt by s/he who wills, but there is a time and a place for all things

tensor77:
STU.PID TEEMY SPOUTING HYPOCRISY get a life man and stop fornicating

teemy: hello friend. since when did sleeping with one's wife become fornication? guess you made a wrong conclusion. no hard feelings ore

Lucky gurl: That was a very nice evalaution from an unbiased perspective.
Life is all about personal choices moreso we're in a free world and everyone is entitled to his/her opinion and way of life.

In my humble opinion, sex should wait till after marriage.
Amongst the physical reasons of waiting is the absence of fear of,
-contracting veneral diseases, -having unwanted pregnancy.

The emotional reasons to wait includes protection from pitfalls associated with premarital sex such as
-guilt,
-misleading feelings about sex and love,
-hardships of breaking up e.t.c.

Amongst spiritual reasons to wait, U have
- protection from sin against the body.
- provision of blessings of patience.
-provision of the blessing of trust.
Just exactly the way the OP outlined them above.

I'd round up with this quote from a fellow nairalander though I can't remeber the exact way it was put: "Do not get yourself into a permanent deal with someone who's just temporal"

tensor77:
All your CODED posts here do indicate you have engaged in fornication.. But if you are now TRULY married then all well and good.

yhemster: I respect the writers point on both side even though it very obvious that he's pro-abstinence. I agree with almost everyones point of view expect those hypocrites who always claim that the bible is against this 'sex before marriage' and that.... For your information the bible is against so many things that we easily find ourself doing nowadays (lying, cheating/stealing) and there is no classification or ranking of sin; but as religious as we are, we tends to judge others who commit sin that we aren't guilty of yet. For example, you all can imagine the judgmental attitude we have when its obvious that ur friend get pregnant outside wedlocks or stole something and get caught. I believe that we are all survivals (who we are today) by his grace, and everybody has a different level of grace in different endeavors just as we are have different weaknesses.
Sex is just 15-20% of what make ur marriages, its getting over-rated with this everyday discussion. Once you are married you will understand what I am talking about. Lets there be more discussion of planning and building a successful Marriage (family) in terms of relationship with inlaws, old/new friends, neighbors, children and finances. These factors are good determinant for successful Matrimony.

Abeg let "Sex and Marriage discussion" get pullover off this forum (especially the front page)

tensor77:
Dumb poster asking daft questions and revealing his fetish inclinations. What concerns you with what happens after a couple is married? How does that concern you in any way shape or form.
If the couple are really Christians they know what to do anyway.

Vikta10: this topic reminds me of asticker I saw somtym bak lemme jus quote, "if am not suppose to have sex before marriage, why do I get an er**tion

tensor77:
Confused Wasp. There is a difference between lust and love you know.

zeongeon: Na wa ooh......this sex off a thing has really made pple blind.....if sex before marriage meant a blissful marriage why do pple still break up with very good sex partners, divorce and cheat on their spouses...there is more to marriage than sex..u can claim to enjoy the sex after testing but the person or babe may not even b happy with ur performance and some babes that are desperate will close eyes marry u and b getting D..I..C..K outside..how has ur testing helped u...some men even father kids that are not their's....one should put his/her mind on other challenges that could arise in marriage cos sex dis days is so cheap and shouldn't b considered d worst problem that can arise in marriage
CAUTION: when pple tend to go against God's constitution they invite problems