Age is nothing but a number.

Relationship or marriage is base on luv, marry someone u luv not age, age is just a nuber, luv conquer everything. 4get about bn ur age mate, seek God first. I wish u all the best

Destiny27:


True. Thanks

True talk! even 20yrs older than her, so far una dey nyash una self respect go dey if it have too and will not if there is no reason for it

I don't think that the op is ready for marriage yet, at least he is not matured enough to get married now. I said this because a man who does not know what he wants from a woman cannot keep one as a wife, no amount of advice you get here will give you a good wife or a bad one. There is this prophet we heard who married a woman 15 years older than her and some more who are more than 15 years younger than him and he told those who will follow him to do same and today ppl are dieing for him. My own prophet refused to marry at all and we gave our lives to HIM. And now you don't know whether you should marry your age mate and you want ppl like me to take you serious.

I don't think that the op is ready for marriage yet, at least he is not matured enough to get married now. I said this because a man who does not know what he wants from a woman cannot keep one as a wife, no amount of advice you get here will give you a good wife or a bad one. There is this prophet we heard who married a woman 15 years older than her and some more who are more than 15 years younger than him and he told those who will follow him to do same and today ppl are killing and dieing for him. My own prophet refused to marry at all and we gave our lives to HIM. And now you don't know whether you should marry your age mate and you want ppl like me to take you serious.

I don't think that the op is ready for marriage yet, at least he is not matured enough to get married now. I said this because a man who does not know what he wants from a woman cannot keep one as a wife, no amount of advice you get here will give you a good wife or a bad one. There is this prophet we heard who married a woman 15 years older than her and some more who are more than 15 years younger than him and he told those who will follow him to do same and today ppl are killing and dieing for him. My own prophet refused to marry at all and we gave our lives to HIM. And now you don't know whether you should marry your age mate because you are confused and you want ppl like me to take you serious.

It is only wrong wen u guys luk like brodas and sisters,d same height and statue,just luk at dis,can dis ppl marry?

maumau1: my very good friends senior sister is married to a man she is 7 years older than, she is not only very rich, infact she respect her husband and pet him like a baby, they have 5 kids.
my brother, u see marriage is not age, beauty. hight, colour,. marriage is more than all that....... i hve been married for 5years and we are same age .... is all about communication. how does this person understand and accept issues. the way u will study ur girlfriend is not the same u study ur wife o.
the issue that she will get old b4 u or after having babies is rubbish.... even if na village woman self. it is the way she carries and take care of herself, she can still luk very smart even after 11 children.
follow ur heart. all the best

Beautiful piece!

Destiny27: I decided to post this in family section because I know there are a lot of people with mature minds and experiences especially married folks.

I recently came across an old schoolmate in primary school whom I had a crush on then. I was such a good boy then so wasn't into all that. Few months ago, we started communicating. She is in another state working. Since then we have gotten so close.

She came down to the town I stay enroute her village and we spent a few days together. We realised we are in love with each other. When she left, I felt an emptiness and she too has been missing me.

I'm in my early 30's and ready for marriage. I will love to marry her but my only problem is that she is my age mate.

Please, is there any problem in getting married to your age mate?

Some people feel its not right because
1) She may not be loyal and submissive
2) By the time she drops two kids, she will look quite older than me

I haven't told her anything about marriage. Would want to clear some grounds first and then take some months to know her more before letting my intentions known fully well.

Please, what do you feel about this? I need mature advice on this. I'm at crossroads now and will appreciate your input.

Thanks

I'D SAY......GIVE THE DATING MORE TIME...MORE TIME.

A CRUSH IS DIFFERENT FROM LOVE. YOU CRUSHED ON HER WHILE IN SCHOOL....NOW YOU'VE MET AGAIN, IT'S POSSIBLE FOR THE CRUSH TO RESURFACE AND BE MISTAKEN FOR LOVE.

GIVE IT MORE TIME AND JUST....DATE......IN A HEALTHY MANNER, NO SEX, SO EMOTIONS DON'T MESS WITH YOUR BETTER SENSE OF JUDGEMENT.

TAKE TIME TO OBSERVE HER....GET TO KNOW HER CHARACTER, MANNERISMS, GOALS, LIKES AND DISLIKES, ETC....... SEE IF IT'S SOMETHING YOU CAN LIVE WITH.

THERE ARE INSTANCES WHERE YOU MIGHT THINK YOU LOVE SOMEONE, BUT AFTER A FEW MONTHS OF DATING, YOU FIND OUT IT'S JUST A CRUSH/ INFATUATION......BUT YOU'RE BETTER OFF THAN THE PERSON THAT RUSHED INTO MARRIAGE AS SOON AS THE HEART BEGAN TO FLUTTER BECAUSE YOU GAVE IT TIME BEFORE COMMITTING.

Neither of you know the other well enough to begin a lifetime journey.

DON'T MAKE LIFETIME DECISIONS BASED ON 'FEELINGS'.

Just a piece of advice.

@TOPIC, WHEN YOU'VE DATED AND GOTTEN TO KNOW EACH OTHER WELL (behaviour, character is something you should observe very well...does she respect you and others or just pretends to, etc etc) YOU'LL BE ABLE TO KNOW THEN IF SHE'S SOMEONE YOU WANT BY YOUR SIDE EVERY BLESSED DAY OF YOUR LIFE. You wouldn't even need nairaland for advice. You Will Know.

My 2 cents. Have a nice day.

Its a matter of choice, if I come back to this world again,I will still love to date my mate at most one I'm two years older than. No big deal.

In my own opinion bro, you must understand we are Africans and mostly Nigerians value age more.
Now, love is very hot in your heads; age may not matter so much as some friends on nairaland are pushing but ones marry her, signs of this age mistakes will certainly start showing.
In marriage, there are times it looks like "love" that brought couples together is not active anymore. Think about what those times will be like, but those are in marriage already they will understand what i mean here. its that period you will know the through colour of things and understand your mistake.
pls i beg, marry younger lady. We are not white people. It works for them but Africans haven't grown to such level.

Vallotti:
As a female. . . I HAVE NEVER MET ANY MALE MY AGE MATE THAT IS AS A DEVELOPMENTAL/COGNITIVE EQUAL.
They tend to act 10 or 20 YEARS IN THE DEFICIENCY column emotionally and spirtually-speaking. To put it directly. . . THEY ACT LIKE IJJJIOTS!

As I get older. . . THE GAP WIDENS. . . .
Sooooooooooooooooo I would have to say NO!
It would not work for me. I NEED A 10 YEAR GAP!!!! So, I CAN HAVE SOME TIME AND PATIENCE WITH HIS AZZZZZZZZZZZE THAT REFUSES TO GROW UP!!!

I need a man. . . not a boy!

SHE WILL OUTGROW YOU IN ABOUT 5 YEARS. . . .AND LOOK LIKE YOUR MOTHER IF SHE AGES LIKE MOST NIGERIAN OR NAIRALAND WOMEN!!!!

Age does not usually correlate with maturity. . . BUT IN MY DEALINGS WITH NIGERIAN MAN. . . .

THE BIGGER THE SHOE SIZE. . . THE SMALLER THE BRAIN!

OP. . . goodluck!

Just dey deceive yourself, look for 10 year gap well

Very apt, please if you read this, send me an email, would want to talk to you about something

meine:
I have been in your shoes. When i was younger, I was about marrying a 20 year old beauty queen who cursed me out because she was caught cheating with an ex. This same girl could kill you with respect and kneeling down but it was all an act.I was 10 years older than the girl but i got the curse of my life that day because of her wild exposure. She genuinely came back crying and begging but it was too late.Till date i believe part of why she made that mistake was her immaturity. Thereafter i did a re appraisal of my priority, i asked myself if i really wanted a beauty queen who will kill me with High BP or a matured and God fearing woman who is ready to settle down? I opted for the latter, she is few months older than me but its been blissful.

Integrity,Flexibility and Giving are the top factors you should look out for in a woman not if she looks older after 2 kids or whether she will respect you. A lot of things will test your love whether she is 20 or 50, I am not wishing you anything bad but what if the 20 year old woman experience delay in giving birth after marrying her? Will you run away from the marriage?. Be a man,The decision to marry someone is deeper than what you are looking at. You wont find a perfect woman,there will be some comma even if she is 20 years old.

As regards sex, please talk to the medical experts libido differs and depends on many things like your lifestyle,sugar intake,alcohol intake etc. but generally as women grow older their libido grows while that of men decreases. Thats why you see sugar mummies looking for younger men while many men are using viagra and burantashi with the help of Mouth Action to get it up. In fact, you cant use gender to determine libido,focus on a healthy lifestyle.

The decision is still yours on the long run. Dont make a foolish decision that you will look back in the future and regret ever making. Do you want a 20 year old who is still freaked by the latest android phone or a matured woman who sees building your own house as your immediate priority?