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Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 6:41pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
bukatyne: @OP: Excellent post. This "OP's" problem has very little to do with feminism. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Dantedasz(m): 6:43pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Interesting thread. Why are people refusing to believe the OP is for real? Is it becaude she is denouncing feminism as a waste of time? I bet most of those against her would have been praising her to the high heavens if her thread was about the benefits of feminism. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 6:44pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
coogar: Greensboro. Have you been here before? |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 6:49pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Re-Learning: Re-Learning: Ok, I'll bite. So after finally seeing through generations of smoke, what you've learned from it all is how to date, marry and keep an abusive loser? What a great antifeminist lesson to learn! Wish you all the best with your newfound epiphany. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 6:49pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Re-Learning: I have lived in the US too and not sure I ever heard any America write or speak like this. The sentence construction is so not American especially for someone that was born in the South Bros, abeg give it up. Discuss feminism if you want but no need to form all these stories! 3 Likes |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by dinachi(m): 6:56pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
ileobatojo: Ileoba take it easy . Everybody doesn't have to be cold and anti-men as you are ! I know this open heart confession of a repented sister pains you to no end but if you imbibe a little humility you might actually learn a thing or two. That is why I really love women who have not lost their head in the mad rush to be pro feminist. Women who have stubbornly refused to be masculanized by feminism. Those are the women that still makes sense. @ OP another point is that you need to see your husband as one who is there to complement you not to compete with you.This kind of mindset will help you to always see him as a friend and not an enemy. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by damiso(f): 6:57pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Re-Learning: I get your point relearning but my point was rather than always cast aspersions on the evils or by products of this movemens let's remember the real reasons why these movements existed in the first place . Let's just for a moment imagine life if some people had not struggled for some of the liberties we take for granted today. Yeah like all this movements, there are radical or extreme elements but as bukatyne has explained its left to us as individuals to learn to take the pros and cons of these movements and apply them in our individual lives . Yeah racism had to be fought and still exists but some people still play the race card even when its obvious they are not willing to take the blame for making something of themselves. Like bukatyne explained I also dont see how feminism might be the major cause of attitude problems.We must also realise that there are diiferent models that have sprung out of the intial feminist movement and the more radical arm is probably what would espouse gender hatred. I am quite familiar with feminism and studied various course units on the topic, my final year project was even on feminism in Islam and its faaar wider and broader than what 'some' posters on NL make it out to be.Infact it's in no way linked to wanting to be a man. (Okay there were some extremists but you have that even in religion) |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 6:58pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
coogar: G'boro. Have you been to NC? |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:00pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Nashville: Busted!! |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by dinachi(m): 7:02pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
damiso: Greatest problem with feminism is that most feminists enter marriage with a combative mood.They see their husbands as a competitor who must fall for her to rise. They fail to understand that marriage is complimentary. it is a union of two good people united in a single mission. To most feminists. IT IS ALL ABOUT CONTROL NOT EQUALITY! 1 Like |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:03pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
dinachi: Give it up Dinachi baby. You've been busted once by Nashville. Don't you get tired of logging in and out as different monikers every other minute? |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Chillis: 7:05pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
You are now a 35 yr old cargo. Oh Dinachi. How far can you go. Google is your friend |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 7:05pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
ileobatojo: That's not what I'm saying at all. In my post you'll notice that I said I don't agree with the violence but what was different about the responses were the genuine response from those that have husbands that told the lady to pray about and USE HER FEMININITY to change the situation. I'm learning that you don't have to use your mouth, loud talking, head rolling, ways to correct the situation. Humility is not even a term used. We have just as much PRIDE AND EGO as a man. And again, I'm learning that you can't combat pride with pride. It only causes a pride war because he is now busy trying to keep his manhood.....and at the end of the day, the situation wasn't made better in the household....you just proved that to BIG EGOS can start tearing down the family. 1 Like |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:06pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
dinachi: So which 'google' did you use to come about this definition o jare? I'm asking so that Dami can know which google to browse for your own definition of feminism like you sent her. Cos it's obvious you're not using 'normal google' so please clarify. Thanks. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by dinachi(m): 7:06pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
ileobatojo: @ Chillis. if you can't make any reasonable post without using different monikers to attack me then that''s your loss. I know that many other reasonable women are learning from these posts, I mean those that want to be married and stay married. 1 Like |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by damiso(f): 7:06pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
dinachi: I am not running away, but the way you keep going on and on about feminism being the antichrist and then give this dinachi: As the definition remember I said academic. Its obvious you have no clue what you are on about. I don't have the strength to educate you on your misconceptions so that's why I said Google is your friend. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:07pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Re-Learning: Guy, you don comot the "before" you wrote earlier? That gave you away. For your information, I have been to Charlotte severally and got job offers from Bank of America and Wachovia about eight years ago. Just about seven hours drive from Nashville! This ya Engrish sounds more Naija than American! Anyway have fun! |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Chillis: 7:08pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Nashville: I thought I was the only one that saw that. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Chillis: 7:09pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
I read " have you been here before" OP, pls let's go back to your previous thread |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by dinachi(m): 7:10pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
damiso: Since you want to run away, it is understandable. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:11pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Re-Learning: We are saying the same thing jare. If married to a loser and a wife beater, you have now learned to use your femininity i.e. cook his favorite meals, wear black bra and red pant and be humble and submissive so as to remain Mrs forever. Like I said, good luck. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 7:12pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Nashville: I really don't know how I can prove who I am. If you think I'm a regular on the site so be it. Again, I appreciate everyone who is leaving advice |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by dinachi(m): 7:13pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
@ Re Learning. My dear you may need to ignore some posts to get good answers. There are those who are here to only propagate feminist ideologies. They are the Wannabe nairaland Feminist bigots. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by dayokanu(m): 7:15pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
I am Barack Obama and I approve this message |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 7:16pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
If you want an example of how corporations capitalize off of feminism please look at the video and read the article attached. If after watching this, you feel that this corporation cares one moment beyond cashing in on more dollars, you are sadly mistaken. And this video does not shove it down your throat. It is very subtle things. Women can be just like men.....and when we are stop calling us names like pushy, arrogant, etc. In the meanwhile, I see women in the states that frown upon "Homemakers" and women that stay hime with their children. http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/12/10/_pantene_labels_ad_campaign_when_is_it_ok_to_use_feminism_in_advertising.html |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:29pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
ileobatojo: funny you, no be small black bra and red pant. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:31pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
The sentence construction of this American worry me bad . 1 Like |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 7:32pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
What you will see glorified in America are women who - don't take no mess from there husbands -make 6 or 7 figures a year -don't need no man to "do their thang" -will tell you like it is if you say something out of line -constantly says "YOU CANT TELLLLLLLLLL ME WHAT TO DO" What you will no longer see glorified here are women who - allow the men to lead their household -decide to live on what he makes and cut back on the higher lifestyle - stay home and raise her children so that she can teach them boundaries instead of being taught by the wicked world at a young age. -learn humility and respect and know that it's about her and her family, not just her. -learn how to use her femininity to change a situation instead if a nagging mouth and pride which would only make matters worst. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 7:41pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Nashville: You are something funny. I was born and raised in the US and you are determined to make me Nigerian. Lol....maybe you know where my ancestors are from. That's great because I don't. It's caught up somewhere in those slave records. Can you perhaps tell me what tribe I'm from? I've always wanted to know. |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by Nobody: 7:52pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Re-Learning: Dinachi? Sounds Igbo to me…. 1 Like |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by dinachi(m): 7:55pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Re-Learning: My joy in all these is that you are retracing your steps. It is not too late to make a change. Please ignore those who are only out to seek attention. They won''t make any meaningful contribution to the discussion at hand because they have no useful opinion. Hold your head high and do the needful, you will be alright. 1 Like |
Re: I'm An African American Woman That Grew Up In The FEMINIST Way Of Life- Help! by ReLearning(f): 7:59pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
dinachi: You're a blessing Dinachi |
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