Arial.bold:


reality speaks my dear misogynist.
you didn't answer the question for a reason. did you receive an opportunity to go abroad that you refused?
"mr. honest Nigerian" clearly, u r being dishonest with your foul mouth.

all these broke bachelors with "baby mama" issues talking out of the corners of their wide mouths. this is entertaining.
better go and find a sugar mommy.

Yawns
and you sound like frustrated old hag ,is that why you are still up ? No one to warm your bed in the cold USA ? Ah ah see lonely, unmarried old hag talking about divorce settlement ,who is going to marry you in the first place.

coogar:

that's why you have to be smart as a man...

hide your money in all the obscure countries in the world without her knowledge. buy houses in different names. create a safety net for yourself especially if you know you are a woman-magnet!

, way to go

POPE II:
, way to go

yes o!
men should be steps ahead of the law. i dey kampe. the woman that will take half of my assets is not born yet.

Arial.bold:


ok. good. if the opportunity does present itself, you are a bastard if you take it. stay in Nigeria as you claim you will.
simple.
even coogar is typing from his mother's basement in London. hmmm what do I know

People like me ain't looking for any opportunity to leave their country. I'm good where I live and I travel when I want.

Arial.bold:


yea of course. even Boko haram members to have their lives to live. they may be cotrributing to Nigeria's demise but all of you are entitled to continue to destroy the country. Nigeria is Nigeria.
what else is new?

I guess you are building Nigeria from your ghetto/project right?

coogar:
yes o!
men should be steps ahead of the law. i dey kampe. the woman that will take half of my capital is not born yet.

you live abroad. you may live in ur mom's basement or your baby mama's apartment but in any case. the law will always be ahead of you. no offense. you need to move back to naija if you are looking for lawlessness.
in anycase, I see you as a baby daddy than a married man anyway. Just know that if you don't pay your child support. the govt doesn't forget. they will take the money out of your pension. same with unpaid alimony. that is if you don't end up in jail.
same goes for women who owe child support and alimony.

coogar:

yes o!
men should be steps ahead of the law. i dey kampe. the woman that will take half of my assets is not born yet.

same here, in fact I killed that woman in her mum's womb

Useless women who want to have what the did not work for

Arial.bold:


you live abroad. you may live in ur mom's basement or your baby mama's apartment but in any case. the law will always be ahead of you. no offense. you need to move back to naija if you are looking for lawlessness.
in anycase, I see you as a baby daddy than a married man anyway. Just know that if you don't pay your child support. the govt doesn't forget. they will take the money out of your pension. same with unpaid alimony. that is if you don't end up in jail.
same goes for women who owe child support and alimony.

rubbish!
google "scott young divorce" - a smart young man who could have lost about £1 billion to an ungrateful wife but ended up paying a paltry £20m sum to her - he spends that in a week. laws can be bent without breaking it.

siddon dere make bra dey wear you.

what's this your obsession with multibillionaires?
the average family is middle class (or poor in naija's case)
if you are a multi-billionaire, why not just sign a pre-nup or better still, don't get married? The same goes with rich women.
abeg jor

Arial.bold:
what's this your obsession with multibillionaires?
the average family is middle class (or poor in naija's case)
if you are a multi-billionaire, why not just sign a pre-nup or better still, don't get married? The same goes with rich women.
abeg jor

prenups are not applicable in the UK. why do you think UK is the divorce capital of the world? why do you think simon cowell isn't married?

This is what some Nigerian women do immediately they get to America, frustrating the man so everything ends in divorce...
a lot of these desgruntle women just take the opportunity to wreak havock in the man's life. Nigeria is not UK or US, am sure they are regreting this law of devorce and that is why a lot of kids from western countries never knows their father... Once you take the man out of the home, what do you get? bastards everywhere....

sometimes i wonder what kind of world order we are getting now.... the kind of women we are marrying into now are like destiny destroyer with the sole aim of ruining men in any capacity... All i can say is "men be wise"

coogar:

prenups are not applicable in the UK. why do you think UK is the divorce capital of the world? why do you think simon cowell isn't married?

i'm sure that has more to do with cultural values. ie leaving a loveless or abusive marriage vs choosing to stay in one.
not everyone in the UK is a millionaire. although i'm sure you fancy yourself as one.
marriage is mostly a middle class institution anyway. the people who are most likely not to conform are upper class and lower class. these are where u will see majority of unmarried couples.
Oprah winfrey isn't married either. she just has a lifelong partner.

Arial.bold:


well, that's why I said 99%
the other 1%, who refuse opportunity to go abroad, more grease to their elbow. I have never heard of such a case sha.

did you get an opportunity to go abroad that you rejected? if not, then you do not count as part of the 1%. you just never got the opportunity. let's keep it at that

I'm not a Politician as you stated earlier, I've a valid US, UK and Schenghen visa and I have NO intentions of leaving Nigeria.

You shouldn't generalise, not everyone sees "abroad" as the end to all issues

bigx:
I'm not a Politician as you stated earlier, I've a valid US, UK and Schenghen visa and I have NO intentions of leaving Nigeria.
You shouldn't generalise, not everyone sees "abroad" as the end to all issues

good for you. when I said "politician" I am generally referred to the priviledged class that travel in and out of Nigeria as they see fit. These are the same people who tend to speak for other nigerians and pretend that all other nigerians are just as happy to be in Nigeria. and things are fine and dandy. why do you have those visas? why not tear them up if you have no intentions of ever leaving Nigeria?
tear those visas up. simple

I just looked at your profile and you seem to contradict yourself. your profile picture (of foreign currency being shown off on a platter) contradicts what you say in this post. same with your location. unless birmingham is some village in Nigeria that I don't know about.

Only very few women, and I mean, very few, can reason logically. The society didn't place women at a disadvantage position, women did. Ever wonder why the educated and employed ones still depend on men?

It is the duty of all parents, to raise girl child right. All these warped logic is due to years of girls been raised with a ridiculous sense of entitlement. All the women emancipation stuff is not really about gender equality, it is about getting more out of men by doing nothing just because you are a lady. In fact, I'm beginning to suspect ladies love for marriage isn't about love and family, it is about stability in her life. The only guaranteed source of livelihood women see always has something to do with husbands. I have met single girls with good income still searching for guys that will take care of them. Can't u take care of yourself and simply narrow your search to men that won't take advantage of you?

After divorce, a woman deserves compensation, IMO , only under these circumstances :

- They both built a joint business together during marriage.
- The man truncated her career or business by making her a full house wife.
- if she has custody of the kids.

Anything outside those three conditions is a complete fraud and shouldn't be encouraged.

bebe2: na so we see am o

You don divorce too?

Arial.bold:


good for you. when I said "politician" I am generally referred to the priviledged class that travel in and out of Nigeria as they see fit. These are the same people who tend to speak for other nigerians and pretend that all other nigerians are just as happy to be in Nigeria. and things are fine and dandy. why do you have those visas? why not tear them up if you have no intentions of ever leaving Nigeria?
tear those visas up. simple

I just looked at your profile and you seem to contradict yourself. your profile picture (of foreign currency being shown off on a platter) contradicts what you say in this post. same with your location. unless birmingham is some village in Nigeria that I don't know about.

Location reads Ph/birmingham/lagos

Selective vision

Foreign currency on a platter means "chopping" foreign currency, nothing wrong with that last time I checked.

When I mean "leave", I mean "settle" like a 2nd class citizen, there's a big difference.

rman: Only very few women, and I mean, very few, can reason logically. The society didn't place women at a disadvantage position, women did. Ever wonder why the educated and employed ones still depend on men?

It is the duty of all parents, to raise girl child right. All these warped logic is due to years of girls been raised with a ridiculous sense of entitlement. All the women emancipation stuff is not really about gender equality, it is about getting more out of men by doing nothing just because you are a lady. In fact, I'm beginning to suspect ladies love for marriage isn't about love and family, it is about stability in her life. The only guaranteed source of livelihood women see always has something to do with husbands. I have met single girls with good income still searching for guys that will take care of them. Can't u take care of yourself and simply narrow your search to men that won't take advantage of you?

After divorce, a woman deserves compensation, IMO , only under these circumstances :

- They both built a joint business together during marriage.
- The man truncated her career or business by making her a full house wife.
- if she has custody of the kids.

Anything outside those three conditions is a complete fraud and shouldn't be encouraged.

Sit among young single girls, get close to them so they converse openly and confirm your suspicions.

Quoting one verbatim; "make I find one rich man marry make all my problems end"

bigx:
Location reads Ph/birmingham/lagos
Selective vision
Foreign currency on a platter means "chopping" foreign currency, nothing wrong with that last time I checked.
When I mean "leave", I mean "settle" like a 2nd class citizen, there's a big difference.

Ok, now that you have let the world know that you are "chopping" foreign currency. give yourself a round of applause and go and sit ur butt down in a corner. bye

all you are doing is strengthening my conviction that 99% of Nigerians will take the opportunity to LEAVE Nigeria.

Arial.bold:


Ok, now that you have let the world know that you are "chopping" foreign currency. give yourself a round of applause and go and sit ur butt down in a corner. bye

this topic is about people who are suffering in Nigeria. not for politician's kids.

You are the one who made my profile picture a topic for discussion

It was where it was before you brought it here, I explained it's meaning and you feel bad already? Eh ya..

I don't know any politician not to talk of being one's child, I'm a business person and I made my money in the Nigeria you say 99% of people are running from,

You failed in Nigeria doesn't mean everyone is a failure, stop projecting negativity.

rman: Only very few women, and I mean, very few, can reason logically. The society didn't place women at a disadvantage position, women did. Ever wonder why the educated and employed ones still depend on men?

It is the duty of all parents, to raise girl child right. All these warped logic is due to years of girls been raised with a ridiculous sense of entitlement. All the women emancipation stuff is not really about gender equality, it is about getting more out of men by doing nothing just because you are a lady. In fact, I'm beginning to suspect ladies love for marriage isn't about love and family, it is about stability in her life. The only guaranteed source of livelihood women see always has something to do with husbands. I have met single girls with good income still searching for guys that will take care of them. Can't u take care of yourself and simply narrow your search to men that won't take advantage of you?

After divorce, a woman deserves compensation, IMO , only under these circumstances :

- They both built a joint business together during marriage.
- The man truncated her career or business by making her a full house wife.
- if she has custody of the kids.

Anything outside those three conditions is a complete fraud and shouldn't be encouraged.

GBAM. Feminism is the solution to the problem. all the submission and dependence on men will not help her once is is being kicked to the curb.
female children are being raised to be dependent on men. to see men as their king and protector. and what if these men don't treat them right? the woman becomes a destitute on d street or resort to selling her body because she has nothing else to sustain herself.

in western nations, we are approaching a point where women are the breadwinner in 50% of all households. This is how things should be. I look forward to d day when both men and women will be affected by divorce. instead of women only bearing the financial brunt.

Can see you edited your post.
That said, I won't get in an argument with you, woke early to do more important things.

Enjoy

bigx: Can see you edited your post.
That said, I won't get in an argument with you, woke early to do more important things.
Enjoy

you have made your point,
bigx "chops" foreign currency. we have heard.

now waka pass. bye

Men are getting scared like their world is about to get " better" (don't want to use the negative aspect).

I see a lot of vexations. Pls calm down, this is just a suggestion. Maybe a public consultation should be held and personal opinion taken out. Answers have to be objective.

And to those criticising me about the promiscuity stuff, maybe if you remain faithful, your wives won't cheat.

@ Op, kindly answer the following;

What of if the woman is d cause of the divorce?
Don't you think lots of women will be encouraged to divorce if your advise is taken?
Are
What gave you the impression that Nija men are irresponsible?
Have you taken your time to examine the cause of divorce in Nija?
Have u ever notice why young men are not ready to go into marriage anymore?
Do you know that the so call civilization and delinquency of our culture and adoption of foreign culture is contributing to downfall of our marriage in Nija?

I read your post and understood it all......am of the opinion that our women had been carried away by the fantasy of the white culture, remember that this is Africa, Nija to be precise, the blood can not be compromised...let's go back to the root why divorce waz not known during the time of our mothers, they saw their husband as their lord and gave due respect. Our mother took endurance as their watch word just because they want the best for their children and if you observe such critically, such women are enjoying the fruit of their endurance now through their children.........My advice for those who are planning to go into marriage:
1. Understand your partner
2. Never expect a perfect partner
3. Know him/her for his or her weakness and try to work on it b4 getting married
4. Both of u shd plan on ao to handle extended families so they will not cus any issue in ur marriage
5. The kind of friend u both keep, especially women....(Imagine, my wife friend copied my picture from facebook and show it to my wife that am planning to marry her cousin dat dis is d picture I sent to d lady etc).....thank God for the understanding / trust in our marriage.
6. Money issue, both of u shd plan on dis, it is very very important ....Imagine a situation where a man keep financing his younger ones and hardly attend to his wife needs?
7. Both of u shd see ursef as best friend and share opinion.....though in dis area women can be very funny cos whatever u shared with them can be use against u so as a man u need to check ur wife on ao she can absorbed matter b4 u share.
8. Sex is another issue to be considered, wife shd understand their husband urge for sex and see ao they can blend with it, also husband shd
9. Encouraging your man over little thing goes a long way especially when he returns from work where he has gone to face fire to ensure your daily needs. Men also to appreciate their wife for keeping home and taking kia of ur children....men need to understand that women play a lot of role in d family, I mean the good ones o....not those busybody
10. Taking matter to God...this is another vital point, taking your matter to men will cause more damages in your marriage, especially women taking matter to friends, families, pastors, etc....am not saying u shd not take ur matter to ur pastor but not all, they are human being like you, you can do d same thing they r doin if u devote ur time....if ur pastor is interest in the peace of your family, then its good but a pastor who divorce his own wife will surely encourage others to do same.

In conclusion, both parties shd look for a partner who has the FEAR OF GOD....not the one that has money, car, good job, good family background etc.......A God fearing man / woman will never give room to divorce.....no matter what.

I don't tink leaving her 2go away wit half of ur property will b d best, wat if she's d1 at fault. its lyk encouraging women to divorce knowing dey v noting 2 loose. I beg 9ja no b yanki

paris10: Men are getting scared like their world is about to get " better" (don't want to use the negative aspect).

I see a lot of vexations. Pls calm down, this is just a suggestion. Maybe a public consultation should be held and personal opinion taken out. Answers have to be objective.

And to those criticising me about the promiscuity stuff, maybe if you remain faithful, your wives won't cheat.

The problem with your last sentence is you conveniently found a way to blame men for wives that cheat.
Are you indirectly saying all unfaithfulness in marriage is due to men? The problem I have with your points so far is you see men as the problem, then tactfully, you want the society to punish them so u can be happy. Your happiness is in your hands.

Oprah's effort all these years through her show has gone down the drain, women are just not ready to be independent or can't be independent. They can't leave men alone. They naturally believe we owe them something.

rman:

The problem with your last sentence is you conveniently found a way to blame men for wives that cheat.
Are you indirectly saying all unfaithfulness in marriage is due to men? The problem I have with your points so far is you see men as the problem, then tactfully, you want the society to punish them so u can be happy. Your happiness is in your hands.

Oprah's effort all these years through her show has gone down the drain, women are just not ready to be independent or can't be independent. They can't leave men alone. They naturally believe we owe them something.

Typically, OP refuses to see that she's wrong. She'd grasp at anything at the moment to "prove her point" rather than admit she's wrong.

Go to our courts, How many of
the divorce cases daily are brought by "male unfaithfulness"? So women cheat only when men are unfaithful? That's what she's trying to project with her last post, women are saints men are wizards.

I doubt she'd get any sympathy with that attitude.

All said I learnt long ago never to try to argue logically with a woman.

all4naija: There is no right that protects women in Nigeria like in the developed countries. I hope this is addressed by the congress than passing law to marry underage girls.

this is a misleading and ignorant statement. The Nigerian constitution has elements in it that preserves women's rights, however, these laws need to be amended to account for culture evolution case in point protecting the rights of underage females. Other than that though, the Nigerian woman is adequately protected by the Nigerian constitution.

paris10: Men are getting scared like their world is about to get " better" (don't want to use the negative aspect).

I see a lot of vexations. Pls calm down, this is just a suggestion. Maybe a public consultation should be held and personal opinion taken out. Answers have to be objective.

And to those criticising me about the promiscuity stuff, maybe if you remain faithful, your wives won't cheat.

This is one reason most men decide to remain single whilst gettngs the flocks of girls to keep their company and warm their beds. And when they are ready for kids, simple walk into an orphanage and adopts one, then get a Nanny to care for the child.
Women must be developed and allow the development, but most importantly use the developments to earn a living, depending on men 100% is insulting your parents that trained u up in the foirst place.
Any woman that intends to cheat on her hubby has no business being in a marriage same for the men, except those who for traditional beliefs decides to take a second wife.

Singing Loud: we shall overcome them, we shall overcome them, we shall overcome them!!!

coogar:

43% of children growing up in america today are being raised without their fathers.

You gotta love civilisation