bigx:

I quoted you on the issue of promiscuity, check your original post.

And you don't think parting with half of the property would encourage some dubious women to divorce for no reason?

If the woman earns more nko? Do you support her parting with half of her property if her husband chooses to leave?

In my opinion the Post is emotional.

paris10: As in the norms in Nigeria, women who get divorced or are been thrown out of their matrimonial homes by their husbands tend to lose out alot.

Even in domestic violence cases, women who couldnt take the violence any longer divorce the husband without sharing in the property.

Though Nigeria is not UK, US or other western countries where women share in the estate or property of the husband after divorce, Nigerian men should atleast take responsibility in making sure the woman they divorce would be well-off after letting her go.

Laws should also be put in place to reward any woman whose husband left her for someone else. Even in cases where the woman is found to be promiscuous and the husband want out, adequate measure should be put in place to make sure she share from the spoils.

Married women deserve better and should be treated better.

coogar:

you are a complete idïot!
even when a woman is promiscuous, she should be rewarded for her promiscuity? you should return any certificate you might have acquired in the last 20 years - you surely don't deserve them.

paris10:

You married her promising you would take care of her. Who cares if she earns more! Some women work and some are full house wives (some men want their woman to be full house wife), so not their fault if they dont work.

paris10: Nigerian men have a responsibility; emotionally, financially and psychologically to make sure their women dont go on to have post-divorce syndrome with the symptoms of self-pity, complex and confidence.

You think 9ja wont be a better place if men are cautioned? Would they have 2 wives if knowing what repercussions would follow if the other woman file for divorce?

Would women be treated better and respected if the men knew what cheating could cost them?

dlima: @op this is a fantastic post. It is really worth thinking about . I have always looked on with concern at women who through no fault of theirs are kicked out of their homes and are left to wither in the wind. It occured to me that aside from women who really are career motivated the reason most women will never agree to bé housewives is because in the event of a divorce they will be left with nothing, even after the emotional investment and support.

bee444: Only women who go through divorce with no fault of their own should be compensated dearly by their husbands. Men who throw their wives out just to marry another woman should be ashamed of themselves and should be held accountable for irresponsibility.

Amelian: If the story abt the female engineering student selling okrika is true, then she's a D.U.M.B.O... She shudnt av bn trained thru university in d first place.. Except if she's a single mum wit kids, then her plight and decision is understable, but married? And doing such!... That's d height of it, abeg!

phuck_NL:
No big deal in being an engineering student (Nigerian one) jare. 90% of them cant tell you the significance of the laws of thermodynamics barely TWO days after graduation so all they have is a piece of paper showing they went to school. She's probably better off selling the okrika.
The fact that one studied engineering in a Nigerian university does not qualify one to be an engineer.

bukatyne: @OP:

Your thread would have had the desired impact if it was not too emotional and tilting against logic.

If we go the traditional route that a man provides, he only does so for his wife. Once they are divorced, they become familiar strangers.

Truth is I have never understood the need for divorce settlement except for a stay at home mom due to uncontrolable circumstances or couples who have joint investment. Patrimony? Yes

A man only owes his ex wife if he caused the divorce and the wife has joint investment with him or geninuely cannot survive on her own.

A wife who cheated the hibby and wants to part ways should also do.same

I guess we all should drop this entitlement mentality

paris10: ...Even in cases where the woman is found to be promiscuous and the husband want out, adequate measure should be put in place to make sure she share from the spoils......

Trottle:
Op, I thought you were making sense until you reached the above part. Are you that pained? I am not against renumerating your ex spouse but not a LovePeddler and if you insist maybe you should offer you brother(s), uncle(s) etc your opinion and watch their reaction. It seems you are one of those die-hard feminist that lacks objectivity.

davidylan:

why is it the man's responsibility to make sure the woman is well-off after divorce? Doesnt she know how to work?

lady gogo: i sometimes wonder what all those female legislators do with their time in the National Assembly.

If these measures were in place i trust that a lot of endurance type marriages will have ended a long time ago.

paris10: As in the norms in Nigeria, women who get divorced or are been thrown out of their matrimonial homes by their husbands tend to lose out alot.

Even in domestic violence cases, women who couldnt take the violence any longer divorce the husband without sharing in the property.

Though Nigeria is not UK, US or other western countries where women share in the estate or property of the husband after divorce, Nigerian men should atleast take responsibility in making sure the woman they divorce would be well-off after letting her go.

Laws should also be put in place to reward any woman whose husband left her for someone else. Even in cases where the woman is found to be promiscuous and the husband want out, adequate measure should be put in place to make sure she share from the spoils.

Married women deserve better and should be treated better.

paris10:

Maybe you've forgotten that it is for better or worse. Regardless of religion, our women deserve respect. And since Nigerian men are always quick to throw women out, they should also be able to pay for their irresponsible act.

paris10: As in the norms in Nigeria, women who get divorced or are been thrown out of their matrimonial homes by their husbands tend to lose out alot.

Even in domestic violence cases, women who couldnt take the violence any longer divorce the husband without sharing in the property.

Though Nigeria is not UK, US or other western countries where women share in the estate or property of the husband after divorce, Nigerian men should atleast take responsibility in making sure the woman they divorce would be well-off after letting her go.

Laws should also be put in place to reward any woman whose husband left her for someone else. Even in cases where the woman is found to be promiscuous and the husband want out, adequate measure should be put in place to make sure she share from the spoils.

Married women deserve better and should be treated better.

paris10:

Maybe you've forgotten that it is for better or worse. Regardless of religion, our women deserve respect. And since Nigerian men are always quick to throw women out, they should also be able to pay for their irresponsible act.

paris10: Nigerian men have a responsibility; emotionally, financially and psychologically to make sure their women dont go on to have post-divorce syndrome with the symptoms of self-pity, complex and confidence.

You think 9ja wont be a better place if men are cautioned? Would they have 2 wives if knowing what repercussions would follow if the other woman file for divorce?

Would women be treated better and respected if the men knew what cheating could cost them?

debsite: If given the opportunity of divorce compensation, some nigerian ladies will see it as a business opportunity and abuse it like most western girls with zero tolerance are doing right now.Even after cheating on their partners and being caught, they will use this weapon of compensation to get themselves acquited.
Though some nigerian men are very bad and can abuse every opportunity to any length by changing women like clothes. So, it only the women that are not guilty that should be given the compensation not the abusers.

paris10: As in the norms in Nigeria, women who get divorced or are been thrown out of their matrimonial homes by their husbands tend to lose out alot.

Even in domestic violence cases, women who couldnt take the violence any longer divorce the husband without sharing in the property.

Though Nigeria is not UK, US or other western countries where women share in the estate or property of the husband after divorce, Nigerian men should atleast take responsibility in making sure the woman they divorce would be well-off after letting her go.

Laws should also be put in place to reward any woman whose husband left her for someone else. Even in cases where the woman is found to be promiscuous and the husband want out, adequate measure should be put in place to make sure she share from the spoils.

Married women deserve better and should be treated better.