For every woman there is a kind of man


For every bey a jayz
For every toke a maje

So keppy don't mind the old school mamis

If you want to work to get money so you can outsource the cooking..good for you

Be patient and don't feet while you wait

It shall surely come

In short why stop at cooking?
You can hire a surrogate to have your kids so you don't spoil your figure

You can hire a porn star to give ur hubby sex so your punny is not affected

Carry goooooo

pickabeau1:
For every woman there is a kind of man


For every bey a jayz
For every toke a maje

So keppy don't mind the old school mamis

If you want to work to get money so you can outsource the cooking..good for you

Be patient and don't feet while you wait

It shall surely come

In short why stop at cooking?
You can hire a surrogate to have your kids so you don't spoil your figure

You can hire a porn star to give ur hubby sex so your punny is not affected

Carry goooooo

pickabeau1:
For every woman there is a kind of man


For every bey a jayz
For every toke a maje

So keppy don't mind the old school mamis

If you want to work to get money so you can outsource the cooking..good for you

Be patient and don't feet while you wait

It shall surely come

In short why stop at cooking?
You can hire a surrogate to have your kids so you don't spoil your figure

You can hire a porn star to give ur hubby sex so your punny is not affected

Carry goooooo

nasty you!!


@ keppy , you have to learn how to balance these two worlds, the same set of rules don't apply.
The office environment is very different from the home environment.
One is very competitive while the other is so complementary
You are encouraged to outsource and delegate as much as possible in one but there is so much you can delegate in the other, not that you shouldnt delegate/outsource at all o
It might help to get a real life mentor who is managing both worlds successfully
Personally, that helped me a lot
All the best!

tearoses:
Keppy are you vegetarian?

Partial veggy.....


Edwife, thank you for your words....

Pickabeau1, do you have a problem with money
Your Sarcasm does not bite...

Kimoni:


nasty you!!


@ keppy , you have to learn how to balance these two worlds, the same set of rules don't apply.
The office environment is very different from the home environment.
One is very competitive while the other is so complementary
You are encouraged to outsource and delegate as much as possible in one but there is so much you can delegate in the other, not that you shouldnt delegate/outsource at all o
It might help to get a real life mentor who is managing both worlds successfully
Personally, that helped me a lot
All the best!

Thank you so much...

I love good food and obviously I'm not the best cook in the world and I don't believe I'll ever be...what I'm saying is if I can afford a 3star chef to prepare my meals, why won't I??

Why don't we say it's a crime to get a blender, a washer, a cleaner, a nanny, a driver etc...

I see nothing with surrogates anyway...

Njokusboy made mention of emotions and all that, I totally get him...I totally understand...

Kimoni
Edwife

Abeg make una preach on top another thread
The girl wants a marriage of outsourcing
Make una free am

You are both old school

keppyy:


Thank you so much...

I love good food and obviously I'm not the best cook in the world and I don't believe I'll ever be...what I'm saying is if I can afford a 3star chef to prepare my meals, why won't I??

Why don't we say it's a crime to get a blender, a washer, a cleaner, a nanny, a driver etc...

I see nothing with surrogates anyway...

Njokusboy made mention of emotions and all that, I totally get him...I totally understand...

Sweetheart i wasn't the best cook while growing up,but i love good food and i told myself,why not learn? Logical innit?

Won't you be satisfy to see the smile on his face after feeding boo?nodding his head and rushing home to your meals everyday....

My dad doesn't eat out,very rarely....I now know why.

pickabeau1:
Kimoni
Edwife

Abeg make una preach on top another thread
The girl wants a marriage of outsourcing
Make una free am

You are both old school

Lol picka,she needs guidance that's all.

I think she understood...well i hope so.

keppyy:


Thank you so much...

I love good food and obviously I'm not the best cook in the world and I don't believe I'll ever be...what I'm saying is if I can afford a 3star chef to prepare my meals, why won't I??

Why don't we say it's a crime to get a blender, a washer, a cleaner, a nanny, a driver etc...

I see nothing with surrogates anyway...

Njokusboy made mention of emotions and all that, I totally get him...I totally understand...

Change the "my" to "our" and "I" to "We"

Once you have both willingly" agreed, by all means go ahead. Just that it's rare to find men like that but not like they don't exist at all.

edwife:


Lol picka,she needs guidance that's all.

I think she understood...well i hope so.

Guidance fire

Even the rich southern women in the US cook for their kids and husbands

These are people who are high net worth individuals

I wonder why it is so easy to strip nûde and have sex rather than cook for a man you claim to love...

Bobo juice

Kimoni:


Change the "my" to "our" and "I" to "We"

Once you have both willingly" agreed, by all means go ahead. Just that it's rare to find men like that but not like they don't exist at all.

Lols...thank you so much...


You're sooOoo right...

If "WE" agree...


I'm still learning...*hugs*

edwife:


Sweetheart i wasn't the best cook while growing up,but i love good food and i told myself,why not learn? Logical innit?

Won't you be satisfy to see the smile on his face after feeding boo?nodding his head and rushing home to your meals everyday....

My dad doesn't eat out,very rarely....I now know why.

I understand...*hugs*

keppyy:


Lols...thank you so much...


You're sooOoo right...

If "WE" agree...


I'm still learning...*hugs*

you will get there...

keppyy:
I made Pasta!!!

Come and chop!!!

Now I know why you need a chef. The pasta is a good evidence of your poor culinary skill...

Shows you added too much water.

I can offer you free lessons on basic cooking skills.

bellong:


Now I know why you need a chef. The pasta is a good evidence of your poor culinary skill...

Shows you added too much water.

I can offer you free lessons on basic cooking skills.

Lols...

I know how to make pasta perfectly...

Pasta is meant to be creamy and not dry or oily...

keppyy:



Lols...

I know how to make pasta perfectly...

Pasta is meant to be creamy and not dry or oily...

Creamy is different from soggy....

Look your pasta closely, you will see that it is a world apart from creamy..

bellong:


Creamy is different from soggy....

Look your pasta closely, you will see that it is a world apart from creamy..

*yawns*

Okay, it's soggy...

I can't cook, I need a chef.

keppyy:



*yawns*

Okay, it's soggy...

I can't cook, I need a chef.

Don't let flies enter your yawning mouth...

I will pay for your chef.

Can you pound yam?

bellong:


Don't let flies enter your yawning mouth...

I will pay for your chef.

Can you pound yam?

Lolssss..

I can't pound yam but I can pound onuunuu.

Have you eaten onuunuu and fresh atablaa pepper-soup?

#ProudlyKalabari

keppyy:



*yawns*

Okay, it's soggy...

I can't cook, I need a chef.

I get if you can't cook, the problem Is dat you are more focused on hiring a chef than learning, you should be more focused on the latter... the truth is dat there is no difference between hiring a chef and eating out... you might just as well buy from the best eatery in town...
Like I said earlier, when everything in the house is done by someone else for you rather than you for yourselves, then the aim of getting married is already defeated...

keppyy:

Lolssss..

I can't pound yam but I can pound onuunuu.

Have you eaten onuunuu and fresh atablaa pepper-soup?

#ProudlyKalabari

Is onuunuu same as FUFU? Fufu is made from cassava, can be pounded like yam or stirred on fire like amala.

When will you invite me to eat this food you described?

bellong:


Is onuunuu same as FUFU? Fufu is made from cassava, can be pounded like yam or stirred on fire like amala.

When will you invite me to eat this food you described?

I know what fufu is, lolz...

I'm not an ajeebbbooorrr oOoo...

Onunu is pounded yam with black plantain...it's soOoo nicceee
Atabllaaa fish is tilapia fishhh...

Very Nice... Goodmorning to youuu

keppyy:


I know what fufu is, lolz...

I'm not an ajeebbbooorrr oOoo...

Onunu is pounded yam with black plantain...it's soOoo nicceee
Atabllaaa fish is tilapia fishhh...

Very Nice... Goodmorning to youuu

Good morning to you too. When are you inviting me to a table for the onuunuu?

pickabeau1:


Guidance fire

Even the rich southern women in the US cook for their kids and husbands

These are people who are high net worth individuals

I wonder why it is so easy to strip nûde and have sex rather than cook for a man you claim to love...

Bobo juice

Another side of Pickabeau

pickabeau1:
For every woman there is a kind of man


For every bey a jayz
For every toke a maje

So keppy don't mind the old school mamis

If you want to work to get money so you can outsource the cooking..good for you

Be patient and don't feet while you wait

It shall surely come

In short why stop at cooking?
You can hire a surrogate to have your kids so you don't spoil your figure

You can hire a porn star to give ur hubby sex so your punny is not affected

Carry goooooo

And you started out so innocently too

i am only trying to help her use money to spice her marriage

kimoni
5minsmadness

To be honest, I think it also depends on the man. A few wont mind eating anything from anywhere but most will prefer the intimacy that comes with their wives exclusively cooking for them.
She may find a man that doesnt mind, but if she marrys a man like my dad . . . then Ghen Ghen
I remember back in the day, we never had food coolers in the house.
My dad used to eat his food piping hot straight from the kitchen
He also rarely ate rice.
Mum would hear the gates opening and put omi amala kana
No phone to even warn mum that he is 10 minutes away so she could start.
One soup per day. Fresh okro, efo or ewedu

I wish I had the same strength my mum had/has
Before you could say Jack robinson she has carried her pepper outside and used olo to grind it while us kids were still messing about looking for slippers to wear to the grindng woman down the road.

The good old days

bellong:


Good morning to you too. When are you inviting me to a table for the onuunuu?

Christmas time...

keppyy:



Christmas time...

Too far now...

Go young, young man, go young.

I often talk about marrying a woman significantly younger in a light hearted manner.  And whilst I advise this in an ATBE/generic manner, believe me, there is sound reasoning behind this.

We have spoken at length about female hypergamy, so no need to revisit this. Needless to say, women typically seek higher status in their partners (marital or otherwise), and this should enable you gain a “head-start” in terms of being mature and establishing yourself.

This will help greatly in your relationship as she will be more likely to “look up to you”, as opposed to try and compete/outmanoeuvre you at every turn – in itself a passion killer.

Older women – as an inevitability of time – tend to not be as shapely or nubile as younger women. They are also likely to have had more partners  - unpicking why this is a bad thing requires separate treatment.

They also tend to have more baggage, and are probably more set in their ways. Not to mention more likely to try and game/pressure you into marriage due to their age.

But one of the big reasons, is sex. The conversational flow around here would make one believe that women are every bit as libidinous as men. This is simply not true. As a general – if not universal -  rule, men are much more libidinous than women.

This disparity becomes more pronounced the older men/women – the couple  - get. One huge myth is how womens sexuality heightens and peaks around 39/40 – please, please, please, don’t fall for that one. It makes no sense in terms of the biological imperative for childbirth and the onset of menopause.

Indeed, if one looked at things historically, perhaps people would be more considered before throwing around senseless tropes like “all men are dogs”, “culture calls men studs and women sluts”  etc., would not be thrown around so casually.

Across cultures and through time, men and women, husbands and wives have accommodated this differential by the introduction of 2nd wives, or winking at the presence of mistresses.

Sex for men is mostly physical, so unlike women the impulse cannot be readily transferred to children or other forms of social interaction.

It often happens, that as women have given birth, are becoming pre-occupied with domestic issues, are becoming pre-occupied more with “social events”, and becoming further removed from their youthful “hotness”, that men are at the peak of the careers, have as much status as they are likely to attain, are still in reasonably good shape, and receiving more attention from women.

Now culturally, monogamy is the norm. All the more reason to avail yourself of a wife you will be in physical consonance with. You are likely to be more indulgent and patient with a younger wife, as well as mature enough to support her through rough patches.

Lastly, please don’t be fooled by pre-marital sex, or even honeymoon romps. Women will work tactically to seal the deal and then revise strategically as things change – in all likelihood, your desire for sex won’t

Presumes;
1.  You are a mature and responsible man – set on creating a family legacy
2.  You are  a man in good shape,  or who is set on being so - and maintaining it.
3.  Mongamy is your model
4.  I said ATBE, if you meet an outlier in any sense, factor accordingly


Disclaimer
1. I did this and it works

 
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I have to say this too:As y'all on the look out for younger and "fresher" women,i think it will also be good to understand this.

Gone are the days when innocence and reservation were the norm.Young women these days "do not look up to you" without your pocket being the prime commender in chief in the relationship.

-They are likely to sleep with twice the number of men the older women have slept with.Sex is no longer a taboo nowadays,a 23 years old today can count up to 10 guys she had sex with.From the first guy who dis-virgin her at 14/15 to the lecturer who did not want to let her pass,the boyfriend at school who was ever willing to help with assignments,the neighbours,the sugar daddy to the 3 suitors who are asking for her hand in marriage.(including you )

-Younger women have as much baggages as older women if not more.Long are the days older women were too sedentary and set in their ways,but be aware that most of 20-somethings are more than capable of being pretty damn lazy and stubborn too.These girls are learning ,they are thirsty,they want to achieve and gain as much as the men.

-Not many girls today want to depend solely on men,they want to take and still make their own.They also have their own rules and are more likely to change or take any advice given outside as long as it goes with what they believe in.Many are naive and easy to convince.

-Older women might not necessarily have been out there,many were so drown in their career or education that they had little or no time for men and when many of you men were running away from them,they concentrated on building their carrier and pleasuring themselves with Love Machine.Whenever they find a man,they hold to that man-all they need at this point in their life is to have kids and a family.

-The mistake many of you men make is that you refuse to believe that women are very smart and manipulative.They will make you believe what they want you to believe.These younger women are not after your willy or sexual prowess but the financial security.There is no more patience.

Just a few posts i took from one of my favourite site,they keep it real over there.

I came from a very poor background but I am intelligent. I got admission into UNILAG and I suffer nor be small. At the end of 100 level, I got into it. I am not proud of myself but today I look at myself and I am very grateful to God. Men, men, men what did I not see? I saw it all. I’ve done things. I’ve enjoyed and wept. I think I wept more but all my needs were met. I managed to graduate with a 2:1. I got a good job after meeting up with some old men friends who gave me their card.

Then I kept my nose clean. I am happily married today to a wonderful Christian man who loves me to pieces. We have kids and my career continues to soar even more better than hubby's. I am not trying to belittle anyone but i continue to praise my maker who has looked upon me with favour.

Hubby holds me in high esteem but only I know where I have gone and what I did. He has no idea of my past and will never do. It is my past and its history. It’s far better that way.

I am a good woman today. Ever since I said ‘I do’ runs seized to exist in my life. I think about those plenty men sometimes and the foetus I had to terminate.

Don’t curse me if you’ve not walked in my shoes. I thank God he has forgiven me and I am saved. I guess all that’s left is for me to forgive me.

With my experience as a young lady, I don't judge people that do runz, cuz I have find myself in a situation whereby I just had to sleep with men to survive while I was in Uni, yea I did it and I am not proud of it, but I thank God I am living a better life. The greedy ones are the most annoying ones, imagine a girl that her parent can afford to sponsor her schooling in Bowen, Maddona, Covenant, Babcock, Igbinedion go into runz it's annoying. Especially Bowen and leadcity girls, Choi they suck d**k like food.

And with my experience in the street, d successful ones use jazz, I mean real jazz. So runz is not a good thing, we just pray we don't find ourselves in a situation that we just have to do it.

This is my story...
I was born into a rich family or rather poor, my dad was rich but all the big town girls wont let him take care of his family..he was never at home,from one place to another.probably he had another house,we didnt know...we started leaving from hand to mouth,constantly been sent out of class for no school fees,trekking to school and back,falling ill;i tot i was a sickler..

Gained admission to study in uniabj,the pretty average height gal...a.k.a yellow pawpaw,according to my old life friends.
School brcame frustrating at 200 level when i became jealous of my roommate who come home with fine bags,shoes,jewelry,eat fried rice n chicken while i was in total dependance on my 5 k monthly pocket morning..from my mum hustle...all i get from dad was once in a while call.

I was going out one morning in my natural look and one flashy car came by..a man in his late 30s sat in the car and that was the beginning of my runs..(my first b.v had dumped me after disvirgining me,so i didnt see it as a big deal again ) i did the good girl runs cos i was pretty so men -senetors,bigshot came....when i am tired of any one,i dump n move,because all i want was to be comfortable. I never got pregnant cos i never did skin diving ,sex to me was over rated....fake moans,fake orgasms.....just to make the man feel special...during my services year,i met this quite young man...sometin about him was different...(i was already rich and comfortable although i hid it)i couldn't understand the feeling,i was that girl that looked down on average income guys but this one was different,he had plans,prospects.i started going to church with him..then Jesus Arrested me..gave me another chance..at this point my mum n siblings were ok,my elder brother had a better job,God blessed us.....

Today i am a married woman to myswthrt...and we are expecting a baby..... glory to JESUS

There were a day we were in the village for christmas,my SIL asked her friend:Did you noticed something?most of the man in the village were lonely and almost abandoned by their kids and wives.
Yes in ibo land most men tend to marry young,they have a fulfil time when the women are kept at home taking care of their kids and needs but as time goes on,the kids leave and the women live again.Some pursue their dreams while some leave to live with their kids.I know many who live in Owerri teaching,doing business while their husbands retire quietly in the village.I am talking about 10/15 years gap.

-Just to give you a glimpse of what goes on,how many tales of marital complains we have here on NL everyday with a younger wives.

-Sex sex sex what can i say?Unless you are a woman-you wouldn't really know,would you?

I picked this from the net and was a good enough explanation for me and as a woman i know what this means.

Why would women be more sexually active in their middle years than in their teens and 20s? Buss and his students say evolution has encouraged women to be more sexually active as their fertility begins to decline and as menopause approaches.

Here's how their theory works:

Our female ancestors grew accustomed to watching many of their children — perhaps as many as half — die of various diseases, starvation, warfare and so on before being able to have kids of their own. This trauma left a psychological imprint to bear as many children as possible. Becoming pregnant is much easier for women and girls in their teens and early 20s — so much easier that they need not spend much time having sex.


However, after the mid-20s, the lizard-brain impulse to have more kids faces a stark reality: it's harder and harder to get pregnant as a woman's remaining eggs age. And so women in their middle years respond by seeking more and more sex.

To test this theory, Buss and his students asked 827 women to complete questionnaires about their sexual habits. And, indeed, they found that women who had passed their peak fertility years but not quite reached menopause were the most sexually active. This age group — 27 through 45 — reported having significantly more sex than the two other age groups in the study, 18 through 26 and 46 and up. Women in their middle years were also more likely than the younger women to fantasize about someone other than their current partner. The new findings are consistent with those of an earlier Buss paper, from 2002, which found that women in their early 30s feel more lustful and report less abstinence than women in other age groups. In both studies, these findings held true for both partnered and single women, meaning that married women in their 30s and early 40s tend to have more sex than married women in their early 20s; ditto for single women. Also, whether the women were mothers didn't matter. Only age had a strong affect on women's reported sexual interest and behaviour.

-Women being second wives has nothing to do with sex,sex is the last thing on their minds-financial security is.
-Have you wonder why we have so many tales of women sleeping with their drivers,husband lawyers and younger boys?

Nothing beats compatibility.