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Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by onyinye2(f): 11:58pm On Aug 15, 2008 |
davidif:Oh shut up dia. You just mad cuz you cheap. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by rampant(f): 12:00am On Aug 16, 2008 |
what on this planet earth im i doing wt flowers ? its better i don't receive any gift atall @topic |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Nobody: 12:03am On Aug 16, 2008 |
Flowers for kini? I tot we got over this. . . . . Ok, you can put the flower on top of the Lexus you bought as a gift |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Comfort86(f): 1:17am On Aug 16, 2008 |
you guys are too funny . i think the bottom line is love. ladies, if you know he loves you and he's just not a flower-giving kind of guy, then love him back. if he likes giving you flowers and doesn't love you, then what? u prefer flowers to love? i believe there are many other ways a man can show you he loves you--it may not be chocolate, it may not be flowers, it may not be any of these romantic gestures portrayed in films. u have to remember your upbringing has a major impact on who you become in your adult life. i think a lot of our parents, while growing up in nigeria, had more pressing issues they were facing than "where can i buy Iya Tope flowers?" or "is Baba Tope going to bring me flowers today?"--at least for those of us that our parents were not very well to do. Our mothers were more likely thinking "Se oko mi ma ri owo ra efo tete wale tabi ewedu, ka ti e le ri nkan je?" If my man wants to give me flowers, I'll definitely show appreciation. If my man is not a flower-giver, well, all i want is some lovin'! |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by jgirl3: 1:39am On Aug 16, 2008 |
When a Nigerian man gives you a single rose, he's one of the two things. He's either BROKE or ROMANTIC. Now knowing naija guys the way I do, if he's trying to be romantic, I prefer just one. You don't need the other 11 for anything 'abi na flower man go chop?' |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by KarmaMod(f): 4:42am On Aug 16, 2008 |
davidif: We'd rather be broken up with then have a man bring in a "junior wife" so spare us the dribble. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Comfort86(f): 7:11am On Aug 16, 2008 |
KarmaMod: Be fair, how many educated Nigerian men do you see having more than one wife?they are most likely cheating but not bringing home "iyawo kekere" And for those that choose a "junior wife", how do you call them out? with the Bible or the Quran? I am not for a polygamous home because I think the man is indirectly requesting untimely death--the effects of having two or more wives. I also do not agree with divorce unless your life is in danger. Marriage, to me, is a "holy sacred convenant" and I want to do my possible best to keep my convenant with God. To each his own. But may the Lord be our guide and give us everlasting joy in our marriages. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by brinebaba(m): 8:37am On Aug 16, 2008 |
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhhhhhhhhhhaaaaaahahaha,its not only Nigerian men oo!! Nigerian men r kindda lyk immitating the 'western world' . . . lol |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by zarazara: 10:53am On Aug 16, 2008 |
When a Nigerian man gives you a single rose, he's one of the two things. You are too funny!!! I don't know that many Nigerian women that likes flowers though. It's too much work trying to keep the flowers alive anyhow. Being female myself, I'm not too keen on flowers but if you're going to get me flowers, then I think I'd prefer a bunch of roses and not a single rose. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by loffers(m): 11:56am On Aug 16, 2008 |
flowers? wetin she go carry the flower do |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by davidif: 1:00pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
@rubypearl Hheheheh so flowers cause divorces? I never said that flower causes divorce, i just said its that absurd mentality of basing your relationships on aesthetic or material things that appease to your senses or worst of all your emotions, that's what causes divorce. Look at Puff, wasn't he buying J.Lo, jewelry's and flower's all the time "to keep it fresh" lol, we all know how that ended or what of Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston probably the most famous couple ever, Brad Pitt could have taken J. Aniston to the moon if he could. They had get away island resorts which they spent for themselves, mansions just to get away from life and be alone, they seemed to forgot that hanging out with friends and not yourselves only is also good for a healthy relationship. You all know what happened in the end. Another bad part of relationships is basing it on emotions, remember, like i said, that in a relationship there are ups and downs, bright spells and dry spells (this may be long periods of times) but you work through it and focus on the good parts. If you always want your man to be taking you to an italian restaurant every week, or take you ball room dancing, then fine, but don't be yelling at him at age 40 and blame it on menopause he he he. Relationships like i said, should not be based on unnecessary material things. @onyinye Only naija man would stay with you even when you blow up and become out of shape after 2 kids. He is not going to divorce you when you are 50 and tell you "well its just not working", "maybe we should just give it time", "i think there is something missing here" or the most infamous line ever "its my fault", nonsense. Heck, its only naija men that would see a woman wearing skimpy and tight outfit and complain (at least the men where i grew up). I remember in some churches, the usher might not even let a lady into the church for dressing inappropriately (slutty), how many western men do that, they would rather oogle (hmm hmm hmm, look at shawty right there) or look for ways to watch "scope" them with those short shorts. So if onyinye, if you want to marry a guy who demands that you dress like a nurse or a french maid while wearing your high heels during sex or even tell you to spank him, well be my guest, but if you want to marry mr. naija, who would take care of you and the kids laugh with you, even cook for you and not order pizza then fine. I know a lot ( and i mean a lot) of naija relationships, where husband has probably never giving the wife flowers but they are still together and absolutely in love. Because they don't take cruises to the bahamas in the summer or the husband does not put rose petals on the floor leading to the bedroom (heck, some even turn off the lights and light up candles, even when NEPA is working: let's hope she no be "ogbanje" ) does not mean they do not truly cherish each other from the bottom of there heart. I don't know whether you've had a bad history with naija men but not all of them take junior wives or have an affair on the side. Like my man said earlier, in africa, we have our own way of being romantic, and kissing in public is not one of them. I want to marry a real woman and not some girl who wants to teddy bears, chocolate (what are you? 12 or something!!!, remember chocolate is not good for your teeth ) or who cries all the time while watching "the notebook" or "Titanic" (you see why naija men go back to naija to go find wife) or even cries over anything sef or the worst of all who wants puppies (boy do i hate pets, especially dogs; they poop everywhere and smell), if you want a dog go and buy some useful ones like "whiskey", "tiger" or even "rambo" (common dog names in naija) who can protect against armed robbers and thieves. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by melval(f): 1:23pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
well I know a Nigerian guy who would give me flowers , and more if he could get to me!!! |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by KarmaMod(f): 2:35pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
davidif: Yea he will stay with you while patrolling university campuses/secondary schools looking for the tart to pick up that might even be the same age as his daughter. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by davidif: 2:45pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
@karmamod I don't know whether all the men in your life were like that but not all men are like that. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by KarmaMod(f): 2:53pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
First off You are a slowpoke for trying to make this personal. If you like keep being in denial about the increase of aristo activities on Nigerian campuses, or are you not aware that these men that are roam around there picking up little girls actually have wives at home. no one said that all Naija men are like that but to make some lame comment saying "Only Naija men wont leave a woman blah blah", do you know how many men have legft women just for stupid reasons like not having a son? Going after little girls because the wife suddenly has "stretch marks" or because after child birth she's not as "tight" as she used to be Simply go to the Health or Family section and see women in distress, asking for advice all over because they're husbands are suddenly acting up because after 4 months the wife isnt pregnant or because she has had 2 daughters so far, various ways to make herself tight again because she's seeing random texts on his phone from other women. It's all there for you and anyone to see so please quit trying to fool others if you have a problem with the truth |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by onyinye2(f): 4:20pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
davidif:First off i do have a dog in Nigeria named "tiger" so just wanted to point that out. Oka what is wrong about crying when you watch Titanic and The Notebook?? Does are two very romantic, very emotional movies so expect some tears to flow. If you think that is childish of me, then you have some growing up to do. Oka the whole divorce thing with the "getting out of shape" is just plain taboo. I barely know any couples who break up for such things. Anyways you talk big game as "naija men are romantic in their own way" when you failed to give on example of this. Till then im enjoying my teddy bears from Valentine's Day and my chocolates. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by KarmaMod(f): 4:27pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
apparently in his mind a person is romantic when they dont ask for a divorce, but instead has the "decency" to cheat behind your back |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by davidif: 4:31pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
@mrs karmamod I know New Yorkers are supposed to be rude and obnoxious but stop with the rudeness and the insult. By the way, its you that is taking things so personal. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Nobody: 4:32pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
davidif: All this for me? ~tears in my eyes~ |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by onyinye2(f): 4:33pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
David, im still waiting for you to give us both an example of "[i]nigerian men are romantic in their own way" [/i]Since you talk big game, play hard. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by KarmaMod(f): 4:39pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
davidif: What kind of NYer would I be if I stopped? Focus on the post and stop making excuses. I wouldnt have insulted you if you didnt try to make this about me. That shouldnt be hard for you to understand. Tit for tat. answer oyinye's question as well and quit using celebrity divorces as examples. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by davidif: 9:11pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
@karmamod First off You are a slowpoke for trying to make this personal First off, you don't call people imbeciles, especially people you don't know. Try to have class and behave in a civil manner. @rubypearl All this for me? ~tears in my eyes~You are funny ha ha. @onyinye All i meant was that women shouldn't let themselves be moved by aesthetical or material things like flowers and you could just be romantic by saying something as simple as i love you or laughing with them heck, even a stroll or hanging out could be romantic. The thing is that we have watched so many movies and adopted western lifestyles that we see our ways as backward. Before the westerner came to our country, or way before we ever went there, we never knew about the concepts of flowers, still everything was alright. We didn't even have university campuses back in the day for men to patrol to look for "young replacements" (and only wealthy people in the society married more than one wife) for there wives. To conclude my sister, the bottom line is LOVE, besides that nothing else matters. Heck, i can buy you flowers just because i want your "cookies" but after that i am gone. Some people don't even say i love even after a year of sleeping together, buying flowers, and watching movies together because they are scared of the "L" word. By the way, you guys read waaaay too many steamy cassanova novels at Barnes and Nobles |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Nella(f): 11:28pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
oh please, . . . . Na only d men?? Which Nigerian lady go accept flower without cash or something extra attached to it? Just give it to her, she go ask u wether na "flower" she go chop! lol, ( minus me sha ) |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by justin04(m): 11:31pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
Sometimes u pay as much as $65 for roses and flowers. Abeg, my question is after I give u flowers and roses, will you use it to cook nice vegetable stew? Because my $65 flowers or roses will die soon and u will throw away. Please I will buy something else that is long lasting. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Queenisha: 11:34pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
besides flowers what will he send on my birthday,valentines and mothers day waterleaf or "Awolowo" leaves? yes there's something called awolowo leaves |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Uche2nna(m): 11:36pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
justin04: Nella: Thank U o jare!!!! Flower ko, Flour ni |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Queenisha: 11:38pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
Uche2nna: Uche you better have 1-800-flowers on speed dial. I'm trying to save you a lifetime of naggings |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by onyinye2(f): 11:39pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
Uche2nna:Shaarup dia you dey cheap |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Uche2nna(m): 11:40pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
Queenisha: Nagging? Silent treatment is always a good remedy for that. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Queenisha: 11:41pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
Nella: You don't have to buy a bouquet of exotic flowers. If you live here in the USA,a small bundle of roses at Publix or kroger will do you can even find very cheap deals at train stations or from roadside Mexican hawkers how will she know? |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by onyinye2(f): 11:42pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
Queenisha:Uhmmm. . . . . Queen do you live in the south of USA?? just a question. |
Re: Nigerian Men And Flowers by Uche2nna(m): 11:43pm On Aug 16, 2008 |
onyinye2: lol Hope U are not planning to marry an Igbo guy with that mentality. Flowers? Girl, please!!!! |
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