thanks carmel. I get annoyed when they associate every evil witn NIGERIAN men rather than say it is men generally

I don't know why we as Nigerians like living in denial, why are all of you insulting the poster? Is it that you people just don't like hearing unpleasant truths? i concur with the poster. But not everything she said. While I believe (and have seen) situations where the woman is encouraged to take crap from her husband, I also know it's not as rampant as she's making it out to be. Too many nigerian men are raised with this strange sense of entitlement that they don't have to even try, and yet they must be wprshipped/respected. . A woman too who has been raised to think that the most important/biggest achievement she can make in her life is her husband, would rather take his crap than put his foot down, cos she'd rather be married and unhappy than alone and happy. It's all in the upbringing of the man/woman.

Nowadays though, a lot more people are getting better educated and wizened to the ways of the world, and such scenarios are (hopefully) becoming less. It's not THHHATT common. But it happens.

Who hold una not to follow men from other countries sef?

i wonder o. That's how me i solved my problem

JustGood:

thanks carmel. I get annoyed when they associate every evil witn NIGERIAN men rather than say it is men generally

u're welcome, my brother.

I was expecting SIMi to comment on how naija women treats their men more especially if their men runs broke which common even in the western world. Then why would't a naija man subject her girl or wife to his desired if he is made? The truth must be told, the naija women should vegetate, i meant no disdain.

ohaechesi:

Then why would't a naija man subject her girl or wife to his desired if he is made? The truth must be told, the naija women should vegetate, i meant no disdain.

vegetate ke? what are you talking about?

carmelily:

vegetate ke? what are you talking about?

im dey talk about vegetation wey dey OTTA farm!!

Brash!:

im dey talk about vegetation wey dey OTTA farm!!

hehehe. Otta farm. polygamy. okay, i get the connection

carmelily:

hehehe. Otta farm. polygamy. okay, i get the connection

you know!

Simibrasil,

I agree with you!! Ok, maybe not all Nigerian men but, I have come across a few who treat women like objects.  When is comes to the man's family taking over? You are spot on. The Mother's always sticks their nose in the couple's affairs. These men actually go out there to toll for a woman who is submissive and one tha cannot stand for themselves,

Angelheart:

Simibrasil,

I agree with tou TOTALLY!! Ok, maybe not all Nigerian men but, I have come across a few who treat women like objects. When is comes to the man's family taking over? You are spot on. The Mother's always sticks their nose in the couple's affails. These men actually go out there to toll for a woman who is submissive and one tha cannot stand for themselves,

Yea you're right. Please go and marry Brazillian men

JustGood:

Yea you're right. Please go and marry Brazillian men

A bi ooooh!

some just believe blindly whatever they are told without due verification,and
then start posting trash here on nairaland.
too bad! too Ugly!

@
simi blah blah or whatever u call urself

u better go get a job and stop talking nonesense here,have u lived in 9ja b/4?.i was in brazil few yrs ago,everything u mentioned here is applied there in brazil so go solve ur home issue first,b/4 u go international, if u've been to 9ja b/4 then i can read ur msg, what an insult, any rif raf can cum in here and insult 9ja pple.infact u r a lier,u r not a teacher,u can't even write english.go on read all ur text and tell me what u see

@angel lung's or lunges,
u said u totally agree,so what d heck with maybe not all,did u 4get d meaning of totally or what? am sure u can do better than that darling.

There seems to be alot of beef flying round so that really one does not get the objective of this thread.

@ post

what are you trying to acheive are u pointing out a negative male trait or trying to encourage women to stand up for themselves?

On the issue of woman taking crap from men that is not limited to Naikja but transcends boundaries
In sweden where a man locked up his daughter and fathered children by her or in the UK where our dear crown prince ridiculed Diana with his present wife or the wellknown Monicagate in the US.

(Some) Men everywhere take advantage of women who are not ready to stand up for themselves and chase the moochers.

However there are a lot of men who treat therir women with respect so do not generalise just like there may still be some people who will not take any form of weed in Yankee schools at all  

JustGood:

Yea you're right. Please go and marry Brazillian men

Believe me, I would rather do that that marry a Nigerian man!

Spot on, Simibrazil. A huge number of marriages are like that. Keeping up appearances is the priority. Divorce is hardly ever considered as an option for the woman. She is supposed to suck it up and carry on, after all she is the Mrs!! 'Managing' seems to be the expected recourse, while the man carries on, with the woman making excuses for him every step of the way. I know some Nigerian men who are the best husbands any woman could wish for. But a huge number are not. I believe most have good intentions but the society in which we live, and we the women who have made it so easy for men not to be held accountable for their behavior, that they lose sight of those intentions.

Angelheart:

Believe me, I would rather do that that marry a Nigerian man!

has any naija man even ever asked u out? taht mean u will never marry, hw many brazillian will be able 2 stand this ur lewd attitude to life

.

idupaul:

has any naija man even ever asked u out?  taht mean u will never marry, hw many brazillian will be able 2 stand this your lewd attitude to life

Yes actually. This is not hear-say. Been there and done that. Lewd attutude to life.  Please! Lets keep this in context! Its about 'BAD NIGERIAN MEN'. Not life in general!

Original link below. I would not put too much stock in something from something called the National University of Singapore.

http://www.usp.nus.edu.sg/post/nigeria/contwomen.html

@poster,
Come where are u from by the way? Unfortunately i realised that ur so call research is purely based on the internet. Its completely sad that u are ingorant of the fact that the INTERNET  is an arena where most information are not verifyable or  factual b4 dumped in here. No serious research is completely based on internet only without  further verification from other sources like going physically to interact and so on. look at u reading scraps to come and be claiming u know all about the topic.
Dont act on incomplete or fake information and begin to propergate false lies in here. In those days women in ngieria use to be so submissive to their husbands as the tradition demanded but right now african culture is gradually been diffused with western culture. Things are no more the same. women are given their respect and place in the society right now in nigeria.  So talk with substantial evidence and not on hearsay.

are you still in 9ja?

believe that and get pretty pitied

There is so much denial going on in HERE! And it is amazing to learn that it also comes from WOMEN because Im certain some of them have experienced, evidenced or wintenessed Naija men treating women like door mats.

dont just inform us about this.

these things were here b4 you and i were born, abi?

there are laws that legal for you to guard against all those thrash or dont you know?
dont die for ignorance,please. as long as you will not do the rught things such denials will be yours.

I have a question:

As I am made to believe, a typical foreigner hears or sees her husband cheating and leaves him with more than half of his stuff.

A Nigerian woman hears or sees her husband cheating, what does she do?

spikedcylinder:

I have a question:

As I am made to believe, a typical foreigner hears or sees her husband cheating and leaves him with more than half of his stuff.

A Nigerian woman hears or sees her husband cheating, what does she do?

take her children, ghana-must-go and leg it back to her parents wailing!

One time, my ex was paying too much attention to another girl while he left me hanging. . . . .if you know the excuse I came up with ehn! It's automatic.

[size=13pt]Insult upon injury
Why in the world would you stay in that type of relationship?
Only a lady with low self esteem would do that to herself.

@others supporting the poster
This issue has nothing to do with nationality
If Naija men act that way, then stop dating them, abi na by force.
Only a desperate fool would allow a man to walk over her all in the name of love.



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@Chino

Men who talk in such manner anywhere in the world even if they are Nigerians or foreigners are illiterate and their word should not be treated as Gold.For your research to be complete,you need to live in Nigeria for atleast 6 months so that you can study the pros and cons.If you meet a Nigerian Guy who loves You,u would be swept off your feet,it is for you to make the right chioce.

Abi ooooo!!! True Talk

@poster

Okay my guess from all the blah blah and bull your crapping about is, you must have got the taste of a Nija man in bed, it must have been really good and my ultimate guess is you dont have it anymore and it really kills you.

Go and get laid and shushhhhh madam,

Getting really sick at all the male bashing pushed around, like the women dont have faults ( abegii!!!!!

Just got here!Can smbody plz tell me what these ladies are on about?Is it another "Naija men bashing day"?

most ladies just chatter like monkeyz all day without driving home any meaningful point!