Very beautiful Christian girl
In her mid 30's
desperate to be married
Finally got a proposal  and she's excited but there's one problem
He refuses to tell his real age.
What will you advise, if this was your friend.


_{I'm being very cautious}

Is there a reason why he's refusing to tell?

I don't see the need for that anyway. He can't even tell her his age? God knows what else he could be hiding.

He must have friends or family she can ask?

Queenisha:

Very beautiful Christian girl
In her mid 30S
desperate to be married
Finally got a proposal and she's excited but there's one problem
He refuses to tell his real age.
What will you advise, if this was your friend.


_{I'm being very cautious}

Reason why he refuses. What option has she got?

she should accept him for who he is,


no be age she go chop



age na just number and i am very sure she will be older than him

that word 'desperate' is enough for her to get married irrespective of the circumstances surrounding the husband to-be's age

k1banty:

she should accept him for who he is,


no be age she go chop



age na just number and i am very sure she will be older than him

that word 'desperate' is enough for her to get married irrespective of the circumstances surrounding the husband to-be's age

Yeah. I guess the lady is your neighbour. *roll eyes*

I'm thinking he's probably much older and he's embarrassed by it.

@ michelin, the options as far as other men seems limited ,she's extremely picky and age is not on her side .
All her friends have been married for a while.
I'm also concerned about what else he could be hiding

I find it very very strange.

Is there some dark secret he is hiding?

Surely thats one of the first things you find out?

Is he worried she will dumb him because of age?

Queenisha:

I'm thinking he's probably much older and he's embarrassed by it.

@ michelin, the options as far as other men seems limited ,she's extremely picky and age is not on her side .
All her friends have been married for a while.
I'm also cocerned what else he could be hiding

Gosh. This type of woman sef.
1. When did she realize Prince Charming didn't exist?
2. Her friends must be enjoying their marriage badly or is the Mrs worth all that?
3. So many things. That even an unmarried wrinkled woman would run away from.

k1banty:

she should accept him for who he is,


no be age she go chop



age na just number and i am very sure she will be older than him

that word 'desperate' is enough for her to get married irrespective of the circumstances surrounding the husband to-be's age

We know he's older but how much older is the question.
He gave her a range (which I find very odd)
I used the word desperate to mean that ,that is the greatest desire of her's right now.
She is accomplished career wise.

LadyT:

I find it very very strange.

Is there some dark secret he is hiding?

Surely thats one of the first things you find out?

Is he worried she will dumb him because of age?

Only God knows!
I'm concerned for her
If a man can hide this sort of thing,what else is he hiding?
They decided not to have sex before marriage,at this rate,how are we even sure he has a  functional pe'nis ?

Queenisha:

Only God knows!
I'm concerned for her
If a man can hide this sort of thing,what else is he hiding?
They decided not to have sex before marriage,at this rate,how are we even sure he has a functional privates?

Me think say na only ladies dey hide age, even men wan follow the trend?

What a woman can do a man can do better.

Beware of Masculinism: equal rights for men!

Is she that desperate? Getting engaged to a man who refused to tell her his real age?
I know that someone will prolly say age does not marra, bla bla, go on with it bla bla.
But you've got to realize that if he's keeping his age a secret, then he prolly got more bones hidden in his closet

Maybe he's shy. . .

Is it a must for a man to disclose his age? I know most ladies have the difficult of telling their ages when asked. . . .  What makes it wrong for a man to do likewise?

In her mid 30's
desperate to be married

her bio clock is running out and she is asking of age, she should be singing aleluya for her luck.

I'll like a man to say something here.
Do they at all see these things the way we see it it really is ?

stillwater:


Maybe he's shy. . .

Igba!
shy wetin
Even he is Methuselah himself,this is his wife to be?
She's no spring chicken herself

LOL
The men spoke b4 my post went through

its very simple - the man sef no know

when dem born am for village, no birth certificate. . . . d only thing him mama tell am be say 'you were born after the new yam festival. . . . . two days before you were born your father nearly died because he choked while laughing and eating a bowl of ofe nsala'


But seriously, isn't age part of the 'basic information briefing' that you do before you even begin courtship?

The man fit be ayamatanga wey don live through 4 centuries and wants to use her to regenerate his body, make your friend shine her eye well well o!

Pataki:

Is it a must for a man to disclose his age? I know most ladies have the difficult of telling their ages when asked. . . .  What makes it wrong for a man to do likewise?

If you can't come clean in telling your spouse something as trivial as age then something's wrong somewhere, both male and female.

If i were to advise the woman i'd say not to marry that guy. What else in his closet is he hiding? Its one thing to be desperate to marry, its another thing to marry the right man.

debosky:

its very simple - the man sef no know

when them born am for village, no birth certificate. . . . d only thing him mama tell am be say 'you were born after the new yam festival. . . . . two days before you were born your father nearly died because he choked while laughing and eating a bowl of ofe nsala'


But seriously, isn't age part of the 'basic information briefing' that you do before you even begin courtship?

The man fit be ayamatanga wey don live through 4 centuries and wants to use her to regenerate his body, make your friend shine her eye well well o!

Queenisha:


Igba!
shy wetin
Even he is Methuselah himself,this is his wife to be?
She's no spring chicken herself

Lol, the shy comment was tongue in cheek

debosky:

its very simple - the man sef no know

when them born am for village, no birth certificate. . . . d only thing him mama tell am be say 'you were born after the new yam festival. . . . . two days before you were born your father nearly died because he choked while laughing and eating a bowl of ofe nsala'


But seriously, isn't age part of the 'basic information briefing' that you do before you even begin courtship?

The man fit be ayamatanga wey don live through 4 centuries and wants to use her to regenerate his body, make your friend shine her eye well well o!

You no well ROFL.
Actually my brother when she called me with the good news my basic questions were

what's his name?
where's he from ?
Where does he live?
what does he do for a living?

then on subsequent discussion

has he been married before?
any kids?
how old is he?
That was where the tory come change gear?
na im I come weak
I no say much again

debosky:

its very simple - the man sef no know

when them born am for village, no birth certificate. . . . d only thing him mama tell am be say 'you were born after the new yam festival. . . . . two days before you were born your father nearly died because he choked while laughing and eating a bowl of ofe nsala'


But seriously, isn't age part of the 'basic information briefing' that you do before you even begin courtship?

The man fit be ayamatanga wey don live through 4 centuries and wants to use her to regenerate his body, make your friend shine her eye well well o!

Goshhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

debosky:

its very simple - the man sef no know  

when them born am for village, no birth certificate. . . .  d only thing him mama tell am be say 'you were born after the new yam festival. . . . . two days before you were born your father nearly died because he choked while laughing and eating a bowl of ofe nsala'

He should just say so instead of beating around the bush.

She should find out from him. You can't be married to someone in this society and not know their age. When it comes to health, finances, legal issues the cat will come out of the bag at some point.  

stillwater:

He should just say so instead of beating around the bush.

this wan don pass beating around the bush o
ewo!
na for evil forest the man dey.
chei
I no wan wear ashoebi for marriage wey get k leg from beginning.

syren:

She should find out from him. You can't be married to someone in this society and not know their age. When it comes to health, finances, legal issues the cat will come out of the bag at some point.

How many Naija men know their wife's real age?

syren:

She should find out from him. You can't be married to someone in this society and not know their age. When it comes to health, finances, legal issues the cat will come out of the bag at some point.

e be like say you no be naija - no be matter of 'sworn affidavit' or declaration of age?

People dey comot 10, even 20 years from dem age to retain jobs in naija - I can never trust any age i see inside a naija passport or document.

Unless I sabi d pesin mama wey fit swear on the breast wey she take feed the pikin, the age can be false.

i tell you, something dey fishy about this man, make she no go marry male winch o!

michelin89:

How many Naija men know their wife's real age?

Mine knows my real age ,I have a  valid birth certificate not declaration of age.

michelin89:

How many Naija men know their wife's real age?

I don't know that one o  


But in this day and age it's hardly a secret you can keep.

debosky:

e be like say you no be naija - no be matter of 'sworn affidavit' or declaration of age?

People dey comot 10, even 20 years from them age to retain jobs in naija - I can never trust any age i see inside a naija passport or document.

Unless I sabi d pesin mama wey fit swear on the breast wey she take feed the pikin, the age can be false.

i tell you, something dey fishy about this man, make she no go marry male winch o!

Who knows. He might turn out to be a lost relative.