Good day all, pls I need your advice on this issue.

A friend asked me this and I don't know what to tell him. According to him he was asked to present someone that read chemical engineering in an oil company by a close friend of his who works there.

My friend is an accountant and presently earns 60k per month where he works. He has a wife who is not working and a kid.

His wife is a chemical engineer by training and his only brother is also unemployed who read chemical engineering as well. His brother has been living with them for 2yrs now after his NYSC without job. My friend and his brother lost their parents while they were still very young and they are the only children of their parents.

My friend is now confused who to present to his friend for the job, his wife or brother. Your advice pls.

The salary for the oil job is 600k per month excluding allowances.

His Brother

He should explain to both of them and involve them in his decision making.

His brother

alutacontinua: He should explain to both of them and involve them in his decision making.

his wife....why?? let's say d man dies (*na example oo) How would the wife feed herself and d kids..its easier 4 d guy to strughle through thingz!! even if he gives d broda..u think if anyfin happenz the broda wud be sharing his salary to his bro wife...I doubt it.my humble suggestion. bye


My girlfriend said 'am leavin U,

U always cal me fat'.I replied ‘but pls what abt our kid?’.She said
‘wat kid?’.I said ‘so u r not
pregnant?!’

Den she slap me,

PLS Y?

His brother

It depends na. If his bro is responsible and not young then his bro. But come o, wont the extra income from the wife do the family more good? Is the 60k enough for him and his family? Does wifey want to work in the first place. I ask cos in my home madam keeps kids at home for 3yrs before they start school so she rather not do a 9-5 job that doesnt give her control of her time( she nor dey commot eye for pikin body).
All in all sha, na xharacter of the people he should consider before picking one.

Common , I will free my brother from my damn roof. I'm sure my wife would have been pained up to the neck with his suffocating presence for the past 2 years.

At least I can still provide for my family and her needs until an opening is gotten for her.

Let him present the one that's most qualified. It's usually a disaster waiting to happen when one lacks what's required to do the job esp in a field like engineering . You can't hide.

No sentiments here.

Let him give it to his wife. And agree with the wife that they will use part of her salary to set-up his brother in a business.

The salary for the oil job is 600k per month apart from alowances

it's not advisable for a couple to work in the same office. d reasonable choice is ur brother

Brother..... Women er not the type that understands easy.... She might even grow wings after being employed. Just forget it n take it to your brother, are you not a family man? Do u want him to cont'd being dependant on you.... He av to live his life now.... Helping is no crime.

Matttthew: Brother..... Women er not the type that understands easy.... She might even grow wings after being employed. Just forget it n take it to your brother, are you not a family man? Do u want him to cont'd being dependant on you.... He av to live his life now.... Helping is no crime.

...what does 'she might even grow wings after being empolyed' mean?..smh!. some people really do not know what marriage is all about.

...@op for your friend to be confused about who to recommend for the job means he is very okay with his 60k salary a month job(*shudders*) and a jobless wife,and therefore has no further need for money even when he has children.In that case, go ahead and advise him to recommend his brother.

OP, his brother&his wife must never no about d fact dat he had d optn 2 pick her. First, if he doesn't pick his broda, he'll be dependent on him&dats an xtra burden. If d wife finds out, she might not take it lighty, depending on d kind of wife she is.

Dis shud be btwn dem, dey shudnt let her no.

the wife... most sensible thing

The brother must not know about it and should be sent packing.

@Op, please and please tell your friend to recommend his BROTHER for the job. That's d wisest decision to make in this case. His wife might get the job and use her money only for her parental home while expecting her hobby to still be 'breadwinner' of the house regardless of who earns more (like we 've read many women say here on this forum), but his brother will never forget him and his family when d chips are down, considering that they have been through thick and thin together. A word is enough for the wise.

600k for the role of trainee?
Yes I called them dat because they don't seem to have any experience
Which Tv station did you get this story from
Let him present both
None will be qualified sef

Ngokafor:



...what does 'she might even grow wings after being empolyed' mean?..smh!. some people really do not know what marriage ia all about.

...@op for your friend to be confused about who to recommend for the job,it looks like he is very okay with his 60k salary a month job(*shudders*) and a jobless wife,and has no further need for money even when he has children.In that case, go ahead and advise him to recommend his brother.

N you dat know abt it, can you please lecture us..... ... MARRIED TO YOUR WORDS....... In between op, tell him to take it to God in prayer, Abi?

600k per month?..ok oo..if he trust his brother, dn recommend him 4 d job witout lettn d wife knw dt he got it 4 im..wit an agreement dt he'l raise enof money 4 d wife to set up a biznes in his first few months at wrk..wit 600k aside allowances, they cld easily raise a mil in 4 mnths..at least, d wife can run a biz n stil keep an eye on kids

.....ties wrapper around waist, draws out a wooden chair and sits down.

......with his chewing stick , goro and snuff , relaxes to learn from this...

Which brother? Mtcheewww! He better present his wife. Because she's the only one that can guarantee the absolute care and training of the kids wen d man is no longer there or when things gets very tough. Let his brother go out and hunt for a job or better still wait for another opportunity.

His wife o cos whatever she is earning ll be brought back home for their use or is it his meager 60 thousand that he ll use to take care of his family? When the kids start attending school and he discovers that his salary cannot pay their skul fee, reality ll dawn cos then their uncle ll tell him no money to borrow cos his new wife's bro needs money to start up a new business,that time eye's go clear but e go don de too late.

....

Na wife o! it is d lesser of d 2 evils. His kids are guaranteed of a more comfortable life. He can later set up something for his brother from his wife's salary. lf d brother gets d job & one chick from nowhere starts giving him "ideas" na gobe o!

I don't know the kind of marriages that are happening these days, presently the man is earning 60k if he presents his wife they will have 660k monthly. He'd rather the wife remains jobless and they live a hard life than have more. Same way the wife can change is the same way the brother can change.

How do you marry a woman you cannot trust or have her back.

koastar: The salary for the oil job is 600k per month apart from alowances

They can afford to pay a new intake 600k and pay him just 60k? He that has experience?
Your story might be true but i dont believe it.

...the wife.

Then;
1. Get a house help for the kid
2. The two brothers can go fishing

This is getting too easy...


TV

^{**he could of course present them both as part of a suitably qualified set of candidates**}

thatchick:

They can afford to pay a new intake 600k and pay him just 60k? He that has experience?
Your story might be true but i dont believe it.

The husband is an accountant working in a one man owned business, the oil company is where his friend works. My friend wants to change his job and talked to his friend in the oil company about it but he was told that there is no vacancy for an accountant but they are in need of a chemical engineer who has 1-2yrs experience and trainable. This man has assured my friend that if he has anyone he can be rest assured that the person will be employed. He promised my friend this and asked him to take him for his word because he is part of the recruiting team and part of the management as well. The interesting thing is that my friend is not qualified for the job because he's not a Chemical Engineer but both his wife and brothers are qualified with 2yrs experience volunteering in a chemical industry before.

It's time for the brother to chart the course of his life.

You people will not kill me on nairaland, His brother my foot. What can 60k take care of, oh, I see, when the brother gets the job, he will give the salary to him abi? Abeg, make I hear word jare, whether the wife earns higher than you or not, if she wants to be rude, she will be, gbam.

A woman that has been taking care of his brother for 2 years, and now he wants to betray her. Lest I forget, a certain age will come when a woman especially with kids wll not be able to secure a trainee job again, abeg, let him pick his wife. I don't know what some people take marriages for. Marriage is worse when the funds in the home is too little, I wonder how they are even coping with 60k in the first place.

Oh, oh, oh, I trust my Michael, speedily without a thought, na him go even edit and submit my CV. Afterall,the money is still coming into his immediate Family. Afterall, eni ti o ni eru lo ni eru.

The brother na guy, opportunities will still come, at least he doesn't have a family to take care of now.

ferhyntorlah: It's time for the brother to chart the course of his life.

And the wife cannot chart the course of her own life? Women and their selfishness! @Op, i still maintain that the brother will be better suited for the job. Let him that has ears hear!